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Diarrhea every time after anal sex?

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Question - (31 August 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 19 November 2012)
A age 26-29, anonymous writes:

dear cupid,

soo...this is kind of a gross question, buuut it's something i've really been kind of concerned about. is there any connection between diahrrea and anal sex? it seems like every time i have anal, i have diahrrea for at least a couple days afterwards. it's never really severe or anything, buuut...well, you get what i mean (hopefully, is this normal, or is it a sign that something may be wrong?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012):

As a person that has been on the receiving end of anal sex many times I feel I should tell you the straight out answer... You're using to much water base lube... The water from the line acts sorta like an enema and the lube it self is doing its job and lubricating your colon causing your food to be expelled sooner thus creating the diarrhea,

My suggestion try silicon based lube... It sticks to the condom/penis (or dildo) better and you will use a lot less of it because it is ultra slippery and doesn't dry out, not to mention your skin doesn't absorb it so no dry skin after and you do get to have a silky smooth booty for a few days like as if you used some million dollar lotion lol

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2011):

Based on your age and gender I'm assuming that anal sex is more your boyfriend's thing than it is yours and that you're going along with it to please him because you 'love him to bit's and 'he's such a great guy'.

I want you to think about this; if you had this reaction every time you ate a certain food you'd stop eating it, at least until you had medical confirmation that the food was not the cause. Yet, you're willing to continue having anal sex despite the effect it's having on you.

I am a 42 year old woman. I have women friends, and family, many of whom are very close to me. Close enough to discuss very intimate things. I am not squeamish nor am I easily shocked or offended. My friends and family are much like me. We're laid back and open minded. And yet NEVER in my life has any woman ever expressed even the slightest interest in anal sex, swallowing sperm, or having it smeared all over her face and body, golden showers, salad tossing or any of those other things men burden women with. I know you've only mentioned anal sex, but it is all part of the same scenario we read about time and time again.

THESE fantasies and others like them are MEN's fantasies, not women's. Some women merely go along with them to appease their partners. These men who fancy themselves adventurous and wild in bed are nothing of the sort. In fact they are predictable and incredibly boring. NONE of their fantasies involve anything distasteful, uncomfortable, painful or dangerous to themselves, just the women they claim to love. And NONE of their fantasies are open minded or original in any way. It's just the same old porn scene they're re-enacting again and again and again.

I strongly suggest you take some time to re-evaluate what you're willing to do, how often and for whom. You don't owe it to any man to fulfill his fantasies regardless of the cost to you. No matter how wonderful you think he is.

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A female reader, LustyLisa United States +, writes (1 September 2011):

Your body isn't tolerating the introduction of objects, lubricants, and/or seminal fluids in your GI tract. I'm not a GI specialist but I render anesthesia services in the O-R setting for many specialist from Gastroenterologist, to General Surgeons, Ortho Surgeons, Pain Management, Radiologist, ect., and I can tell you many horor stories about primarily women who suffer terrible consequences from anal sex. GI Dr's are diagnosing more IBS in much younger segment of the population than ever before. Abnormal anal smears/biopsy in younger women has increased at an alarming rate leading to cancer in many women, something that women of previous generations seemed immune to until much later in life. I kid you not, not 5 years ago I was involved in a case for a 28 yr old woman who had to have both her anus and rectum removed and will for the rest of her life defeacate through a stoma/colostomy appliance ( hole with intestine sutured to the abdominal wall with a plastic bag attached to catch waste ) on her abdomen. She reported no family history of anal/rectal cancer. The only risk factor identified in this particular patient was that she consented to anal sex on occasion which she insisted was only occasional, not regularly practiced. Now her life has been permantly impacted and she will of course continue to face challenges with her health because now she has an artificial opening in her body that will create complications as she ages and the stoma wears out and has to be placed in yet another position in her abdomen.

The only cure to your problem is to stop having anal sex, unless you are not that bothered by the GI upset it creates in your GI tract. You can also experiemnt with non chemical lubricants and insist on condoms if you allow ejaculation to occure within the lower GI tract to see if that helps, but the anal stimulation and penetration itsself may be what's irritating and over stimulating the evacuation responce in your body. I do want to caution you that continueing to upset the intestinal flora of your intestines can either cause or exacerbate dieseases of the GI system that is so much worse than a couple of days of diarrhea and lead to chronic problems that have no easy cures or quick fixes. Some people have anal sex their entire adult lives without consequence while others suffer terribly. It's almost like smoking-some people smoke and never get pulmonary related diseases while others get cancer emphysema and/or COPD. Your body is showing the tell tale signs that anal sex isn't something your body will tolerate and your symptoms are like to get worse over time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011):

Anal sex is like large hard stools, only in reverse. It also lasts longer than a bowel movement, and causes significantly more carnage: enlarged internal hemorrhoids, anal fissures, ulcers, fistulas, nerve damage, rectocele, the weakness of anal sphincters, chronic pain, fecal incontinence, and, of course, chronic constipation. but diarrhea maybe he is ejaculating inside you and your having a reaction to his sperm?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2011):

Hi I'm no expert but I would guess that it has something to do with the lubrication you are using. I am allergic to Latex thus everytime a condom was used, I would pick up a vaginal infection. Hope this helps. Goodluck.

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A female reader, RedAthena United States +, writes (31 August 2011):

RedAthena agony auntAnal Sex has been known to cause fecal incontinence. The leakage is due to the sphincter muscles being stretched open.

Diarrhea is due to the digestive tract not absorbing the water in your waste effeciently.

Basically, waste matter is on a quick ride and exits with more water than usual.

Maybe anal sex is upsetting the balance? If it is causing an issue-you might want to take anal of your sexual menu.

Current diarrhea is not normal and can lead to dehydration and inflammation of the lower GI tract.

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