He says he can't give me more than what I am getting now. Do I leave?
Q. A man I have been seeing, has told me that he cant give me more than what im getting now, he said he is a selfish man and still wants to do things, he also brought up ex girlfriends saying they broke his heart and so on. What should I think about ...
A. 16 August 2011: There may be feelings on his part, but if a man is REALLY in deep love, he will move mountains to be with you.
He will do whatever it takes to be with you.
This guy can not, and will not do that.... (read in full...)
How can I get him to climax faster?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much and dont want to offend him but he takes a very long time to reach orgasm... can anyone give me advice on making him climaz quicker? thanks ...
A. 15 August 2011: Here I am thinking....why make it faster?
Maybe your bf is a marathon runner and not a sprinter!
Tell him you want him to come. Find out where his hot buttons are and push them. Does he drop hints about what would send him over the edge?... (read in full...)
Fiance angry that I didn't originally postpone our wedding after his mom died
Q. My fiance's mother passed away last month and he has been so cold and distant, and then blaming me for not suggesting to postpone the wedding, then can't wait to see me... it's been a roller coaster of emotions. I love him so much and have been ...
A. 15 August 2011: Your fiance needs to get a grip that HE is responsible for his own emotions and well being. You are not his keeper. He is old enough to say for himself that he needs to put brakes on wedding plans to process his grief.
Since you now know it is an... (read in full...)
Is she a gold digger?
Q. I am 22 years old while my girlfriend is 19 years old. Our relationship has lasted for three months now. recently i went up-town and we had nice time together for three weeks. after that, i traveled back to my home place. after a weeks she called me ...
A. 15 August 2011: Relationships do not ask for payment. I did a conversion and I guess that is about 21.00 USD?
If she is DEMANDING the money-let her break up with you. She is not your wife and you are not supporting her.
Why be stressed over someone you have... (read in full...)
Need help Advice Pls: How to break up and leave an Aries BF?
Q. First, I am still in love with my aries Boyfriend. He's 36 and I am 28. We have dated for 1.6 years striaght but on and off for 2years. But we fight so much and pick fights over everything, and this is NOT new. We have broken up a few times in the ...
A. 15 August 2011: Just like you break up with anyone else.
You tell them with respect, honesty and dignity that you no longer can be in a relationship with them.
If they ask why, you tell them why and understand they will be hurt.
You do not see him as... (read in full...)
He tells me some men take advantage, and I am paranoid he is one who will
Q. my boyfriend is younger than me. He is from a different country and is muslim. He wants to get married in the next few weeks at the local register office. and would like a baby. He lives with his cousins but has been staying with me every night ...
A. 15 August 2011: Something does not feel right here...I smell a possessive man, not a cherishing, protective one.
Is he being really pushy with the relationship and rushing you to marriage and motherhood on the fast track.
You should not be making plans to ... (read in full...)
HIV Questions
Q. NOTE: TWO QUESTIONS FROM SAME ASKER COMBINED Can me and my baby remain negativ wen my husband is hiv positiv? Is it advisable to marry a man with hiv?...
A. 15 August 2011: Talk to a Dr. about your medical risks.
Just because there is a date set, does not mean you MUST marry this person.
... (read in full...)
This man has too many women circling around him!
Q. Hi, I met a guy on facebook and we chatted for several weeks before meeting up. We began a relationship, taking things very slowly as we've both been hurt in the past - this was several months ago. I've been spending more and more time at his house ...
A. 15 August 2011: Ladies and Gentleman..that would be the perfect example of a Player. He feeds of the attention of the women.
Keep playing his game and you will keep losing. You are merely another warm body to score with.
You are not paranoid, you ar... (read in full...)
He says he can't give me more than what I am getting now. Do I leave?
Q. A man I have been seeing, has told me that he cant give me more than what im getting now, he said he is a selfish man and still wants to do things, he also brought up ex girlfriends saying they broke his heart and so on. What should I think about ...
A. 15 August 2011: He told you what he was. Believe him. Expect nothing more.
If you want more-you will not find it with him.
Simple as that.... (read in full...)
Drunken unprotected sex during one night stand has me freaking out!
Q. I feel like the dumbest person ever I got so drunk. That I ended up having sex with a guy and did not use a condom and he came in me! We immediately went got the plan B bill and I'm so afraid of pregnancy hiv/aids or stds.. please help me someone. ...
A. 15 August 2011: Do not have sex with your husband without a condom.
Now go get tested and confess ALL to your OBGYN.
If you and your husband do not use condoms, then you need to confess to him too. Unfortunately, there may be consequences that affect his ... (read in full...)
Ready to move in with b/f and find out he might be a father from a one night stand. Now what?
Q. Please help...I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months now and I am 28 years old,We have decided to take the step of moving in together. I am currently in the process of moving my stuff to his home when we get a phone call from a one night stand ...
A. 15 August 2011: Before you can make a decision and sort out your feelings, you need to get all the facts. You are imagining your role in this child's life before it has been confirmed if the child is even your bfs.
What is done is done. The past can not be undon... (read in full...)
We were having a great time till I pulled out a condom!
Q. I drove 6 hours one way this weekend to meet up with this girl I met the other week we hit it off pretty good but she wouldn't let me put it in. We were both messing around alot but still did not go all the way. We showered together and slept naked ...
A. 15 August 2011: She was fine with "messing around" but was not ready for penetration. Unless you talked about no penetration before exploring-she was being a bit of a c*ck tease in my opinon.
That is like someone saying "Here is this fine roadster. You can fond... (read in full...)
Leave a condom inside?
Q. Why would a guy leave the condom he used inside the girl?...
A. 15 August 2011: I doubt it was on purpose. More than likely he thought he is wearing the wrong size and it slipped off.
This is why you hold the base of the condom ON while he withdraws. Otherwise, you are going to risk spillage!
Then what would be the poi... (read in full...)
Why do creeps ask girls if they are virgins?
Q. Why do creepy guys and perverts ask teenage girls "Are you a virgin"?...
A. 15 August 2011: Because they are hoping you will say yes and then decide how to change that. They are showing that they are not interested in YOU, but in your possible virginity.
Call creeps on their BS. One of my favorite "disarming" responses is "Why do you n... (read in full...)
What signals is this girl sending me?
Q. I am now seperated from my wife of 15 years and trying to learn how to date and read the signals again. I am in my mid forties. There is a girl i know at the gym (mid thirties) who I get on very well with. We have had kisses and cuddles in the p...
A. 15 August 2011: My best guess would be that she was initially attracted to you, but feels you are not worth getting emotionally tangled with.
After all, you are seperated, not divorced. You are technically not available are are ripe more for a fling than a r... (read in full...)
He's left me after 3 years... to go back with the ex!!!
Q. The love of my life has left me after 3 years and gone back to his ex and I'm completely devastated. He says its for the kids sakes and he's broken his own heart by leaving me, that I was also the love of his life, his soulmate and that he will nev...
A. 15 August 2011: You are hurting. You are grieving a loss.It is going to hurt for awhile.
It probably came unexpected like a car accident. Now you have wounds that need attention and time.
You deleted all his contact info and yet you are horrorfied the h... (read in full...)
He's left me after 3 years... to go back with the ex!!!
Q. The love of my life has left me after 3 years and gone back to his ex and I'm completely devastated. He says its for the kids sakes and he's broken his own heart by leaving me, that I was also the love of his life, his soulmate and that he will nev...
A. 15 August 2011: You are hurting. You are grieving a loss.It is going to hurt for awhile.
It probably came unexpected like a car accident. Now you have wounds that need attention and time.
You deleted all his contact info and yet you are horrorfied the h... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 15 August 2011: No relationship is perfect..EVER. But you can be happy and supportive of each other while being understanding that in many ways she IS still a "kid" in her Dad's eyes.
Keep showing her parents that you are a man of honor.
By the way, it is n... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has watched porn and now I don't trust him around other girls
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. I'm his first girlfriend and he's my second boyfriend. We're absolutely sure we're in love. We even have plans of moving in together soon. My problem is my self esteem. The past few mont...
A. 15 August 2011: cont..(WOOPS, accidently hit the post button before I was done...)
that REAL SEX has lots of variety, is better than porn, but generally shows a more selfish side of sex (pure gratification rather than connection). I told him that if he expects ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has watched porn and now I don't trust him around other girls
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. I'm his first girlfriend and he's my second boyfriend. We're absolutely sure we're in love. We even have plans of moving in together soon. My problem is my self esteem. The past few mont...
A. 15 August 2011: No, no no...there is nothing wrong with you if you do not find other guys in movies attractive.
It was just an example I used. Put in the word "IF".
It took me awhile to learn, but boys/men watching porn is not necessarily a rejection of YOU... (read in full...)
I really don't want to be with somebody who treats me like this but am shocked and numb!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are 35. When we dont agree on things I prefer to agree to differ but he gets verbally abusive and swears and calls me a f*ing idiot. I find that so offensive. None of his family swear. He gets angry when he dr...
A. 14 August 2011: He is a time bomb with a short fuse ready to explode at any time.
He left you in a potentially dangerous situation and does not care for your safety or feelings.
THAT IS NOT LOVE. That kind of anger issue has the potential to build into physi... (read in full...)
I hear my parents arguing about sex and it's grossing me out!
Q. Hello all. This is not really a question regarding myself beyond the fact beyond that the situation is seriously traumatizing me and really, starting to piss me off. My mom went through menopause 5 years ago and apparently, no longer posses...
A. 14 August 2011: Im sorry that your parents are arguing about something that is so disturbing. Seeing your parents argue at any age is hurtful.
But, what they are doing is dragging you into their battles.
Sadly, I think your Mom is using you as a buffer to he... (read in full...)
Why does he want a trial marriage if we have already been G/f and B/f for two years already?
Q. I was out to dinner with my boyfriend tonight and I asked him what his reservations are about getting married. He told me that he wanted to live together first because he wanted a trial run to see if we were compatible. I feel after two years he s...
A. 14 August 2011: Considering he renegotiated when he wants to propose "officially" several times in a short period...I would be nervous that this man does not know really what he wants.
I can see why you feel hurt. You got your hopes up with the ring shopping... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend has watched porn and now I don't trust him around other girls
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. I'm his first girlfriend and he's my second boyfriend. We're absolutely sure we're in love. We even have plans of moving in together soon. My problem is my self esteem. The past few mont...
A. 14 August 2011: Let's say you watched a romanitc movie with a stunning male co-star and you found him attractive and fantasized about him a little.
Does that make you unfaithful or give you the potential to cheat?
No, it is fantasy.... (read in full...)
Dear guys: how do you see a married man solicting cybersex?
Q. Dear guys: how low on your scale of values is a married man who never says he wants to leave his wife but complains about lack of sex and after a few weeks/months of flirting online, asks for explicit pictures, cybersex over skype phone and video? T...
A. 14 August 2011: If that man spent more time trying to make his marriage better and more emotionally solvent, he might not need to seek out online affairs.
I was approached by several married men to have online affairs. While I do understand the pain of a loveless... (read in full...)
I don't mind him ejaculating on me, but I'd rather not be peed on
Q. Me and my boy friend like to do alternative things in the bedroom. We act out some porn scenes that seem interesting. The one that he wants to try, I'm not into much. He wants to ejaculate on my face, then urinate on me. I can handle him cumming on ...
A. 14 August 2011: A gf told me that her bf asked during sex,
"Can I cum on your face?"
She replied, "Can I sneeze on your penis?".
She was getting over a upper respitory infection too.
Needless to say, he stopped asking. Funny how HE was grossed out.
I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's widowed mother depends on us for entertainment
Q. me and my boyfriend have been 2gether for 3 yrs and his mom is widowed i know she is lonely but she relies on us for entertainment. she lives about an hr away so when she does come over and go out and do different things she ends up staying the ...
A. 14 August 2011: If your bf does not see this as a problem and you already discussed your feelings and concerns, then there is not much hope.
However, if you LIVE with your bf and you are contributing to the costs of that home, you have a right who gets to visit... (read in full...)
My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!
Q. So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...
A. 14 August 2011: """" I have did ask him why he feels that way and he didn't have a concrete answer, he just said he feels uncomfortable in big crowds (i am like that too but i wouldn't object if that crowd was just my family and maybe one or two of my closest ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to go down on me but my period's not quite finished. Pls Help!
Q. my boyfriend wants to go down on me but I have my period it's nearly finished? What shall I do!!! we don't get much time together so when he is here, I want it to be special, but I have had my period for about 4 days or so now and; their light...
A. 13 August 2011: He will either need to wait or learn the hard way that you are not ready/squeeky clean right now.
If this is your first time with oral...please wait.
Do it when you can not have any anxiety and actually enjoy the sensations.... (read in full...)
I like wearing makeup but he dislikes it. How do I negotiate some sort of compromise or a truce?
Q. My problem is that I love to wear make-up but my boyfriend hates it. I've been wearing makeup for years now and I always feel more comfortable wearing it. The issue is that my boyfriend recently told me that he thinks I wear too much makeup. This h...
A. 13 August 2011: I tend to wear lighter, more natural make-up.
But my ex-husband hated kissing me if I wore lipstick.
I did not wear it all the time, but for special occaisions, work, etc.
My solution was to wear tinted lipbalm the rest of the time.
Small c... (read in full...)
I love older women .i want to have sex with one but HOW do I interest one?
Q. I'm attracted to older women.. ok so i'm 19 yrs old and i love older women..like i think they are so hot..my friends make fun of me but i tell them the truth ..i just love them like i want to have sex with one..but I don't know how to get one inte...
A. 13 August 2011: Join a Cougar dating site. Google it.
A Cougar is an older woman who only dates younger guys.... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my boyfriend's feelings for his female friend and her constant presence in his life..
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8mo now and I'm having some worries about his life-long female friend. At first I didn't worry about her so much, but I have been picking up some signals that he may have some lingering feelings for her ...
A. 13 August 2011: I have been in this situation myself.
I realized there were unresolved feelings and my boyfriend wanted to spend a lot of alone time with his ex to work on their friendship.
I was ok with the friendship and alone part. But, because he menti... (read in full...)
He wanted to spend so much time with his friends. We were missing out on more intimate moments. Was I out of line in this ?
Q. Hi all, Ok so my boyfriend of 3 months broke up with me suddenly on Wednesday night over the phone and I have not heard from him since. The situation is as follows: Things were always really good when we spent time alone, although we also spe...
A. 13 August 2011: You have only dated this guy about 3 mos. In that amount of time, the bf prefered to be more in a group situation than alone with you.
I would think that shows he wanted a relationship that was more on the casual side.
How he spoke of you to ... (read in full...)
I tried being less available hoping he'd propose ...
Q. Hey everyone, seen a few similar posts, so thought I'd ask for help too! I have been trying this new 'technique' where I've stopped being so readily available and have started taking a renewed interest in my own life - work, hobbies, friends and the ...
A. 13 August 2011: You can not convince a guy to propose to you with any action other than being truly yourself AND the following
*You are ready to be engaged
*HE is ready to be engaged
*BOTH of you can see the two of you building a future together.
If ... (read in full...)
Temporary Marriage-What do women think about it
Q. Hi! I need replies, thougtful replies from females. I am of Irish and Brazilian origin and a convert to Islam. I lived in the Middle East (dads job) for a long time, I have converted to Islam 7 years ago, married a nice Muslim lady 2 yea...
A. 13 August 2011: An answer is not irrational simply because it does not agree with you.
I am a Western, Non Muslim woman and gave you an objective opinion based on what I understand about the temporary marriage and your questions.
Just like you want to avoid a ... (read in full...)
What's this fleshy thing on my vagina?
Q. This is not REALLY a sex question but I guess it's a sexual health question... and I really wanted to see if anyone has the same problem as me... I am a 21 year old female who's been sexually active since I was 17. I have no significant medi...
A. 13 August 2011: Only a medical Dr. can examine you and diagnose you.
Just GO.... (read in full...)
My married lover destroyed my life!
Q. hi, i am single and had an affair with a married man. I managed to hack his mail ID and found he has chatted and flirted with many young girls. saying 'i love you' and all. he's definitely playing with innocent lives. I know his daughter's mail ID. ...
A. 13 August 2011: Grow up and walk away from having ANYTHING to do with this man.
You had an affair with a married man. That should have been your FIRST CLUE this was not an honest or decent person.
If he could cheat WITH YOU on someone else..he can cer... (read in full...)
Sensitive clitorus...
Q. Hello, i was just wondering... Sometimes when my bf is masturbating, rubbing or licking my clit i orgasm then my clit gets really sensitive and he can't touch it anymore... However, if i was willing to be tied up/in handcuffs/ bondage... What Woul...
A. 13 August 2011: Have you ever been tickled until it hurt? Over stimulation does not feel good. It gets annoying..then painful! You need a rest period before you can be touched again.... (read in full...)
I don't want my fiance having strippers at his party!
Q. Tomorrow night will be my bachelorette party and my fiance will be having his bachelor party. We are having two separate parties and I would like him to come home that night. He refuses. Our mutual friend who isn't going to his told me that there ...
A. 13 August 2011: Strippers..no big deal. Prostitutes...BIG DEAL.
Strippers, Prostitutes, and alcohol? DEALBREAKER.
DO you trust him? I would be upset that he refused to come home that night. He is in a committed relationship, what difference does the ring ma... (read in full...)
We started out dating properly now he only wants me for sex
Q. hi everyone i met my fwb we started dating properly for a couple of month at the beginning of the year now he only wants me for sex what made him change his mind do you think thank you...
A. 13 August 2011: If you started as a FWB, then he let you know where his interest was. Why be suprised that he wants to keep it with no strings attached?
If you want more, get it elsewhere.... (read in full...)
Is this an affair waiting to happen?
Q. Hi everyone. First time here and I have a big problem I could use your advice on. Here's the story. We're both married and attracted to each other. We have been friends for a year now and over that year our attraction has grown and we have...
A. 13 August 2011: Yes. You agree you have already crossed lines. Just because you havent had a physical affair, doesnt mean you havent started an emotional one.
You are out of bounds. If you would not do or say something that you wouldnt not be embarrassed if your ... (read in full...)
After our split I feel trapped in our home
Q. i recently experienced a painful split im now feeling raw, trapped in our home we shared, i just dont want to be in the house at all! im feeling paranoid i try to relax but something or someone reminds me and its back to square one again, i feel let ...
A. 13 August 2011: I felt the same after my husband and I split. I got the house to raise the kids in and it is financially impossible to sell right now,....sooo
*I got a new bed, painted my bathroom a dif color, bought new sheets, and got new habits.
Start s... (read in full...)
Temporary Marriage-What do women think about it
Q. Hi! I need replies, thougtful replies from females. I am of Irish and Brazilian origin and a convert to Islam. I lived in the Middle East (dads job) for a long time, I have converted to Islam 7 years ago, married a nice Muslim lady 2 yea...
A. 11 August 2011: I think you are referring to a signeh?
A temp contract of legal marriage where there some benefits of marriage (but mainly for sex)and an exchange of money or valuable gifts. I do understand that in such arrangments, if any children would be... (read in full...)
My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!
Q. So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...
A. 10 August 2011: If that is what he wants for his birthday..why not respect his wishes? It is not about you or his family. It is something he does not want.
... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: Is is the parents decision. If it is meant to be then it WILL happen, but NOW is probably not the time.
These are years for both of you to tackle your educations and become well-rounded people. There is still growing for both of you to do, and ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: A Mothers response-I have teenagers, so I will tell you what I would do in this situation.
If a lovely 18 year old boy (you have a lot of great qualities) asked ME to date my 15, soon to be 16 yo daughter. I would say no.
Even if there is a gl... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her dad's permission to date her?
Q. Quick question... Going to ask my hopefully soon to be girlfriends parents for permission to date her. Her mom likes me a lot, and so even though she's not *technically* allowed to date until shes 16 in a few months, considering the circumst...
A. 7 July 2011: Correction F.A., she is FIFTEEN right now.
Nick, I think it is VERY smart to ask her Father for permssion. Since you are 18+ and she is a minor.
STILL, check the laws of your state, because as a minor you could be breaking a law called Statu... (read in full...)
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