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Now that we're older, how do we formalise dating?
Q. Hey - little bit confused, someone help. When we were younger, going out with someone was formalised by saying "will you go out with me?" It was simple and you knew exactly where you stood. Now that we're older, how do we formalise dating? ...
A. 4 December 2008: Usually a kiss forms the first bond doesnt it? Ask him if he'd like to go out on a night for a drink and see how the land lies from there. Sometimes having a drink makes you feel more relaxed and able to open up more. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I saw my sister naked, now I can't look her in the face!
Q. im22yrs boy.. i have one elder sister.. one day she came form bathroom in naked.. she tought not one in home.. but i was there.. i seen her body fully naked.. now im feeling very shy to see her face..help me.....
A. 4 December 2008: You could maybe just say, 'I'll try and make a lot of noise next time I come in the house, then you'll know to wrap up. Or just break the ice with some kind of joke. 'Good job I didnt bring my mates home that day', something along those lines. She ... (read in full...)
How do I bring balance to this relationship and this girl I so love and adore?
Q. Gawd...can someone give me some decent advice? I'm 35 and am seeing this beautiful girl that I absolutely love and adore. We've been seeing eachother for almost a year and we've had a lot of ups and downs, primarily arguing about stupid stuff. ...
A. 4 December 2008: She sounds very insecure. As you get to know her a bit better you will understand her needs more. I would suggest if she is clingy and you are with a crowd, just hold her hand, at least she knows you are still 'attached' to her and it won't stop ... (read in full...)
Oh my dear geeky man, please respond!!!
Q. It is slightly embarrassing for me to admit that we met online, on Craigslist. He asked for a strictly platonic activities partner, I answered. Well, in the end, due to scheduling differences we only went to the activity once. But he tu...
A. 4 December 2008: Sounds like hes a bit shy. There's nothing to be ashamed of meeting him online, I know loads of people who have met online and gone on to form good relationships even ended up getting married. With that out of the way it sounds like you both enjoy ... (read in full...)
Am I losing my husband?
Q. my husband and i are both twenty yearsold and just married in october. Sadly to say, we havent been having the best newlywed relationship. i work,he stays home with our 3yr old. my hours vary at work, so when i come home i cook dinner and dose off ...
A. 4 December 2008: Well you are both young yet and it's early in your relationship. He needs to start taking some responsibility. For one, if he doesnt want to go out to work he needs to be doing the domestics. I wonder what level of interaction your 3 year old is ... (read in full...)
I have done wrong, please help me fix this!
Q. I have been in a wrong relation for last 3 years. Please read my story and guide me.i was working in a company. I had huge crush on my MARRIED coworker. He also used to flirt with me. Once he asked to hug and kiss me. I denied becoz i wanted to keep ...
A. 4 December 2008: Wait for a man of your own and you will be thankful for that. Delete this man off your phone. Married men always lie that they arent having sex with their wifes. And who would want a man who doesnt love them for themselves and them only. You have ... (read in full...)
Are there any foods that will help my breasts grow?
Q. So, i am a 32A and have been since i was 10. My breasts havent grown any in the past 5 years is that normal? I keep waiting for some miracle growth spurt but nothing is happening! I know i am still growing (im 15) but idt anything else is gonna ...
A. 4 December 2008: You are only 15, you are still developing, don't worry too much at the moment. You could try having a glass of milk a day, that helps with all the muscles and bones in your body and can't do your development any harm at all. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
To stay friends, or risk the friendship for something else?
Q. Hello aunts, I'm looking for advice as to a very strange situation for me. Question is at the very bottom, but I really feel that a story is needed to highlight why this warrants anonymous help. I'm 17, go to an international school in Britain....
A. 4 December 2008: You sound like a very good friend and on reading your letter I see in the early stages you would listen to her, then as you go on you had started giving her 'advice' Im not been funny here, but if you havent had many relationships I dont think you ... (read in full...)
Am I in love with my best friend?
Q. This a bit long and I really hope I don't come off as a b**ch or clueless or a sl*t or anything like that, but here's the story: I moved to this area when I was ten (I'm now twenty-one) and I met my best friend (whom is a guy) at the community pool ...
A. 4 December 2008: Yes, go for it girl, what are you waiting for. I always used to trust my dads judgement. They do know more than us you know. good luck. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
My partner of 15 years is treating me like, well, sh*t... please advise!
Q. My partner of 15 years who I love and very much do everything for like a 50's house wife treats me like shi.... I am in my late 30's and he is in his 60's. When I ended up in Sept this year having a brake down and I had to live on our boat for ...
A. 4 December 2008: If you only have a boat to go to to get away from him, i would just get on it and sail away. Sorry to be blunt but he sounds like he has other interests now and you are paying the price for it all. You don't deserve to be a doormat any longer. ... (read in full...)
Should we keep spending his money?
Q. My wife an I are about the same age, 28. We've been married for 8 years and have 2 kids. She has an older friend who is nearing 40, and has known the guy before highschool. We live in a town of about 3000ppl so you get to know just about everyone ...
A. 4 December 2008: Sounds like this guy now has both of you in his pocket. No one just gives you money like this without something in return. He sounds like he has a major crush on your wife. She was wrong in the first place to spend any money on his card, and now ... (read in full...)
She thinks we should break up, help!
Q. Have been in relationship with alady for about 10yrs. we haven't had sex tog' and recently i fail to communicate with her for about 3wks and she call saying that may be i am comparing here with someone else or am thinking smthng else or may be Gods ...
A. 4 December 2008: She may want more than a ring, she may want marriage. After all 10 years together, most people have lived and had a life together. This may be the time to take control of your life, sounds like you have been dragging your heels. Women want more ... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he likes me or am I crazy?
Q. I just moved in with a room-mate of mine and her friend used to come over every once in a while. Since I moved in he's been coming over regularly. Does this mean that he likes me or am I crazy?...
A. 4 December 2008: I'm sure if he didnt like you, he would stay away. Sometimes if there's more than two in company it gets more interesting as well so he may like that scenario. He may not have felt right just the two of them before and now feels a bit safer. You ... (read in full...)
He told me that if I ever talk to him again, he is going to call the police.
Q. I've asked this question before, but didn't go into a lot of detail. So here is my situation... I've liked this guy for 5 years now. Anywhoo, I knew him from high school. (back in the day) We knew of each other, but never spoken. Until.....
A. 4 December 2008: I agree with all the other aunts. You could redeem your self esteem by maybe one last message, 'I'm sorry for being a pain, I won't bother you again'. Then move on. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Should I confess my love even though it would stress her out?
Q. Well i have been waiting to ask this for some time but i was trying to decide on my own, but this decision is very important and i need to make the right one. Well there is a girl i have known since kindergarten but i was never really close to ...
A. 4 December 2008: It may be best to remain friend, then see how she goes on with her current boyfriend. If she is confiding in you anyway, you will be the first to know how the land lies with her current situation with him. If she was stressed out before you could ... (read in full...)
Is he living a double life?
Q. My boyfriend had just split up with his wife when i met him. We had a great relationship, he moved in with me but several months later he devastated me by going back to his wife. Shortly after returning he was back in touch telling me he had made ...
A. 30 November 2008: Unfortunately, he hadnt been finished with his wife for long when you took him on board. Husbands and wives need a cooling off period when they split up after being together for years. This is where rebounds happen, they go to people on the rebound ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't kiss you passionately, is he not interested?
Q. If a guy doesn't really kiss you passionately does it mean he is not interested? I have been out on a couple of dates with a guy who doesn't really show his emotions! - We talk a lot and get on well but not about how we feel for each other! ...
A. 30 November 2008: I've been with my hubby 30 years, the passionate kisses come at intervals, when he means it. So don't worry about it, kisses come in all ways. At least you know the best is yet to come if you keep seeing each other. He may not be able to help ... (read in full...)
Why do you catch so much hell as a mistress?
Q. HELLO Ladies and Gents, I have a question when you are the mistress why do you catch so much hell. I have been involved with my friend for about two years now and i love him very much and will do anything for him. But this is my problem in the b...
A. 30 November 2008: when a man gets a mistress it is because he wants the excitement he's not getting from his wife. You probably now have been with him long enough and he needs that exitement of a new relationship ( a mistress) again. Sounds like he's looking ... (read in full...)
How do you break off a LDR?
Q. How do you end a long distance relationship. We have been going out for over a year and she moved 3 month ago. She visits frequently (once a month), but do I end it now like over the internet or in person when she comes to visit. One is imperso...
A. 30 November 2008: If you finish with her on the phone or over the internet at least she hasnt lost out financially coming over to be told the news and wasting her money. Depends how much respect you have for her. I'ts long distance so at least you won't be bumping ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time understanding his intentions....should I be worried?
Q. Im having a hard time understanding his intentions This guy I had a past with but found out to be a player, is back in my life. Over the summer, he liked 2 girls but ended up dating one of them and then cheating on her after she moved away for s...
A. 30 November 2008: He sounds like he is a player. He probably is treating every girl in his presence like this. Sounds like he fancies himself. Just be careful. He could be just a bit confused and trying to find himself. Maybe he thinks y ou werent such a bad ... (read in full...)
Could this cramping mean I'm pregnant?
Q. I am new at this so bare with me? I have been cramping for 5 days now and my period isn't due til the 13th! I can't figure out what is going. Is there any chance that I could be pregnant even if I do take every precaution condom, im on the pill!!! ...
A. 30 November 2008: cramping can be associated with your periods getting ready to start even up to a couple of weeks. If they are severe you could take a pain killer, or if they are happening a lot and worrying you could talk to your doctor. Make a note of when they ... (read in full...)
Masturbation problems...
Q. I've got a question about girl masturbation... well actually clit stimulation.. Is it normal that it hurts after? Well I have been masturbating the last time in the shower and I had an orgasm but then it hurt a bit... I was wondering if something ...
A. 30 November 2008: You could get some KY Jelly from the chemist, or a similar lubricant. that will definately help.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my cousin and the thought of someone else being with her drives me crazy! What to do?
Q. Im frm India im really attracted to my cousin and have sexual fantasies about her. she is med student in another city , weve rarely met , except for a few family reunions. but the last time we met ( years back) in delhi , it just set up some ...
A. 30 November 2008: she has given you her answer and you must accept it. Maybe when you meet up again she will confirm her feelings about it. She may see you as a bit of a nuisance if you keep on at her about your feelings if she doesnt feel the same way. Women/or ... (read in full...)
If anyone out there has any ideas or knows how to let go I would appreciate you sharing it with me.
Q. I have been married for 40 years and my husband passed away. Now I find myself in this relationship that is verbally abusive, I have no trust, he consistently lies to me, I let him walk all over me, I know this is wrong, it is not me to come across ...
A. 30 November 2008: You may be searching for what you had with your husband. Being with someone for 40 years is a great acheivement. You probably still feel the need for that companionship again but the man you are with now is not the one. Always cast your mind ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone who has a fetish for tights?
Q. all my life i have had this fetish for tights. about 0ne or tw0 months ago i bought a pair and whenever i can i where them.im not gay but i love the feeling of them. is there anyoneelse like me?...
A. 30 November 2008: yes they do have a nice feeling dont they. My husband used to wear them to keep his legs warm when he went fishing. I've worn his undies before when mine were in the wash. Oh all our secrets are coming out now arent they. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Can't stop these feelings... falling in love with my best friend!
Q. Hi, I really need some advice as I am going out of my mind... I have been with my fiance for 4 years now, we have a beautiful little boy together and a home but as much as I know I am lucky to have such a wonderful life, I am not happy, I don't feel ...
A. 30 November 2008: Is it the fact that your soul mate is now available that youre feeling this way. Has he confided in you about the breakup and you are feeling sorry for him. You may be seeing him as a father figure to your son also as he has a good relationship ... (read in full...)
Why would he not call me?
Q. Can anyone offer me any explanation for this please? I met a friend of a very good friend of mine a couple of weeks ago. This guy told my friend (also a guy) that he really liked me, asked him loads of questions about me such as am I single, wha...
A. 30 November 2008: He's obviously shy. He asked your friend all the questions and passed 'his' number on to you for 'you' to ring him. I'd say he was very shy and darent make the first move. He is obviously interested, some of the questions he asked he sounds like ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my ex girlfriends sister.....Help
Q. Hi everyone, So like many of you I have a real complicated love situation I am in. For a few months now I have fallen for my ex girlfriends sister. I know it is wrong but I cant help how I feel. She lives right next door to me so it makes it impo...
A. 30 November 2008: She probably doesnt text back for fear of someone seeing it. If you are sure of her feelings then I would ask her to mention this to her sister to be fair and see how the land lies there before you go ahead. Her sister may not react very kindly if ... (read in full...)
Can sexual attraction be so intense between two people that they are actually uncomfortable in each other's presence?
Q. Hi. I was just wondering (and please don't read too much into this!) whether sometimes the sexual attraction between two people can be so intense that they actually avoid each other (i.e. never actually consummate the attraction), net result being ...
A. 30 November 2008: Yes thats true it can happen. Sometimes the reasons why it's not pursued immediately is because there's a hold up at one end. Maybe one of them is married and thats the barrier. Unrequited love is so intense. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Who should I be with?
Q. M1's pluses are that he is gentlemanly, accommodating, accepting of my appearance, is an enjoyable company to be with, is loving and is patient. His minuses are that he has not-so-nice family members, lives faraway from me and speaks nonsensical ...
A. 30 November 2008: The M1, seems to be for you. I'd go for that one. If distance is a problem, can't you get together, or live nearer. If not I would look for M3. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
How do I ask a woman to have sex with me?
Q. I'm in my forties and have not had sex for nearly 17 years. How do I get a woman into my bed? Females only answer please. Thank you....
A. 30 November 2008: Women like clean men, not necessarily film star looks, just a clean body, clean shaven, clean clothes, freshly ironed shirt. Nice manners. Oh, and a clean house. Then you may have to do some 'wooing, you know, buying flowers, opening doors, be a ... (read in full...)
Tell me what you think!
Q. Everyone watches the news yea? So tell me what you think about the missing 3 year old child Caylee? The people in my house think that Caylee was sold for money... But no one really knows what happend. Where did the mother get the money and how is ...
A. 30 November 2008: Caylee wasnt reported missing for a whole month. That's very strange. A normal loving mother would be frantic after a few minutes of not being able to know where her young child was. I'm sure the FBI are doing all they can, and they can work ... (read in full...)
I thought the sperm was meant to go upwards, not back out??
Q. heya just a quick question - the other day i had sex without a condom (its ok im on the pill and i was my bf's first so he doesnt have anything)and afterwards i found that sperm was leaking out of me- is this normal? cos i thought it was kinda meant ...
A. 30 November 2008: Yes thats normal. Make sure you go to the toilet after sex and urinate, then gently wash yourself and dry. Then leakage will be minimal. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Younger men!
Q. There is a guy who is younger than me and he really likes me but I think he is a geeko and I really don't like him. He is always following me around! What do I do!?...
A. 30 November 2008: be gentle with him, if he's only young, he's love sick. If all else fails, tell him to 'get lost'. He'll hate you for that and you won't have any more problems. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I want to add this guy I like to my facebook, but I'm afraid he'll think I'm stalking him! How do I do this in the best way?
Q. When I was on facebook I was doing a random search of people in my city and I saw a face i recognised. So I click on the profile and realised it was this guy who comes into my work all the time. He works right next door to me (we both work in retail ...
A. 30 November 2008: Just add him as a friend, thats what the application is there for. He needs to 'confirm' that you are a friend. You will find out one way or the other if you are doing the right thing by his reaction to that. Or you could find out who 'his ... (read in full...)
I'm dreading Christmas! Whatever I think about planning I almost get anxiety attacks! What would be the best thing for me to do during this holiday?
Q. Christmas is coming and I'm dreading it unfortunately. I do have a lovely boyfriend who is caring and loving and loves me to bits, but he is lazy, undermotivated, etc. He hasn't achieved very much when it comes to career...he doesn't work at all.H...
A. 30 November 2008: Have a word with the doc, theres medication you can take if you are afraid of flying, so maybe it's similar for long car journeys to settle your nerves. When you get there, plan a trip out somewhere with the boys, give yourself something to look ... (read in full...)
Should the fore-skin be back before you put the condom on your erect penis?
Q. Should the fore-skin be back before you put the condom on your erect penis?...
A. 30 November 2008: If you read the instructions that come with the pack then it will suggest you pull the foresking up before you put the condom on. Otherwise you could be in a bit of pain. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my child about the birds and the bees?
Q. I caught my 8year old masterbate.How do i talk to her about this?...
A. 30 November 2008: Your daughter is discovering her body. Nothing wrong with that as long as she's not doing it in public. My friends little girls when she was three years old used to rub her private parts up and down a door. Very embarrassing when the neighbours ... (read in full...)
How should I handle not being able to see her?
Q. Ok, I met a girl online and we have been talking for a while, and its been heavy flirting both ways. I'm pretty sure in a few weeks I'll be able to move to considering asking her to be my girlfriend. Although, I have never met her in person, we plan ...
A. 30 November 2008: If you want a lot out of the relationship, i'e . physical wise, then a long distance relationship is not for you. Speaking to someone online and actually in person are two different things. We imagine a person to be a certain way when we talk ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my in-law, how can I get this out of my system??
Q. I have a big problem, this is a taboo topic. for the last two or so years I have developed feelings for my sister in laws husband.I am now totally in love with him I cant stop thinking about him,I try my hardest to stay away from family functions...
A. 30 November 2008: I'm thinking he is your husbands brother, 'sister in laws husband' you say. Relationships with sisters partners, husbands relations, anything like that will cause a huge family argument and rifts. Any children will get caught up in it all. If you ... (read in full...)
I cry every time we're apart and it's making me a wreck! Why am I like this?
Q. hi. i'm 18 this year unlike many of you here, my problem doesnt lie with my partner. it's my first relationship and i am enjoying every moment of it when i'm with my boyfriend. i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me alot as well. but fo...
A. 30 November 2008: Your first relationship, emotions all over the place, this is absolutely natural for you to be feeling like this. It will pass, try not to be too clingy or you could scare him off. If you both agree to be seeing each other a lot thats nice. When ... (read in full...)
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