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Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 12 December 2010: Just out of curiosity, if your husband was seeing other women would you be as forgiving. Cheating is cheating who ever it is with. He has a lot of issues as well that seem too far out of your reach to sort out. He is in a proper dilema. I wonder ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to share what I feel!
Q. Hello! I have a dilemma and I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advice or opinions. So I have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months with my boyfriend. We are very close, trust each other, and I'm completely happy...
A. 19 November 2010: Because of your past you are now trying to make sense of it. This can be an ongoing thing. I have things in my past that even now at 53yrs old come back to haunt me. You have to find a way, like i did to deal with some of these issues so that they ... (read in full...)
In a twisted situation......
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months 16 days and for a period of time,recently,i felt indifferent towards him and wasn't calling him like i did before. Before all this, i had developed a lot of affection and like for a guy who ...
A. 13 November 2010: You boyfriend cheated on you. That's difficult in itself. You are in different parts of the country, that's hard to hold down a relationship sometimes as well. You are of an age group where lots of dating and getting to know other people is the ... (read in full...)
My current boyfriend makes me happy but I still long for my ex.
Q. Right I'm confused. I'm in love with my ex (let's call him X), I miss him so much. But I didn't realise this until recently. He broke up with me about a year ago. This upset me a lot. Since him I've dated 3 guys. Two of those relationships...
A. 13 November 2010: The grass is always greener on the other side is what we say. Over time you have forgotten the real reasons why you broke up, they will still be there. You are remembering the good times. Going back may not do you any good and you could end up ... (read in full...)
How do you know when an ex truly wants to be friends?
Q. How do you know when an ex really Wants to be friends? We have been talking regularly and she always says yes to hanging out. She mentioned in the past It was her intention, and now a week later says right now were just friends. I did tell her I ...
A. 13 November 2010: Sounds like she is spelling it out about just been friends other wise she would not have said that. She likes to hang out with you. Maybe she will want more as you go along but you will have to wait and see. Some guys just don't know how to be ... (read in full...)
How can I ease my mum's concerns when my family moves away from me?
Q. I am leaving for a summer job for 4 months and my family might be moving over the summer months. My father has a job waiting but we need to see if we can sell our house. The thing is, they are moving far away which means when I am done my summer job ...
A. 13 November 2010: Set up an internet connection if you don't already have one. Webcams will enable your family to see you and you can chat. Emails are good. Messengers. I speak to my cousin every night in Australia, it's like he's in the next room when we can see ... (read in full...)
How do I fix this drunken mistake?
Q. So here's what happened. I'm a 25 year old male. I have a long distance girlfriend who I love dearly. I've never met anyone quite like her, she's amazing, everything I want in a girl and I'm going to marry her when we can be together (we're away fro...
A. 13 November 2010: Is there a chance she could find out from someone else? If there is then you have two options, either let your girlfriend know, or make plans to move. What about the next time you have a drink, this could happen again, that would be something ... (read in full...)
Did we have sex because he loves me?
Q. Hey freinds pleae help me out of this confusion. Two years back i was in a relationship with a boy. I know at starting there was just attraction from both sides. We got involved in kissing, hugging, oral sex. after having 2 years relation we got ...
A. 13 November 2010: I'm taking it that you havent made plans to meet up again. You will find out if he loves you if you just wait, and wait to see if he calls you. Try not to call him first. He needs to be doing the running now and that will show you how he feels. ... (read in full...)
He has another girlfriend! How do I get him back?
Q. hey i like a guy he stayed in touch with me for 6months but during the 7th month he started ignoring me .i stay in jaipur and he stays in indore .during the diwali breaks i went to indore and thier i found that he already had 1 girlfriend and is ...
A. 13 November 2010: I'd love to give you some tips about trying to get him to like you again, but I'm afraid none of them will work. He will only use you again. He has been two timing you and he's been found out. He will be embarrassed and he won't want the other ... (read in full...)
What does mirroring facial expressions mean?
Q. I like a certain guy and he likes me in a certain way too. Earlier he used to have those serious looks whenever we met. But nowadays, he is quite sweet and charming with a hidden smile in the corner of his lips when he is not smiling. Oth...
A. 13 November 2010: When you mirror someones facial expression, it means you are listening and taking it in what has been said and on a rapour with you. I'ts to re-enforce back to you what has been said by facial expression rather than words. A good listener will do ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to share what I feel!
Q. Hello! I have a dilemma and I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advice or opinions. So I have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months with my boyfriend. We are very close, trust each other, and I'm completely happy...
A. 13 November 2010: Don't worry about it, you are only young so you've not a lot of 'past' to talk about. At your age i think the thing to do really is just go out and have fun and keep the deep and meaningfuls as short and sweet at intervals. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Help me to develop more spontaneous conversation skills
Q. My problem is building up my conversational skills when talking to a girl.it has been my problem cos am not that conversational person.each time am into a conversation with a lady,i have to think of what to say before i can say it to her which is ...
A. 13 November 2010: Usually when people meet and get to know each other its supposed to come spontaneously and naturally, mainly a topic of conversation can flow if two people are interested or have the same knowledge of a particular subject. More couples meet in a ... (read in full...)
I thought the date went really well but he didn't try to kiss me?
Q. Ok so i rlly rlly like this guy, "Sam". We have kno each other for 4yrs. And now that where both in high school him an 11th grd me a 9th (yea im 14 not 16). Anyways we have rlly been conecting lately. We where txting and hanging at shool. Then he ...
A. 13 November 2010: He sounds like a nice guy. He also sounds a bit nervous and not the kind to rush in to anything. He probably wanted to show your mum that he had brought you home safetly and is trying to look after you. Don't scare him off, enjoy this romantic ... (read in full...)
The longer we stay together, the less sex we have
Q. Been in my relationship for almost 2 yrs, seems the longer we stay together, we're having less and less sex. He says he's tired from work, but work more hours,. How can I get him to be more into me, and have more sex, I mean it's like almost a ...
A. 13 November 2010: Working long and hard does make you tired. He needs to have a break, a holiday and rest. When he isnt as tired, the rest will fall into place. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I've grown and changed since I proposed to her and am now doubting whether the marriage is the best idea
Q. Hello everyone, I've been so depressed lately. Let me start at the beginning. I'm originally from India, I moved out here when I was 11 so I have been brought up with a mixture of Indian ideals and I've seen all the western ideals by going ...
A. 13 November 2010: You musnt let your family decide your fate or both you and your fiance will have problems if you marry with unsolved issues. But not everyone has to meet loads of girls to find the right one either. Sometimes people look for a life time and the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop crying so much all the time??
Q. hi, i really cry so much and i really want to no how to stop it, i alwasy cry about stupid things and i sometimes cry on the phone to my boyfriend about things, i think this puts pressure on him and upsets him. of course it does right? Please he...
A. 9 November 2010: I remember crying quite a lot when i was that age as well. Hormones are a nuisance. It will get better. You don't want to have big eye bags under your eyes, so have a little cry then deep breaths and rinse your eyes with really cold water to feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with other girls without realizing it?
Q. this is a huge problem with us. we have been going out for almost 11 months, and we really care about each other, but he doesnt realize that he flirts with girls. they flirt with him and he doesnt realize it and flirts back, and we have talked about ...
A. 9 November 2010: Let him know to tone it down. He could be playing a game to get you jealous. He has obviously over stepped the mark if a girl has fallen for him over it. ... (read in full...)
Our work schedules clash!
Q. I'm not sure whether to break up with my boyfriend and would appreciate your advice. We've been together 7 months. At first he was working days like me and we used to see each other on a Friday night, which was good because neither of us ha...
A. 9 November 2010: Sounds like you are doing the work of two people. If you don't finish your work in one day and have to go in early the next then you need a rise or a serious word with your boss. Do people still do 10 hour shifts and is it legal. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Heading for a break up!
Q. im 30 an been in a realtionship 4 11 months she is 6 months pregnant an my paranoia is draggin her 2 rock bottom im on resperidone an got 2 see a shrink just dont want to lose her n i think its heading that way wot can i do ...
A. 7 November 2010: Does she know that you are on resperidone. From what I've read it can have lots of side effects. Have a word with the doc who is adminstering it and see if he can help. You may be on the wrong dosage or something. I know that one of the side ... (read in full...)
How can I save money!
Q. Hi i'm a college student, currently not working. i'm a bad spender when it comes to money, it's like having water in pocket. i need help with saving money, can someone pls give me some ideas on how to save money...
A. 7 November 2010: Find a job first then that gives you more spending power. Get a little note book and write down every outgoing that you have each week and write down money coming in. You need to get all your bills/etc out of the way first, what's left is yours ... (read in full...)
Did I give him too much information and scare him off?
Q. I think I really screwed up with a guy I'm interested in. I have recently left my husband, we were never in love so I have been emotional gone for quite some time. I have a friend who I have known for most of my life, but only recently gotten ...
A. 7 November 2010: It's always a dodgy one where children are concerned, and other peoples involvement with them. Your son has been let down and that is so wrong. Has this man been trying to get through to you via your son, which some men do?. You cannot go to far ... (read in full...)
How do I be confident around girls?
Q. Hi guys. I've been waiting for soo long, everyone tells me to wait, the right girl will come. That was almost three or four years ago. I'm sick and tired of this. Some advice on how to be confident around girls would be appreciated. THanks!...
A. 7 November 2010: If you take care of your, personal hygene, your looks, your smile, what you wear, then girls will notice you and make a move, that's for sure. Just take care of that and everything else shold follow. You are at the age now that things should start ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with other girls without realizing it?
Q. this is a huge problem with us. we have been going out for almost 11 months, and we really care about each other, but he doesnt realize that he flirts with girls. they flirt with him and he doesnt realize it and flirts back, and we have talked about ...
A. 7 November 2010: He sounds like a pleasant guy. If he doesnt realize it, maybe its a bit of paranoia coming from you. He's been with you for 11 months so don't worry about it, he's just a happy guy,not a player. Enjoy him and don't try to change him to suit you. ... (read in full...)
All 3 pregnancy tests came back positive, how do I tell my best friend he's the father
Q. Me and my best friend are both 14, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I ...
A. 7 November 2010: Arrange a time when you can speak to your parents and get their full attention. You may be able to all come to a compromise, but let them know you have spoken about it and decided what to do about it. You could also go to an advice clinic if you ... (read in full...)
I am so confused about my sexuality
Q. Hello dear people, (First thank you for taking interest and for your time to read, review my question) Concerned subject : Sexuality I thought a lot on how to draft my concern. Let's see. I am 22 years male, educated, responsible and working...
A. 6 November 2010: Just sounds like you are appreciating beautiful people and would like to be one of them, either male or female. Are you self concious of the way you look, maybe you'd like to change something about your self but would you go to the extreme of ... (read in full...)
Why does he want my FB password when we have broken up?
Q. Iam a girl, my name is radika. i started this relationship with kevin about 66 months ago. we were loving each other alot but because i had so many problems with my parents kevin asked to beakup. i really didnt want him to do that at that time coz ...
A. 6 November 2010: Your password is your private password, no one else should have access to it, that is the reason we have passwords. Do not give him it, he only wants to check up on you. Once he gets into your account he can go on there and say things as if you've ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him my feelings have changed
Q. here is the problem. My boyfriend and I havnt been dating very long but i know he likes me alot. i had agreed to go to formal with him but now, i really dont think i like him and its extremly hard to tell him. i have already told him that i do not...
A. 6 November 2010: Keep giving him excuses as to why you can't see him on a particular day, then at least he may get the message that you don't want to be formal. You could just also tell him how you feel. That may work. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
How do you stop having feelings for someone?
Q. I met a guy on holiday 4 years ago and we got on really well and spent the whole holiday together. Then when we came back to the uk he came up to see me and i went down to see him, but it just fizzled out and we lost contact. I actually really ...
A. 6 November 2010: Don't forget, he lied about seeing someone else. Just delete everything you have on him, and over time, once again, he will just be a distant memory. You need something or someone else in your life to further re enforce this that's all. Other ... (read in full...)
Our work schedules clash!
Q. I'm not sure whether to break up with my boyfriend and would appreciate your advice. We've been together 7 months. At first he was working days like me and we used to see each other on a Friday night, which was good because neither of us ha...
A. 6 November 2010: Unfortunately this is how the work schedules go these days in a 24/7 society. The only thing i could suggest is for both of you to have a word with your managers and do some alterations to suit your shifts. I'm sure if you could find a way for ... (read in full...)
I fancy his taken best friend way more than my date but I don't want to - help?
Q. I REALLY hate the fact I fancy the man who is the best friend of the man who I have been going out on dates with (who already has a gf - I think he fancies me back as the other day he asked the guy I was dating for my phone no!! what the hell?) (I'm ...
A. 6 November 2010: At least you did the right thing and let the bf down gently, now he's out of the picture you can just wait and see what happens. It will cause some distruption between mates if you get with the guy but at least if you are honest at all times, you ... (read in full...)
My husband can't get over HIS affair.
Q. My husband had an affair 2 years ago, and we worked through issues, the affair ended and life went on. 3 weeks ago we celebrated our 10 year wedding anniversary with a vow renewal ceremony, and I noticed after that he started acting very depresse...
A. 6 November 2010: He is full of guilt, and regret. I think it's lovely for him to feel this way. That is punishment in itself. After all these years, he has realized what he has. You may have to reassure him that you must both forget the past because this is ... (read in full...)
I'm scared fiance will leave me sooner or later
Q. me and my fiance have been together for almost 4years and we have 3 kids and a eldrely grandma to take care of we are not as intimate as we wre in the beginning we might have sex once a month if that she hardly goes anywhere but stays on the phone ...
A. 6 November 2010: Lots of things in the way of your relationship, kids, grandma , age difference. Against all the odds do you think this can survive. Being on the phone, or internet or texting mates all day long seems to be the generation thing these days, so ... (read in full...)
My ex has a fake profile pretending to be someone else and he has befriended me
Q. My lover dumped me 3 weeks ago,he said he needed some space and time to think things out etc.I have left him alone but i am heartbroken, anyway he has gone on a website that i go on and he goes in a profile pretending he is someone else...he ...
A. 6 November 2010: He could be testing you, to see if you have been cheating on him or something like that. It's funny how a lot of these columns are similar, when someone breaks up with someone theres always dodgy goings on online. He must have been dabbling on ... (read in full...)
Should you be with someone who doesn't love you?
Q. I'm on/off with my ex at the moment, i won't go into details. We have been together for about a year (although not at the moment), but as I am away at university the relationship is a bit strained as we didnt get a chance to see eachother that ...
A. 5 November 2010: The simple fact that you are questioning all this is enough reason to let him go his own way. Its coming across as the relationship is not strong, the 11 yr gap, the fact that you don't really know each other that well is all factors in this. ... (read in full...)
How to act? Nothing I do is right around my boyfriend!
Q. My partner is in a lot of debt. Serious debt. He is close to losing his home, his car etc and is in a very bad place now mentally and emotionally. He is distant and is very snappy with me sometimes and he can become withdrawn. We have also had so...
A. 5 November 2010: He needs the help of a good financial adviser. Some of the things you ve mentioned I can relate to. Is he a gambler, or don't you know why he's got himself in to debt. Debt is awful and all the moods and depression he is displaying is the bi ... (read in full...)
She doesn't know but I overheard my g/f crying about her ex boyfriend
Q. I've been dating a really awesome girl for about 6 months. It's all really good and I like her a lot. The thing is, the other day, I went over to her house, and I guess she forgot that I was coming over and I overheard her with her best friend. She ...
A. 5 November 2010: You could tread carefully and make sure that she isnt with you soley for the company because she can't be with the one she really wants. You could ask her about her ex and if she misses him at all. That's all you can do really. It can't be very ... (read in full...)
Should I phone her and explain myself?
Q. PLEASE REPLY SOON! Well I went to a party back in May, and started to talk to this girl that I had briefly met before, and we sort of acted as if we were going out(SHE kissed ME etc), but neither of us asked eachother out, and I left the party and ...
A. 5 November 2010: yes, phone her and get the conversation going. Sounds like you could have a girlfriend by the end of the call. Don't waste time reading this,,, phone her. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
How do I find out in a subtle way what my chances are with her?
Q. Hi everyone I would like to use this platform to get as many different ideas and suggestions from as many different people on this as possible since I have no clue what to do next. I am a bisexual woman in my mid twenties and I am in love wi...
A. 5 November 2010: Does she know that you are Bi-sexual?. How does that affect your friendship. You could try asking subtle questions about the topic over a period of time, you surely would get some answers one way or another if she would like you two to be an item. ... (read in full...)
Do all bi couples swallow?
Q. my question is do all bi couples swallow cum or do they spit it out and if you don't swallow it why do you have oral sex to begin with just to get it hard. shame what a wonderful taste...
A. 5 November 2010: Everyone is different. That's something you will have to discover for yourself when you are in that position. Good luck... (read in full...)
How do I make her stop being distant?
Q. I am in some sort of a predicament. My ex gf who just found out she is pregnant dumped me 2 days ago and she wont give me a reason. she seems more distant but still calls daily. sometimes she still says she loves me. is it the hormones from the ...
A. 5 November 2010: She must be in shock to find out she is pregnant. Did you call her a liar because you didnt believe her? You must apologise to her and let her know you will be there for her to support her what ever decisions come along that you both want for your ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating just like having sex?
Q. i always press on my virginia tell i orgasm and it's feel cool but the thing is that i want to stay a virgin tell my wedding night and i think that this is like having sex ,i just cant stop it am still a young teen what can i do?? ...
A. 5 November 2010: It's perfectly normal. I'ts refreshing to hear that you don't want to have sex until your wedding night as well. Juts carry on doing what you are doing and stay strong in your beliefs then you won't go far wrong. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Sex during a women's period?
Q. i have a question, for both male and females, the question for female is when you on your period would u want to please your boyfriend if he wanted sex and for males will you pressure your girlfriend to please you when she on her period ...
A. 5 November 2010: Some girls have pains and are very uncomfortable when they are on their periods, bloated, headaches, pains, cramps,feeling emotional, etc etc. It is an individual thing. When you are with the right one then it's something you sort out together. ... (read in full...)
Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 5 November 2010: After reading this, sounds like he is looking for men and sex. The only thing you can do if you want this to work is to keep a closer eye on what he's doing. If he's working away from home then he needs to find a job more closer to home. At the ... (read in full...)
All 3 pregnancy tests came back positive, how do I tell my best friend he's the father
Q. Me and my best friend are both 14, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I ...
A. 5 November 2010: You are going to need all the support you need. First of all, just take the bull by the horns and tell him. The thing that you should be worrying about after that is telling your parents. I'ts not easy being a parent and when people say it is the ... (read in full...)
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