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He's the one and I can't let him go!
Q. please help me..ive dated my boyfriend for over two years, we are young, but had plans to marry and have children, to the point where there names were picked out. however..we fight constatly endlessly and its gotten to the point where ive ended the ...
A. 15 January 2011: I would have said if he loves you , you both will find away. But i cant get my head around him 'ignoring ' you in public places. Wonder what that's all about. I wonder if he's frightened of a scene and you embarrassing him front of his mates if ... (read in full...)
I dislike most people is that bad?
Q. I'm 22 years old, male, living in Canada and I can honestly say I dislike most people. I'm not necessarily one of those anti-social, "I hate the human race"-types, but most people I know/meet that are around my age, I can't stand that much. To m...
A. 14 January 2011: Well I'd say youve not met enough of a wide variety of people, you may need to go further afield. There is a lot of people out there waiting to be discovered who you could have lots in common with. Usually in a place of work a couple of ... (read in full...)
Why can't I just break up with my boyfriend?
Q. Why can't I break up with my boyfriend.. he treats me like dirt and always needs "guy time"..Why can't he just tell me he wants out and why can't I seem to be the one to break it off? I know I should break it off because I really think he is ...
A. 14 January 2011: I'm not feeling that you would be that bothered if you broke it off. If you are a bit bothered then i would try to do some research into finding evidence that he is cheating before you break it off. Get to the bottom of it. The fact that he's ... (read in full...)
He wants me to help him come out of the closet, how do I do this?
Q. Hi everyone! I finally got a boyfriend and am SO HAPPY! I have a question however. He is slowly coming out to his friends. I mean VERY SLOWLY. He is not out to his parents yet and his parents don't even know that I'm gay. I am not at all...
A. 14 January 2011: I wonder if his parents Do know that he's gay and not said anything, waiting for him. But anyway, you could just let everyone know that you are gay, and the rest will follow, while he is at your side. Just ask him not to deny it if anyone asks the ... (read in full...)
She dumped me via a text, depicted me as not OK, yet I still love her what can I fdo.
Q. Hello all, my gf of 3 years, went to uni and dumped me over text and got with another guy the very next weekend! Three months on, i'm suffering from the heartbreak and she is in a "loving" relationship with this guy. I guess i,m happy if she's happy ...
A. 14 January 2011: She doesnt sound very nice really, a bit heartless. Try to think of all the times you were with her, couldnt you tell that her heart wasnt in it. For her to just go off with someone very quickly, maybe she was lining him up for a while. You are ... (read in full...)
Upcoming Marriage Anxiety / Commitment Issue
Q. Once upon a time (1997 - 2001-ish), I was married and had two children. This marriage was one "forced" upon me by my parents due to accidental pregancy (I was 18 years old at the time and didn't feel like I had any other options and they were ...
A. 14 January 2011: You could let her know about the other GF because it shows you have a concience and you want to go into your marriage honestly. The 'in love' feeling can last a lifetime if you both work at it by the way. When only one is trying then it will never ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else turned their relationship into a song or a poem?
Q. A poem I have recently written How many times have you forgotten me? Your love not worthy of my time Was it a crime to forget your day of birth No love hear just thinking, maybe Missing your birthday was just a simple mistake Am I not ...
A. 13 January 2011: Yes, for centuries people have expressed their love in letters or poems. You sound like you are a romantic. you could send her one for eg:
I am such a silly fool,
I see you every day at school,
Can you forgive me come what may?
Or do i su... (read in full...)
He says that he has doubts about us in the future!
Q. ive just recently had a fight with my partner. He says that i get upset all the time when he comes home from work tired and miserable. Ive been worrying about him but he says to stop worrying and that he is fine. Im unemployed as i have some medical ...
A. 13 January 2011: You've not been together for that long so you don't really know each other really well. He's coming in from a long day at work, tired and the last thing he wants is a confrontation from y ou. Isnt there anyway you could be more welcoming when he ... (read in full...)
I can't deal with the change and knowing all the good times are coming to an end. I've found who I truly am and now it's going to end.
Q. Wondered if you can help me. Im feeling pretty awful atm, well i have for some time, and in all honesty all i want is to be happy. In my head i know the reasons for this but to put it into words is abit of a challenge. one of the reasons for me...
A. 13 January 2011: Unfortunately this is life, i know how you feel. When we go to school, college, uni, work, different jobs etc, move house, we have a change of people in our circle and it's always sad leaving something nice behind. It's always nice to meet new ... (read in full...)
I don't even think he likes me! How do I lose my feelings for him?
Q. hello im a 14 year old girl who likes this boy... one problem... i dont know if he is interested in me or not... in august last year on msn he said love you and then a few monthes before he came back to my martial arts class... when i spoke to him ...
A. 13 January 2011: Wow, he's a bit nasty isn't he. I should'nt bother with him, the more you try and the more he rejects you, won't leave you feeling very good about yourself. You don't want to be like a stalker do you. so i would just leave it alone.... (read in full...)
Our sex life has collapsed! Help!
Q. Hi, im 21 and my boyfriend of 3 years is 42 and i need help. We've been having trouble with intamace for over a year. We go months without touch. We were so wild and crazy 3years ago, we'd go on websites and play we had a threesum and other things i ...
A. 13 January 2011: I think your relationship has come to and end.All the thrill in the first few years has now run it's course. You both can't just live a normal life after all that. He may have lost respect for you as well. Was he using you to boost his ego during ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 2 weeks and now I feel we're growing apart!
Q. OK so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 weeks now and i feel we are moving apart and also when i asks him how doo i look he says fine ? i always compliment him but he never does to me he gives me hugs and kissed me on the check for a dare ...
A. 13 January 2011: Its way too early to say whether you will be together in the future or not. You need to spend this time getting to really know each other, by taking etc. You don't know him and he doesnt know you. See how you go on just being in each others ... (read in full...)
How do I speak to her on facebook chat without her thinking I'm a stalker?
Q. hello everyone i really like this girl at college who is doing the same course as me. we speak sometimes and a bit over facebook by commenting on each others statuses but i would like to get to know her more and i want to know how to speak to h...
A. 13 January 2011: if something in the classroom, on your course, is quite interesting ,you could go in to the private message box, where no one else can see what you are writing (on fb). for eg. Class was quite interesting today wasnt it, what did you think about ... (read in full...)
He says he wasn't thinking of me when he did things, but I couldn't get him out of my head
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl who has been in a relationship with a guy for about 3 years! He is 21. We had troubles in our relationship and we broke up (at the time he was living with me for about a year). He moved out and he became very nasty to me! My ...
A. 13 January 2011: He is treating you like a doormat. You are there for him when he is at a loose end, or somewhere for him to just lay low. Normal loving couples who respect each other do not have to live like this. He will eventually strip you of all your self ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and didn't use a condom with the other girl
Q. my fiance of 5yr cheated on me when i was 5month pregnant,i got to know my self after i gave birth,he confess after i ask him and apologise.but the worst part of it is he was sleeping with this girl in our apartment,and he did not use condom.he ...
A. 13 January 2011: Sounds like there's a chance that he could be a father again to the other woman, will you still love him then. So he cheated and now you can not trust him. You have to realize that he may do this again so you now will be forever watching his every ... (read in full...)
Should I Start My Family?? Or Wait??
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 18 (bday in May). My boyfriend of a year and a half is 24. Iam a dental assistant and he is a personal banker at Wells Fargo. Since my boyfriend is older he already wants a child of his own and start his family. I know I want kid...
A. 13 January 2011: Speaking from experience, I would make sure you have your home in order, your careers in order, so that if you do take a break out with pregnancy then you have a job to go back to. Also do some research in to what it entails to have a child. It's ... (read in full...)
Am I giving up too easily?
Q. Am I giving up too easily? I've been married for 11 years. The last 5 years have been tough on us as a family (we share 7 children ages 6-19). The pattern of arguments are brutal. I remain silent and he blasts me with person insults that are ...
A. 13 January 2011: You pay the rent for him and the children, and y ou reside in another place on your own. I wonder what kind of life y our children are having without you there. This man sounds like he is an alcoholic. He needs help with that. Why don't you let ... (read in full...)
Upcoming Marriage Anxiety / Commitment Issue
Q. Once upon a time (1997 - 2001-ish), I was married and had two children. This marriage was one "forced" upon me by my parents due to accidental pregancy (I was 18 years old at the time and didn't feel like I had any other options and they were ...
A. 13 January 2011: You can get your self in to a right tizzy sometimes can't you. You need to focus on the woman you are going to marry because reading between the lines I think she is the one y ou really want and I think y ou are having a panic attack. Get it in to ... (read in full...)
She wants to know why I am sexually attracted to her?
Q. My girlfriend asked me why I am sexually and physicall attracted to her. I was at a lost for words. What do I say?...
A. 13 January 2011: There's someone for everyone on this planet, Hey guess what 'She got lucky'.... Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Drug, Sex and Rock and Roll
Q. My husband is suffering from major depression. He’s a drug addict (marijuana and any drugs that can relaxing him) and also he is an alcoholic. He hasn’t been working almost 2yrs now. His parent and I have been supporting him financially. Because ...
A. 13 January 2011: Well you know what the cause of it all is, it's the drugs, and alcohol. For anything to work here you'd have to get him in to detox. That must have been a wake up call for him when you met someone else because you are always there for him no ... (read in full...)
What are the Best strategies and tips to interest and date a girl?
Q. I can't find a girl, no matter what I do. I can't find anyone to even go out on a date with me. It's gone beyond even trying to find "that special someone" or "the one", I'm just trying to find any girl who will go out with me. Every girl I ask out ...
A. 13 January 2011: Well the people you are going up to could be the type you are attracted to, not wanting to rush in to things like so many do these days, have kids, relationships, breakdowns all in a very short period of time. Friendships can sometimes lead to ... (read in full...)
How deceptive is he, can I trust him?
Q. I am a divorced 54 year old woman dating a 53 year old divorced man for the past 5 years. Recently I read his e-mail that he sent to his ex-girlfriend who he had an internet relationship with before me but who was married and not going to leave her ...
A. 12 January 2011: It's easy for people to get a bit carried away online. He probably did it at a weak time in his life. He's asked for your forgiveness, he even gave you the password. You must believe him and trust that he won't do that again. Try to put it in ... (read in full...)
When is it too late for romantic stuff?
Q. Hey every one! Just wondering, if you've been with a guy 8 months, is it way too late for him to do romantic things like bring you flowers etc? And how would you even get him to do these romantic things without bluntly asking? ...
A. 12 January 2011: Hek! only 8 months. You could be with the wrong guy. I've known my partner for 36 years and still he can muster up a bunch of flowers now and again. You may need to look elsewhere for someone who really appreciates you.... (read in full...)
Should I divorce him?
Q. from start need your suggestion, should i take a 2nd divorce, listed below things I had got in my marriage of 1 year He never wanted to get married to me, kept on finding lame excuses He was thrown from his job because of sexual harassment He d...
A. 12 January 2011: It would be so easy to say 'Yes Divorce Him'. But i dont really know all the facts. I could say, he sounds like he is going through a big depression. No interest in anything or anyone (including you). I'ts not his son and he's not taken him on ... (read in full...)
Did he play me this whole time?
Q. I want to get over him and I don't. I feel..know I should but I don't want to break contact. He had always messed with my head. I didn't know if he cared or not. He did things that made me think he did. Did others that made me think he took me for ...
A. 12 January 2011: Delete him.... (read in full...)
What are the Best strategies and tips to interest and date a girl?
Q. I can't find a girl, no matter what I do. I can't find anyone to even go out on a date with me. It's gone beyond even trying to find "that special someone" or "the one", I'm just trying to find any girl who will go out with me. Every girl I ask out ...
A. 12 January 2011: i don't usually go for meeting people on the internet, option. But im afraid that could be an option for you because you don't seem to have any confidence. Sign up to facebook, you can chat on there, see profiles and pictures, theres a start. ... (read in full...)
He was my friend but all he cares about now is popularity
Q. I have known this boy for about 6 years and we always picked on each other, but last year we talked, and we became really good friends. We were best friends. I was totally in to someone else at that time, that i never notice that he like me. ...
A. 12 January 2011: The argument was the turning point. Try to remember the details of the argument and if you were the one who was in the wrong, then apologize. If not, let him know you are willing to forgive him. Try for an opener to get him talking again, then you ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to that point?
Q. Ok, this is totally weird, I never thought I would have to ask a website about this. I just need someone to help me figure this out. So, I met this guy about a year ago online, (something I never do) and we had started talking and nothing really c...
A. 12 January 2011: I always get a bit suspicious when two people are seeing a lot of each other, everything going great, but one of them won't commit fully, won't give the 100 percent that's expected. I wonder if he's not cut all ties with the other friend and he's ... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me? Her?
Q. the other day my brother went on a roadtrip, he'll be gone for a week. his friend (who I am really in to) came to say bye and what not. as his buddy (A) was leaving a friend told him that he could still come over and hang out with me, teach me to ...
A. 12 January 2011: Just a guess. He feels more comfortable messing about with her because the one he really is interested in is you and he's a bit shy with you. That's what I think anyway.... (read in full...)
My ex torments me emotionally
Q. i feel like the bad guy here just because i am a guy. My ex absolutely believes i cheated and that i'm a liar and a jerk a good for nothing. She pounces on my faults and torments me emotionally even though she tells me its just a joke yet without ...
A. 12 January 2011: Just looking at the age range of you two. I think she is immature and playing games with you. I'ts a way of testing out your feelings for her. She doesnt trust what she has with you and will goad you until she regains some power over that. She ... (read in full...)
It it love or is he using me?
Q. Here’s the deal,I ve known this guy since I was in elementary school. We ended up as classmates in 9th grade of high school,that’s when he started getting all crazy about me. He begged me to go out with him,begged my friends to help him and try ever...
A. 12 January 2011: it's just hit and miss isnt it. He has a girlfriend in Greece. Y ou go for times not even chatting or keeping in touch. I think you should go with your gut feeling. He's enjoyed the chase but once he'd got you that was it. There's no excuses as ... (read in full...)
How can I trust someone again?
Q. My last relationship with a guy was 2 years ago. I loved being around him and you know I felt something when I was around him, that fuzzy feeling. Well I broke up with him because he wanted sex and I was definitly too young. Now I'm ready to date ...
A. 12 January 2011: Don't date anyone unless that fuzzy feeling is there. That's natures way of telling you that you are good together. Just collect friends and have platonic relationships until you feel all fuzzy again. Even if it takes a few more years, then at ... (read in full...)
I'm begging for a conversation with him, should I go visit him at college and settle this face to face?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. I cheated on him in the beginning, but after healing he decided we should stay together and said he knew our love was stronger than ever which I felt too. We went to separate colleges because he was ...
A. 12 January 2011: It seems like he has a lot going on for him where he is now and he doesnt want to give that up. You will be in for a long trying time with him if you do get him back. I think he doesnt want to carry on seeing you from what you write. Try to get ... (read in full...)
He asked if I liked him.. I said yes. Now he's silent!
Q. Hi! Sorry this is a pretty basic question. I want to know what it means when a guy asks you if you still like him. First off He knows I've liked him since 6th grade...(we are in 12th now) Second he just asked me over messaging if I still liked ...
A. 12 January 2011: I'm wondering if you've recently told one of your friends that you like him. They could have mentioned it to him and he's asking the question. Or he may not have reckoned on the response he got when he asked you and may be a bit shy wondering what ... (read in full...)
Paranoid that people are looking at me! What can I do?
Q. I go through life with everyone giving me dirty looks. Store clerks, passers-by, people at general . I know smiling is supposed to help, but I can't freaking smile all the freaking time, and I am HORRIBLE at fake smiling. I am not fat,or ugly. I...
A. 12 January 2011: If your appearance is clean and you don't wear 'odd' clothes and your clothes and shoes are clean and tidy then i think that the problem could be from inside of yourself. Have you heard of 'paranoia'. Have you been through any illness lately ... (read in full...)
How do you find people for a threesome?
Q. I was just wondering how you go about asking someone to join you for a threesome? I want to try a threesome so bad but can't find anyone that wants to.I am married and I want to do something different in my marriage.It's a choice that I am choosing ...
A. 12 January 2011: Don't do it on your own doorstep so to speak. You need to find like minded people. Or these things can turn out quite badly for marriages that are'nt ready for it. You could do some research online and find out who is in to it when theres not much ... (read in full...)
Using lubricant for sex makes me feel useless! Is there anything I can do?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex i feel in the moment but then i just like become unwet. it is horrible and now i feel like he is getting mad at me for it even though i cant control it. im kinda anti lube.. no clue why it just makes me feel weird. ...
A. 12 January 2011: It sounds to me like he is rushing it. Has he heard of 'foreplay'. That's the only lubricant you will need. You know he is getting a bit mad, that can also dry you up. He needs to chill and get you in to the mood more. I would say he has the ... (read in full...)
He announced his love for me, broke up with his girlfriend of 4 years, but how do I enter a relationship with him without becoming a rebound?
Q. I have been best friends with my male friend for 7 years. We both were in long term relationships for most of the time we have known each other. My bf and I broke up about a year ago and this last year my best friend has been having relationship ...
A. 12 January 2011: Tread extremely carefully. There's no harm in still being best friends a little while longer just to make sure that both your relationships are at a complete end. If not then you wil get yourself into a mess. He is definately on the rebound, he ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to cry on demand?
Q. Hi, Last year I was in a relationship with a woman who in retrospect I feel was manipulating me. She had asked me for a lot of money and I gave it to her over the course of the year, without getting anything back. (We were not even dating.) But I fo...
A. 12 January 2011: Yes a woman can cry on demand and you already know that you were played. What I'll say to you is though, don't hand over money too easily in the future. There is women out there who are takers and one's who are givers, but just be careful in you ... (read in full...)
Why is he acting like this if he wants her?
Q. I have no idea where to start so excuse the rambling. This situation has been going on well over a year and i'm just so tired of it. It's a long story so i'm going to leave most of the details out. So, me and and a guy i knew from school, go...
A. 12 January 2011: Sounds like you are a stop gap for him. When things are going badly with him and his gf you are filling the void. You admitted it was casual before and the fact you both let it go for two months, he was probably setting up with her again and ... (read in full...)
After all these yrs & all that we've been through why porn?
Q. In need of some advice. Me and my child's father are trying to work things out. We've been off and on for almost 9 yrs (majority of it was my fault) and we have a 2 yr old. He say's that he's forgiven me and is willing to let the past be the ...
A. 12 January 2011: We all make mistakes, all of us, no one is immune to that. If y ou have agreed to move on from the past then that should be the end of it and no one should drag it up again at every opportunity, so when this happens, remind him that it is in the ... (read in full...)
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