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Should I try and trust my brother again?
Q. My brother (he's 19 and im 15) put me and in fotser care a 5 months ago after our parents went to jail. He couldn't take me in because moved in with his girlfriend (also 19) and he rather not be responsible for a immature winey brats he actullay ...
A. 14 December 2008: Speaking as a foster carer, i know families are very very important. Your brother at 19 wasnt ready to commit to you at that time. I would give it another go,but don't forget to play your part correctly. Treat him with respect and try not to fall ... (read in full...)
He had another woman to his house but he'll call me tomorrow!
Q. I've known him for 6 years. Last Monday, I told him I love him and that I'm available for him. He has never said I Love You back. He called earlier and I couldn't answer the phone. When I did call back, he said "oh, well...you were unavailable" ...
A. 14 December 2008: Great! I love what you say, especially about the lipstick looking better on you than his truck. You sound like you know what you want now and it's not him. I don't like it when you add, about him hurting and you not liking it. Don't let him ... (read in full...)
I could really use the help in dealing with my jealousy and feelings towards this situation.
Q. Ok... My ex-girlfriend and I broke up in February, but have remained in contact. We lived together for a year before breaking up. We spoke over the phone semi-regularly but for 6 months we never really saw eachother. We work together but are in 2 ...
A. 14 December 2008: You sound as if the meeting up with your ex girlfriend is on a 'friendship' basis only, but it can't happen for you as you are being drawn into the strong feelings that you once had with her. For someone like you to try to say that 'you aren't ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or is my period just disrupted?
Q. Hi, I am going through the same situation... I am 23 years old. I always get my period 4-5 days earlier than the last one. I had sex 2 weeks after my period for the first time. I did bleed a lot, and we had it again the next day... I started...
A. 13 December 2008: are you on the pill, sometimes if you bleed a lot and not at the normal time its called 'breakthru bleeding. Get a test for pregnancy to rule that out. If y oure not pregnant then a change of pill may help. But I'd still check it out because it ... (read in full...)
She's ignoring me so should I forget about her?
Q. My friend of over 6 months is completely ignoring me. It was a complicated relationship but to get to the point, we both knew we loved each other and she had to clear some things from her past in order for her to move on with me, so I gave her ...
A. 13 December 2008: Yes try to forget about her. She doesnt really have any quality time for you does she? Someone who really cares about you won't be able to help making contact it would come so naturally. This would turn out to be a hard relationship with you ... (read in full...)
He had another woman to his house but he'll call me tomorrow!
Q. I've known him for 6 years. Last Monday, I told him I love him and that I'm available for him. He has never said I Love You back. He called earlier and I couldn't answer the phone. When I did call back, he said "oh, well...you were unavailable" ...
A. 13 December 2008: Keep hating him, and then start forgetting him. You arent there for him to pick up and drop whenever he feels like it. Don't waste your lipstick on his truck, put it on your lips after you have got all 'glammed' up to go out and live your life ... (read in full...)
Is it the guy's fault?????
Q. Is it really a guy's fault when you cry even if they're not around or even know it... even if you haven't hung out with them for a really long time... and thinking about your guy's past you had together... Does it get sad/stalkerish if you have to ...
A. 13 December 2008: Go Girl! And Good Luck! xx... (read in full...)
Mom engaged now treating me like dirt
Q. i have a real problem here.. and its hurting me, and everyone around me. well anyways, my mom is getting married, and for some reason in my family, when the girls get engaged, or dating, they start to treat their kids like dirt.. for an...
A. 13 December 2008: I thought so, and it's a difficult time in its self going through puberty, trust me, All us 'oldies' hated that time. Hope you can be strong enough to look after yourself and get through it all. Don't be on your own though, like I say,let someone ... (read in full...)
I haven't had an orgasm since the birth of my child 3 years ago.
Q. Please can you help me, I've been with my partner 3 months and when we have sex I don't orgasm, he has not noticed this. I had a baby 3 years ago and thinking back, since I've had sex I haven't cum, please can you tell me is this normal? ...
A. 12 December 2008: Sometimes, underlying problems can put a blocker on you, like you may find it difficult to let yourself truly be relaxed during sex. Taking a step further back, was there anything in your childhood that made you fear sex. Just examples I'm chucking ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I could gain his friendship back if hes feeling awkward?
Q. We were good friends in college, we were very comfortable with each other. We used to jokingly talk about making out and stuff. He was in a relationship and broke off a year back. Since then he said he is not ready for a relationship. I do not ...
A. 12 December 2008: I usually think that when you have sexual relations with a 'friend' then the line has crossed and it's very very difficult to get what you had back. It does happen sometimes but mainly its awkward. For instance, if he does get a girlfriend and she ... (read in full...)
Worried for my friend...
Q. Hiya everyone I'm really posting this about my friend as I'm really worried about her (sorry this is long) Anyway basically she has the opertunity to go bk out with the father of her daughter he split with his gf to get bk with her, and everyone...
A. 12 December 2008: Thats a tricky one. Your friend probably may not like you saying anything to her. Some people are blinded by love and don't see whats right or wrong, just go down the same path getting hurt over and over again. This guy sounds like he is a fully ... (read in full...)
Risk a friendship for a 1% chance of more?
Q. HI, I've kinds asked this before but only got one response and things have changed: I was seeing a woman 8 years my senior (I'm 28 she's 36) for 7 months earlier this year. I was in an abusive relationship at the time which I left in August. We go...
A. 12 December 2008: Just tell her how you feel and see what happens. At best she will be flattered. Every woman likes it when a man confesses his feelings for her. She will hopefully be mature enough to give you an answer as to what she will do about it. At the end ... (read in full...)
Torn between past and present!
Q. Okay, well it's a kind of a long story but.. When I was 13 I met this kid named, well, let's call him Ken. When I was 13 he was 16, and of course I was head over heels because come on I'm a young teenager and he's an older guy. Well, the thing ...
A. 12 December 2008: One person at a time is less trouble, so you must make up your mind. You are older now, I can see why his mom stopped the situation before she was looking out for her son. It is a prisonable sentence for sex with a minor, which you were at the ... (read in full...)
Did he chose me only because I'm pregnant?
Q. my boyfriend had a crush on someone else when we started seeing each other. he never told me, but i found out from mutual friends of theirs that he had feelings for her, and that he had told her so, shortly after we got together. i had asked him ...
A. 12 December 2008: Sometimes, having a child can make us feel differently about how we see a lot of situations. Don't forget, you don't really know your partner that well, it's still a relatively new relationship so you have that to deal with as well as your child ... (read in full...)
Do guys ask you who like for no reason?
Q. do guys just ask who you like for no reason? or do they like you/have a friend who likes you? I have a guy friend who asked me out of nowhere if i liked anyone and i asked him why, he said he didnt really know he was just wondering. Do gu...
A. 12 December 2008: Im getting the feeling now, that your ex could be the one asking the question. Maybe he is gonna ask you back.... (read in full...)
Don't I deserve to have a boyfriend? But all I get is rejection!
Q. i think love and romance is for good looking and cute people,ugly people like me get rejected ,and cute guys would never wnat to be seen with me as i was rejected by a guy 3 years who did that me and i am still suffering the effects of rejection no...
A. 12 December 2008: Don't dwell on this awful man who has made you feel like this. I know some men are fickle anyway and like to date models. You could look at yourself and think of ways to enhance your looks. Have a new hair cut, wear makeup and treat yourself to ... (read in full...)
If someone says that they are in a relationship with you, but you are not intimate, what does that mean?
Q. When someone said i am in a relationship with you but we not intermate.What does that mean...
A. 12 December 2008: being 'intermate' means you are having 'physical relations', like kissing, touching, or intercourse. Is it a relatively new relationship? Sounds like the partner wants to take it to the next level. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
His girlfriend cheated and he says he wants to get back at her. Does he love her, or do I have a chance?
Q. There is this boy I like. Me and him are real close and he means everything to me. I'd love to tell him how I feel but he has a gf. Whats confusing is that she cheated on him 3 months into there relationship and he has held a grudge ever since. They ...
A. 12 December 2008: He's still with her and she cheated, sounds like he has a strong bond with her. Don't let him use you to get back at her Wait until his girlfriend cheats again, then maybe he will leave her and be with you. Be a friend to him until that day. ... (read in full...)
He asked me if I have had sex, and when the answer was yes he stopped texting!
Q. Hello Cupiters! Okay, I started talking to this one guy..he's 26. Just by phone and text..we still haven't met because I think it's still too soon. I want to give it a lil more time since I met him thru an online dating site. Anyways, it's b...
A. 12 December 2008: Sounds like he wants a virgin and if you are phone texting anyway he may be wondering who else you are texting as well. Some guys cannot cope with competition at all, they like to think they are the only one. It s not easy when you don't know ... (read in full...)
She is dating someone else now, can I still get her back?
Q. how to get back with my ex-girl friend she is dating someone else we work togeter in the same group at college so i see everyday (she dating a relitve of another person in same group) i had huge fight with her becouse of her best friend had a pro...
A. 12 December 2008: I think you could have blown it simply because she has seen an aggressive side to you also. Most girls do not like that in a man, it's something they are scared of. The least you can do is speak to her about it and apologise for your behaviour, ... (read in full...)
I want her out of my head for good!
Q. Sorry for bringing this up again. After a little over a year my ex and I split when she began cheating on me with another guy. I cut contact with her for while, but due to our schedules we still wound up seeing each other, even if we didnt speak, ...
A. 12 December 2008: You are doing all the right things and saying all the right things which will stand you in good stead and keep you strong. We are not taps to turn on and off and it's bound to hurt and rejection is a hard thing to get out of our system. Try to say ... (read in full...)
Mom engaged now treating me like dirt
Q. i have a real problem here.. and its hurting me, and everyone around me. well anyways, my mom is getting married, and for some reason in my family, when the girls get engaged, or dating, they start to treat their kids like dirt.. for an...
A. 12 December 2008: I was looking at the 'age group' of your letter but I'm gathering reading between the lines you are a bit younger than 26. Any new relationship has teething problems. Usually people can get engaged young, have lots of rows while they are sorting ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been unemployed for 2 years and it is freaking me out!
Q. I am in a state. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years. When I decided to go ahead with the relationship he has just lost his job. I thought it was not going to be long for him to get another job back. He has a masters degree and he ...
A. 12 December 2008: Couldnt he get another job as well alongside his teaching job. These jobs are in demand. He needs to be concentrating on that and maybe push the other ideas in his spare time. If he didnt have you, then what would he do, he would have to do ... (read in full...)
What should I do about these feelings for my brother in law?
Q. he is my brother in law and i know i shouldnt feel this way but i find myself being attracted to him. i dont know why. theres just something about him i cant seem to let go. this started when we were both young and as we are growing up, these ...
A. 12 December 2008: If you do anything about it I would expect a massive family fall out. Members of the family will certainly be divided and there could be a lot of heartache and trouble. Is there any children involved? They will be in the firing line. Brothers ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend brought me a vibrator, I'm a virgin, how should I use it?
Q. Hey This probably sounds really stupid but I don't know what it is, when you're meant to find out etc. My boyfriend recently bought me a vibrator and he keeps asking if I've used it yet. He's being sweet and not forceful and I want to try it out, h...
A. 12 December 2008: What the heck has he bought you that for. I wonder how many of his mates he's told he sounds so immature. He sounds a bit kinky. I think the first step would be, when you are ready, to try the real thing and give him the vibrator back and tell him ... (read in full...)
Do guys ask you who like for no reason?
Q. do guys just ask who you like for no reason? or do they like you/have a friend who likes you? I have a guy friend who asked me out of nowhere if i liked anyone and i asked him why, he said he didnt really know he was just wondering. Do gu...
A. 12 December 2008: He could be phishing for an answer, like, you are gonna say, you like him. Or his mate fancies you and he wants to see if you like his mate,maybe his mate put him up to it. I think it's you that he likes really and is a bit shy to come right out ... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about my teacher?
Q. I am a girl of 16 and I think I am in love with my teacher who is a lot older. Is this just a stupid crush and if so how can I stop thinking about him? We hardly talk anymore and he has never said outright that he likes me, but I read to much into ...
A. 12 December 2008: This is so common, pupils in love with teachers. Teachers can be moved to other schools or even lose their jobs over this. It is not professional to enter into a relationship with a pupil at all and not allowed. Your teacher may already have ... (read in full...)
Why does she hide her figure with a sari?
Q. i am fond of looking and talking to 43 years single lady with adult kids, she allows upto that but she hides her waist and bosom fully with saree,why, Is it to draw attention or to avoid sex appeal....
A. 12 December 2008: Wow thats a difficult one. I'm sumizing that she is an indian girl. Arent they obliged to cover their bodies. It's a more western thing where girls are walking about in next to nothing, short skirts and low tops. She sounds like she is very ... (read in full...)
Why arent I getting morning sickness?
Q. hello everyone. I am 19 years old and i just founded out i was pregnant like two weeks ago. my baby daddy is 38 years old. and he already have for kids. and this will be my first one. how i found out was a test while i took two differnt kinds of ...
A. 12 December 2008: Not everyone has morning sickness, I had evening sickness, some people sail through without feeling sick. You may even start feeling sick a bit later on in the pregnancy. They say after 12 weeks though the sickness will be gone. If you are ... (read in full...)
Is it dumpers guilt or just that he realizes we cant be together?
Q. I have been having an affair with my ex boyfriend who just like me ,is also married to someonelse...and eventhough we are thousand miles away apart we had intimate moments. Until finally, we decided to meet up after 21years and ofcourse one thing ...
A. 12 December 2008: It is so easy to start up where you left off with old flames. He has taken advantage of the situation and you have been right there for him. You are living the fantasy with him,something that was nice for a short while and spiced up your life. I ... (read in full...)
His ex keeps butting in and telling me she is sleeping with him
Q. My husband I love very much and I guess what bothers me is that he talks to his ex girlfriend wich they don't have any kids together. But she sticks her nose in our marriage by calling me and saying that she sleeping with him and when I ask my ...
A. 12 December 2008: You sound a little depressed and I can see why. You really need to be strong and make some demands in this relationship. One, tell the ex to stop contacting 'your' husband. Two, tell your husband to keep away from her and Three, tell the ex to ... (read in full...)
He gave his number to a girl at a bar. I don't know what to believe or what to do!
Q. Hey everyone... I need a bit of advice. My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were about 3 and dated on and off for years. We started dating about 2 and 1/2 years ago and have lived together for 2 years. I answered his phone the other ...
A. 12 December 2008: Ask him to delete this girls number from his phone and forget about her for you two to be able to have any future together. He is with you now and he doesnt need to be playing these games with his mates. You may have to have some strong words with ... (read in full...)
He is still in the process of breaking up with his ex.
Q. Hi, am in a relationship with a wonderful guy, just recently i got to know of his ex and ask him about it. he cliamed they had broken up but still sorting things out. and that things are becoming more complicated than he thought. though he said h...
A. 12 December 2008: Well, is he still seeing her or isnt he, that is the question you will be asking yourself. He has history with his ex and if he's saying it's still complicated i would suggest to you to ask him to go away and come back when there is no ... (read in full...)
Should I have allowed a thief to sleep in my house?
Q. So, me and my girlfriend live together and one night her uncle kicked her cousin out of his house. I've never met the uncle but I hear he is a real piece of crap. My girlfriend asks me if her cousin can stay the night at our apartment for a night. ...
A. 12 December 2008: It's always a tricky one with the family. If y ou really must back down on this issue it wouldnt hurt to hide your most valued possessions. They say thieves don't steal off their own, but I wouldnt put temptation in their way. Families will ... (read in full...)
Is it true that men love it when you play hard to get?
Q. Interested in getting lots of opinions please - is it true that a man is more interested in you if you play hard to get, and that being available 24/7 to a man can be a turn off? I have been reading up on different sites and this seems to be the ...
A. 12 December 2008: Yes, coming across as too easy, he won't feel like he's got a good catch and could get ideas above and beyond his station as well and thining he is gods gift will probably be looking elsewhere all the time. Once you have married him and have a few ... (read in full...)
Is it the guy's fault?????
Q. Is it really a guy's fault when you cry even if they're not around or even know it... even if you haven't hung out with them for a really long time... and thinking about your guy's past you had together... Does it get sad/stalkerish if you have to ...
A. 12 December 2008: I'ts your age. Hormonial, it makes us weepy and emotional. Forget him and move on, there are hundreds of boys out there just waiting for a girl like you. Don't waste your young life on this misery. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
He had another woman to his house but he'll call me tomorrow!
Q. I've known him for 6 years. Last Monday, I told him I love him and that I'm available for him. He has never said I Love You back. He called earlier and I couldn't answer the phone. When I did call back, he said "oh, well...you were unavailable" ...
A. 12 December 2008: Give the chimp a bunch of bananas and tell her she's welcome to him. Dump him, you will never ever find happiness with him. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I feel like my spirit is broken and I want my confidence back
Q. When I was younger I was had an unshakable self belief in myself almost to a point where that confidence was cockiness I could do anything I set my mind to. I was fit and strong, I never had a problem getting really good looking women and in fact ...
A. 12 December 2008: Age comes to us all. You will never be at your peak as you were when you were younger, it is just for the 'young'. But you are now older and wiser and have so much to offer the right woman now because of your experiences. You have found yourself. ... (read in full...)
Sex takes too long, he'd rather masturbate
Q. I am 24 and my husband is 34, we love each other very much, he was never really into sex, he rather masturbate then have sex because he feels like he may take too long.... recently i have noticed that he does not want to have sex at all, like he ...
A. 12 December 2008: Sounds like he thinks sex is boring. You could have a look in the Anne Summers shops or other shops like it. Get some handcuffs, tie him to the bed and make him have it. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has changed I don't understand her anymore!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about a year and seven months now. We've made it through a lot of issues, but lately it seems like steam is running out. She's a year younger than me (making her 21) but very sheltered during her upbringing. Hasn...
A. 12 December 2008: Sounds like the kind of woman that doesnt like a man telling her (or suggesting) what she should do. If you are going to lose time over the New Year with her because she isnt organised then that is her doing and she should live with it. You ... (read in full...)
What movie can win her heart?
Q. I was want to make a special night for a girl I know. She is into acting, and loves movies. Her favorite genre is Romance, and her fantasy is to live a scene from a romance movie. I absolutely don't know what her favorite romance movie, nor would ...
A. 11 December 2008: Casablanca,,, Ingrid Bergman and Humphrey Bogart... what a classic.
'Out of all the gin joints in the world, why did you have to walk into mine'' mmm... (read in full...)
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