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How to get her back???
Q. I started dating a girl i work with about 4 months ago, over the time of the relationship i got very jealous and paranoid as she is polish and when she spoke to other men or her friends in polish i got worried what she was saying. She always told me ...
A. 25 January 2011: good luck!... (read in full...)
Help these confused feelings...
Q. Heyy im 13 years old and for about 2 years or so ive been havin feeling for girls and no longer boys , ive told most of my friends but 1 or 2 think its just a phase but im 99 percent sure im lesbian , coz theres a girl ive fancied for a really long ...
A. 23 January 2011: If your friends are the same age group as you then sooner or later they will feel different about things, it's all to do with adolescent, I'm sure some of them are feeling the same way it's just that they don't know how to analyze it or make sense ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my ex boyfriend is going to hurt me again
Q. Hi all, Please can you advise on this, as I am very confused. I went out with a guy for a while and fell totally in love with him. However, he took advantage of that, and we fell out over lots of things and the relationship became very stressful and ...
A. 23 January 2011: Good Luck, when you weaken, draw strength on all the negative things you've been through with him, always remind yourself, it will be like that again. That should get you through.... (read in full...)
You're not then you're cold.
Q. I met this guy over a month ago, almost two months ago, and things are pretty confusing. In the past three weeks I've spent more nights at his place than not. We don't have sex every time, quiet honestly we haven't had sex very much at all. I'm ...
A. 22 January 2011: Sounds like he's already being honest with you. He is guarded because he is afraid to get hurt. He may still have strong feelings for the ex if it was her who hurt him he probably gave it is all and got let down, so he may not want to do this ... (read in full...)
Should I butt out when I see my girlfriend being friendly with her new step father?
Q. I am in what seems to be a hopeless situation. My girl-friend and I have been together for nearly 3 years, living together almost 2. Her father died 6 years ago. Her mother hastily remarried a man that is disgusting and boorish. His regulatr top...
A. 22 January 2011: Your wife is within her rights to question/challenge the trust funds on behalf of her children, she needs to seek some legal advice to do so. He on the other hand sounds really grotty doesnt he. Don't leave her children on their own with him, I ... (read in full...)
Is she just holding out for something better?
Q. I've been living with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now. I've been divorced for over 7 years and she's been separated for nearly 3 years but has not pursued divorce. They have no assets together so a divorce shouldn't cost very much. ...
A. 22 January 2011: From a womans point of view, she may not want to get married again because she has now left one. Is it very important to you that you marry her?. have you any other issues apart from this. She sounds like she has been totally put off getting ... (read in full...)
Why did he say his only regret was that I didnt come with him?
Q. i need to know how my friend really feels about me. lately hes been cool with me and hardly contacting me since moving to a new work section in my company. i was very hurt that he was ignoring me so called him for a coffee and told him how i felt he ...
A. 22 January 2011: he's moved to a new work section. Maybe you are just thinking he is being cool with you. He's obviously trying to learn his new job role and you would not be uppermost in his mind at the moment and he's not even noticed that he was ignoring you, ... (read in full...)
He's oblivious to the fact that I like him!
Q. Ok, back in November, I asked advice for this guy i like, and use to ride the bus with. Well, I like him wayyyyyyyy more now, and he STILL has no idea! I've tried giving hints, and asking who he likes, but hes still so oblivious to the fact! I ...
A. 22 January 2011: I'm sure he knows that you like him, you've been giving him hints. If nothing has happened before now i should just give up, because if he is put into a corner he may say he is not interested and then you would be hurt. Usually guys let you know ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend is nothing but bad news
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I been going out for a total of five weeks and three days. lol...Before we become gf and bf we been crushing on each other for a year and a half...I think I fell for him and he told me many times that he love me. He said he ...
A. 22 January 2011: Your boyfriend just needs to mature and grow up a bit more. He is doing what most boys do, he is trying new things, him and his friend will probably have a pact where they say 'no girl will spoil their friendship' especially if they have a long ... (read in full...)
How can I stop caring about my ex and his hot female, bikini-clad friends?
Q. Ok, I feel very envious of my ex. He has a lot of friends, female friends that is, who're your typical bubbly, kind of ditzy, but hot friends. Not very deep or anything. They party a lot, and go to the beach. OF course he's not the only guy in the ...
A. 22 January 2011: You sound like you still have feelings for him and you are feeling inferior to his female friends. you need a pick me up. You could always find ways to lose the extra pounds if tha't what you want but you will have to get motivated to do that. ... (read in full...)
I like two guys, but I need help choosing the right one. Please help!
Q. I'm so confused. I met a guy on an online dating site. We exchanged numbers and have been texting... he lives about 2 hours drive from me and we haven't met up yet. Recently, I met another boy who I do like. However, the other day, the boy I met ...
A. 22 January 2011: Have you met the other boy 'in person'. or are they both on the dating site. if they are on the dating site, no harm in meeting both and deciding which one you want to make a go of it with. Otherwise if you have met one guy who you like in ... (read in full...)
I'm scared my ex boyfriend is going to hurt me again
Q. Hi all, Please can you advise on this, as I am very confused. I went out with a guy for a while and fell totally in love with him. However, he took advantage of that, and we fell out over lots of things and the relationship became very stressful and ...
A. 22 January 2011: You've already given him his starting point by letting him come in to your home and doing jobs for you. Did he do these jobs before? It could be a ploy to win you over again. I wonder if he's been seeing someone else and it's fallen flat so he's ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about masturbating
Q. I'm a 17 year old bisexual female. I started masturbating to porn about a year and a half ago and feel so much guilt about it. I'm very ashamed myself, I don't think any of my friends do this. Am I a monster? ...
A. 22 January 2011: No you are not a monster. How do you know your friends don't do it. i'm sure they do. Stop worrying about it and don't be ashamed, enjoy your sexuality.
Is there anything in your life at the moment that you would like to change or worried abou... (read in full...)
Frozen and stuck in my life
Q. Dear Cupid, I feel frozen and stuck in my life. I am unable to motivate myself to do the simplest things and I am getting really frustrated. I have been this way since ending an affair with my first love. I was happily married when he cont...
A. 22 January 2011: Analyze the situation. The affair was just that. If there was any real substance to it then he wouldnt be with another woman after his divorce he would be with you. Try to forget him and put it down to experience. You need to concentrate on ... (read in full...)
I'm sad that the father of my child didn't care for either of us
Q. my ex and i were in a relationship for almost 3 years and when i got pregnant (on birth control, a true accident) he left me. during my pregnancy he started dating another woman. to me this is very disrespectful as at the time i needed his support ...
A. 22 January 2011: He certainly rushed into another life very very quickly didnt he. He may have been seeing someone else whilst being in the relationship with you. I didnt know that you could 'sign off your parental rights',, i should look in to that if i were you ... (read in full...)
Creative advice needed!
Q. I am in need of some help from those who are creative. I have an on going "battle" with my gf for doing little things for each other that are out of the ordinary. so I am looking for self made crafts or creative ways to tell her how im thinking. ...
A. 22 January 2011: Does she go to work, or somewhere on a regular basis. Go through the route she takes and take some white chalk and write something, a sign, anything on the side of the rocks at intervals so she can see the personal message to her. (don't get in ... (read in full...)
I have many guy friends but I only really like one of them. How do I show him?
Q. I’m 17 and a junior in high school. Ok so there’s this guy I like for almost 3 years now. Yeah I’ve had little crushes here and there, but I’ve always put the guy I like first. We always almost end up dating, but it never works out and I always end ...
A. 22 January 2011: You will always have this problem, the guy you like won't make a move because he feels like he is in competition with the other guys. Do you only hang around with guys because you like the attention, maybe that is showing through and the guy you ... (read in full...)
My friend does not approve of this boy I am interested in. What should I do?
Q. Hey, I have been dating this boy for about a month now and he wants to move to the next level and start seeing each other. I do really like this boy and he said he has the same feelings, but my friend doesn't like him and is telling me not to get ...
A. 22 January 2011: Sounds like she could be jealous. You need to let her know that you are sorry that she doesnt approve but she must let you make that decision and find out for yourself if there's anything there with him because you are curious. Also you would ... (read in full...)
How can I gather the strength to break up with my terrible boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Well I just want to know how to stop loving my first love. Obviously, I know I should have broken up with him a long time ago and all, but I just want to stop loving him. I've heard he has cheated on me so many times. Ugh. I don't know what I'm ...
A. 22 January 2011: The first break will b e the hardest but then after that it will get easier. The thing is to get away from him, do you share a place, is it yours/his etc. You need him away from you before you can recover, so find a way to do that first. I'm only ... (read in full...)
I have a rather large crush on him
Q. Ugh. I can't believe how vile I am. To cut to the chase, there is a guy I like in the year above me at sixth form, he's in his last year and we've been friends for about five years now. Last year we were mixed doubles partners in badminton and over ...
A. 22 January 2011: Sounds like he likes you, he could be a bit wary as well, y ou being a bit more confident than him may scare him. I think you would have to make the first move and tell him how you feel in this case. If he mentions his gf again and what she has ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt anyone, what would be the best thing to do?
Q. I'm 16 and i have a bf, 18, "Joe." We have been together for six months now. We have always said we are getting married and will always be together because we love each other a lot. he treats me so well and really cares about me. My friend, 16,...
A. 22 January 2011: 'Torn between two lovers'. Is such a dilema for you and i feel sorry for you because you are trying to do the right thing. It won't be easy on you. If you go back to Joe you will always be wondering when anything goes wrong , did you do the ... (read in full...)
Young couple wants to spice up sex life, after we had our baby
Q. My wife, and I had a baby recently, and the baby is finally old enough to stay with the grandparents overnight. We have always had really good sex, but we want to get a little more adventurous. Anybody have any ideas for a crazy night of sex? ...
A. 22 January 2011: have a look on the internet for fantasy nights or something not too far away from your location. You may have to be back early in case the baby needs you at short notice.... (read in full...)
Help these confused feelings...
Q. Heyy im 13 years old and for about 2 years or so ive been havin feeling for girls and no longer boys , ive told most of my friends but 1 or 2 think its just a phase but im 99 percent sure im lesbian , coz theres a girl ive fancied for a really long ...
A. 22 January 2011: You are only young. I'm not saying you are a lesbian or you arent but you certainly are at the right age where hormones are all over the place and they can send some really strange thoughts on things into our heads at that age. You just need to be ... (read in full...)
How to get her back???
Q. I started dating a girl i work with about 4 months ago, over the time of the relationship i got very jealous and paranoid as she is polish and when she spoke to other men or her friends in polish i got worried what she was saying. She always told me ...
A. 22 January 2011: You could just carry on as y ou are doing and having fun at work etc. Then maybe you could get close again when you go on holiday in March.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive and forget if she still insists on seeing this group at her college?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months, and love eachother very much. We go to different colleges, and she has a lot of guy friends that she hangs out with on the weekends. She always tells me that they respect our relationship and ...
A. 22 January 2011: You could try trusting her for this to work. She sounds like she is sorry. I would be questioning the amount she is drinking because if she drinks that amount again, what would the next guy that comes along be like, would she think it's you again. ... (read in full...)
It doesn't feel and hardly even qualifies as a relationship...
Q. hey.so me n my bf have been together for 4 months now.but i actually don't feel like im in a relationship.i feel alone. i cant actually open up n share things with him n neither does he. i wanna over things but i don't wanna lose him.i mean i ...
A. 22 January 2011: I'm not sure if this is a 'sexual relationship', because if it is then there is a big commitment issue here. You don't seem like you are gelling together because of the lack of communication. If y ou don't feel like y ou are in a relationship and ... (read in full...)
I always thought I was just friends with this guy...then why the kiss??
Q. i need help to understand this situation im in tnx. i grew up with this guy and we were extremly friendly he was a sort of father/brother figure to me. he is nigerian and he wasnt allowed to live or work in the country, so he married his gf back at ...
A. 22 January 2011: You've definately played a part in their relationship, intentionally or otherwise. Maybe she had a massive problem with you being there. There's two questions you must ask your self. One is, why havent they divorced? because you don't know what ... (read in full...)
Are there any tips to help me last longer when I decide to have sex?
Q. Hey, any tips? I ejaculate way too quickly. When a girl gives me a hand-job, I blow my load within two minutes. Any tips to help me last longer when I do get to the point of having sex?...
A. 22 January 2011: No tips unfortunately, I'd say you will get better with more practice. By the way what's the age of consent over there.... (read in full...)
Am I in love? And how do I go about telling her I have feelings for her without causing any awkwardness?
Q. I really like this girl... and have liked her since I met her 5 months ago. We're not going out, but I want to. I have had crushes before on celebrities and people I know, but this doesn't feel like a crush. Since November (3 months ago), I have ...
A. 22 January 2011: i wouldnt go in 'guns ablazing' to tell her you love her, just in case she isnt all that in to you, for fear of embarrassing yourself. just keep talking to her, get to know her and see if you can get closer that way and if she wants more, maybe ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling more confident, and less shy, but need ideas for starting a conversaton with others.
Q. I started studying art at my local college a few months ago. I am a very shy person and find it very hard to talk to people. Recently, I have been very confident and wanted to talk to people in my class, but I havent been able to think of something ...
A. 22 January 2011: I work with young people and the quiet ones i bring out of their shell by building their self esteem. Engaging in activities can do this and also with this can bring confidence. This in turn can give you something to talk about an interest and ... (read in full...)
I was supposed to be visiting him for the first time, but he doesn't seem to want to include me in his birthday celebrations!
Q. I have been talking to a guy online for the last 18 months on a regular basis. I haven't met him as yet but was going to visit him in March this year on his birthday which I mentioned to him about a month ago. Yesterday he said I could stay with him ...
A. 22 January 2011: He sounds one of these 'sicko's looking for vunerable people on line to carry out his sick desires. Don't go, erease him from your life.... (read in full...)
What are the boundaries between a friendship and an emotional affair?
Q. most people do their jobs with male or female..definatly they became friends..what are the boundries? why most people have emotional affair with co.workers...although they say they are just friends but they have love feelings for each ...
A. 22 January 2011: http://careerplanning.about.com
here's a start
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Should I End It?
Q. Our relationship started out so wonderfully. We started out as friends getting to know each other in our favorite class. Then, we started to fall for each other. We talk, we snuggle, he is my best friend and my boyfriend all in one, and has been for ...
A. 21 January 2011: Reading between the lines, im afraid he doesnt seem to care about you as much as you care about him. He seems to have a lot of issues. how well do you really know him? I think you still have a long way to go and you can only get to the bottom of ... (read in full...)
Social disorders prevented me from dating
Q. I am in a very abnormal situation and I would appreiciate Your advice. I am a 22 year old man with social disorders and it wasn't until four or five years ago that I was just able to approache someone and talk to them comfortably without being ...
A. 21 January 2011: The best way forward in this situation is to be absolutely honest with someone. Find the right setting to have your date, somewhere quiet in the corner of a restaurant or pub and explain how it is. You have explained perfectly in your writing so ... (read in full...)
I was supposed to be visiting him for the first time, but he doesn't seem to want to include me in his birthday celebrations!
Q. I have been talking to a guy online for the last 18 months on a regular basis. I haven't met him as yet but was going to visit him in March this year on his birthday which I mentioned to him about a month ago. Yesterday he said I could stay with him ...
A. 21 January 2011: Let's put things in to perspective. He's never met you in person, so he doesnt know what you are going to be like in reality. He will want to know that before he introduces you to his friends because he won't want his night to be spoilt by giving ... (read in full...)
What should I do about the guy I like?
Q. I'm eighteen years old, and have never had a boyfriend. I've never been the type to go in search of one, and I use to be very shy. There is this guy I've had my eye on for sometime now, we use to text a lot, and when we did it was for hours. I lost ...
A. 21 January 2011: Sounds like it could be because of the lost numbers. Send him a note explaining that you have a new number, and maybe the texts will start again.... (read in full...)
What are the boundaries between a friendship and an emotional affair?
Q. most people do their jobs with male or female..definatly they became friends..what are the boundries? why most people have emotional affair with co.workers...although they say they are just friends but they have love feelings for each ...
A. 21 January 2011: Working friendships/ relationships are so easy. You don't have to go to a function or a gathering to meet them, date them, have relations with them. They are all there, day to day in one place, all working alongside each other, having fun. The fun ... (read in full...)
Is this love?
Q. i had a best friend,we enjoyed each other's company a lot..but then he proposed and i said "no" as i never had that feeling and he left me forever and i missed him a lot for few months and then lost hope he would ever talk to me but still he is ...
A. 21 January 2011: Missing someone and yearning for someone is two different emotions. You would know if you were in love with any of these two as you would climb any mountain for them. The feelings have to be so strong that they would take over your whole life. You ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am just a spare lover!
Q. I am dating my bf for 2 1/2 years. I have issue with my bf keep close contact with his ex. Him and his ex has been together for 20 years (divorced 8 years) but still keep close contact with each other almost everyday which he claimed is because of ...
A. 21 January 2011: He can't break away from his ex can he? You could understand to a certain extent that his son will still need him,but he's not even broken the financial ties with his ex, what's that all about? You shouldnt have to be his secret either. What is ... (read in full...)
He's calling me too much! How do I get him to stop?
Q. So I met this guy through a friend and He showed some interest in me. Truthfully he's not my type of a person AT ALL. but I, for the heck of it, just casually flirted with him. I don't know, but I think he took it as a signal enough to hit on me. H...
A. 21 January 2011: It can be quite scary when someone is hounding you and it's now all unwanted. Answer his next call, see what he has to say and set the record straight with him. After that the only other thing to do if he keeps ringing is to change y our number, ... (read in full...)
He treats me like a princess, how do I treat him in return?
Q. well i met some one a year ago just been talkin as friends the past 3 months we have been meeting up at jungle gym with our little girls same age. Then he tells me that 5 years ago he used to see me walkin about our town and wish he had the courage ...
A. 20 January 2011: It's early days yet and some guys lay it on thick during this time, I hope it lasts for you. If i were y ou i would wait until he has dried up on ideas, enjoy being spoilt while you can. Then when he least expects it, you can suprise him. Cook ... (read in full...)
Online sex dating sites, should I be worried my boyfriend is on it?
Q. I want to know if I should be worried that my BF of 1.5yrs is on an online sex dating site? He has a "standard" account so he can't send emails to women, only send "winks" or add them to his "hotlist". Why do guys feel it necessary to be on online ...
A. 20 January 2011: In the age of technology and the internet, there's lots of temptations out there. I think you hit the nail on the head by him saying he wouldnt like you to do what he's doing. He is obviously missing something in his life, and i don't mean that ... (read in full...)
Do I yank on my chain too much?
Q. I have been masturbating since i was about 12 and i am now 15 almost 16 year old male. Both men and women turn me on but mainly men. I masturbate 10-12 times a day and inwas wondering if that is to often? Just a thought. ...
A. 20 January 2011: Feel free to do it as often as you like, obviously in private. It's quite normal at your age. ... (read in full...)
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