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Does she want to start things up again?
Q. This girl told me that we shouldn't be anything at all we went out a while back but now she's apologized for being a jerk. We've startd texting just a little. there's nothing wrong with a sex buddy but how do I know whether that's what she wants or ...
A. 7 September 2010: The hug things no good is it. If she's not full on with you then obviously somethings still missing. Just accept her apology and move on by the sounds of it. If she really wants you she will make all the moves initially. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
He was found with an STD,I was not. I don't know how this happened?
Q. I don't know it this has been discussed before but if anyone can help. I am on vacation right now with my family and recently, my boyfriend revealed to me that he has been tested and found out with gonorrhea. I was very furious, I had been just ou...
A. 4 September 2010: When he found out your results that you didnt have it, then he backtracked about it been that. Go to his docs with him and you will find the truth. ... (read in full...)
In-laws forcing me to get pregnant for a boy child!!!
Q. Dear Readers, Please help me. I have been married for the last 5 years, I have a daughter (4 yrs old) and during my delivery I had severe heart complications and was under coma for almost a week after delivery. It took me almost 3 years to recover ...
A. 4 September 2010: At the end of the day it's down to you. Stick to what you want and not the MIL. Concentrate on the beautiful child you already have. Good Luck... (read in full...)
We are both insecure and now it's starting to get out of hand! Help!
Q. I have been with my now husband for almost 5 yrs. he is a bit older than me and has two older children,I have 3 from another marriage and we have one together. At first it seemed like things would last forever. In the begining of our relationship I ...
A. 4 September 2010: That sounds a positive idea. Jobs can ruin lives can't they if they arent what we really want. I hope you can work this thru. Maybe he could re think about changing his job and hours although that's easier said than done. Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I get over my past hurts in order to let him in?
Q. I'm afraid this is another one of those insecurity questions that you must get plenty of... I've been in multiple relationships now and have tried my very hardest to be a good parter to them. It's just that I always seem to be hurt in the long...
A. 3 September 2010: Yes try not to fall in to the same trap as you were in before. Try to be confident and strong so the man doesnt take advantage of you. Also forget about the past and take on board what you have now. No one ever got anywhere with bringing the past ... (read in full...)
Afraid to tell him but so confused and fed up
Q. I am 15 years old and I am a very emotional person who does make friends easily but doesn't connect extremely with them except of some rare cases. I had two friendships in the last 5-6 years that ended up really bad with me broken-hearted. I started ...
A. 3 September 2010: Have you any other friends who could support you when you decide to tell this boy that you want to end this relationship. He is a very possessive person and you are not a toy nor a possession. You sound like you know what you want. Don't let him ... (read in full...)
How to get him out of my brain?
Q. Cutting a long story short.... my now ex broke up with me out of nowhere in a pub in front of all his friends (nice) and didnt speak to me for 2 weeks. When he finally did he thought i would fall at his feet and get back with him, as much as i ...
A. 3 September 2010: You're half way there, you are getting angry. He has treat you like shit, he's two timed you and he also sounds like he's living in hope of getting you back if there's no one else there for him. Keep angry at him and that should do the trick. ... (read in full...)
He says he is young for a relationship, does this mean he has feelings? Should I try for an LDR?
Q. More than just good friends? I have this really good friend and I have known him for 5 years. At the moment we are in different countries and we only stay in contact through facebook. I have had feelings for him for long. So on April fools day I sa...
A. 3 September 2010: Sounds like you can get to know each other better and see how it pans out. Long distance relationships are very hard at the best of times. If it's meant to be then you can make it happen. In the meantime get to know all you can about him. Good ... (read in full...)
I want him back, but he says "forget it"
Q. i was in a relation ship with an older man, he was married and he just had a kid. they were not doing so good they were sort of broke up, but stupid me started a relationship with him. we fell in love she found out and instead of just being broke up ...
A. 3 September 2010: You were in a dilema and got your self into tricky situations because of this. Emotions take over and we can do stupid things that we later regret. He may not forgive you now because he can't trust you but then again he may need reminding how he ... (read in full...)
I need a good reason to text him!
Q. so this is my first year at this college - im a sophomore transfer. i met this kid, who is a junior, and he is way too cool. at first i thought he liked me but im fairly certain he is just incredibly friendly. which means he knows everyone. which ...
A. 3 September 2010: Just text him and say 'I can come to your party but I'd need a lift, is anyone going my way?' He may then suggest someone to bring you over. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying to make thing work? Or should I let it go and move on?
Q. Hi my bf and I have been going through a rocky time lately. He doesn't seem as caring as he used to and that makes me a little insecure about his true feelings. I'm always the one approaching him, sending him texts, making plans, etc. Before it ...
A. 3 September 2010: I always think if a relationship is one sided then it's never going to work properly. I'ts got to be a two way thing where you both put just as much effort in to it. If you feel you are doing most of the running and getting no rewards then the ... (read in full...)
I know it sounds terrible about his past but I really want him to commit with me!
Q. "Wondering" I met this guy since i came here in Macau through our common friends. It's actually my guy friend who introduce me to him since that time that certain guy was looking for a vocalist for their band. It was like a sabotage thing b...
A. 3 September 2010: Sounds like he falls back on you when ever he has messed up and is alone. You can choose to be there for him everytime or not. Give him one more chance to change because you really feel for him and at some point in his life he will realize that ... (read in full...)
I don't trust her and want her out of my head
Q. Hey, Theres this chick ive been really close to for awhile and we sorta went out but not officially when i asked her out she turned me down. She than acted like a bit of a slut and i didnt talk to her for a few months cos of how she was acting b...
A. 3 September 2010: You need to know whether she is serious about you or just using you for attention because she knows she can. Find out what she really wants from you. If she can't tell you straight then it's time to walk away before she destroys you. Hope this ... (read in full...)
Everything I do is not good enough for him!
Q. Hi me and my boyfriend have been together almost two years and in the beggining everything was beyond wonderful..like a dream come true.we went on dates every weekend.he surprised me with gifts.and showered me with attention.but the past four months ...
A. 3 September 2010: It all sounds like one sided on your part which isn't good. He needs a good shake up. He has gone stale and uninterested. If you can't get him to put some spark in the relationship you will lose everything you've had. Don't waste your energies ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused at where I stand with him
Q. Ok so yeah i'm bisexual, this guy is my first sort of boyfriend..except this is the problem i don't know if it is a relationship or not..Everything was fine, one of the problems though is the distance, he lives 3-4 hours away from me on the train so ...
A. 3 September 2010: Why don't you ask him if he's exclusive to you. Sometimes the simplist question will get a straight answer. Then if you can't cope with that you will have to let him go. Long distance relationships are really hard to maintain at the best of ... (read in full...)
All he wants is sex, what about my financial responsibilities?
Q. Hello, I am a 56 year old female divorce now for 7 years...and I just told my boyfriend that it's over! We have known each other now for the past 20 years. And he just went through a divorce about 1 yr. ago....we have been dating for 2 yrs but te...
A. 3 September 2010: Sounds like he just wants fun and to have a good time. At least he's been honest with you and told you he doesnt want to get married again yet. Divorce can be awful on anyone and I must say I've been divorced 20 years and I know I won't get ... (read in full...)
Thought we'd had a good start, but haven't heard from her
Q. Hey everyone i'm 22, here's the deal. The last girl i was involved in before now was in 2005, the less said about that the better. Anyway that's long gone, and i've been talkng to this girl who's the same age as me for a month or two now (actually ...
A. 3 September 2010: I'ts easy to talk to people on line i.e. facebook and it can lead to false relationships. The nitty gritty is that youve actually met and her impressions online and then in reality have not been real for her by the sounds of it. You sound like a ... (read in full...)
Help please - really rocky time
Q. Help please - I'm churning inside. My Partner and I are in a very difficult situation. We have been together two years, and it was a big deal for both of us to start a new relationship in our fifties. We didn't rush into it and were committed to ...
A. 3 September 2010: Wow, how do you cope with all that. You say you have been married twice before, I'll bet you didnt have to put up with all this. It can't be good for the child involved either. He needs to get a grip. Maybe you could encourage him to sell up and ... (read in full...)
We've been together four months, he told me he loves me, but is not in love with me yet. What does this actually mean?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend four months we spend every day together and have moved in together,i live with him at his mothers house,all is great and im happier than ive ever been.i can see that my boyfriend cares for me and that he loves me.your ...
A. 3 September 2010: Ive heard that saying so many times it's such a cliche'. A brother can love you I suppose but not be 'in love' with you, like a lover would be. You need to ask him, 'Am I like a sister to you, or am I your lover'. If he can't commit a hundred ... (read in full...)
At the risk of getting pregnant...?
Q. Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl, well almost 17 now. I was kind of wondering if you could help me by telling me what things could actually put me at risk to get pregnant. I mean i have a bf and dont want to do anything with him that i may regret ...
A. 3 September 2010: Hi, you will get pregnant if he ejaculates too close to you even though he doesnt enter you. Foreplay won't get you pregnant but if you both get a bit carried away then the inevitable will probably happen. It may be a good idea to keep the condoms ... (read in full...)
In-laws forcing me to get pregnant for a boy child!!!
Q. Dear Readers, Please help me. I have been married for the last 5 years, I have a daughter (4 yrs old) and during my delivery I had severe heart complications and was under coma for almost a week after delivery. It took me almost 3 years to recover ...
A. 3 September 2010: I suggest very strongly that you make an appointment with your doctor for a private consultation and tell him everything. He will give you the facts. Sounds like his mother is putting pressure on him. Surely he can remember the time you were in a ... (read in full...)
I used to fancie a guy who's now my best friend but I love him now what do I do?
Q. before you read this sorry about the amount of writng but i felt it needed explaining in full: about a year ago i had a crush on a boy who was friends with a couple of my best friends so i asked him out and he rejected me, but its been nearly 1 an...
A. 3 September 2010: Thats good that you are still good friends. While you are having a laugh why don't you drop a couple of hints like 'I still love you ya know',, etc. And see what he says. Friendships can turn to love all the time. You didnt scare him away ... (read in full...)
Does she want to start things up again?
Q. This girl told me that we shouldn't be anything at all we went out a while back but now she's apologized for being a jerk. We've startd texting just a little. there's nothing wrong with a sex buddy but how do I know whether that's what she wants or ...
A. 3 September 2010: The fact that she has apologized for being a jerk says it all. sounds like she has stepped away from the situation, had a think about it, realized what you had and now wants another go at it. Give her a chance. I think she may want more than just ... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to communicate with your partner?
Q. I have a boyfriend of one year and his at collage,our problem is that we are struggling to communicate,i need a solution...
A. 3 September 2010: I suggest you engage in some outside the home activities together. That way you will have fun and give you something to talk about. Sometimes situations can get boring and need a new angle or a new lease of life. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
Did she actually like me? Or was it just a dare? Have I missed my chance?
Q. I really like this girl and I thought she liked me too but one day one of my friends who is quite close with her ( I think he likes her) told me she was going to say she likes me but it's a dare coz everyone was joking we were practically going out. ...
A. 3 September 2010: sounds like your friend has been doing a bit of mixing. Try to talk to her and find out what's been said. She may like you and when she knows the truth all will be well. Hopefully. sometimes your friends can get a bit jealous if they think two ... (read in full...)
Partner no longer loves me.............help!!!
Q. help! I was with my partner for 5 and a half years and engaged for almost 2 years! We booked our wedding and we also just had a baby, but he recently told me that he no longer feels the same way towards me as he used to. I am really confused as we ...
A. 3 September 2010: Hi, you won't be the first or the last. Bringing up babies is a very hard job to do and some men just don't have the back bone to support the mother or child. You will be amongst the many single parents and its not fun. Makes you wonder what he ... (read in full...)
I've been secretly dating an older guy. Should I tell my parents?
Q. i really like this older guy and we have been secretly together for the past 7 months but my sadly i am not allowed to date. should i tell my parents? how do i keep this older guy interested in only me and no other girl?...
A. 3 September 2010: Hi, yes certainly let your parents know then you won't get yourself into deep waters that may be beyond your control. If they don't mind you dating this older man because he seems a nice polite trustworthy guy then you can be in a safe environment. ... (read in full...)
Do guys lie about not being virgins?
Q. Do guys lie and say theyre not virgins when they really are? and will theyre guy friends lie for them??because im a virgin and my boyfriend and his friend said he wasnt a virgin .then when we tryed to have sex he could put it in..and he told me to ...
A. 3 September 2010: Yes guys and girls will lie about that. Usually to gain street cred. Gone are the days when sex was private and between two people who felt strongly about each other. Sex is a way of life now and is over rated on performance by either party. ... (read in full...)
What do I do to win back the love of my wife...?
Q. I have been with my wife for 4 years and married to her about two years. I love her with everything in me, she is the sun, moon and stars in option. But I have been stupid and lost a few jobs and took her for granted and she snapped. She doesn’t ...
A. 3 September 2010: You sound a nice guy. You can see where you went wrong. Your wife has lost trust in you and been let down. Sounds like she's a bit depressed and deflated with it all. When women have to bring kids up it's so important that her man is around to ... (read in full...)
We are both insecure and now it's starting to get out of hand! Help!
Q. I have been with my now husband for almost 5 yrs. he is a bit older than me and has two older children,I have 3 from another marriage and we have one together. At first it seemed like things would last forever. In the begining of our relationship I ...
A. 3 September 2010: I'ts typical isnt it. The timing on anything important is never right. You could go in at another angle. Let him know how upset your friend is because she is grieving, ask your friend to come around while your hubby is there and let him join in ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of going into a new relationship...
Q. I'm scared of getting into a new relationship. My last one was about 6 months ago but we didnt last because i didnt like him, i had broken up a month before with my greatest "lovey"(alejandro) (: i realy liked alejandro and i still do or is it ...
A. 3 September 2010: unless you meet some one you really like, then you will always think about your lost love thats a fact. So it may not be a good idea to even start a relationship unless it is with someone you really fancy otherwise you will always be comparing. ... (read in full...)
What is he getting from this?
Q. 17 years ago, when I was 17, I fell in "love" with a guy that I worked with. I know it was an immature, obsessed kind of love that only a 17 year old could feel. He was Mr. Popular, with a string of girls following him; I was a gawky, nerdy ...
A. 3 September 2010: Sounds like he has time for you but probably not as much as you would like. He sounds like life hasnt been good to him and he's lost his sparkle for it. Maybe a little more down the line he will want more and make y ou feel a bit better about the ... (read in full...)
I want lots of sex but unfortunately my partner doesnt!!!
Q. I want lots of sex but unfortunately my partner doesnt! I lost my virginity at 24. The first time wasn't great and neither was the second time...but then it just kept getting better and better and now I'm hooked! However, my partner who is in his ...
A. 3 September 2010: He is saying he is tired, he probably is. Tiredness can take the edge off a good sex life that's a fact. When my hubby worked nights sex was non existent because he was basically knackered all the time. We stuck together tho and things got better ... (read in full...)
Injured bird syndrome...
Q. this sounds silly but i need someone to comment because right now i feel empty and hollow. my best male friend who i met a year ago has just passed his final work assessment. ive seen him from day one when he started and he was extremely fragile ...
A. 3 September 2010: Sounds like he values your friendship but thats all. Why don't y ou confide in him and let him support you through your troubles. Friendship works both ways. He may look at you in a different light if he now sees you have been vunerable ... (read in full...)
How do I give off the right vibes for my date tomorrow?
Q. Hi, I need some advice on how to create the right vibe when I meet up with a guy I like for a lunch date tomorrow. I want him to realise that I potentially like him as more than a friend. What should I wear? How should I behave? Any flirting ...
A. 3 September 2010: Wear something nice and appropriate for the occasion. Most of all listen to him and look interested in anything he has to say. Guys like attention like that. Good Luck. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
He keeps asking me to sleep with him but I'm underage!
Q. My boyfriend is 20 and i'm 15. He's been asking me to sleep with him (using a condom) each time we fool around, touch and kiss. He's been asking me this every time we meet. I want to have sex with him but am having doubts about it! I LOVE him ...
A. 3 September 2010: If he sleeps with you he could end up in prison. Tell him to wait until you are 16. If he can't wait then tell him to go. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
Ladies: am I too small?
Q. K to understand how I am asking this question understand how I am approaching this topic. I am a 25-year-old male B/F American who has done some good and some bad thus far in his life. My character has been labeled as respected, honorable, dependab...
A. 2 September 2010: Have you ever thought of writing a novel, I found your story interesting reading. I'm sure with your humour you will muddle through with a woman who loves you. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I have a mental barrier around my body image
Q. I have a skewed perception of my body. Basically, I don't look like the ideal of beauty. And when I see myself in the mirror, I don't see anything special. I always end up seeing someone else who is more perfect and that always reminds me that my ...
A. 2 September 2010: Hi, that's a mature comment to make that 'theres no point in competing with other women' That's absolutely true. The women in the glossy mags have had plastic surgery, botox, being 'airbrushed'. All you can do is look after your health, your ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but haven't had a period since June?
Q. I started my periods when I was 12. I am now 14 and I havent had a period since June, I am a virgin and there is no way i could be pregnant. What is happening to me?...
A. 2 September 2010: This can be normal because you are so young. Our bodies are all over the place during puberty. Go and see your doctor, she may give you something to make you more regular, sometimes it can be the pill. Or she may suggest for you not to worry just ... (read in full...)
Will he cheat or should I trust him?
Q. I'm sorry this is long guys. but i really need help. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months. and he just recently left for college.....to another state. before he left...we were fighting about some girl he's been talking to. They're both ...
A. 2 September 2010: Sounds to me like you are going to have a hard time with this guy. If he wants to be with you then you won't have to push him into it. If you have to fight for him from a distance it may be just better to let him go and see if he comes back to you. ... (read in full...)
Week alone with a new guy, what do I do?
Q. Okay well I have a week off at the end of my summer classes before my fall classes start and I called that week off from work. I just really need to get out of the house because I still live at home. I've been talking to this guy and he is going to ...
A. 2 September 2010: How well do you know him? 5 Hours away is a long long way if you can't get back home in a hurry. Will you be honest with your parents about where you will be. You are old enough to do what you like but make sure you let someone know of your ... (read in full...)
We are both insecure and now it's starting to get out of hand! Help!
Q. I have been with my now husband for almost 5 yrs. he is a bit older than me and has two older children,I have 3 from another marriage and we have one together. At first it seemed like things would last forever. In the begining of our relationship I ...
A. 2 September 2010: Some men can get very possessive when they see a change in their women i.e. you've lost a bit of weight. You may be showing signs of growing self esteem and he could feel threatened. He sounds paranoid and very insecure. You need to have a bit of ... (read in full...)
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