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After all these yrs & all that we've been through why porn?
Q. In need of some advice. Me and my child's father are trying to work things out. We've been off and on for almost 9 yrs (majority of it was my fault) and we have a 2 yr old. He say's that he's forgiven me and is willing to let the past be the ...
A. 12 January 2011: We all make mistakes, all of us, no one is immune to that. If y ou have agreed to move on from the past then that should be the end of it and no one should drag it up again at every opportunity, so when this happens, remind him that it is in the ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my anger towards him?
Q. I'm here looking for I guess you can say some understanding about why I'm feeling the way I feel. You see I was madly in love with a guy to the point where I took a rap for him and did 1 year prison time for him. The kicker is when I got released I ...
A. 12 January 2011: Well they say there's a fine line between love and hate and I think that's what you are feeling. He's been seeing the other woman for 3 years, so does that infrindge on the time y ou were seeing him before y ou went in prison. So looks like he was ... (read in full...)
Did you ex ever come back and leave the rebound relationship for you?
Q. If your ex come back after a rebound when did he.... Details please. Like was it 4 weeks that they broke up and decided they wanted you or was it 3 months and what did they say? My ex and i were inlove and he asked me to marry him. We the...
A. 12 January 2011: I think it would depend on certain things. If you were together in the relationship for quite a while and then you broke up it would depend on how well you knew each other and how close you were. Also why you parted, was it over something trivial ... (read in full...)
Parents slip us up when they smelled weed. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi there Dear Cupid Forum! As of 6 months ago I began dating a Woman that I am now in love with. She is my first love, I have known her since I first moved to British Columbia when I was 14. We have been through a lot together, she was my Grad ...
A. 12 January 2011: Sounds like you are going really great. I think this is the lady that you will end up marrying. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
He thinks I will never be interested in him and he just wants to be friends, but this is not the case at all! What should I do?
Q. I love a guy very much...but actually he is not interested in relationships love and all..he is happy single...he just talks to me as he think im very unique and i will never be interested in him...on the contrary, im really very mad at him..and ...
A. 11 January 2011: Keep him as a friend, you are both y oung. If you try to pressure him in to any thing more you will scare him off. When he matures a bit more he will see the value of you and maybe you will get your wish.... (read in full...)
I've lost my sex drive!
Q. been with my bf for few months,seem 2 have lost my sex drive latley and have he cant seem 2 make me orgasm through sex or forplay. never had problems in the past! also can being too drunk affect an orgasm??...
A. 11 January 2011: Being drunk can certainly effect a lot of things, so the answer to your question would be 'yes'. Is there other things going on in your life that are playing on your mind and stopping you from relaxing. Are you having doubts about your ... (read in full...)
How can I start a convo off to get reaquainted with my friends?
Q. i want to get to know more people who i am friends with on facebook and get to see what my old class mates are doing these days and to chat to people at my college who i see every day but i don't want to sound pushy or desperate and i don't want to ...
A. 10 January 2011: I've found that 'friendship reunited' is a better site for this. I'ts free to register and you get to see all your old class mates throughout the years, listed, and pictures. You can even leave messages for them, or comment on school photos etc.... (read in full...)
Stuck between two guys...
Q. I was recently in a love with a guy but unfortunatly that guy loves me too but he stopped talking to me suddenly for few days, in between those days I was all broken up, hurt by my first friend, now the situation is such tht Im attached to his ...
A. 10 January 2011: Don't do anything in haste. Give your self more time to weigh up the situation. Find out who it is you really want and concentrate on him. Even if it means trying to build up the relationship with the first guy, who y ou say loves you.... (read in full...)
First time sex feels like..??
Q. I haven't had sex yet and i'm a guy, what does sex feel like for the first time?...
A. 10 January 2011: If you intend to have a long term loving relationship then you will get through this okay. Can take a while to adapt to someone else and what they want. If you are embarking on one night stands, or just something casual then you may be expected to ... (read in full...)
Am I simply wasting my time with him?
Q. hi ok ive been having this online relationship with a guy 4 a while now hes nice and sweet and we talk about alot of things. Ok now here is the strange part he is 24 and still a virgin he has never had a relationship before he says that he is ...
A. 10 January 2011: I never encourage online relationships at this depth. Talking on line is okay but virtual relationships, you don't know what's true and what isnt and youve always to be careful. When you are young and vunerable it's easy to feel for someone who ... (read in full...)
Am I being too clingy or is there a problem?
Q. Here we go... I am having a communication problem with my boyfriend of a year and a few months, and I don't know if it is me being clingy and needing to talk or its something else. Our normal week consists of him driving a hour and a half to...
A. 10 January 2011: its the long distance thing as well as the length of conversations by the sounds of it. You could possibly run out of things to say during the same week after a2 -5 hourly converstion over the phone. It's not as if you are watching a tv programme ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I have secretly been together for several years!
Q. My cousin and I have been secretly together for seven yrs off and on,I tried to stop several times,but I can't Im in love with him and, he knows it. When i try to leave him alone he becomes so angry and mean,it makes me cry! I dream about it when I ...
A. 10 January 2011: Many on here will not agree with this, but i think there's only one state in the US where it's against the law, cousin relationships. My son and his cousin are together (UK), and my brother and i have not spoken in four years because of it. It's ... (read in full...)
Is this weird feeling in my stomach normal?
Q. Every time we read this romantic book in class and the guy does something really sweet my tummy goes funny and it's kind of weird is this normal??? Anyone experienced this???...
A. 10 January 2011: Yes, it is perfectly normal. When you meet a boy that you really like and think he's sweet, you should get the exact same response, or even better. It's only nature, that's how we get feelings for our partners and all about attraction. Now you ... (read in full...)
I'm best friends with a man who's wife is an adulteress!
Q. My best male friend’s wife has been cheating on him for years. I have not said anything because I don't want to get in the middle of it with them. I have remained friends with his wife up until she accused me of messing around with her husband just ...
A. 10 January 2011: Talk to her husband and ask him to clear your name. If she doesnt leave you alone, threaten to tell her husband of her past affairs, that should quieten her down.... (read in full...)
What are the long-term emotional/psychological effects of a promiscuous lifestyle?
Q. I know a girl who I am friends with, sort of. She is very loose sexually and frequently has sex with men for money. She had an affair with a married man a few months ago but I think she broke it off when it became clear this man was not leaving his ...
A. 10 January 2011: She may be like this for many reasons, she has low self esteem, maybe a history of sexual abuse. She doesnt care about her body. She may be just trying too hard to get a rich man so she can have a good life. She is in fact being a prostitute if ... (read in full...)
I need to stop thinking about him and move on
Q. this sounds so silly but i cant stop thinking about a guy I had a one nite stand with on new years eve. I met him out in my town however he didnt live here. He was drop-dead gorgeous and we went back to mine and it was amazing. I have just come out ...
A. 10 January 2011: if you can get in touch with his friend, do a bit of delving. If you simply start trying to get straight to him, he may be in a relationship or something. At least by asking his mate he may let you know if it's a good idea or not to send a text, ... (read in full...)
She plays these mind-games and I'm not sure what to do now!
Q. hello. I have a very complicated situation on my hands, but i'll make the story short. Me and my girlfriend of a year just broke up for an unknown reason, seeing as she was the one who did it. This relationship had been in my control almost this ...
A. 10 January 2011: Sounds like she is getting her own back. She has certainly lost all respect for you and now she is using you, because she can. You both need to forget about each other and move on or you will be in a relationship in competition mode.... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like I'm a sugardaddy!
Q. Where to begin. Well, I'm a 21 year old gay male who in August moved 1,000 miles away from home to attend graduate school in another part of the country. Moving here was a big challenge not knowing anybody, and another gay graduate student suggested ...
A. 10 January 2011: That's how he lives his life, he is a user. He will prey on gullable people with his charm. You will now be a stronger person for it. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Do I wait it out in the hope he'll become more responsible, or do I leave and leave it to someone else to suit his needs?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I'm in college and he's working retail. We live together. I feel like it's time to start being responsible adults and he says he does too but he doesn't show it. He is late on ALL necessary paym...
A. 7 January 2011: Usually when a woman and a man live together it seems to be the natural order that a woman will tend to clean up after the man. You will need to retrain him. Put a wash basket next to where he chucks his undies if need be, try to get him in to ... (read in full...)
I like him but his friend likes me... what do I do?
Q. I've liked a guy in my class for ages and we cyber online, but I still like him in person. The thing is he has a girl abroad who he says is not his girlfriend but he talks about her a lot. His best friend, however, has expressed interest in me. ...
A. 7 January 2011: Both guys have not got a girlfriend, it looks like its up to you, to choose. Will they still be friends, if you make that decision or will jealousy tear them apart.... (read in full...)
I miss my old life but that had no future either!
Q. Dear aunts and uncles... Where do I begin. Well I'm feeling like I've fucked up my life yet again and I just want to know if I have a future. I'll try keep it short. Left school 15 (family probs) left home 17, dossed around for years, 21 started ...
A. 7 January 2011: You sound like you are a 'traveller' with all the moving you do. On your next move try to stay there and make a life and be settled. Looks like a lot of your choices have been made with a man in tow. Make your own choices now and stick to them. ... (read in full...)
Meeting online friend of 7 years for the first time...
Q. This might be a little long so i apologize for that in advance:) So i have a friend i've known for several years. Met him on a social networking site and we pretty much hit it off from day one. He's from another country - I'm in the U.S and he l...
A. 7 January 2011: You've been friends for a while, you are now going to meet him in the flesh. Yes things will not be as you expect because they never are once the friendship changes from 'virtual' to reality. Can y ou get through that and find a happy medium? ... (read in full...)
Trusting a boyfriend who has cheated before...
Q. Hi. I've never used this before I was hoping to get some really good advise. Okay here I go. My boyfriend and I have been dated for a year and 7 months. We're going towards our 8th month this 25th. Recently, a girl came up to me and told me that my ...
A. 7 January 2011: I think the girl will be telling the truth. Have you any reason at all to doubt her. It's in his track record. He got away with it before so he will be thinking he can again, because y ou took him back before. You could always get in touch with ... (read in full...)
Old flame or a con man?
Q. I have recently was contacted by an old boyfriend from highschool. It has been almost 30 yrs since we have spoke and he has looked for me online and finally found me on facebook. I had done the same...look for him and googled his name. We are both ...
A. 7 January 2011: He sounds like he has never forgotten y ou from high school. He could have romantic notions of reliving those days but obviously 30 yrs down the line things have changed. Meet up with him and be like old friends, tell each other how you've done in ... (read in full...)
Is this boy just a flirt?
Q. right so there is this boy who is a year older than me at school. Me, him and some friends in his year walk home together. Right so here is the thing. For a while now when we meet he and he gives me a really long tight hug (and only me :P), and when...
A. 7 January 2011: He is testing out his masculinity by the sounds of it. He is flirting with everyone because he can. At this age everyone loves everyone. He may want you as his girlfriend and may be trying to make you jealous by doing this with others. He could ... (read in full...)
We've been dragging out this game of cat and mouse for 6 months!
Q. I like this guy and I think he likes me back everyone says he does and my friend Hall overheard him talking to his friend he gets shy and nervous around me but he seems to be happy around me what should I do this has been going around for 6 ...
A. 7 January 2011: You have to make the first move, he is too shy. Put a note in his hand, like 'MEET ME ,,time place?. See if he turns up. If not, i would go and hide in a corner somewhere. Seriously though, try it and see what happens. Some men need a kick ... (read in full...)
The spark was never there and we've been together for a year!
Q. Hi everyone I need serious advice I'm young and I've been in a relationship for over a year and I like the life he can give me and the care that he has for me and his personality is good but the spark is not there at all plzzz help I will appreciate ...
A. 7 January 2011: If you are thinking this is the love of your life and looking forward to a long and happy one in years to come, that is maybe not what you have here to sustain it. Sooner or later you will look for someone else who will fulfill your desires, the ... (read in full...)
Am I on to something here?
Q. There is this guy i really like at my school, we have known each other for 5-6 months and i usually dont like someone after that short amount of time, so i was suprised. Before i spoke to him he would stare at me, and one of my friends pointed ...
A. 7 January 2011: He seems very shy. You may have to try and find out from one of his friends, or yours what his intentions are because he can't seem to get passed the blushing stage.... (read in full...)
Did I hurt her and will she get nasty with me?
Q. i met a girl at college and she seemed to be giving me signals of interest. Anyway, her friend gave me her number and when we began texting she began the flirting and texting until almost 2am on college night (something i wouldn’t expect friends to ...
A. 7 January 2011: I'm not sure how to help you here. I don't even think she is shy, because she isnt shy about texting is she. Do you think she is having fun and winding you up when her mates are there. You can't possibly know for sure what's on her mind when she ... (read in full...)
Her smile lights me up inside but I know she won't be mine!
Q. Well, like the many questions on here, im in love with one of my best friends. Who is also a girl.. I just dont know what to do anymore. I can't stop thinking about her, and i cant sleep at night. When i see her it makes my day, just seeing her smil...
A. 7 January 2011: If i say 'it's your age, hormones etc' would you believe me. Probably not, but i think really that's what it is. Emotions run extremely high at your age. Just try to be her friend and enjoy her company, then that will see you through for now. ... (read in full...)
Where did he go?
Q. I like this guy and we got introduced through a mutual friend at college, he asked for my number off said friend and began texting me. He was so sweet and made such an effort to text almost everyday. He said to me he doesnt talk to anyone else the ...
A. 7 January 2011: He sounds very darkly to me. You will only get the answers to your questions if you ask. You could simply text him and say that you enjoyed his texts and miss them now, is everything okay. There could be a hundred reasons as to why things ... (read in full...)
Her poshness intimidates me!
Q. Well, I'm a 19 year old guy, haven't had a girlfriend for about 4 years, never been smooth with the ladies and get pretty nervous when it comes to speaking to girls that I don't know. A few weeks back we had a xmas party for work at an event that...
A. 7 January 2011: Just go and meet her. Take it as it comes. Don't try to be something you are not. In fact she will be endeared to your honesty if you tell her you are from the other side of the track and make light of it. Weve seen it so many times at the movies. ... (read in full...)
Waiting for the love of my life, how ever long that may take.
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years. We broke up this summer because he said he was too young to settle down this early in his life. All summer we had no contact, but we go to the same college and run on the same cross country/track team. ...
A. 7 January 2011: He sounds like he is being honest with you. If you can't cope with what he is suggesting you may have to leave the situation all together. I can't understand how he can have a big gap like that, act as if nothing is happening and say he will be ... (read in full...)
How can you spice up a LDR?
Q. How can you mix things up or spice things up when your in along distance relationship? My bf was complaning cuz he doesnt like routine. We always say good moring every day ask how you slept, talk about random things through out the day and talk a ...
A. 7 January 2011: You could play games, each day list ten things, i like about you, etc. 10 places you'd like to go on hols. or something like that, just to change the mundane chit chat. the lists could keep you going for a while if you have a different subject ... (read in full...)
My husband gave his emotional affair a Christmas gift!
Q. I went thru my husbands phone and saw a strange number and I read his text. He told a women that he has day dreams about her. Not night dreams but he intentionally thinks of her during the day. He asked her questions about heat she wears to bed, ...
A. 7 January 2011: I'm thinking it could be a woman that he works with. If he is a bit bored in his job they both may have struck up this unusual sort of friendship to aleviate bordom. Or he could be hoping for something more if the opportunity arose. Thing is, ... (read in full...)
I don't want kids but my husband does......
Q. my husband and i have been married for 5 years and we've been together for a total of 10 years.We've made it this far and relationship has been great in every way except that since the last 1 year he has been telling me that he is interested in ...
A. 7 January 2011: You are right to be terrified of bringing a new life in to the world. It is such a massive responsibilty to do it right. Not just be able to financially maintain a child but to bring a child up properly in today society. It's not a nice world out ... (read in full...)
Can waiting until marriage for sex allow us to build better relationships?
Q. I had a recent experience with a girl who is a "player". She is very beautiful and always attracts men. She toys with them, encourages them with flirtatious words, all the time saying they are not her type, even as they get their hopes up. I, ...
A. 7 January 2011: I totally agree with you and it is one of my 'bug bears', especially moreso with younger people. Sex first, babies, then everything else after that, sometimes ending in heartbreak and single parents. For someone y our age you are very mature in ... (read in full...)
He knows that he has my heart but I am not sure I have his.....
Q. so this is kinda long sorry. sometimes i write letters to my boyfriend that i just keep as a way to get my feelings out. even though sometimes i don't intend for them to really be read by him. well i wrote a letter and put my son to bed and fell ...
A. 7 January 2011: I think deep down you intended for him to find this letter because you are really wanting an answer from him, does he love you. I've never understood how people can have intimate relations and not feel love, but hey! that's just me. If someone ... (read in full...)
Separated. Now what?
Q. My husband of three years and I have just entered into a trial separation(no kids). He moved out. Things have escalated over the past 6 months to a spot neither of us want to be in our marriage. The whole time I have wanted to work on things a...
A. 7 January 2011: As I was reading what y ou wrote i was feeling 'he's having an affair'.. Then i read he has two female friends. Yes It seems obvious to me that he has been having an affair with at least one of them. When some one asks for a trial seperation more ... (read in full...)
Why can't I fully get over my ex?
Q. Why can't I fully get over my ex? I personally feel deep inside that she is the one, or at least who she was to me was the one. Like for me the way my ex is now, drinking, partying and even doing other stuff has really turned me off from her. But if ...
A. 7 January 2011: I don't mean to sound hard, but the new boyfriend should be overseeing this now. They may think you are interfering if you say anything about her behaviour. It's probably the age thing as well, the drinking, partying etc. Maybe she has gone off ... (read in full...)
Past experience is spoiling my new relationship, am I right to worry?
Q. Can someone tell me how to get over my insecurities about being played. I have just entered a relationship with a guy I've been nuts about for a long time. He says he has about me too. The relationship has been going to happen for a while, an...
A. 7 January 2011: I've seen men like this in action before, flirting, touching other women, thinking they are gods gift etc. He needs to calm it down a bit because he will end up alone. These women may be feeling sorry for you whilst they are all having a laugh ... (read in full...)
Parents slip us up when they smelled weed. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi there Dear Cupid Forum! As of 6 months ago I began dating a Woman that I am now in love with. She is my first love, I have known her since I first moved to British Columbia when I was 14. We have been through a lot together, she was my Grad ...
A. 7 January 2011: Wording the letter from your position i was thinking about where you said that the girl wanted to try weed and asked you to with her. That comes across as you would blame her for it and any ounce of blame her parents would go on the defensive, so ... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like I'm a sugardaddy!
Q. Where to begin. Well, I'm a 21 year old gay male who in August moved 1,000 miles away from home to attend graduate school in another part of the country. Moving here was a big challenge not knowing anybody, and another gay graduate student suggested ...
A. 6 January 2011: He sounds very needy and you seem to be meeting those needs. You need to get on with your life and it seems to me he is bringing you down. You are offering the kind of support that comes with a serious relationship with people who have known each ... (read in full...)
Parents slip us up when they smelled weed. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi there Dear Cupid Forum! As of 6 months ago I began dating a Woman that I am now in love with. She is my first love, I have known her since I first moved to British Columbia when I was 14. We have been through a lot together, she was my Grad ...
A. 6 January 2011: Reading through this, they took her car away, then gave her it back, so there's a little bit of lee way there. They are making threats that they can't keep so you should take advantage of that. Your girlfriend doesnt want y ou to contact her ... (read in full...)
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