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Heavier than normal period!
Q. I'm on a really heavy period this month, I'm filling up my pads quicker than usual. The pain usually goes away, but this time the cramps are more painful, and they're there all day. Before I came on I had a different type of cramp. Is there some...
A. 16 December 2010: Periods can get heavier. Is it happening at the normal time of month for you or is it happening at other times as well. It's always best to let the doc know. if you are on a certain type of contraception that can affect things as well. You need ... (read in full...)
He won't stop cheating and he won't leave either!
Q. I'm so exhausted, my marriage has been terrible for years but I am trapped in it. I cannot leave due to our 3 children (if I left we'd be homed in another town, I cannot uproot my children like that) and financial circumstances, whereas he could ve...
A. 16 December 2010: Is it such a big deal to move to another town. You won't be trapped for ever because the children will grow up and then you will be absolutely free to do what you like. In the meantime you need to tell him you want a divorce. The courts will make ... (read in full...)
Is this guy trying to ruin our relationship?
Q. Hey all, I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and then broke up for less than a month, and now we're back together. While we were not seeing each other, she met another guy and started talking with him. Even after we got back toge...
A. 16 December 2010: She has been two timing you, been found out and now lying to cover her tracks. You have found out now and she knows it and has stopped talking with the other guy. She seems to have made her choice now. It's up to you to either carry on with her ... (read in full...)
Not getting enough sex, would you involve a third person?
Q. What would you do in this situation? I am married now for 9 years and I do love my wife, but I think we are more of friends than lovers. We had a strong sexual relationship before we got married, having sex 4-5 times per week, many time...
A. 16 December 2010: Speaking from a womans point of view we do get very tired when we have everyone in the house's emotional needs to see to, cooking cleaning, kids etc. Wouldnt it be a good idea to take your wife away for a long weekend just the two of you where you ... (read in full...)
Inappropriate PDA involving my husband and his cousin!
Q. i saw my 32 yr old husband allow his 20 yr old female cousin to sit on his lap and recently she came up to him and fixed his hair in the front plus remove lint out of his hair....plus whenever i talk to her she is only asking where he is....am i ...
A. 16 December 2010: Yes it's very innapropriate in the sense that he is your husband and you don't like what you see. Have a private word with the young lady and tell her you don't want her to sit on his knee. Then you can get him alone and tell him that it had better ... (read in full...)
Am I just his backup?
Q. Hello everyone, I am a mid-20 year old guy who has never been in a real relationship (kissing, etc,) with either a girl or a guy... however, I have been aware over the past several years that I am primarily attracted to men. Over the past...
A. 16 December 2010: After reading what you wrote, very carefully. It looks to me like he respects you as a friend at the moment. He has probably got other friends as well and I think if you are expecting him to be exclusive with you that may not happen for a while if ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me he has baggage!
Q. dear cupid, i have been with my boyfriend for 4years now. i recently found out that he has a 6year old child who he didnot tell me about from the start. i actually asked him on our first date 4years ago if he had a child and he said no. he only...
A. 16 December 2010: Does he still see the child and has he been seeing the child all along. If he's not been in contact with the child he may not have wanted to tell you about this and wishing that chapter out of his life. You need to know under what circumstances he ... (read in full...)
Is he just a moody guy?
Q. Okay so im in a strange situation, I am at uni and living with three other girls and a guy. Me and this guy have some history and used to be really close, he was there for me at a time when i was vulnerable and lonely and our friendship is ...
A. 16 December 2010: To be honest you may have to look for other accommodation. It's not the ideal situation that you are in and it will only get worse. He must be in his element living with four girls he must think he has the pick of you all. Don't pamper to him, ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with being used by him?
Q. m pretty sure the 3 months we had he used me. He wanted sex with me WAY too soon, said all the sweetest things In the world. we did fun stuff together and he called me every day. Then i started to notice he went out ALOT (and without asking me or te...
A. 16 December 2010: You just need to get it in to your mind set that it happened and now it's over and y ou have to let it be. It was a new 'quick ' relationship, it fizzled out, thats as simple as it gets. You may have come on too strong for what he wanted because ... (read in full...)
Did I miss my chance with this guy?
Q. Well were both in high school and he's a in a grade higher than me so we never talked or have classes with each other.He used to show signs of liking me such as staring at me,smiling and being near,he was hot and cold for 3 months so I was confused ...
A. 16 December 2010: What I'm reading is, the only contact youve had with this guy is he is smiling and staring at you initially. I'm thinking you could be reading far too much in to this as far as anything coming of this. If he wants more he would have made a move ... (read in full...)
Love can make life eithr heaven or hell. I love her so much ill hurt someone for her
Q. Hi i am Jason Im 18 I have this really great girl we are togetha for 7 months. She makes me feel great about myself, she loves me, thats my opinion im sure she loves me. Months later she started to cheat on me with an ex-friend naython and my ...
A. 16 December 2010: She does sound like she is playing you, knowing that you will always be there for her. You may be need to just give her some space because the more you threaten Naython the more reason she'll have to side with him and you could be making their ... (read in full...)
I'm wanting to make ex pay for what he did to me
Q. I'm not sure what I am looking for here but, I need some kind of help with processing feelings I am having concerning my ex. My ex ended it with me 7 mths. ago after 7 yrs. together. He basically left me for someone else although, they did not get ...
A. 16 December 2010: You didnt have a proper 'ending' with him and that's what you are fighting in your mind. If you do something physical or out of order with them then you may get yourself in to trouble so you mustnt go down that road. You've come this far and I'd ... (read in full...)
Signs a guy likes someone else?
Q. I just want to know, what are some signs that a guy likes your friend and not you? );...
A. 16 December 2010: He will be more chatty and friendlier. Flirting, showing off, wanting her attention all the time. That's just a few things, there will be loads more.
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He's sending out mixed messages, what should I do!?
Q. My friend been sending me mix feelings, all month and I don't know what to do! eh I start the story from the beginning. My friend and I been really good friends since the start of the school year. He's a freshmen and I'm a senior through... We ...
A. 16 December 2010: Sounds really nice. You've become good close friends and the most natural thing in the world is that these feelings are getting deeper between you. He's probably just as scared as you to confess this because he may be thinking the same, what if ... (read in full...)
I want to work it out but he's so stubborn to change!
Q. what kind of relationship am i in? hello reader i've been in a relationship for two yrs.and my boyfriend is crazy! he and i now live together with his mom! which she's not the problem actually we bond good now bette than last year when we first go...
A. 16 December 2010: You need to be in your own place,but how he would support you i dont know because he is thinking about himself only. Is he a good enough role model for your three children? He is in a lazy way because he's never had to fend for himself, still ... (read in full...)
Do you think he has feelings for me?
Q. I have known this guy for almost 3 years. we met at a show of his (hes in a band) and we immediatly had a connection. At first, I was working for him, doing pr for his band. I did this for about 2 years. We would often hang out, and talked everyday. ...
A. 16 December 2010: He's nine years older than you. I know that doesnt really matter but he is the older more mature one and he should have made his feelings clear to you on the night. On the surface he seems to have feelings but you may be a bit impressionable and ... (read in full...)
Is it better to be friends with your ex-boyfriend than having him out of your life?
Q. Please help me. I am confused. My boyfriend and I are together for 1 .5 years already. We are in a serious and happy relationship. Yes, there are some misunderstandings but we resolved them all in the end. Just few days ago, we argue about some...
A. 16 December 2010: I always look at the 'age range' before i read any letters. You are both in your 20's and really you should be able to make decisions for yourself. Do you really want a man who can't make decisions. Sometimes we have to give up an awful lot for ... (read in full...)
Husband does not find me sexy, feeling like I may end up cheating!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have always been a very faithful person I have never even thought of cheating in any of my relationships. Me and my husband got married about 6 months ago and for some reason I feel like I am going to cheat on him. I am trying...
A. 16 December 2010: It will take a lot of will power to sign up to a gym and start a weight loss programme. If your husband doesnt find you sexy now he sure will if you can be determined. Many a man sits up and takes notice if a woman completely re invents herself. ... (read in full...)
Can sex or my penis size ruin my relationship?
Q. Hello everyone, I just started to go out with my girlfriend, and she seems like the greatest girl in the world except for one huge problem. At times she can be very sweet and caring and there are other times where she can be very judgmental. She ...
A. 16 December 2010: If everything is going along great then size doesn't matter. You are normal. It's always difficult when you are learning about sex and relationships. I think you have learnt so far that rushing into sex for the sake of it doesnt do much for your ... (read in full...)
Is being a friend going to work in this situation?
Q. So my now ex girlfriend cheated on me with a random guy she now doesn't talk to anymore. We broke up, then she got back together with an ex boyfriend. She says she still wants to be my "best friend." And in the past couple of weeks has been texting ...
A. 15 December 2010: No, i don't believe you can be just a friend with someone youve had a relationship with. She could be keeping you on standby in case this relationship fails. If her boyfriend finds out as well it could get messy. Let her know to call you when she's ... (read in full...)
Rebound dating: is it a bad idea?
Q. Its been about a month since my girlfriend of two years broke up with me and I've been trying to get out of this "mopey" stage. I've been working out, painting, writing, doing my school work, hanging out with friends... you name it. However, it...
A. 15 December 2010: What a refreshing change to hear of a young person wanting to date and not put it about a bit. I think a few dates would do you good. You could have some fun back in your life and it's a very good idea. You seem to have a good head on your ... (read in full...)
Should I move in with my FWB?
Q. So I have been talking to this guy from work now for about three month, we kinda argreeded that it is a FWB relationship, but now we r taking about moving in with each other and still see other people. The problem is that I am falling for him and I ...
A. 15 December 2010: Wow, arent you bothered about catching an STD in the first instance. So you want to move in with someone who will be seeing other people as well. Your self esteem seems extremely low for you to put up with such a situation. He is 42 talking of ... (read in full...)
After months of no contact the ex sent a note. Should I respond?
Q. my ex and i had disagreements and broke up 6 months ago, i wrote him emails and called but he ignored me and didn't respond for the 3 months i tried to contact him. i finally quit trying to contact him, and then 3 months later he contacts me, but ...
A. 15 December 2010: Yes I'm thinking what was he doing while he wasnt responding to your emails etc, he's not changed any of his details has he? So I'm presuming he's been in a very short relationship during this time so ignored you. Now I suppose he is finished with ... (read in full...)
Husband does not find me sexy, feeling like I may end up cheating!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have always been a very faithful person I have never even thought of cheating in any of my relationships. Me and my husband got married about 6 months ago and for some reason I feel like I am going to cheat on him. I am trying...
A. 15 December 2010: Well I'm afraid your relationship is doomed from the start. Fancy your husband, marrying you 'for life', and saying he doesnt find you sexy. What's that all about. We like to feel treasured and loved and some marriages do go very stale without a ... (read in full...)
Confused about my love for him and his love for her!
Q. Okay well here's my story. I went out with this one guy who i really liked but wasn't really that into, he told me he loved me and everything. And about two months or so he broke up with me. As soon as he was gone my whole life crumbled before m...
A. 14 December 2010: In my opinion if two people love each other then no man stands in the way. Two people will be together. The excuse of loving two people is like having his cake and eating it. You are both very young. When we are young we have lots of different ... (read in full...)
My mom is driving me up the wall! I need good advice!
Q. Ive met this wonderful guy on the internet not to mention for privacy purposes ...Anyway to make a long story short we:ve been dating for 3 months well... He;s takin me out and its been wonderful... as time went by he came to my home to meet the ...
A. 14 December 2010: No your mother has no right at all to tell you who you can and can't see. You are doing nothing wrong. All you can do is scare her into thinking you are gonna leave and she can live somewhere on her own away from you. I'm sure you wouldnt really ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my ex's best friend!
Q. My ex and I broke up Sept 2009, and hes been with someone else for over a year. I still love him and want him back, and we talk a lot, but obviously hes with someone else. Over the past several months I've started talking and becoming close to...
A. 14 December 2010: Would you know for sure whether your ex has truly got over you. That theres absolutely no chance of you getting back together again. If not then you must live your life and go with what you want to do and not put it on hold. Your ex has made his ... (read in full...)
What can I do to take things to the next level?
Q. Ive known this guy for like 5 years or so. The only thing is that i never meet him in person until like 5 months ago. We meet we talked about ourselves and so on. We recetly had sex and i was okay with it but im starting to develope feelings for ...
A. 14 December 2010: Hi, he probably doesnt need to commit to you now. Youve got the sex thing out of the way for him and i think thats probably all he wanted. Maybe you should have got to know him a bit better and found out his motives before you had sex. Now along ... (read in full...)
I think my GF and best friend are secretly dating!
Q. hello, i think my GF and my best friend are scretly dating behind my back, ive been with her a year and my GF and my best friend were going out with each other before, they allways make jokes about them having sex blah blah blah and say im paranoid, ...
A. 14 December 2010: Simply ask them outright. I'm sorry but how I'm reading it they are playing around with your feelings. They may not be actually doing it but they may be flirting and maybe on the verge of going there. Its really not fair on you whatever game they ... (read in full...)
Nothing seems to work!
Q. Okay, i have a question. its a bit similar to the others i have posted, but i didnt get a decent response so i'll post a more recent 'update' of sorts. my boyfriend and i have been having sex for about a month now. as it turns out, i didnt have ...
A. 14 December 2010: He sounds like a bull in a china shop. Trying too hard really. If you both had true feelings for each other you would take it a bit slower and work very gently on the foreplay. You need to be relaxed. Is the place where you are actually getting ... (read in full...)
Girl took a really impulsive decision and I wonder if I should take her back?
Q. Hey Do you think that girls sometimes go and look for other male contact to try and figure out if what they have right now is what they really want? We dated for roughly 4+ years and we stared out very young. We where so in love that we would dr...
A. 12 December 2010: It does sound like your girlfriend thinks the grass is greener on the other side. Taking a break is a good excuse to try other people out, then know that the safety net of 'you' is still there if it doesnt work out. Like second choice. While ever ... (read in full...)
I'm so confused. Do I go for it?
Q. Alright, this is a long one. There's this girl that has been in my youth group for a couple years, but I never really got to know her. I'm the only one from my school in my youth group....the others all go to a school about 15 minutes away. We can ...
A. 12 December 2010: Shes definately gone cool on you. She has other interests and I'm afraid that she could be playing you all off against each other, she is spoilt for choice. I suggest you stop texting her because her responses are causing you great concern and you ... (read in full...)
We may need to break up because of his mother!
Q. i have been in a relationship for ten years with my boyfriend. we spent five years together and he travelled for five years. everything was fine until he came back and wanted to see my parents and his parents to announce the relationship. his mother ...
A. 12 December 2010: You need to reasure his mother that you are not the little girl who disrespected her elders and you have grown, matured and seen the errors of your ways. Ask her if she will accept your apology and would appreciate her guidance on how to act in the ... (read in full...)
How do I set things straight?
Q. Ok, I'll paste what's happened and then furnish it with details afterwards: Ok, so: I met this girl online years ago (Please let's not focus on the online aspect, it's all good) we fell for each other recently and I have travelled to her univ...
A. 12 December 2010: You need to let her know that you are not setting out to make her pregnant but because she is worried you need to set her mind at rest. She could buy a test at the chemist over the counter that's easy. That's what she needs to do, she sounds very ... (read in full...)
Due to circumstance involving this girl I feel like my life is unraveling around me!
Q. Dear Cupid, please can you help me. I'm 31 years of age, I suffer from crohns disease, epilespy, bi polar depression and anxiety, I have 2 sons from a previous relationship who I now don't see and in july I met this girl and we slept together a...
A. 12 December 2010: Talk to your parents about it all. This girl sounds like she has immense problems of her own. She could be just messing with your head about being pregnant. Do you know for sure. If she is and she wants you to support the child then you could ... (read in full...)
How I should keep this relationship because I want to eventually hangout
Q. hi everyone. we met when we were kids, and now were 21. she had a huge crush on me as kids now we just started talking online as friends. we has some fun convos. and this is the ending of one of the comments she left me. im so into talking to her b...
A. 12 December 2010: Looks like she wants to take it further but is waiting for the lead. I'm old fashioned in that respect and so are some girls. They like the man to take the lead so that they don't come across as being too needy or pushy. Simply ask her for her ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship just one of habit?
Q. hey, i'll try to make this as short as possible. I am a 19 year old female and have been in my first gay relationship with my gf for nearly a year now. in the beginning we broke up, only for a week or so, cos i felt i wasnt ready. anyway since then ...
A. 12 December 2010: You have certainly got a good bond with your girlfriend. The other stuff you will have to work at. You cant make your girlfriend change into something she isnt. There must be other things you do together that made you love her in the first place. ... (read in full...)
Has he become the guy I dread?
Q. So there's this boy I really like, let's say A. A and I have known each other for about two years, talking/hanging out a lot since about September, and I fell for him at the beginning of October. A is super sweet, hilarious, kind, and one ...
A. 12 December 2010: Reading between the lines i think his friend is doing both of you no favours. His friend should not be passing messages back and forth. He may be wanting you to be his first one because of the way you talk to him. Which to be honest would scare ... (read in full...)
My FWB cancelled out with a lame excuse
Q. I have this friend with benefits we decided we didnt want a relationship but tonight i called and asked what i was doing i invited him over. he said make sure im awake and dont fall asleep on him, which i always do. two hours later he text me and ...
A. 12 December 2010: Well to say he is a friend with benefits I'm afraid that you are having more feelings for him than you care to mention. You arent supposed to care about that are you if it's just for sex. No one of course can do this without feeling for someone ... (read in full...)
My friend usually criticises what she did last night
Q. I went to a party at a friends house last night and there was alcohol, i'm not much of a drinker, so i hung around with my other friends who just wanted to dance and have fun. The problem is, my close who i used to have respect for got 'drunk' ...
A. 12 December 2010: Your friend was showing signs of flirting. She may have fancied someone there and wanted to be attention seeking. The drink was the confidence she needed. I'ts all part of growing up and i wouldnt worry too much about it.Whenever there is drink at ... (read in full...)
The unthinkable happened, he just wants to be friends
Q. Last night my boyfriend Angel told me he just wants to be friends. It happened all of a sudden and I didn't see it coming. The reason for it is somewhat vague and I haven't fully grasped why yet because Angel was having a hard time expressing ...
A. 12 December 2010: He's asking for permission to end it. Very nicely of course. You shouldnt let your friend get involved with the two way phone thing. It sounds as if your boyfriend is thinking that the travelling/distance is going to be too much, which of course ... (read in full...)
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