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writes:Hey - little bit confused, someone help. When we were younger, going out with someone was formalised by saying "will you go out with me?" It was simple and you knew exactly where you stood. Now that we're older, how do we formalise dating? There's a guy I like, we go for coffee a lot, go out for food etc, how do I let him know I'm interested and how do I find out where I stand? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sausha  +, writes (4 December 2008):
I'd have to agree, have you guys kissed? Even this though is not enough, my boyfriend and I were "seeing each other" for I don't know how long before I found out we were actually together. How do relationships get formalized when you're older, that's a good question. I had to find out when we were in an argument and he blurted out that he "didn't want his girlfriend........". All I can say is if you want to truly know what's going on and you believe you've moved past the informal get togethers, ask him to go out for dinner, make it somewhere more formal, go for some drinks and see where that goes. Do NOT sit around and play the where do I stand game for long for it will begin to impede your relationship given there is one. Look for hints that he really cares you on a higher level than would a friend and if all else fails open up and ask him yourself, if you're too shy some drinks just may bring down the barriers.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (4 December 2008):
 Usually a kiss forms the first bond doesnt it? Ask him if he'd like to go out on a night for a drink and see how the land lies from there. Sometimes having a drink makes you feel more relaxed and able to open up more. hope this helps.
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