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We are both insecure and now it's starting to get out of hand! Help!
Q. I have been with my now husband for almost 5 yrs. he is a bit older than me and has two older children,I have 3 from another marriage and we have one together. At first it seemed like things would last forever. In the begining of our relationship I ...
A. 4 September 2010: That sounds a positive idea. Jobs can ruin lives can't they if they arent what we really want. I hope you can work this thru. Maybe he could re think about changing his job and hours although that's easier said than done. Good luck!... (read in full...)
We are both insecure and now it's starting to get out of hand! Help!
Q. I have been with my now husband for almost 5 yrs. he is a bit older than me and has two older children,I have 3 from another marriage and we have one together. At first it seemed like things would last forever. In the begining of our relationship I ...
A. 3 September 2010: I'ts typical isnt it. The timing on anything important is never right. You could go in at another angle. Let him know how upset your friend is because she is grieving, ask your friend to come around while your hubby is there and let him join in ... (read in full...)
Week alone with a new guy, what do I do?
Q. Okay well I have a week off at the end of my summer classes before my fall classes start and I called that week off from work. I just really need to get out of the house because I still live at home. I've been talking to this guy and he is going to ...
A. 2 September 2010: How well do you know him? 5 Hours away is a long long way if you can't get back home in a hurry. Will you be honest with your parents about where you will be. You are old enough to do what you like but make sure you let someone know of your ... (read in full...)
How can I create more time before ejaculating?
Q. At present this is too easy for ejaculation. How can I get more time for ejaculation at the time of intercourse or masturbate? ...
A. 2 September 2010: A common factor with your age group. Don't worry too much about early ejaculation, learn tecniques to continue to pleasure you woman and she won't mind too much. It isnt the be all and end all of a womans pleasure. Experience and being with a ... (read in full...)
We are both insecure and now it's starting to get out of hand! Help!
Q. I have been with my now husband for almost 5 yrs. he is a bit older than me and has two older children,I have 3 from another marriage and we have one together. At first it seemed like things would last forever. In the begining of our relationship I ...
A. 2 September 2010: Some men can get very possessive when they see a change in their women i.e. you've lost a bit of weight. You may be showing signs of growing self esteem and he could feel threatened. He sounds paranoid and very insecure. You need to have a bit of ... (read in full...)
Testing the waters with online friend again..any advice?
Q. I met a lovely guy on line a few months ago. The first day we spent together was great. I then subsequently spent two full weekends with him in June and July. Things progressed quickly. He lived over 100 miles form me so a lot of the ...
A. 2 September 2010: Sounds to me that you are doing it all the right way, taking it a bit slower. Spending two weeks together with someone you don't really know personally can be very hard. At least you both want another go at it. I'm sure there could be something ... (read in full...)
Bored with our online conversations sometimes..
Q. I've been talking to this guy since December by sending each other messages on this website.Our conversations were 99% of the times interesting,and my attraction for him kept growing.So My profile there got deleted,and I e-mailed him to ask him if ...
A. 2 September 2010: I can see how its getting a bit boring. Maybe if you reduce the time you chat, say once or twice a week and when he's not at work. Absence makes the heart grow fonder so they say. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
Trying to win someone heart back?
Q. Hi Guys, i am trying to win someone back at the moment,could you please tell me how you guys got your guy/girl back when you thought all was lost. I need to hear some positives, but i know its not going to be easy....
A. 2 September 2010: You could take it back a step and befriend her all over again. Suggest a day out somewhere, or an activity so that she can see your personality in a different light. Let her know you want to be friends, then maybe over time she will want more. Hope ... (read in full...)
My ex sounds so over me and I'm still hurting so much!
Q. hi, my name is deanna. i am heartbroken over a broken relationship. for over 3 months now, my ex and i had officially broke up. i really need advice. he obviously had got over me. i honestly love him, but due to the fact that he doesn't want me...
A. 2 September 2010: I'm sorry but he is over you. You don't want to be accused of being a 'bunny boiler'. I suggest you don't have anything to do with him, delete his number, tear up any photos. That way you must convince yourself that you arent bothered then over ... (read in full...)
Are there are any men left that won't just use me for sex?
Q. How do I find a boyfriend? Iv only slept with two people and they weren't even my boyfriends, they got what they wanted and left me. Iv been used twice now and just want a boyfriend who'll want me for me, not just my body. Are there any men like ...
A. 10 August 2010: Don't sleep with someone who isnt your boyfriend or who you hardly know. The key is to make friends first and find out if this is the special one for you. Anyone can sleep with anyone but a sustainable long lasting relationship is based on ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend flirting and lying about it, what is he doing?
Q. i am in a comitted ldr...i and my bf are together since one year and one month... my problem is that he has made a friend in girl in facebook and i feel that my bf is trying to flirt with her. i checked his mailbox and found that he was asking t...
A. 10 August 2010: Sounds like he's looking elsewhere but trying not to be caught out. He probably thinks it's a harmless bit of fun but he shouldnt be wanting phone numbers and addresses. Where else will he take this with that information in hand. Tell him to ... (read in full...)
I love sex but don't have orgasms!
Q. I'm a female and I love having sex. This may be a weird question to ask, but I'm curious. Every man that I've had sex with experienced an orgasim but myself. Even my friends have. Is it me? Are my sexual partners not pleasing me enough? I would ...
A. 27 July 2010: Can take a long time. You will be one of those people who are waiting for Mr. Right and trust enough to really let yourself go. Only then will you feel fullfilled. Making love and having sex are really worlds apart as you will find out one day. I ... (read in full...)
How do you put your penis in your briefs?
Q. Okay this might be an awkward question, but here goes. How do you put your penis in your briefs? I'm asking this because I put my penis in one of the sides of the brief because it's easier if you get an erection, am I the only one or are there ot...
A. 27 July 2010: All these comments have been fun lol, hope this helps ... (read in full...)
How do you put your penis in your briefs?
Q. Okay this might be an awkward question, but here goes. How do you put your penis in your briefs? I'm asking this because I put my penis in one of the sides of the brief because it's easier if you get an erection, am I the only one or are there ot...
A. 11 June 2010: You'd have to maybe buy some briefs that are a bit more expensive than you usually buy, big enough to feel comfortable in. They make briefs in all shapes and sizes, you may have to experiment first. Some men dress to the left, some the right. My ... (read in full...)
Why do I have to involve my friends in my relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship with a lad 2 years older than me, and its a long distance relatioship. We see eachother every 4-5 months and we both feel the same and want the same in the relationship, i cant see my future without him. But theres one problem, ...
A. 11 June 2010: Long distance relationships are difficult at the best of times. Some do work. Your mum will be wondering what he's like because she won't be able to see him either enough so she's bound to be worried. I had a friend who was in one for five years. ... (read in full...)
Can I still get my ex boyfriend back?
Q. Hello everybody I need advice please.. I was with my ex boyfriend for 3 years and he broke up with me because he said he needed space and time to him self.. I was sooo sad and depress I was really sad.. He said he wanted to live life and enjoy be...
A. 11 June 2010: I think you handled it brilliantly by not answering his calls. He didnt like it did he. I'ts okay for him to walk away and tell you he needs to live, but he doesnt want you to have a life. You are not a sitting duck waiting for him to pick you up ... (read in full...)
He said he needs time away...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years. I love him very much.I have been nagging at him lately and its only because of the way I'm treated.he seems to spend a lot of time latey with his best friend and I have been feeling beyond ...
A. 11 June 2010: Sounds like he's keeping you hanging on. Let him have his time away. He is not treating you right. The beach is a big enough place there was room for you on it. There's no excuse why you couldnt have gone. Maybe he has the hots for the mates ... (read in full...)
Why do I always go crawling back when we fall out?
Q. I Need Your Help, Please! Okay, this might take a very very long time to type up but here goes. I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year and 6 months now, but we have always been particularly close for the past 5 years. But, he was pret...
A. 11 June 2010: The classic love triangle. You need to think seriously about what you want or who you want. I'ts not y our fault one of the guys is on drugs, that's his choice. Distance yourself from both these guys. You will get yourself in a knot if you don't ... (read in full...)
He wants to end our relationship over his band!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years.... he just recently started a band.. he is the most important thing in my life, i cant be with out him.. i just cant... he just told me today he wants to break it off because he will be traveling ...
A. 11 June 2010: Go with him, you can help with the equipment, be a roady. Or is there some underlying reason he can't do this. People in love will move mountains to be together. There shouldnt be any excuses at all as to why he would want to leave you behind. ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't we have given up on each other by now?
Q. ok so this guy and i have known each other for about two years. We really had this thing going on. He liked me first and he showed it. He always talked to me and asked me for help or wanted to tell me something that i honestly didnt care about but ...
A. 11 June 2010: If he ditches his gf and you ditch your bf then you will find out if there's anything there. Sounds like he wants there to be something. You are both young and finding your way around, you will kiss many frogs before you will find your prince. ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and he won't get over it- what do I do?
Q. I cheated on my man. I was wrong, I admit it, and I would turn back time and stay true to him if I could. But I can't, and I let him know that, but now he treats me like I do it everyday, conrtolling me and always accusing me of doing stuff with...
A. 11 June 2010: He needs to get over it, but it will be very hard. If you can't live with the accusations then it will destroy you both. You need to suggest that you will walk away from the relationship if that's what he wants. If he doesnt want that then he ... (read in full...)
How can I find a good balance while dating?
Q. in the past i went from 0-to-60 in a matter of weeks when dating, and once the infatuation wore off, there was the inevitable argument that i'd pick to get out of it. that, or i just wouldn't call to the point it just fizzled away. i met my girlfrie...
A. 11 June 2010: Go out and do your own stuff on the days you don't see her. If you have an interest, introduce it to her, share a hobby. There is a million and one things to do on this planet and you both sound obsessed with breaking up. That must make you both ... (read in full...)
Leave it alone or tell him?
Q. okay it started with me liking this guy , lets called him "bob" he is realy nice and funny and everything i look in a guy, i got friendly with him and we started to talk but then i found out he liked my best friend, i was realy annoyed because my ...
A. 11 June 2010: Tell your friend that if she doesnt want him you want to make a play for him but you won't tread on her toes if she does want to go out with him. That's being fair. If she can't give him an answer it sounds like she isnt that bothered about him ... (read in full...)
Help! Married woman in love with another woman.
Q. Dear cupid, I am a married woman in love with another woman. My husband hates it and not seeing her is killing me. I love them both very much but obviously cannot make both of them happy. She was even willing to be just a side thing but he ...
A. 11 June 2010: Whether it be a man or a woman it is still classed as adultery if you are in a sexual relationship with someone else other than your husband. You must choose one or the other to have any kind of peace. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Issue regarding leakage around the non-flowered vagina?
Q. please any advice? i've browsed and browsed and found nothing with this issue regarding leakage around the non-deflowered vagina.. recently had anal sex with my girlfriend but it slipped near her vagina (it's never been penetrated not even fing...
A. 11 June 2010: It can happen. Use protection at all times. There are other things that can be passed on,not just a pregnancy happening. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Is there a device I can use to protect my upper lip when I give him oral?
Q. I love to give my boyfriend oral and receive tremendous satisfaction from pleasing him. I like to swallow his cum, however, it takes about 15 minuets of working him hard and fast to get my (and his) reward. I wrap my top lip over my teeth so I don’t ...
A. 11 June 2010: You could always get one of those 'gum shields that boxers use' Imagine that! hope this helps.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want a girlfriend so am I being stupid?
Q. I need help. I’m in process of separation and divorce and about two years ago I meat this guy at work –we start sleeping together .I’m very much in love with him ,he told me that he loves me too but dosen't want a girlfriend. There is big difference ...
A. 11 June 2010: Sounds like he's a player. Find a guy who wants to show the world that he loves you. He is not the one for you I'm afraid. The signs are obvious. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Did I ruin it by having sex too soon?
Q. hi, there is this guy i really like, ive known him for a long time but never really knew each other that well i just knew him through my brother... about two years ago i was rely drunk in a club an he was there and we started kissing, after that i ...
A. 11 June 2010: There could be another reason why he's blowing hot and cold, maybe he has a girlfriend whom you don't know about.... (read in full...)
.why so hot now so luke warm
Q. I have been dating a girl for the last four months, we have known each other 3 years. I am 39, she is 26. I have 5 kids , she has one but he is only with her during summer. She went really fast..pushed relationship for first four months...telling...
A. 10 June 2010: I'ts simple, Honeymoon is over, back to real life. The thrill of the chase has subsided. It could be a lot to ask for any one to take on someones child, let alone 5. She may be looking at her own child and want to put all her energies into him ... (read in full...)
How do you understand mixed messages?
Q. Ok, I need some advice. What is it about guys? Can you not just say what you want?! How do you interpret and understand all the mixed messages and tell if a guy really likes you or not. Are we just friends, do you want more? Why cant guys jus...
A. 10 June 2010: Beleive it or not, most of the guys ive met over the years are very very shy. We watch too many romantic films where the knight in the shining armour whisks us off our feet. Usually the woman has to give a guy a nudge in the right direction and ... (read in full...)
I am dying every moment! Please help!!
Q. please help to get my love i am in love with my cousin for the last 7 years. we both love ech other but she was scared of her parents dying of shame if we marry because we are Hindu brahmin and such marriages are not acceptable in our society....
A. 10 June 2010: I don't understand the depth of what you will be undertaking to go through with this. All I can say is I'm british and my son fell in love with his cousin. It made the family fall apart, but over the years we have come back together all except her ... (read in full...)
She said she couldn't accept me, but I really love her what can I do?
Q. First and foremost is that first i saw her she use to stare at me every times and she live besides my relative house.I use to watch her also when i went there but when she heard my voice or name she use to come out to look and when she's outside she ...
A. 10 June 2010: You are admiring her from afar. You don't know her. You can't just ask a girl to marry you when you don't know her. I'm sure you will scare her off. Why don't you try to get to know her instead of the full on proposal. Try breaking the ice with ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin it by having sex too soon?
Q. hi, there is this guy i really like, ive known him for a long time but never really knew each other that well i just knew him through my brother... about two years ago i was rely drunk in a club an he was there and we started kissing, after that i ...
A. 10 June 2010: Im glad you are seeing this for what it is. Sex is good if both of you feel the same way, thats special. Too many people think if they have sex with someone they've just met, that person will like them more, it's not true. If it's one sided it ... (read in full...)
He cheated so I don't trust him especially when he said "one night stands are ok"
Q. Ok well this is kinda really driving me insane lol Im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now.. i love him very much i used to think he felt the same until HE CHEETED ON ME! he addmited it to my face cause i caught h...
A. 8 June 2010: He says 'one night stands are okay'... I'll bet he doesnt want you to have one though. You will go through life and learn lessons the hard way. No one will be able to tell you what to do, but you will look back on all our advice and say ' You were ... (read in full...)
Does it seem like subconsciously my feelings for her are affecting my life?
Q. So my girlfriend and I broke up 2 months ago after being together for a year. As of late I haven't had any motivation or passion for anything and am feeling like I'm losing my grip on my life. An example of this is a vacation I went on recently...
A. 8 June 2010: For the last year youve got yourself all settled in to a routine with your girlfriend and now you are at a loss. You just need time to adjust. You would have been on the rebound when you were with the other girls. It sounds like you are in some ... (read in full...)
I asked for a hug but she said she wanted to take things slow
Q. Hi i asked a girl out yesterday.I flattered her for a few hours and then askec her out and she said yes.Today we wnet on a school trip andi went around with her.I asked her for a hug but she said she wants to take things slow.This is where i get ...
A. 8 June 2010: You are both very young. I think you are coming on a bit too fast. Hormones are raging, I think in a week or so you may think you 'love' someone else. It's definately normal for your age but something we all go through. Just look forward to ... (read in full...)
How can I achieve a female ejaculation again?
Q. So I was wondering if anyone had suggestions on making myself female ejaculate? I used to be able to but haven't been able to in many months. I have my boyfriend hit my G spot and I try different toys and I masturbate to make it work and nothing ...
A. 8 June 2010: You are trying too hard. When you are alone put the 'porn channel on ',, That should do the trick. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Did I ruin it by having sex too soon?
Q. hi, there is this guy i really like, ive known him for a long time but never really knew each other that well i just knew him through my brother... about two years ago i was rely drunk in a club an he was there and we started kissing, after that i ...
A. 8 June 2010: He isnt that bothered by the sounds of it. It doesnt look like he wants to make an effort. I wouldnt bother with him again, find someone who wants to see you more and takes time out to make you feel special. He may only want to know you because ... (read in full...)
I always go in this rage of jealousy- throwing his stuff away, confronting people.. heeeelp!
Q. Hi everybody. I need u guys help. I need to stop jealous for no reason to my boyfriend. We been dating for 4 years and we fight like every week for same reason. That's jealous things. I don't like any girl look at him or talk to him. We have all ...
A. 8 June 2010: He is feeding your jealously. He's telling you what other girls are saying to him and he knows how you will react. I think you have a very fiery relationship that you both enjoy. If you last a bit longer it may fizzle out and a bit of maturity ... (read in full...)
I want children but he doesn't!
Q. Hello I have had a lot of issues in my womb and fallopian tubes. I suffer from endometriosis, and have had one of my ovaries and fallopian tubes removed due to a large cyst. Also I underwent another operation to remove a cyst on the remaining ovary. ...
A. 8 June 2010: Sometimes the urge to want children can become stronger than the urge to stay with the man. You would have to decide before you continue. I'ts not fair to stay with a man if you want children so badly and he doesn't because he won't give the full ... (read in full...)
Is this just puberty, or am I addicted to sex?
Q. When I was younger I was touched by one of my brothers(I was 5-6), I nearly slept with two boys at the same time and me and my cousin used to touch each other. When I was 6-7 years old I said to my aunty that this man was handsome(he was ...
A. 8 June 2010: You are very sexualized because you have suffered child abuse. What you are feeling is very common with abuse. What you have to remember is not to put yourself at risk from unwanted attention. You neeed to talk to someone who understands what you ... (read in full...)
Loving someone vs being in love?
Q. Me and my bf have been going out since last year January.(I'm 19 and he is 29) He is head over heals in love with me and I'm a bit colder. I didn't feel such a big spark in the beginning and I still don't actually but I love him, we have the same ...
A. 8 June 2010: If it was honest true unconditional love, you would not be asking the question. If you are happy going along with what you have got then maybe the rest could fall in to place through love and respect. You sound like you would prefer a bit more ... (read in full...)
Ask again? Or let him of the hook?
Q. Help! Since a week or 2 I have been dating a guy and I really like him. His sister is a good friend of my best friend and she basicly set us up. He is my first boyfriend, but I don't really know if I can call him that yet(afterall, we...
A. 8 June 2010: It's probably a bit much for him. He could be a bit scared wondering how the family are going to see him. You could always say, let's go and do something after the theatre, go for a take away or something, then you could evalue the night and ... (read in full...)
He cheated so I don't trust him especially when he said "one night stands are ok"
Q. Ok well this is kinda really driving me insane lol Im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now.. i love him very much i used to think he felt the same until HE CHEETED ON ME! he addmited it to my face cause i caught h...
A. 8 June 2010: There is a big age gap. You can't trust him. You are doing all the running/texting. I don't think personally that it is going anywhere. He will probably cheat again. You can't live your life not trusting and hurting all the time wondering what ... (read in full...)
I asked for a hug but she said she wanted to take things slow
Q. Hi i asked a girl out yesterday.I flattered her for a few hours and then askec her out and she said yes.Today we wnet on a school trip andi went around with her.I asked her for a hug but she said she wants to take things slow.This is where i get ...
A. 8 June 2010: Take your time, get to know her, the rest will follow when she feels comfortable. If you go too fast she may run the other way. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
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