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How do I know if he wants a relationship without having to come right out and ask him?
Q. What do you think i should do? I know this man for 7 years. The first 3 were just little talks in GYM and couple coffes at Starbuck. Then we started being very close. We even went out sometimes. The past year we went out few times, and ended up in a ...
A. 2 October 2010: All you can do really is tell him how you feel. There is obviously a reason why he can't be just for you. Some men don't really want to be committed in a relationship. He must like you for him to be there in your hour of need. ... (read in full...)
I like him, but he doesn't talk to me anymore
Q. Okay, so... I like this guy. But you see is, he's a year older then me, and well he's my best friend's brother. Two years ago, he was at my old school. He always used to tease me about how I'd never talk, and he'd always try to get me to talk. Then, ...
A. 2 October 2010: Sounds like Cinderella doesnt it. He is a Prince Charming. Don't worry too much. He knows you are out there. You are only young. Is there any ways you could go and visit your friend, then you would be able to see him again.... (read in full...)
I don't think he loves me as much as he loved his ex
Q. Hi all... its a bit complicated story.. in summary.. i love this guy so much and i m ready to give up everything for him but he seems he dont love me as much as he loved his ex before...This is a nightmare for me..I cant remove this from my mind....
A. 2 October 2010: I usually am of an understanding that if someone loves you they will prove it. There's lots of flaws in his interest in you and i think you know the answers yourself. He probably does still love his ex and he wont be able to move on or put 100 ... (read in full...)
Ladies, do you like it if a guy is able to or wants to orgasm more than once during sex?
Q. Ladies, do you like it if a guy is able to or wants to orgasm more than once during sex? I mean like more than one time in a session...or course thre is that "recharge" time sometimes. How many times is the most you've been with a guy in one ...
A. 2 October 2010: How long is a peice of string. All women are unique, not all the same as is sometimes suggested by low lifes. Concentrate on the woman you love and what ever suits her is what you can use as your base line.
Hope this helps... (read in full...)
FWB ex--how do I remove myself from this situation?
Q. A guy friend of mine has been making life pretty tricky for me, especially recently. He has a reputation and i've been told by people in the past that he's a "dog". When we were both single we did sleep together a few times, this was a while ago ...
A. 2 October 2010: Don't have anything more to do with the Dog. Threaten to tell his girlfriend if he doesnt leave you alone. His behaviour is shocking towards you. You don't like it, you don't have to put up with it. He is sexually abusing you, did you know ... (read in full...)
Husband's emails to co-worker making me very sad
Q. I recently saw an email on my husbands phone it was to a female coworker. My heart dropped. He had sent her 30 emails in one day. Some casual chitchat some playful banter and some sexual enudios. I asked him about it.. he denied it and said he was ...
A. 2 October 2010: Looks to me like your husband is heading for an affair. If he'd nothing to hide he would not have locked everything. Is there any way you can intervene with the woman in question and let her know to 'back off'. He is obviously trying or actually ... (read in full...)
My ex tried to commit suicide and I don't want to talk to her
Q. My ex-girl friend tried to commit suicide. she has been through a lot in her life and said she wanted to give up. I told her thats not the answer. When she calls i barely speak to her because im upset and mad at her and dont wanna speak. she asks if ...
A. 2 October 2010: Try to encourage your girlfriend to go and see her doctor. She may need a counsellor, someone other than your or the family that she can talk to about why she is feeling like this because obviously there is strong reasons. You are not qualified to ... (read in full...)
My father is cheating on my mom!
Q. hi, well i think i have found my dad cheating on my mum!!! over the past few yrs his behaviour has become worse, he treats all of us at home basically like s**t!!! he is horrible to my mum often at times not talkin to her. anyways bout 2 months a...
A. 2 October 2010: Your mum probably is aware of all this going on because he is treating her badly. You need to help her find the strength to tackle this. Try to get her on her own and see if she will talk to you, then you will know her feelings about this and ... (read in full...)
My ex who dumped me is now drinking excessively! what can I do?
Q. My ex has started going out drinking since our breakup, she very rarely drank alcohol before we broke up and now she's out doing it a lot. I care about her still, as much as I want to move on, I kinda don't want her out doing stupid things, she's ...
A. 2 October 2010: It may just be a phase she is going through to try and come to terms with the break up. If you show her that you are bothered about this then she may do it more to try and win you back. She is obviously upset. You may have to go in with the ... (read in full...)
After 25 years of no contact,can he be 100% trustworthy?
Q. Twenty-five years ago, I fell in love with a Turkish man, and he with me I believe. He was very kind and very protective of me. After 3-4 months, he took me to meet his entire family in two different cities. And he asked me to marry him. I had been ...
A. 2 October 2010: Reading through the lines I feel that this man is trying to scam you. What you had was a holiday romance with him. He is married, he is trying to exort money from you. He has cooled off a bit since no money has surfaced. My advice to you, if you ... (read in full...)
No erection during sex.
Q. I began dating a boy about three months ago, he's 18 and I'm 19, and during this time we've fooled around and he was never able to ejaculate with me, but could through masturbation. Clearly, this threw me off, but as we continued to work at it, he ...
A. 2 October 2010: don't worry too much about it, just have fun. People who take sex too seriously will make problems for themselves. Just get to know each other in other ways and get closer and everything will turn out just fine. You are young and it's early days. ... (read in full...)
Conflicting advice on how to deal with my addict children
Q. Im in a great confusion about my part as a parent in my 2 addicted sons life. It is becoming a turmoil to me.The story started 10 years ago, when they both were teenagers. And the confusions too.So long story short, they were good kids, but some ...
A. 28 September 2010: Theyve been living this kind of life for years. I don't think anything you do now will help if it didnt work then. All you can do is to be there when they need you. Encourage them to seek help if they want it but they'll only change their lives ... (read in full...)
Bored with the relationship and want to break up, but she'd be devestated
Q. I've been with a girl 5 months and I'm beginning to get bored. We slept together after a week, have been on holiday together, and have also been on family meals with each others families. Our sex life is really good, but everything else is boring. ...
A. 28 September 2010: Best to let her know now and let her get over it, rather than drag it out and end up hating each other later. Just be honest with her. No one wants to stay where they arent wanted, these things happen in life. Thankfully you have no children ... (read in full...)
Is a second chance possible?
Q. Me and this girl have known each other for 8 years now through contact over the internet. Earlier this year we found out our mutual love for each other, we were in regular contact and loved just taking to each other. After I graduated I decided to ...
A. 28 September 2010: It all sounded good, then the bit about why she didnt lose her virginity to you, that's probably where it went wrong in my eyes. You may be best just keeping friends if that's possible. You could write your feelings down for her to read, it may ... (read in full...)
My parents think the sooner I'm gone the better
Q. my parents seem to hate me. i mean some times are really good and i really love them but others they just seem to hate me. i always argue with my mum and she always gets me down. according to her i can't do anything right. 'i'm fat, i am stupid' ...
A. 28 September 2010: As a mother with a '23' yr old still at home, studying,(supposidly) on his xbox or laptop all day, I think that it could be just the age. When you are at school you get supported but once youve left then parents expect you to get a job and support ... (read in full...)
I feel incredibly disrespected and am not sure how or if to move on
Q. I can't shake what happened between my ex bf and I over the summer and am unsure of what to do. The month of March was really rocky for my boyfriend and I. We had been dating for 4 years and a lot of stress was coming to a head. I was graduating...
A. 28 September 2010: Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it. He probably doesnt want to settle down and by going on the cruise etc he may be seen as that. He isnt ready to settle into a relationship with you. He probably tried the other woman out, realized that he ... (read in full...)
Ashamed and disgusted that I lied about being pregnant twice!
Q. When I was younger (Im now 27), I had really low self esteem and a drug problem. When I started a relationship with a guy, it would always end badly because I would become clingy or too much for them. I could not deal with this rejection and on 2 ...
A. 28 September 2010: You've only grown up and matured and now letting the silly mistakes of your youth prey on your mind. To be able to move on you need to tackle each guy and let them know what you put them through. Hopefully they will understand now that they are all ... (read in full...)
Why does he not communicate? Why does he act that way?
Q. I am very confused and I just need some direction.I've been seeing this guy for about 10 months now and this is our second time around. After first 4 months into our relationship. He felt I didn't cared about him/relationship. And that he was tired ...
A. 18 September 2010: Let him have his vacation. Things sound like they are on a different footing because you have b roken up before, he could be more cautious this time. You must wait until he comes home and talk to him face to face. You may be being a bit paranoid ... (read in full...)
He's 400 miles away from me, how do I deal with it?
Q. My boyfriend has moved 400 miles away to University. Even though he's been gone just a few days and we've talked on the phone every day, I still miss him so much. The thought of only seeing him a few times a year makes it worse. (I may see him more ...
A. 18 September 2010: You now have a long distance relationship. Thats going to be so tough. You could keep in touch on facebook and by email. That will keep expensive phone calls down and also you could see him with the web cam. That seems to be the way of the world ... (read in full...)
Event with ex girlfriend
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a long distance relationship but we've recently broken up and decided to remain good friends. The problem is that we have an event scheduled two months from now and are planning to attend it. We've bought the tickets ...
A. 18 September 2010: I should try and sell the tickets if i were you. If things arent going the way they should it would ruin the event for you anyway. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
How can I solve these issues and reduce my interest in sex?
Q. How do I decrease my desire for sex? I have been in a relationship just over a year now and I very cautiously asked my girlfriend about having sex (I was cautious because I didn't want to put on any pressure and because of what has happened in ...
A. 18 September 2010: Don't worry too much and going into the politics of sex. A good fulfilling sex life with the same person can take years and you two are so young at the moment. Your girlfriend could have issues for the simple reason she is crying during the act. I ... (read in full...)
Every time I think of him I will see her right next to him...
Q. i have been dating this guy for almost 8 months now....and 2 years ago my best friend used to date him, we werent friends back then so its like okay im dating her ex, yesterday while i was talking on the fone with him,i brought up my friends name, ...
A. 18 September 2010: I wonder why he told you in the first place. Young people will try most things because of peer pressure. He may have told y ou because he doesnt want you to hear it from your friend. Try to forget it now if you can. I'ts not good to bring past ... (read in full...)
I am trapped in this marriage!
Q. i am married for 3 n half years and hv a 7mnth old son. On several occassions my husband beat me up and forced on me. B4 having baby he made me undergo pregnancy termination twice and md me pregnant recently by forcing sex without protection bt i ...
A. 18 September 2010: Take your baby to visit your step mom and dad. Tell them what is happening. I'm sure once they listen to your story they will help you. ... (read in full...)
I'm liking my boyfriend's friend!
Q. ok so ive been going out with my bf now for almost 6 months and in 9th grade. suddenly i started falling for one of his best friends and i have a feeling his friend has some feelings for me cuz he flirts with me alittle but not over the top . heres ...
A. 18 September 2010: Your of the age where it's the most natural feeling in the world to look around and see how the land lies as far as relationships goes. If you end up with this lad it won't stop you looking around still because the grass seems always greener. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend talks badly to me, won't see me, why am I putting up with him?
Q. i been with boyfriend for 4 months he used to be really sweet, texts saying i love you and on the phone saying how am part of him and he wants our relationship to grow stronger. recently all that stopped, his become distant and change in his voice ...
A. 18 September 2010: Sounds like he is playing you. You will come in handy for him when he has a gap in his life. He's let y ou down more than once. How many more times will he get away with it. Once is once too many. Try to move on and find someone who really ... (read in full...)
Can my now married ex really be comfortable with us working at the same place?
Q. My situation is rather complicated (i'm sure that's not the first time your heard that) but please I am seeking sincere advice not abusive comment. I am asking the ladies what they think. I started a relationship with a female around three year...
A. 18 September 2010: Hi, It sounds like you are not over her at all. I should just try to treat her as just another work collegue. After all she is married now and won't be pleased if you cause her any complications. She's made her choice. I used to work in a large ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to say to someone that you like them but not implying that you want a relationship?
Q. Is there any way to say to someone that you like them but not implying that you want a relationship? I've known this guy for a couple of months and I feel it's too soon for a serious involvement but I want to tell him that I like him for starters...
A. 15 September 2010: Hi, you've known him for a couple of months. My guess is that he knows you like him. Is there a reason why you should want to spell that out or are you wanting more of 'friendship' time. You could suggest some activity that friends get involved ... (read in full...)
All the drama with his ex is making him question our relationship. Help!
Q. I'm confused n don't know what to do please help? Me n my boyfriend have been together for a couple months now but have had quit a bit of problems but they weren't about us. He has kids with his ex who's is now seeing someone else but always caps n ...
A. 10 September 2010: If he is mentioning that he has unfinished business with his Ex and they have kids together. Thats a tall order and you will have your work cut out trying to keep him soley for yourself in my experience. He sounds confused and if he is in jail his ... (read in full...)
I want more self confidence but just don't know where to start!
Q. Hey everyone .. need you help =/ over th past few days ive been feeling like crap .. i have no confindence at all .... and i just feel really ugly =/ i just feel like crying =/ school has made it even worse .. im like madly inlove with one of my ma...
A. 8 September 2010: You probably know what I'm going to say, first of all, you are wasting your time chasing after a teacher, thats a no no area. Theres lots of things you can do with your hair to improve your self confidence, lots of products on the market, without ... (read in full...)
Am I running away from my feelings for this girl?
Q. Ok, am I running away from my feelings. I met this girl at camp and I fell for her. We hung out at camp and became friends, we didn`t leave camp on very good terms (I told her I liked her but in a cowerdly way) she truth or dared me to tell her who ...
A. 8 September 2010: Yes you are avoiding the issue. Why don't you start messaging on facebook and see how the land lies.... (read in full...)
Is it very hard to divorce and start a new life at 50?
Q. Is it very hard to divorce and start a new life at 50? I feel this relationship is ended, even there was 26 years invested. But I'm a strong believer, marriage without sex, is a sin. I feel, if there is no medical cause, and your husband dont look ...
A. 8 September 2010: I was gonna suggest the gym as well mizz. butterflies. I am in my fifties and been going to the gym for the first time in my life since April. What a change in my body shape,my stamina, self esteem and fitness. I would recommend it to anyone.... (read in full...)
Is it very hard to divorce and start a new life at 50?
Q. Is it very hard to divorce and start a new life at 50? I feel this relationship is ended, even there was 26 years invested. But I'm a strong believer, marriage without sex, is a sin. I feel, if there is no medical cause, and your husband dont look ...
A. 8 September 2010: Unfortunatly it can be very common at your age. Maybe you could try to spice the marriage up. Can you pinpoint at what stage things changed for you both. Surely after 26 yrs you can open the lines of communication and talk about your feelings with ... (read in full...)
In-lust, in-like, in-love?? You tell me!
Q. I'm not sure what to make of my feelings. Am i just in-lust, in-like, or in-love? what does it all mean? There is this guy that for the past 4 months or so we've hung out on and off, with a group and alone. It started off really slow, then event...
A. 8 September 2010: Even at four months is still early days in any relationship. He's keeping you at arms length. Do you feel like you may be coming on a bit too strongly for his needs at the moment. Let him make all the moves now and see how he feels. He obviously ... (read in full...)
Was it the wrong decision for me to wish my ex a happy birthday?
Q. I decided to say happy birthday to my ex, even though we havn't spoken in months and ended on pretty bad terms. i don't want to start talking to him, and who knows if he wants to talk to me. was it a wrong decision or bad idea to wish him a happy ...
A. 8 September 2010: I would ask yourself the question of why you would want to be in touch with him again for what ever reason. Put it down to experience and don't dwell on it. You sound like you wanted a response or maybe just a chance to be able to iron out your ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I like him anymore because of this girl!
Q. hey...i need help... my friend a boy, who i've known For a long time about 11 years i've never thought of liking him as more than a friend. this is my problem we're seatmates and we usually talk about everything and it's usually just the two of us ...
A. 8 September 2010: You have been friends for a long time and eventually he would meet someone who he may have a relationship with. Can you cope and accept that this could happen and can you live with that or do you feel more about him than what you thought?... (read in full...)
I passed the test...thanks for the great advice!
Q. Hi, I just like to thank Dear cupid and the people who answer me before. I write here the time i was really down because of my exam. That i was very scared maybe because im too worried that maybe i will not pass the test. And here, somebody's...
A. 8 September 2010: Just for the fact that you were concerned y ourself about your grades means that you take them seriously. Now you know you can achieve what ever you set your heart on. I wish you well in the future. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Trying to look older
Q. How to make myself look older? I'm 19 and I guess I look my age or less. I probably look 20 or 21 if I wear make up or maybe even my age some people say. However, I would like to look older maybe 23 or something. My boyfriend is 34 and its weird...
A. 8 September 2010: Don't worry, age has a way of making you look it as time goes by. When you get older you will wish you were younger, trust me it will come naturally. ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him to be with the other guy but I love them both!
Q. i am going out with this guy(boy 1) and have been on and off for most of 2010. but then this other guy came along(boy 2) and said he liked me and wrote me a poem and treats me waaaaay better than my actual boyfriend.boy 2 says he loves me and he is ...
A. 8 September 2010: There must have been a crack in your relationship with Guy 1 or Guy 2 could not have penetrated it to make you feel for him. If you love Guy1 ditch Guy2 and work on the relationship and ways to make it better. I've been in similar situations and ... (read in full...)
What to do when head and heart are telling you different things?
Q. What can you do when your heart and head are in conflict about your relationship? What can you do when your heart is telling you this is the woman of your dreams, someone you completely love and would wait an eternity for, while your head is sta...
A. 7 September 2010: If that's the case there won't be a lot you can do about it. Keep on with the friendship and treasure that. Maybe down the line a bit she will have the same feelings. If she doesnt then at least you won't lose her as a friend. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
Cheating girlfriend
Q. I've been dating this girl for four months and i was aware she was a slut by the time i got involved with her but i thought she was going to change as time goes on but she didnt. I use to call her a slut and she kept on telling me that she was not ...
A. 7 September 2010: Youve definately got an attraction for her. Have some respect for her and stop calling her a 'slut'. It can only improve. The girl has already told you that she doesnt like it and you've probably pushed her away now. If you want to try again ... (read in full...)
Does she want to start things up again?
Q. This girl told me that we shouldn't be anything at all we went out a while back but now she's apologized for being a jerk. We've startd texting just a little. there's nothing wrong with a sex buddy but how do I know whether that's what she wants or ...
A. 7 September 2010: The hug things no good is it. If she's not full on with you then obviously somethings still missing. Just accept her apology and move on by the sounds of it. If she really wants you she will make all the moves initially. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
Does she want to start things up again?
Q. This girl told me that we shouldn't be anything at all we went out a while back but now she's apologized for being a jerk. We've startd texting just a little. there's nothing wrong with a sex buddy but how do I know whether that's what she wants or ...
A. 3 September 2010: The fact that she has apologized for being a jerk says it all. sounds like she has stepped away from the situation, had a think about it, realized what you had and now wants another go at it. Give her a chance. I think she may want more than just ... (read in full...)
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