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I want him to miss me and call me... how can I do this?
Q. well me and my boyfriend are going to be 2 years together already and i dont know why but he has changed with me a lot! Before he used to call me lots of times, we used to talk like for 3 hours sometimes i had to even take my phone to the restroom ...
A. 28 November 2010: When two people get together in the early days it's called the 'honeymoon' period. Lots of conversation, flirting, texting, calls etc. But eventually this will die down. It's usually because you are more comfortable with each other. The ... (read in full...)
He likes me, he likes me not...how can I tell?
Q. This is sort of a string of questions so here goes...How do i know if he likes me?? I dont want to ask/tell him bluntly coz i dont want to get myself hurt again. He smiles at me, sits next to me in class, and i caught him looking at me so he flicked ...
A. 28 November 2010: You sit next to him in class. Ask him questions about the work you are doing. That will boost his ego if he can help you with that. He will be showing you how intelligent he is. All men like to show off in that department. He may have been a ... (read in full...)
Is this just him realizing he still loves his ex?
Q. okay im here jus for advice. im 27 and my ex who broke up with me like 3 weeks ago is 28, he has a ex 31 yrs old whom he has 2 kids with and lives with her mom and has no job or education. but neways we just had a baby 7 weeks ago and living ...
A. 28 November 2010: Situation is more difficult now. He wasnt a good father to his two kids, they were younger, now they are coming into their own personalities and can attract the father more now. You are in a delicate situation, he didnt want to know his first two ... (read in full...)
Every dream is about me going out with a different guy
Q. Dear Cupid, hi I have a question about a few of my dreams that really have me going. I just can't figure them out. I am currently not dating anyone. Well this last past week I have had a dream everynight. Each dream is about me going out with a ...
A. 28 November 2010: You are testing the waters with scenarios and different people in your dreams. Dreams are a way of untangling problems whilst we sleep. Your deep thoughts are probably that you want to see how the land lies with your first boyfriend. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
Teacher Tension
Q. Ill start of by giving a little bit of background information. I am a 17 year old girl who is currently in grade 12. I have been going to the same high school for 4 years and recently (grade 11) a new teacher arrived at our school. I was as...
A. 28 November 2010: My advice to you is just get on with your work and then leave, leave him behind as well. He could be playing some game, because you showed no signs of being interested in him, he could be testing you to see if he can win you over. Don't read too ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? Am I uninterested... please help.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over three years. There are a lot of amazing moments and sometimes there are those "stupid arguments for no reason" like recently, which led me to this website. Well after i graduated high school, last spr...
A. 28 November 2010: There's obviously some deep rooted insecurtities/issues unresolved in your life that you must deal with now. Try to remember what your childhood was like. Was there any abuse? Was it a religious upbringing you had? Behaviour always surfaces ... (read in full...)
She says she needs time to think. what do I do?
Q. My girlfriend says she needs space/ time to think. What should I do. What does it mean? ...
A. 28 November 2010: Being a girl and having used this phrase before. She is trying to tell you to back off because she wants to end the relationship by letting you down gently. She wants to finish with you it's as simple as that. It's hard to end a relationship ... (read in full...)
Didn't know it at the time, but I had sex with my future teacher
Q. Sorry, guys, this is kinda long. STORY TIME When I was 17, my boss held a huge Christmas party at a hotel. There, a friend of mine introduced me to his single friend who was very charming and sexy. Long story short, we ended up having a one ni...
A. 28 November 2010: Wow! sounds like a script from a good film doesnt it? My advice to you would be to stop seeing him ouside of school. He will lose his job if it comes out that's for sure. If you had the one night stand and that was it that should have told you ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and never done it!
Q. What is masterbating i'm 18 and i have never done it before and all my friends talk about it....
A. 28 November 2010: Ask your friends, they will all be experts at it.
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I'm scared my guy will leave me because of some perfect bimbo!
Q. Why do I get so jealous over the stupidest things, although i know they prob wont amount to anything i still get nervous that my guy will leave me just like that because of some perfect bimbo. is this normal or am I just a freak? ...
A. 28 November 2010: There's a lot of competition out there and temptations, no one can guarantee that someone will stay with them and no matter how you try they will only stay if they want to . It's all about the strength of feelings between you. Love is like a ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my babies' father?
Q. I was in a relationship with this man for 2 years. I was miserable practically the entire 2 years and tried everything I could to make it work. He lied too much, he would never discuss our problems with me, and he cheated on me (which he will never ...
A. 28 November 2010: You're defences are low because you have a new baby there and that can alter your hormones. Some women suffer from post natal depression, that sadness will be enhanced because you are not happy with the man. You have shown to move on with your ... (read in full...)
How do I open up to him?
Q. I need advice. I'm 17-years-old. I've known this guy since I was in grade 7, and we kind of grew up together. We went out for awhile when I was younger, but we both had a lot of problems (family issues, etc). I love him, I would do anything for him, ...
A. 28 November 2010: You would have to tell him how you feel because with the distance between you there's only a small amount of sorting out you can do each time you meet. You'd have to let him know, then you would find out what he wants as well and you would have to ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend sneaking around talking to gay guys when I was pregnant. Is he gay?
Q. So my relationship is very complicated! I dated this guy for a year and a half and we even had a baby together. The problem is, while I was pregnant and even before he lied a lot. Although he claims he didn't cheat on me I still found messages he ...
A. 28 November 2010: You do know everything there is to know about him. I'm wondering what it is that makes you love him. Is it is sense of adventure. If you stay with him you won't ever change him. he wants it all. You could end up with a disease that you didnt ... (read in full...)
Her dad won't let her date but still she flirts with me!
Q. I liked this girl, and she found out and asked me about it. I told her yes, but I didn't want her t think I was a creep. She said she would go out but her dad doesn't let her and we don't know each other good enough. Now when I talk to her she ...
A. 28 November 2010: Just keep the conversation flowing every time you see her. Eventually things will move forward because she will know the best way to take it forward given her circumstances. You may even get an invite to her house eventually, then you can meet the ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I keep having sexual dreams about him?
Q. Hello! So, my pickle is recently I've been having these really sexual dreams about a good friend of mine. A few weeks ago we went out for a friends birthday celebration and nothing happened between us but there is still obvious chemistry between ...
A. 19 November 2010: I would keep your dreams in your own mind and not disclose to anyone, it won't do you any good. Your boyfriend with him being bi polar must be difficult for you to handle sometimes. There's obviously something missing in your life if you are ... (read in full...)
He says this isn't going to work but yet he makes googily eyes at me!
Q. Sorry if i ramble this one out. Basically i am one in a long line of teenagers with boy troubles. I actually can not believe the amount of headspace they take up! Ok so there is this guy and i was really into him at the start of college, we get ...
A. 19 November 2010: Take more notice of what he is saying. He probably can't help the way he is looking at you and you could be reading the wrong signals big time. If he says it isnt working then take it as that and don't waste your time trying to sort anything ... (read in full...)
Scared of the first kiss!
Q. my boyfriend and I have not had our first kiss since we've been together . (I've kissed girls , as I used to be lesbian) I'm scared to kiss him because I'm not sure what he would like in our first kiss . any ideas ? we aren't going to be in private ...
A. 19 November 2010: I always tell people not to plan a kiss, just go with the flow and let it come naturally.... (read in full...)
Birthday presents for a 12 year old boy?
Q. my boyfriend's birthday was last month ( I forgot) and he wants a present (he owes me as well) . I need really funn , unique ideas that don't cost much , and isn't too bigg . he's 12 and he's sweet , funny , hyper , and cute . any ideas for somethin...
A. 19 November 2010: computer game. Cinema tickets (for 2 of course). Bake him a cake, skateboard. roller skates. Funny T shirt (buy some iron on letters and make it unique). music disc/download of his fav tracks. haircut. neck chain. Candy. (ask him mum she will ... (read in full...)
Forbidden by our family to see each other! We're cousins!
Q. I'm in love with my second cousin. Idk if it's illegal or not. I hope not. :( Were fifteen and we tried keeping it a secret, knowing that our parents would freak if they found out. They eventually did and now were not allowed to talk or see each ...
A. 19 November 2010: marriages between first and second cousins nevertheless account for over 10% of marriages worldwide. It is not illegal but be prepared to be isolated by some members of your family who will look down on this. I know of cousins in Uk who lived ... (read in full...)
Her dad won't let her date but still she flirts with me!
Q. I liked this girl, and she found out and asked me about it. I told her yes, but I didn't want her t think I was a creep. She said she would go out but her dad doesn't let her and we don't know each other good enough. Now when I talk to her she ...
A. 19 November 2010: Next step, get her father on your side. It will help. No father trusts any young man with his precious daughter. You are both young and you have to go through this process in your life. Respect her and be polite to her dad and this will go a ... (read in full...)
I'm scared of my ex boyfriend even though I like him.....
Q. I like my ex-boyfriend a lot. But the problem is when we started going out two years ago he really wanted to have sex with me and when ever we talked he would whisper in my ear and say he wanted to have sex with me right there, he wanted to rip my ...
A. 19 November 2010: i can't work out from what you are saying whether you've actually had sex with him yet. If he's still sticking around for that moment after two years maybe he doesnt just want you for sex. Have you got issues about sex, is it a religious thing. ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I like her, it doesn't feel like a normal crush!
Q. Hi, my mind is very confusing and I hate it (my mind). Becasue it makes everthing difficult and currently i think I might like this girl and I`m not to sure. She`s a nice girl and is very kind, she helped me clean up the water I had droped when a ...
A. 19 November 2010: Tough on you if she has a boyfriend. But reading what y ou have put it does seem she does show an interest in you and she wants to get to know you and be your friend. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Are they being bad parents?
Q. I have a friend who is 23 and lives in south USA. She is married and has two kids; a girl who is almost 2 and a bog who is 1. She is a stay at home mum and her ex druggie husband works full time in mcdonalds. However she often sends the kids ove...
A. 19 November 2010: I know if kids are going in to hospital in the UK theres a procedure for the child protection to keep an eye on things. I don't know how it works in America. They look like they are being brought up on junk but that's still no reason to be ... (read in full...)
Angry at meeting the ex boyfriend!
Q. This morning I met my wife of 1 1/2 years at an information seminar. We arrived separately because she was working and I had the day off. I entered and saw her chatting in a friendly manner with a couple across the room. This was no surprise ...
A. 19 November 2010: I've read carefully what you wrote. The bit I'm pulling out of this is the fact that she showed you up in front of your friend and divulged information to shock both of you. That was wrong.
The rest of it could have happened at any time. It will... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she doesn't feel the "spark" is she watching too many chick flicks?
Q. I'm in a rough spot with my girlfend...big time. She is 23 and I am 22. We have been dating for about 9 months and living together for the last 6 of them. We had great communication in the beginning and want the same things in life both ...
A. 19 November 2010: It seems to me that you both have rushed in to this relationship. You moved in together after three months that can be a bit too quick and now you are settling in to a rut. My mum always used to say 'fools rush in' and there's a lot of truth in ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I live like room mates!
Q. why is me and my boyfriend living like roomates instead of a couple i mean the last four months we been fussing alot cause i see a lot of female be texting and calling he has pictures of women in his phone and one of his friends told me he showed ...
A. 19 November 2010: He sounds like his mind is elsewhere. He may just be waiting for someone else to come along as well. If he doesnt want to join in, in the relationship then he may be should be somewhere else instead. Be careful. ... (read in full...)
Did I screw up? I know the girl is supposed to act like she doesn't care?
Q. I forgot 'the rules' I really liked this guy, hes so super shy and kinda religious. I asked someone if he was single and i think that person told him i was 'interested' which is good b/c that got him to add me on facebook. but i have gotten shot...
A. 19 November 2010: Carry on talking to him for as long as you can stand it. Let him make the first move, when he's ready, which could be a while if he's shy. You may scare him off otherwise. At least if you let him make the first move, you will know how he feels. ... (read in full...)
I just don't have the guts to kiss my girlfriend!
Q. I'm 14 years old and I have a girlfriend. I love her a lot but I just don't have the guts to kiss her I don't know why. Shes not my first, and its never happened to me before. I just have the filling that I'm going to mess up and lose her. can you ...
A. 19 November 2010: Don't worry about it, just be yourself. If a kiss is going to happen the right time will come and you will just fall into it. Don't plan it or you will ruin the moment. Who knows, she may kiss you first, now theres a thought.. You seem a very ... (read in full...)
Help! I have a crush on my (much older) boss!
Q. Help! I've got a crush on my boss, and if that wasn't bad enough... he is also a lot older than me (I am 20 and he is 40). What should I do? I started working at this new job about two months ago and right from the beginning my boss and I hit it o...
A. 19 November 2010: It could be the biggest mistake you ever make in y our life. We can sometimes put our bosses on a pedestal, they are our 'leaders' we look up to them and admire them. Make a move on him, he no longer becomes the icon you imagine, he becomes just ... (read in full...)
I am sick and tired of people perceiving me as shy and quiet. How can I change that?
Q. I might not be the most outgoing person on the planet but I am not shy. Not any more. As a teenager I used to be very insecure and shy and I practically spent my teen years alone in my room. But I have made tremendous progress since then and today I ...
A. 19 November 2010: I know just how y ou feel. I was very insecure and shy when i was younger. At 19 i made a concious decision to not be shy anymore, so unfortunately for me because it was so unnatural i became loud, centre of attention, party animal. I used to ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to share what I feel!
Q. Hello! I have a dilemma and I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advice or opinions. So I have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months with my boyfriend. We are very close, trust each other, and I'm completely happy...
A. 19 November 2010: Because of your past you are now trying to make sense of it. This can be an ongoing thing. I have things in my past that even now at 53yrs old come back to haunt me. You have to find a way, like i did to deal with some of these issues so that they ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if I am bored with my relationship, or just bored with life in general?
Q. just cannot decide what to do. i am very depressed and still living at home and in terms of relationship have been with my girlfriend on nd off for the last 6 years and frankly i am bord but the thing is i am bord and stuck in a rut with life in ...
A. 13 November 2010: You need to end the relationship because in your heart it's not what you really want. Even if it's only for a break, you need to find out. You are in a rut. There's no kids, no mortgage so you have an easy way out with no other commitments. You ... (read in full...)
He cheated and now I get angry and jealous when other girls are around. Can I trust him?
Q. I need help i don't know what to do :( ! Me and my boyfriend were going out for 8 months then i found out he kissed a girl while going out with me ( he wasnt drunk only 13) i dumped him as i needed to think and after 2 weeks i had given him another ...
A. 13 November 2010: It's the age. It's very hard to have a trusting relationship when you are this age because hormones are playing a big part and it's like when all these girls and boys are out there, like being in a big Candy store. Lot's to chose from and in a ... (read in full...)
What's he up to? Can anyone help!
Q. I had a relationship with someone, who is not well, alcohol and stealing ruined it, I took him to court for fraud theft etc after several attempts he admitted it. In the meantime he tried to kiil himself. 10 months later we got back together an...
A. 13 November 2010: It's simple, he's an alcoholic and until this is addressed he will not be able to change. You will never have anything of value with him because he needs it to feed his addiction with it. I know of an alcoholic and all you have written here could ... (read in full...)
With whom do I live my life with? My Husband or this other guy?
Q. I'm 18 year old married girl from Mumbai and studying in second year at commerce and my husband living in Allahabad doing post graduation from Arts .i'm ALSO DOING JOB.my husband don't like i'm doing job and he also want I'm settled in villa...
A. 13 November 2010: Sounds like you have made your mind up. Will Anish take you on if you leave your husband? Will you be safe to leave him or will you get a lot of trouble from his family? Isn't there anything at all you can do to make your marriage work?. You ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm having serious doubts about this new relationship.
Q. I feel really stupid because it's only the 2nd week of going out with my boyfriend, but I'm having serious doubts... I know I need to talk to him about it but he was one of my best friends before he asked me out and i dont want to lose the ...
A. 13 November 2010: It's really difficult going from friends to relationship and things are never really the same after that. All you can do is be honest with him. If he walks away and doesnt come back then at least you aren't having to stress out over it all and live ... (read in full...)
How to get this boy without hurting my friend's feelings?
Q. I've liked this boy, on and off for about a year. He's really good friends with one of my friends, but he says he doesnt like her at all.. so does she, but in school she's trying to be close with him and he just cringes away. Anyway, i like him and ...
A. 13 November 2010: Sounds like she is a bit jealous of you two. She doesnt want him but she doesnt want you two to get together. Three's never works. Let her know plainly and simply that you need to be with him by yourself for a little while and would she mind ... (read in full...)
I wish it was me he liked!
Q. My best guy friend used to be in love with me, or so he says, he says he's never liked anyone as much as he liked me. About a month back he got a girlfriend, it was like a slap in the face when I found out, but I guess thats because I thought he ...
A. 13 November 2010: It's his age, they want every girl they see at that age. Lads can't help themselves. His hormones are ruling him and making him like that. The way he is going it won't be long before it's your turn. Don't let your feelings for him make you do what ... (read in full...)
Do her calls, texts and flirting mean anything? (I have a girlfriend)
Q. My friend I went to school with calls me randomly and flirts with me. She also txt's me knowing I have a girlfriend...does this mean anything? If culture is a factor...she is from India but has been in this country for over five years. ...
A. 13 November 2010: The real question is what do you want to do about the situation. Obviously she likes you. If you are in a strong relationship this could jeapordize it, especially if your girlfriend finds the texts, then you 'll have some explaining to do.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, and I love another... just as equally, I assume?
Q. Hello, I have been having an issue for about a month. I am in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR) and I really only do believe in LDR's more than I do in real-life-all-the time-dating. The situation: I have a lovely boyfriend in Denmark and...
A. 13 November 2010: Have you actually met these two in real life or is it via internet? Reading between the lines you are on dodgy ground when you are in LDR with men from far away. You dont' know the Indonesian man only what he tells you. He could be making you ... (read in full...)
In a twisted situation......
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months 16 days and for a period of time,recently,i felt indifferent towards him and wasn't calling him like i did before. Before all this, i had developed a lot of affection and like for a guy who ...
A. 13 November 2010: You boyfriend cheated on you. That's difficult in itself. You are in different parts of the country, that's hard to hold down a relationship sometimes as well. You are of an age group where lots of dating and getting to know other people is the ... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know how to share what I feel!
Q. Hello! I have a dilemma and I would appreciate if you guys could give me some advice or opinions. So I have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months with my boyfriend. We are very close, trust each other, and I'm completely happy...
A. 13 November 2010: Don't worry about it, you are only young so you've not a lot of 'past' to talk about. At your age i think the thing to do really is just go out and have fun and keep the deep and meaningfuls as short and sweet at intervals. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
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