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He cheated so I don't trust him especially when he said "one night stands are ok"
Q. Ok well this is kinda really driving me insane lol Im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now.. i love him very much i used to think he felt the same until HE CHEETED ON ME! he addmited it to my face cause i caught h...
A. 8 June 2010: He says 'one night stands are okay'... I'll bet he doesnt want you to have one though. You will go through life and learn lessons the hard way. No one will be able to tell you what to do, but you will look back on all our advice and say ' You were ... (read in full...)
I asked for a hug but she said she wanted to take things slow
Q. Hi i asked a girl out yesterday.I flattered her for a few hours and then askec her out and she said yes.Today we wnet on a school trip andi went around with her.I asked her for a hug but she said she wants to take things slow.This is where i get ...
A. 8 June 2010: You are both very young. I think you are coming on a bit too fast. Hormones are raging, I think in a week or so you may think you 'love' someone else. It's definately normal for your age but something we all go through. Just look forward to ... (read in full...)
Ask again? Or let him of the hook?
Q. Help! Since a week or 2 I have been dating a guy and I really like him. His sister is a good friend of my best friend and she basicly set us up. He is my first boyfriend, but I don't really know if I can call him that yet(afterall, we...
A. 8 June 2010: It's probably a bit much for him. He could be a bit scared wondering how the family are going to see him. You could always say, let's go and do something after the theatre, go for a take away or something, then you could evalue the night and ... (read in full...)
I love 2 very different men!
Q. Dear Cupid, I love two very different men. One is my boyfriend guy #1) of 1 year and 3 months, and we are very serious. He has talked about marrage and having a baby and getting a house. We have a great sex life, i can always talk to him, hes ...
A. 8 June 2010: Imagine this, what if you left guy1 and went to guy2 seriously. I'm sure you would miss guy1 intensley. We all want what we can't have and you will be with the one you really want to be with. The grass is not always greener on the other side. I ... (read in full...)
Am I just scared of getting hurt again?
Q. So, my ex and I had a lot of problems for two months, which ended in me trying to end things because he wouldn't support me and because he lived sixteen hours away from me and couldn't find the time to spend the one weekend a month we had promised ...
A. 8 June 2010: Getting together with someone can be very emotional so maybe you are feeling this, remembering how it used to be and wondering if you will feel that again. Long distance relationships are very hard and usually the tie is ' absence makes the heart ... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for not having more sexual partners?
Q. This might come across as being a confused question. I am in a loving gay relationship for one year and a half and my partner has alot more sexual experience and has had many relationships with many people, some that weren't sexually intimat...
A. 8 June 2010: In any relationship I think we like to know that we havent had many partnerships. How can we feel like we are 'the one' if that is the case. We also don't want to know about other ex's either. Too many relationships mean that a certain commitment ... (read in full...)
Depending on where you live, is there a preference for a certain hair color?
Q. This is sort of for curiosity sake: Since there are so many people from all over the world here, do you think certain places prefer certain hair colors over other? For example there is the notion that men in greece go crazy for blondes. Is this just ...
A. 8 June 2010: I think most fickle men like the 'Barbie Doll' look. Thats why so many women dye their hair blonde and don't eat. Blonde hair has never gone out of fashion but it's easy because anyone can just simply dye their hair blonde. Men prefer blondes ... (read in full...)
He cheated so I don't trust him especially when he said "one night stands are ok"
Q. Ok well this is kinda really driving me insane lol Im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now.. i love him very much i used to think he felt the same until HE CHEETED ON ME! he addmited it to my face cause i caught h...
A. 8 June 2010: There is a big age gap. You can't trust him. You are doing all the running/texting. I don't think personally that it is going anywhere. He will probably cheat again. You can't live your life not trusting and hurting all the time wondering what ... (read in full...)
How did a back rub turn into him just rubbing my bottom?
Q. Hello, I am a 30 year old woman with a question about men. Okay, I have had this real stressful day and my husband tells me if I will get naked, he will give me a back rub. He spends a little time on my back, neck, and shoulders, but t...
A. 8 June 2010: You obviously have a lovely body and he gets turned on by it. You could always keep your pants on, then he might get the message. You sound as if you have a loving relationship, you are lucky. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Long term relationship but no sex?
Q. Well, I just started dating this guy. He's amazing. He thinks I'm amazing. I can see this relationship lasting awhile. But, I'm a virgin, so is he. I don't wanna have sex for a long long time. Is it possible to have a long term relation...
A. 8 June 2010: Hi Just be honest with him from the start. If he really likes you he will do as you ask. Don't make it a massive issue though, things can always happen naturally as well if you can't resist temptation. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I asked for a hug but she said she wanted to take things slow
Q. Hi i asked a girl out yesterday.I flattered her for a few hours and then askec her out and she said yes.Today we wnet on a school trip andi went around with her.I asked her for a hug but she said she wants to take things slow.This is where i get ...
A. 8 June 2010: Take your time, get to know her, the rest will follow when she feels comfortable. If you go too fast she may run the other way. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
How one person changed my life
Q. I've been an aunt on this site now for quite a while, at first I started as an anonymous, until I finally took the step to make an account and dare to be identified somewhat. As I've gotten to know a few people on here, albeit still strangers ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes very honest. I can relate to some of the things you felt as a child i.e. no emotions. I was abused as a child and i felt unworthy, no friends, quite, shy. I couldnt maintain friendships,, i could take, it was the 'giving bit' I couldnt do. ... (read in full...)
Do you think highschool sweethearts can actually last into a great marriage anymore these days?
Q. Do you think highschool sweethearts can actually last into a great marriage anymore these days? Why or why not? Im asking becuase i am with mine, we are now in our early 20's and i was just wondering if we actualy stand a chance to last or if we are ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes you have a very good chance now you are in your early 20's and still are seeing each other. The most succsessful marriages have stemmed from them knowing each other as children. They began as friends and it turns into deep love and ... (read in full...)
Do you think highschool sweethearts can actually last into a great marriage anymore these days?
Q. Do you think highschool sweethearts can actually last into a great marriage anymore these days? Why or why not? Im asking becuase i am with mine, we are now in our early 20's and i was just wondering if we actualy stand a chance to last or if we are ...
A. 8 June 2010: Yes you have a very good chance now you are in your early 20's and still are seeing each other. The most succsessful marriages have stemmed from them knowing each other as children. They began as friends and it turns into deep love and ... (read in full...)
Breaking up--I want to be single and enjoy life
Q. Ok, I'm going to try and keep this short and to the point. I love my girlfriend, but recently we have become distant (we have a long distance relationship, I'm in college, she's in high school). I have been thinking about us for the past week ever ...
A. 1 October 2009: Yes, just be straight with her. Don't keep contact at all if you can do that otherwise you will be locked in a cycle of guilt or feeling sorry for her. End it properly though and you will get respect for that. If you both are meant to be together ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband feel the need to lie to me about silly little things?
Q. its been like 1 year for my marriage and now for few months i have come to my moms house for some work and i talk to my husband daily over phone and we chat online also but sometime he lies to me. Like, if i ask him what are you doing now he says ...
A. 1 October 2009: Doesnt the internet cause lots of problems now. If it was me being a bit suspicious i would do some prying into the emails or the history or put a key logger on to the chat rooms. But hey, that's just me. Then if there was nothing to show up i ... (read in full...)
Are any women actually trustworthy?
Q. I'm losing faith in humanity in general and myself in particular here. A little more than five weeks ago, my fiancée dumped me. I'm 25, she's 21, and we had been together for over 3 years, engaged for over one year. We were making good progress pl...
A. 1 October 2009: You have been burnt my friend. Sounds like you are too nice and some women would take advantage of that. Youre confidence is an all time low. Not all women are like that but unfortunately it could take a long time to find on that is perfect for ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my past and move on?
Q. after been in a 3 year relationship which ended badly as he was seeing another girl behind my back for i have stayed single for the last 7 years. now i have meet this lovely guy but i am so frightned of getting close to him because of my past and ...
A. 1 October 2009: Forget about the past. Not all men are like that. With the past experience you now will be able to read the signs more if anything is wrong and get out earlier. Enjoy the new man in your life. If he sees you are wary he will not like the fact ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't know what he wants anymore
Q. my boyfriend and i met about a year ago and started dating within 2 months of knowing each other. i'm 18 and he's 17 and now we've been together for over 1 year. when we first met everything was wonderful and has been up until last week. latel...
A. 1 October 2009: Sounds like a typical scenario of 'He doesnt want you, but he doesnt want anyone else to have you'.. Also sounds like he's keeping his options open. It's the hormones, the age, they want every female they see. You sound like you are on the right ... (read in full...)
Do you think a man who lies about watching porn will lie about other things?
Q. Do you think the man who lie about watching porn can lie about other things? I have never thought that my husband lie until I married him. We were in different country before we got married, I knew he was watching porn because he had no women ba...
A. 1 October 2009: It's not uncommon. Most men if they are honest will watch porn, whether it be on tv channels or computer. Why don't you set some time out together, set the scene, and dress sexy, then watch it with him. Some people like to enhance their sexual ... (read in full...)
We don't spend as much time together...
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years, from the day i met him he has always been very busy with work, and i have always accepted that and more or less taken a back seat to it. i would see him at weekends, sometimes fortnightly if h...
A. 1 October 2009: I'm wondering why he comes to see you at all. He doesnt seem to be making much of an effort. He finds plenty of time in his spare time to go ot with his 'friend'. Sorry but the bells are ringing here. If you are really wanting this to work one ... (read in full...)
I might be held back if best friend goes to same college as me
Q. So, me and my bestfriend have been close for years now, and im currently at a university but i am transferring out to my community college for next semester, where she is. And then in fall 2010, next year i'm looking to go to a school out of state, ...
A. 1 October 2009: It won't do you any harm to be at the same college. Some people are very lonely when they are somewhere new. Your friendship will help you both and make you more confident. You can study together, you can socialize and watch out for each other. ... (read in full...)
Why can't he see that we're perfect for each other?
Q. Why can’t he see that we are perfect for one another? My guy friend and I have been friends for more than a year. We get along and finish each others sentences sometimes. He always brings up a teacher that I don’t like and he does just so we can ...
A. 1 October 2009: Sounds like he is a bit nervous and shy when it comes to admitting his feelings. You are both very young, but lads take a few more years to catch up in the maturity department. You may have to encourage him a bit more and make him feel a bit more ... (read in full...)
Surprisingly old for a raver!
Q. I'm not attracted to women my own age, either socially or sexually. I'm a healthy, tall and well educated man, single but looking after two children who are now both teenagers and quite independent. Over the years relationships have tended to l...
A. 1 October 2009: After reading your question, you so remind me of a guy who used to hang around with us when we were younger. He used to always do his own thing, dancing, enjoying himself, life and soul of party, never settling down or in to a routine. I don't go ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking we could be more ...
Q. i'm a 16 year old girl in my second year of high school. ok so hears my problem, i really likke this guy. i mean like i really like him. i always think of him and i'm always jealous when he talks to other girls. well at the end of last year we ...
A. 1 October 2009: Keep him close to you and wait and see. Be his friend, his confident, show him you care. Over time you will also be finding out if he really is what you want for yourself. Eventually you could help him get over his ex and he will see that you ... (read in full...)
Why is it yellow?
Q. hai,how r u ? my sperm colour is looking a little yellow shad!(not looking pure white) y its like that and, is it problem for my marriage life?i am bothering about it, please answer me?...
A. 21 June 2009: Hi, it could be something to do with what you eat. Try drinking cranberry juice, it is good for the internal system. As long as your not feeling poorly don't worry too much. hope this helps... (read in full...)
I'm 18, mature and like older women
Q. I'm an 18 year old guy, and I am very mature for my age.When someone whom I don't know asks me my age, and I tell them 18, they usually say "wow I thought you were at least 22 or 23".The problem is I always seem to be interested in women who are in ...
A. 21 June 2009: When you find the right one, age doesnt matter. don't make it an issue or you will be on the wrong track.. hope this helps... (read in full...)
I don't know how to control my anger!
Q. I have been getting really angry lately, and sometimes i just cry for no obvious reason. I have cried often before and i thought that i may be suffering from depression or that i was bipolar, but when i told my mum she just brushed it off and said ...
A. 21 June 2009: Hi, yes you sound as if you need a friend, someone to talk to , you sound like you have a lot of frustations about life going on and don't know which way to turn. You could go see a doctor to make sure there's nothing going on that you arent ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have to lie to my parents about seeing my boyfriend anymore
Q. long story short, me and adam were best friends. we went out, he became an ass, we broke up. he realized what an asshole he had become, and he changed. he regained my trust and i have been going out with Adam for a few months now this year. We had ...
A. 21 June 2009: It' always best to be honest about these things. You say you are almost 18 you need to prove to your parents that they can trust the decisions you now make about your own life. Just get them at the right time, tell them you need to talk to them. ... (read in full...)
Do I take the morning after pill?
Q. i did the stupidest most irresponsible thing ever and messed around with my ex/almost boyfriend again. we are taking some time apart before getting back together so that we dont mess things up the second time around. we hung out today and things got ...
A. 5 January 2009: It can be possible to get pregnant during your period. I would do some research on the morning after pill. If you want to start taking the contraceptive pill that usually takes up to two weeks of using it before it is beneficial. Go and talk to ... (read in full...)
Because of learning difficulties, I feel I have wasted my life repeating exams and feeling stupid!
Q. Do people with a learning diffcultiesy get anywhere in life> I have had learning diffculties all my life and life is impossible. Everything I do I fail at it and I'm left behind, like years behind. For people with NO learning diffculties, life ...
A. 4 January 2009: Is it so important to get your exams. Could you find something that really suits you with an understanding company or employer that will help you gain experience and work up the ladder from a practical point of view rather than an academic result. ... (read in full...)
A replay of my question on my longtime crush. I need answsers by tomorrow!!!
Q. P.S. I am only posting again as this is a very important question and I did not recieve enough answers to consolidate the issue. You may be tempted to delete my post despite this P.S. note - but why don't you take into consideration my feelings...
A. 4 January 2009: You are madly in love with him and he is in love with you. You have been immature in this which is natural and you probably made him believe that you don't care about him in your outburst after his father had a word with you. He probably now ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering with bi polar disorder...
Q. Hello all - I have posted before and just really need some encouragement. I suffer with bi-polar disorder and I'm having a very rough day today. As I'm writing I'm crying because I feel so overwhelmed with EVERYTHING my depression my family, house ...
A. 4 January 2009: I can relate to you. The pressures of trying to hold the family together and there's nothing worse than money worries and trying to get by. I tried to help myself by pacing myself day to day, before I went to bed on a night I had a plan for myself ... (read in full...)
If I leave him alone like he's asked, will he just end up with someone else?
Q. im 22 years old and my ex boyfriend is 33 years old we were together 4yrs before he broke up with me past november because he needed time for himself. we stayed in touch afterwards and on christmas eve i found out he stayed over his ex girls house. ...
A. 2 January 2009: Reading between the lines he sounds like he is telling you some lies. Firstly he wants you to leave him alone, sounds like its so he can re kindle his feelings for his ex, meantime, stringing you along in the background in case nothing comes of it. ... (read in full...)
15 year old niece is causing problems
Q. My 15 year old niece lives with me and my daughters (they're only 8 and 5 of age) due to discipline problems. She smoke cigarettes and came home drunk at 2:00am. My sister (her mother) had it with her and throw her out. My niece is now starting to ...
A. 24 December 2008: pack her bags and leave them by the door. When she comes home, tell her to go back to her mother cos you cant cope with her. You never know, it may 'shock' her into behaving. You are brave to take someone elses 15 year old on, lets hope she ... (read in full...)
I need help on how to stop watching porn movies!
Q. I have a a best friend that recently started to act strange and I asked him what's the matter with him being so quiet all the time recently and he told me that "I watched a porn with some other friends and since then he can't stop watching it and ...
A. 24 December 2008: he sounds like he doesnt have a very interesting life, he must try to pursue other things because he is in a rut. Cant you fix him up with a girlfriend, then they can either watch them together, or she can put a stop to it altogether. He is ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and need advice on how to deal with the babies father!
Q. I'm 20 weeks pregnant; the father has been around for the most part, throughout the pregnancy. But we had a falling out shortly before finding out that I was expecting and he began dating another women, this turned into one of those drama driven ...
A. 24 December 2008: sounds to me that he is being with you now as a stop gap until the next woman comes along. He's not treated you how he should do being the mother of his child. The only involvement now should be when the baby is born and in asking him how much ... (read in full...)
What kind of relationship do you think this is?
Q. I am with this man, we get into fights he has hit me a few times, enough now when he gets to yelling I am in fear of being hit again. I tell him to leave but then find myself missing him and calling him. He does come back this last time he came ...
A. 24 December 2008: I think this is not a relationship. You sound like you have a very low esteem for yourself. He sounds like a very controlling man, one day he will hit you too hard and you will live to regret this. I will never understand why a woman would want a ... (read in full...)
Are there mixed signals here?
Q. Hi, I need some advice. I've been friends with a guy for a little over two months. From the moment I met this guy, I felt attracted even thought he isn't at all what I've wanted in a guy. We began hanging out as friends in a group with my other ...
A. 24 December 2008: seeing someone and having sex over a matter of time will eventually bring emotional ties and bonds, you can't get away with that no matter what label you put on it. You are doing what people in relationships do, it's more tha just sex you are doing ... (read in full...)
Why do I always need to pee when I take a bath??
Q. Hi All, i have a strange problem! every time i take a bath i have to pee and the urge is so strong that i dont have time to get out so i pee in the bath! I always go toilet before i have a bath and i get the urge to pee about 5 mins after i...
A. 24 December 2008: Try rocking back and forth a bit on the toilet as you pee, i was told by my friend a doc told her to do this, it helps empty the bladder completely. hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Should I become a doctor???
Q. Should I be a doctor and spend 8 years of my life studying? I really want to.. and I really think I have the potential to do so... and I really love medicine.. but should i go for it? ...
A. 16 December 2008: Yes go for it. It is a profession to be proud of. Don't forget to have a few breaks to balance the studying out then it won't seem such a hard slog. good luck.... (read in full...)
Which pen to get my girlfriend for Christmas?
Q. For christmas I am going to get my girlfriend of a month an engraved pen as she loves stationary - would it be meaningful enough just to put her name on it or should i add a message too and if so what should that message be considering we've only ...
A. 16 December 2008: you could also engrave on it 'Now you can write me a love letter'. ... (read in full...)
I need some advice on how to move on from this obviously unhealthy relationship
Q. Hello All, After searching for hours on the internet, I found this site and decided to try to get some insight from others. I have been going through a year long break up (yes, that is correct, we have been breaking up for a year), but perhaps ...
A. 16 December 2008: Your story is of a similar one with my sister in law, her boyfriend has an alcohol problem. He is paranoid all the time, they always fall out when he's been drinking , or wants a drink. But he can be so good to her when hes that way out. I think ... (read in full...)
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