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Parents slip us up when they smelled weed. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi there Dear Cupid Forum! As of 6 months ago I began dating a Woman that I am now in love with. She is my first love, I have known her since I first moved to British Columbia when I was 14. We have been through a lot together, she was my Grad ...
A. 12 January 2011: Sounds like you are going really great. I think this is the lady that you will end up marrying. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like I'm a sugardaddy!
Q. Where to begin. Well, I'm a 21 year old gay male who in August moved 1,000 miles away from home to attend graduate school in another part of the country. Moving here was a big challenge not knowing anybody, and another gay graduate student suggested ...
A. 10 January 2011: That's how he lives his life, he is a user. He will prey on gullable people with his charm. You will now be a stronger person for it. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Past experience is spoiling my new relationship, am I right to worry?
Q. Can someone tell me how to get over my insecurities about being played. I have just entered a relationship with a guy I've been nuts about for a long time. He says he has about me too. The relationship has been going to happen for a while, an...
A. 7 January 2011: I've seen men like this in action before, flirting, touching other women, thinking they are gods gift etc. He needs to calm it down a bit because he will end up alone. These women may be feeling sorry for you whilst they are all having a laugh ... (read in full...)
Broken up with my first love, is there still a chance or how can I move on?
Q. I'm 18 about to turn 19 and me and my ex went out for about 3 years. We met in high school and the beginning of our relationship begun bad, she left a guy for me, then for a month we went out and then we broke up. after a while the same the same ...
A. 7 January 2011: In all relationships there can be fights, arguments etc. But after reading all that you put I think your girlfriend has been curious with other men, tried them out, it hasnt worked so she came back to the safe bet, which is you. She knows you love ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to a married man and now his wife is coming back from travelling to work in the same company!
Q. he is married with kids but the wife is traveled.am not too sure of my feelings for him,i lost my virginity to this man.my problem is i work for the man and his wife will return soon and will also work in the same company...
A. 7 January 2011: You have a problem in what you will do now. It doesnt look like he is going to end his marriage for you. He will probably pick up with his wife where he left off. It looks like you have been an opportunity for him to fill a gap while his wife ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here? Should I ignore this 'incident' even though she was acting weird?
Q. Me and my had a fight over my concern of her having an emotion affair. We really had good talk and things come to normal for a couple of weeks. But on the christmas eve night she went to church. I called her at 12:00pm and she said they just ...
A. 7 January 2011: The time line from 11.00 till 1.00pm, is two hours. She admitted seeing this guy, whom she's had an affair with. It seems obvious to me that they have unfinished business. You are within your rights to question what has been going on. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date this guy when he use to date a girl I have known since I was a baby?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a few months.I havent really told everyone or put it on fb. Im not doing that until I move to college where he lives in august. He use to date this girl I know. Thats how I met him...Me and this girl arent really ...
A. 7 January 2011: Is that the reason why you have kept it under wraps for fear of her finding out. As long as they parted amicable and he's still not seeing her, then you arent doing anything wrong. Why don't you let her brother know and see how the land lies, see ... (read in full...)
Ruined my chances?
Q. A few days ago I saw the girl I like in the hall. She said hi and smiled (because she liked me too), but I think I ruined my chances. We had gone out once before (but without any sort of action..close to our second date even..) And this is very ...
A. 7 January 2011: You may also be reading too much in to it. When we finish in relationships/dating etc, isn't it nice to just get a 'Hi!', the alternative could be a total blank. If she is still interested in you and you don't want to pursue, see what happens next ... (read in full...)
I want this relationship to work so badly but because of the distance we cant see each other! What should I do?
Q. I have a problem. I alaways find girls i like and that like me. This time i found one i auctally see myself obsessing about her. I have extreame feelings for her more than any person i have ever met. These feelings i didnt even know quite what was...
A. 7 January 2011: You could be attracted to the thought of her. I'm not sure if youve met her in person, but she is very needy and the caring side of you will come out and maybe that is why you feel so strongly about her. If she was in your life 24/7 this kind of ... (read in full...)
Parents slip us up when they smelled weed. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi there Dear Cupid Forum! As of 6 months ago I began dating a Woman that I am now in love with. She is my first love, I have known her since I first moved to British Columbia when I was 14. We have been through a lot together, she was my Grad ...
A. 7 January 2011: Wording the letter from your position i was thinking about where you said that the girl wanted to try weed and asked you to with her. That comes across as you would blame her for it and any ounce of blame her parents would go on the defensive, so ... (read in full...)
Where did the sex go?
Q. hello i am new on the site, well i need answers on how to get my husbands eyes back on me... i get no attention anymore i always feel that i am so needy and i hate feeling like that. we have talked a million times about the almost non existant sex ...
A. 6 January 2011: I'm sure that if you dressed sexy for him one night that would get his attention, there can be lots of ways to solve this age old problem, he just needs a bit of spice by the sounds of it. You could say, that you are going to treat him one night ... (read in full...)
He's got a girlfriend but he seems to have eyes for me!
Q. There is a guy I like but he has a girlfriend, yet he stares at me and when I'm near he gets all over his girlfriend and checks to see where I am. I was the only girl he hugged other then her at homecoming. Hes made some bad moves like when we had a ...
A. 6 January 2011: Sounds to me like he does like you. You are all so young, and you will flit around like butterflies at your age. If he falls out with his gf for you that would be nice wouldnt it.... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like I'm a sugardaddy!
Q. Where to begin. Well, I'm a 21 year old gay male who in August moved 1,000 miles away from home to attend graduate school in another part of the country. Moving here was a big challenge not knowing anybody, and another gay graduate student suggested ...
A. 6 January 2011: He sounds very needy and you seem to be meeting those needs. You need to get on with your life and it seems to me he is bringing you down. You are offering the kind of support that comes with a serious relationship with people who have known each ... (read in full...)
I want a woman to dominate me, using her legs!
Q. Basically I have this extremely powerful desire which is much greater than the desire for intercourse, bjs etc. and it is basically being physically dominated by a woman. By that she overpowers me with her legs - puts me in a body-scissors or ...
A. 6 January 2011: Finding a good woman who loves you will be a start then you can over time experiment with her. Otherwise if you can't go down that route then you may have to look for this type of service via internet for special services. I'm sure there's other ... (read in full...)
He doesn't like Valentine's Day but I do!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, on and off. We have a newborn baby together and he is 24 and I'm 21. In the time that we've dated he has never done anything sweet for me. We often go days without talking (we have a ...
A. 6 January 2011: In the time that you dated he never did anything sweet for you, and yet y ou are living with him and have his baby. What on earth was the attraction and why do you expect him all of a sudden to change. You need to be loved and he is not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a crab now that he's quit smoking weed!
Q. My boyfriend is quitting weed, and seems to be having with draws... is that an excuse to treat me poorly? He was very upset because we were both trying to stop all together, and last night (it has been 4 days) we had some friends over and they of...
A. 6 January 2011: It's good that he's quit the weed, must be hard for him because you havent. But smoking weed can cause paranoia as well and if he's coming down from it he could be having mood swings. Was he like this before you moved in or was the weed keeping it ... (read in full...)
She's engaged, does that mean it's too late?
Q. Hi I am looking for immediate answer . I am from India and I am in love with a girl .I know her for nearly a year. Yesterday she said that she is engaged. Know I love her and Today I want to confess my love .Should i confess it? I do...
A. 6 January 2011: She has made her decision, be happy for her and as a friend let her know you are happy for her and you could also say that you wish it were you. If she has feelings for you that way, y ou never know she may own up to them, if not, just be happy for ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 6 January 2011: Plus, we dont know what goes on behind closed doors. If she's given him herpes then she could be still cheating on him and not giving him a good life, he could be defending all this.... (read in full...)
After he cheated and wont be intimate with me anymore I was the one to beg to save our family!
Q. Hi.I guess I'm extremely desperate for advices.My husband cheated twice( although he never slept with any of them).he started doing this since he found out he has a heart problem.I confronted him yet I ended up getting blamed for his weakness.we ...
A. 6 January 2011: You are a very forgiving woman I think and on that basis I will take this down a different route with my answer. I should imagine that your husband has got a problem, he is coming across as being very insecure, depressed, low self esteem and that's ... (read in full...)
Dating an 18 year old but her parents have no idea about us....
Q. I'm in love with my neighbours daughter. (The neighbour I used to have until I sold my house) The problem is there's an age gap. I'm 28 and she's 18. In the beginning, I admired her from a distance. Not wanting to scare her. I eventually got to know ...
A. 6 January 2011: I've never a problem with age relationships really. But i had a neice who was 18, dated a man of 28 just like y ou. A lovely guy he was, ready for settling down etc. The only thing was that the 18 year old went to university and then her life ... (read in full...)
Am I lacking something in this relationship because I considered cheating?
Q. I'm dating a guy of three years now, who has done some bad to me in our past. he's started to come around and change, but i worry because of our age difference. he is 21 and i am 27. now the problem is prior to being with him, i had made a mistake, ...
A. 6 January 2011: Reading what you have wrote I can see you really love your boyfriend, yes youve made mistakes, who hasnt. I would suggest you finish any contact with the other guy, he is playing with you. Try to work something out with your guy now, if you are ... (read in full...)
My teacher really dislikes me, how do I handle this when I have him for the rest of the semester?
Q. Well, to get right to the point, my teacher doesn't like me...at all. I don't know why, honestly, I've never hardly said two words to the guy. I used to joke around with him a lot because he had my brother before me and he really liked him, and ...
A. 6 January 2011: I can understand what you are going through, but can't offer an explanation. I had a teacher who made me feel like that. He sat me right in front of him during a class test, even though he didnt say the words, i thought, he must think im cheating. ... (read in full...)
Would it be considered strange to send a woman roses who isn't your girlfriend?
Q. Hey, would it be considered strange to send a woman roses who isn't your girlfriend? We both have strong feeling for each other just can't really be together because she lives in a far away state now. I just want to do something nice for her, make ...
A. 6 January 2011: Speaking from a womans point of view, flowers are a beautiful suprise. Only thing is, Is the woman with someone, because if she is, that would cause a lot of problems. Unless of course you send them to where she works , as a suprise. If no ... (read in full...)
Who is the father of my baby?
Q. hi am going to be 19 in a few weeks i had a bf in high school for 3in a half yrs. we broke up then i started seeing this other guy... it happen to be that i had sex two days straight with the guy i has seeing which were saturday and sunday night ...
A. 6 January 2011: If you've been with someone else for a while in a sexual relationship, and then you have sex with someone else once, then there's still a good chance that the father will be the one you have been seeing more. I read a long time ago about sperms and ... (read in full...)
Parents slip us up when they smelled weed. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi there Dear Cupid Forum! As of 6 months ago I began dating a Woman that I am now in love with. She is my first love, I have known her since I first moved to British Columbia when I was 14. We have been through a lot together, she was my Grad ...
A. 6 January 2011: Reading through this, they took her car away, then gave her it back, so there's a little bit of lee way there. They are making threats that they can't keep so you should take advantage of that. Your girlfriend doesnt want y ou to contact her ... (read in full...)
I was with another man and my boyfriend broke up with me. Help!
Q. i am in big trouble..i don't no how it happened? and now what i do, i was in a relationship with my boyfriend from last eight years i was quite long relationship, i tried to convenes my parents but no use the rejected him, and when we decided to ...
A. 6 January 2011: You really need to tell your boyfriend that you need him to listen to you and explain fully why you became close with someone else. Let him know it was a mistake you were very lonely and depressed. You know you made a massive mistake. You will ... (read in full...)
I only attract attached men!
Q. I'm a reasonably attractive, university educated, independent woman in my mid 20's, i'd say i'm humorous, chilled out, my years in 'customer service' have led me to have an understanding of people- i'd say i'm an extremely loyal friend, and about as ...
A. 6 January 2011: A man will come along who is absolutely perfect for you and I'll bet you anything you will change your outlook on life, cos believe me it is tough out there and when kids come along you spend all y our time analyzing them and not yourself. So enjoy ... (read in full...)
Out of the dating scene for years. Scared & Confused
Q. I have dated quite a bit over the past few years. Online dating and it's usually 1 or 2 dates and then it doesn't go any where. Or, I find something wrong with them, or they are not my type. I haven't been in a relationship in over 15 years...just ...
A. 5 January 2011: He seems a nice caring man and i feel that he does like you a lot, but i also feel that you are scared of commitment. I obviously don't know anything of your history but is there something in your past that makes you afraid to let y our self go ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my current partner about my past?
Q. im currently in a 'happy relationship' but recently my ex keeps coming in to my trail of thoughts.... but my main question is that do i tell my current about my past,since he doesnt know nothing about it, or do i not? iv had 2 miscarriages one t...
A. 5 January 2011: The question is, how much do you trust your new partner, do y ou trust him enough to confide this information to. In your culture is termination frowned upon? Information this sensitive could cause a lot of problems for you. But then if you ... (read in full...)
I want to talk to him but he's always with his friends
Q. There is this guy at school that I've liked for awhile now, everytime we cross paths (no classes together right now) we smiles and says "Hi (my name!)" What should I think about this? What should I do now? I'm a senior, and I really don't want to ...
A. 5 January 2011: You hardly know him and he says Hi.. (your name) every time you pass. Sounds like he is wanting to be friendly with you. I'll bet he is just as shy. Isn't there a friend who could break the ice for you and ask him if he's got a girlfriend or if ... (read in full...)
Several guys and I don't know which way to turn....
Q. okay so im a gay guy in college... i dont know what to do as there are a few guys that im either involved with, partially so, or just fancy them. Guy number 1: gay, same age, really nice, same height as me, good body, we are "seeing eachothe...
A. 5 January 2011: Enjoy yourself, safely of course, You are finding your feet here. Are you looking for a serious relationship yet or are you just finding out what you really want from one. You are very young so i would just suggest you be very careful and be sure ... (read in full...)
Why are two people who like each other, ignoring each other?
Q. Hey guys. Can you tell me why two people that have an intense attraction for each other and who have been friendly in the past are now ignoring one another? They still have these feelings but are both ignoring each other. Is this not high school?...
A. 5 January 2011: I would presume that one of these people are now embarking on a relationship with someone else and feel they have to be loyal to them. To try and get over an attraction when you work with someone or see them all the time takes a lot of inner ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be attracted to two guys?
Q. I got with a guy in the summer (a bit of what i thought was a summer fling), he went off to uni a very long way away so i thought nothing would happen, however he kept on being really sweet and charming and wanting me to come up to his. I didn't go ...
A. 5 January 2011: I'ts not wrong i just think it's something that you can't help and y ou are trying to maintain them both. Sooner or later in y our life you may have to make a decision because in reality you will only be with one of them. I hope you don't lose the ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he looks at other women
Q. Hi, I need some insights... My bf and I are in a great relationship for over a year and half, we love each other so much and we plan on getting married. But he's a MAN and he can't help looking at other women. I know, they say it's normal, "m...
A. 5 January 2011: I really feel for you. I caught my husband absolutely engrossed in staring at a woman at a garage once, i just stood there and stared at him until he caught my eye, and he didnt know where to put his face. So now i look at men, he doesnt like ... (read in full...)
Which way do I turn?
Q. Not sure which way to turn. There is a lot wrong in my marriage right now and it's not one persons fault more than the other. Granted there are things he has done that i disapprove of and he thinks he did nothing wrong as well as I'm sure there are ...
A. 5 January 2011: It can be quite hard on a woman in a marriage because most women tend to take control of the kids, the house, and work and it's not appreciated how hard that can be. Now your husband has lost both his parents and even though he may not have seen ... (read in full...)
Are my reasons valid for not telling him how I feel?
Q. I've never had a proper boyfriend, I've been fairly happy with that until now. Mainly because I loved this guy for longest time and that occupied my affection for other people. During this time i've tended just to hook up with people in a completely ...
A. 5 January 2011: You are just weighing him up as a potential boyfriend, you are getting the measure of him and in your mind making sure it's the right decision before that time arrives. It can be quite daunting when y ou first get into a relationship with someone, ... (read in full...)
He is not allowed to date outside his religion!
Q. hey, i'm in need of advice! My bf has a very different religion to me and my family. His family's religion is very strict and one of the 'rules' is to be with some one who has the same religion. He doesn't care much as he is with me but he hasn't ...
A. 5 January 2011: You've not been to his house because he does not want his family to know about you, so really he does care about something doesnt he. I wonder if they have someone lined up for him, for marriage, say. And i wonder if you are just there until that ... (read in full...)
How do I force him to seek help?
Q. Hello, and thanks in advance I've been with my bf for 2.5 years and its been a constant battle more so this last 1.5 I'm unable to go anywhere with gf's unless he is present, unable to have my own privacy on Facebook without him having acce...
A. 5 January 2011: After reading all that it seems obvious to me that he is leading a double life, he can't trust you because he thinks you are doing the same. It's like he wants to control you , to keep you there in case the other woman falls flat and he's still got ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 5 January 2011: You really need to fight for this or you will forever be the underdog and your husband will do just what he likes knowing you are being a bit soft. No one can make you do what y ou don't want to do but i sincerely feel that you will be giving in ... (read in full...)
My daughter is suffering over this man! How do I help her?
Q. Ok I dont know where to start all I can say ..... He left woman #1 to be with woman #2 that had his child then he left his child and woman #2 to go back to woman #1 that forgave him then left woman #1 to be with woman #3 my daughter is suffering ...
A. 5 January 2011: Yes I know what you mean, all you can do is be there for her when she needs y ou, our children never listen to us do they?... (read in full...)
My husband has changed so much since we got married!
Q. It will be a year this month since I remarried. My husband has changed. I said no, to his 46 year old brother moving in who they claim to be slow but runs the streets with the worst kind. His mom 76 years old visited us for the first time asking ...
A. 5 January 2011: Well you have done your best to try and maintain some order there. All you can do is keep doing what you are doing and hope that some day the others will leave you alone in peace. You don't have to put up with all that, he married you and he ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to choose between me and her boyfriend?
Q. We've been so close since a year.we've lots of time together.she's not even spent thirty percent of time with her bf..after my breakup with my gf,my friend helped me to get out of it.and now we're best friends too and share lots of things with each ...
A. 5 January 2011: She probably is not aware that she should be making a decision between you and her boyfriend. Observe them together and see if y ou really are going to do her or him a favour if you come between them. If you go in there too fast you may lose your ... (read in full...)
Will she / Wont she??? And should I take the leap or wait??
Q. Hey guys, there is this girl i met, we spend a lot of time together. It was really romantic, we kept kissing and we sat next eachother holding hands. She came from bad relationships i knew this but i kinda rushed it.. so she took a bit distance. ...
A. 5 January 2011: Leave her alone for as long as it takes, it's really up to her. Just make sure she knows y ou are there, by keeping the lines of communication open via, the net. She must make the first move for anything to work as she has already pushed you ... (read in full...)
I only attract attached men!
Q. I'm a reasonably attractive, university educated, independent woman in my mid 20's, i'd say i'm humorous, chilled out, my years in 'customer service' have led me to have an understanding of people- i'd say i'm an extremely loyal friend, and about as ...
A. 5 January 2011: Being confident can actually scare a younger man off so that's probably where an older married man would feel more comfortable with you as they will think you are more world wisely and being around the circuit a bit. Would you be thinking about ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to my husband's father's funeral because the women he had an affair with will be there, is this wrong?
Q. My husband has been having an affair with a friend of his family. This has been going on for a while and although my husband is sorry I am still trying to come to terms with it. This lady is well liked by his family and I have never met her. My ...
A. 5 January 2011: Go to your father in laws funeral and stand by the side of your husband. This will show his other woman that he means business and is on the road to trying again with you. I can't believe how insenstive she is being and surely his close family ... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law gave my brother Herpes!
Q. I put that in the title to get people's attention, cause I really need advice on this. I'm tired of the comments my sister-in-law makes about me to my brother, and I'm mad at him for letting her feel like she doesn't have to respect me. Our whole ...
A. 4 January 2011: Sounds like theres a bit of jealousy going on one way or the other here. Were you and your brother close. You could try reverse psychology on her and be really really nice to her no matter what, especially in front of your brother. If not you will ... (read in full...)
My daughter is suffering over this man! How do I help her?
Q. Ok I dont know where to start all I can say ..... He left woman #1 to be with woman #2 that had his child then he left his child and woman #2 to go back to woman #1 that forgave him then left woman #1 to be with woman #3 my daughter is suffering ...
A. 24 December 2010: Not sure if your daughter is no.1 or 2 or 3. If she is no. 1 or 2, then she really does need to get over him with your help. She will need you to be there for her. This man will eventually leave no.3 and possibly either go back to no.1 or will ... (read in full...)
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