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How do I approach my work colleague?
Q. hey i like this girl at work but i dont know how to ask her out... once i asked her she said no... i might think she like me too... but i dont know how to approach her!!...
A. 9 October 2010: She said no once. I wonder why she said that, is her situation different since then? How many more times will you ask her before she says 'yes'. If her circumstances are different you should be able to tell if she likes you then that would be ... (read in full...)
Is this worth pursuing?
Q. I've been thinking about telling this guy that I like him and I want to get to know him more. We've only known each other for a few months However, in the past I have been nervous about telling guys that I like them due to the fear of rejectio...
A. 9 October 2010: You've not seen him for 2/3 weeks is a long time for two people who care about each other not to see each other. I'ts early days, maybe he's not thinking as seriously as you about this. You can go with the flow and wait for him to get in touch, ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being so mean to him?
Q. My ex just broke up with me 2 days ago... He says that I'm tooo mean... I love him dearly but what should I do??? I trip on him off of the smallest things... Help!!! I need it badd!!!:( what do I do... We live together still sooo I know that I ...
A. 9 October 2010: Be nice to him, no one stays where they don't feel loved. Are you unhappy about something else in your life. Try and think about that and if you realize why you arent happy, talk to your boyfriend and tell him y ou will not be mean to him again. ... (read in full...)
How do I gain that trust in guys back?
Q. Ok, here's the deal... Back in the first half of this year, I was in a relationship with this really nice guy. Or at least.. he was nice at the beginning of the relationship. Anyways, long story short.. we crossed boundaries that I never wan...
A. 9 October 2010: Looking at the age group you are in, a vast majority of guys want women for sex. This has got to be a personal issue with a guy you like and yourself. If a guy really wants to be with you he will respect all your wishes. If he can't then he must ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make this feeling go away?
Q. Hey, well i was bicurious and i fooled around with a girl for the fisrt time, I really enjoyed it but now after its over i feel wrong and "dirty". What can i do to make this feeling go away? I dont understand why i enjoyed it well i was doing it but ...
A. 9 October 2010: Just see it as been 'adventurous' and not 'dirtyness'. Put your mindset to that and you will be able to put it down to experience. You've gone where a lot of women are curious about. You've got it out of the way, so now you can move on with your ... (read in full...)
Why do I always get so nervous when I go out on a date and how can I calm down?
Q. ok so last night i met this guy through mutual friends. he is really nice and wants to take me out on a date. the only problem is me. every time i go on a date i get extremely anxious before hand. like i cant eat etc. im 21 and i have never been ...
A. 9 October 2010: You probably get nervous because you don't know him, only through friends. Getting to know someone as a friend before dating makes situations a bit different. You are only afraid of the unknown. Just try to enjoy the night and not what he means ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to prove to me he cares?
Q. My boyfriend is confusing me. When I'm with him I know that he cares and that he trusts me, but he has problems putting things into words, I get it and I respect that he is still trying to let himself be vulnerable. But it is starting to get to me. ...
A. 9 October 2010: You may have been watching too many romantic films on tv. Your boyfriend is young and won't be able to express how he feels in words that you want to hear. Just enjoy the time you are with each other, after all, he is there isnt he. Sometimes ... (read in full...)
He's sneaking around, how is it my fault?
Q. After being with my boyfriend for eleven months, we were on the computer together. He was going through emails and I happened to catch a glance at something. Knowing he would flip out if I brought it up that exact second, I wanted to do a little ...
A. 8 October 2010: either confront him now about it, or let it go a bit longer and do some intense snooping to find out what really is going on and collect some ammunition in case y ou need to dump him over it. It was your gut feeling that led you to 'snoop' but hey, ... (read in full...)
If I keep acting like this I'm going to lose my best friend!
Q. Hi guys, I've posted on here before about this same problem but I'm still having trouble dealing. I fell for my best friend completely after we slept together a couple of times and I just can't seem to get over it and I'm worried I'm going to end...
A. 8 October 2010: I'm sorry but I'm afraid you've crossed the line from 'best friend into 'relationship'. It always alters a situation when you have slept with someone and puts it on a different level. I can't see you getting it back to how it was but maybe it could ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend always behave like this?? should I dump her?
Q. i told my friend i would come for a sleep over.. but my cousins wife lost her baby:( so i had to go and see her.. it was very emotional when i went.. she lives 2hours away from me.. and the trains are not running so had to take the bus. ...
A. 4 October 2010: Unfortunately that's life. Some people are only concerned in doing their own thing. They don't think about what other people have in their lives and arent prepared to take time out to listen or digest. She sounds like a very selfish person to me ... (read in full...)
I'm seriously in love with her and want to know how to prove it, as she doesn't have much time to hang out with me!
Q. i met this girl freshan year at first it started as a crush and well it started to grow we did things as if we were a couple but i never officially asked her to be my gf,,,time passed by and i was juss an idiot and still never did,,,sophmore year ...
A. 4 October 2010: If you took it one step further and let her know how you feel then she may find more time to hang out with you. It sounds to me like she likes you a lot as she is still around after all this time. May be she is waiting for you to make the first ... (read in full...)
How do I come about asking him to be in a long distance relationship?
Q. i met this guy in april. we had a strong connection but did nothing to act on it. we remained friends and kept in contact. last month, i was at an official event in his hometown which he knew about. we decided to visit. we went out the first night, ...
A. 4 October 2010: Simply remind him of the night/day before and let him know how much you enjoyed it. That could be a starting point for you to springboard off. Sounds like the beginning of a romance, good luck.... (read in full...)
Should I open up to this guy?
Q. I am a freshman girl (14yrs old) and there's a junior guy (16-17) who really likes me. At first, he started being nice to me, making me laugh, etc. and I knew that he was sending me signals that he likes me so I told him that I didn't like him at ...
A. 4 October 2010: There's nothing wrong with friendships forming but I would take it very slowly because of the slight age difference. I know it's not much of an age difference but because you are under age I feel you should be very careful and not misjudge this ... (read in full...)
My husband is infatuated with another woman. Can we get past this?
Q. My husband and I are going through a rough patch in our marriage- he's infatuated with another woman, who also happens to be my coworker and is dating his best friend. (Yes, some of you may recognize this situation from his Dear Cupid post.) In a ...
A. 4 October 2010: I'm wondering,does his best friend know of the feelings your husband has for this woman. I'ts a normal thing for people to be infactuated with someone. I'ts what they do about it that it important. The grass may not be greener on the other side. ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to hint that she likes me? I want to tell her how I feel but I'm scared of messing up our friendship
Q. I have been friends with this girl I have known for about a year now. At I thought of her only as a friend, but recently I have been developing feelings for her, which only get stronger every day. Last week I asked her if we could hang out togethe...
A. 4 October 2010: From what you have said it sounds like she really does like you. at least you are real and in the flesh, so I'd guess you would stand a better chance with her in place of the internet guy. I would take it a step further and tell her of your ... (read in full...)
He knows I like him, I think he likes me
Q. Hi, i know nearly every girl says this but i am really struggling to understand the male mind! I really need some advice on my current situation... This boy who i like, knows that i like him and i think he sort of feels the same way. I havent k...
A. 4 October 2010: Sounds like he's upped his eye contact from before but he was honest enough with you when he told you he had a girlfriend now. I would just leave the ball in his court now. He may be just playing a little game with you with the eye contact ... (read in full...)
Your sexuality can change over time during puberty, is this true?
Q. Hi, I am a 15 years old male, i have masturbated to gay porn since i knew and masturbated to straight porn a few times. after i finish to gay porn i usually feel bad inside, i have dreamt of having gay sex, but dreamt of having sex with a girl as ...
A. 4 October 2010: Puberty and hormones are playing with your mind. You are still young and exploration at your age is common. You will know what your true sexuality is over time. Don't feel guilty about it just work your way through this age related experience. ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex txt me out of nowhere & tell me hes sorry for not talking to me and that hes single??
Q. Recently my ex sent me a txt saying sorry for not talking to me till now..that he was with in a controlling relationship with this girl and didnt want me caught up in her bs.He then followed with a txt saying "no i dont have the hats and im no ...
A. 4 October 2010: It seems obvious to me that he's been with the other girl, it's not worked out, he's on the rebound, you could be a safe bet for him. Then you point out, he's not even bothered about your health issues, just his own sex life. I would stay clear if ... (read in full...)
What are some of the biggest regrets people have with relationships that go wrong?
Q. This is a huge question and the reason I ask is because I don't want to make the same mistakes that everyone else makes. I would be grateful if someone could give me some information about the worst regrets or mistakes people make with ...
A. 4 October 2010: Here are some of the worst mistakes
.Getting involved and planning a future with someone we don't really love
. Not discussing if you both want children, how many,, or not
. Not supporting each other in their choice of career
. Money issues, wh... (read in full...)
Thought it was love but it was fear.
Q. i been with my boyfriend for 8 yr. we have 4 lil boys but he is very abusive both ways im scared of him how can my babys and i leave with out getting hurt?please help...
A. 4 October 2010: You need to get on to social services and see if you can get in to a womans refuge. Search the internet for this kind of thing, they will speak to you in confidence.... (read in full...)
Do you think this guy is ignoring me? I don't know what to do.
Q. My heart is slowly breaking. I met a guy online (not a dating site) and we rarely talked at first and conversations were short. Then we stopped talking completely for months. Then we started talking again and out chats gre longer and more enjoyable. ...
A. 4 October 2010: I still wouldnt trust this situation. Reading between the lines it doesnt sound like its gueniune on his part. You understand that these friendships on line are open to very vunerable people believing in them. But if you want to pursue this I ... (read in full...)
We never seem to do anything and I'm bored!
Q. help people please...i have been dating a lovely guy for 2 months now,we get on well but we never seem to do anything he gets up at 2am to go to the gym then he goes to work all day and calls me at night,i only see him at weekends because of our ...
A. 4 October 2010: while he is working, at the gym etc, find something for yourself to do. You need to map your own life out, it's obvious you are bored when he's not there, he's trying to make a living. Then when you've got your stuff out of the way you can then ... (read in full...)
If your fiance cheated before proposing, would you want to know?
Q. Would you want to know if your fiance cheated on you before he proposed...would you want to know before marrying, or would you rather remain "ignorant" if he is no longer cheating? Would you rather have honesty and a "true" relationship, or a rel...
A. 4 October 2010: If he told you the truth would it affect your relationship? some things are best left unsaid. You will be able to spot the signs if there is any more secrecy in your marriage. Sometimes people play the field a bit in different ways until they ... (read in full...)
So, I have a crush on my ex's best friend..
Q. My boyfriend and I just recently broke up. And before I get all these "Don't do anything! You'll ruin their friendship!" responses, the break up was mutual, so we've decided to stay friends; best friends, in fact, because we know no one knows each ...
A. 3 October 2010: it's always a tough one to fall for a friend of your ex boyfriend. If you do get with him, they might even start comparing notes. At best it could be awkward for them both. I don't think it could work for you, not at this moment in time anyway. ... (read in full...)
Why does a guy message a girl at I am in the morning...what does this mean?
Q. This is probably going to sound like an odd question but here goes: If a guy sent you a message at 1 in the morning asking you to call them what do you think that means? The message went something like "hey, my number is ***** call me xxx" This was ...
A. 3 October 2010: If it's your boyfriend and youre not doing anything special at 1 in the morning. Then why not pay him a call? x... (read in full...)
I've only got myself to blame!
Q. I have been in a LDR, me in Scotland whilst he is in the South and a while back I was having doubts about my boyfriend and about how I felt for him, I didn't think I felt the same. Also I was feeling rather unsettled in myself too and that probably ...
A. 3 October 2010: Your insecurities com from the fact that you are in a LDR. It's difficult to maintain a relationship at the best of times but I believe it's more difficult when miles are in the way. The only thing you can do is to be honest with him, lay your ... (read in full...)
I believe he's keeping me till something better comes along
Q. Hi, I really need some unbiased advice. sorry, its complicated! I have been with my bf for over 3 years now, living together for most of it. we began to clash about his mother (who has criticised my appearance a lot) and the way his 5 year old girl ...
A. 3 October 2010: He sounds as if he's not really bothered. He's stood by and let everyone wear you down. I think you know that you could do better. Boyfriends are supposed to love and cherish you, if you've got the right one but he sounds like he is looking ... (read in full...)
Why would he send me a page that is about viagra?
Q. Last year or the year before I went to a seminar in Rome for three days, to learn about business managing and finding "the power within", as the leaflet said. I was part of a group of about six, two of them were italian volunteers who were basically ...
A. 3 October 2010: years ago i had the 'viagara' page keep popping up. It could be just one of those spam messages. Try to bypass all your thoughts on that and get to know him. You will soon find out what his real intentions are. Hope this helps... (read in full...)
I'm 27 and gay...how do I know if this guy I love, want to be with me?
Q. Well, here we go! I'm 27 years old. I'm male and I'm gay. I'm in love with this guy who's 10 years younger than me. We hang out all the time. He doesn't know that I'm gay, and I supposedly do not know if he is gay. We flirt, and we almost have what ...
A. 3 October 2010: He may be nervous. Especially with the age difference, you will be more experienced than him. He may not have been on the scene at all. Treat him gently and have patience, maybe that's all thats required. It seems obvious that he likes you a lot ... (read in full...)
Do you think this guy is ignoring me? I don't know what to do.
Q. My heart is slowly breaking. I met a guy online (not a dating site) and we rarely talked at first and conversations were short. Then we stopped talking completely for months. Then we started talking again and out chats gre longer and more enjoyable. ...
A. 3 October 2010: Unfortunately, things changed after you wrote and sent a picture, so maybe thats the reason why he's not been in touch. You don't really know this guy and you'd have to see it as a 'virtual reality' relationship. He gave you his address, did he ... (read in full...)
Single mum with a big headache!
Q. I started seeing a lovely man 6 weeks ago. I have a 9yr old daughter who lives with me and he has a 6yr old son who stays with him 9 days out of 14. My ex only sees my daughter every other weekend but I have had her 2 weekends in a row. My new ...
A. 3 October 2010: sounds like you could do with super nanny. Your daughter is acting out because she is unhappy. First of all your husband has gone, now you have a new man who is taking up your valuable time. Your daughter is jealous. One way to deal with this is ... (read in full...)
Abusive ex keeps walking all over me
Q. Im a single mother and the father of my child (my ex) is emotionally abusive and keeps walking over me..what can i do/ ...
A. 3 October 2010: Keep your personal distance away from him. If he wants contact with the child and you are okay with that, make him have the contact away from your home, in another place without you being involved. Map yourself a new life out. You could have low ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend went abroad, does he want me to stick around for him?
Q. Ok, so I have a boyfriend and we've been dating for nine months, the big challenge now is that he traveled abroad to study and the time difference is about six hours, we hardly talk because of that. It's been three weeks and some days now. Before he ...
A. 3 October 2010: Long distance relationships can work if you are both deadly serious. There are some phone deals that can give you really cheap calls so that would not be an excuse not to ring quite often to keep in touch and maintain what you have. The term ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that males prefer?
Q. Hello everyone, I've not been on this website for a while! I'll just start by saying I've learned quite a lot about the opposite sex, and I managed to avoid them whilst doing my GCSE exams and I am proud to say I did quite well and got into the...
A. 3 October 2010: Wow, so all this was going on in the 'Media lesson'.. My advice to you is if you arent expecting a relationship is to stop now before you get your self a bad name. A tip would be to say to you that seriously,men LIKE to talk about women and you ... (read in full...)
He watches porn while I"m lying right next to him
Q. Help...Well me and boyfriend have been together about seven months.Everything has been great..Well I THOUGHT.He lives with me and I am a single mom of four and was in a bad marriage for 8 years and didnt won't to have sex and didnt for 2 years then ...
A. 3 October 2010: You've not known him very long. Is this what his normal life style has consisted of before you came along?. I'ts still early days in a relationship and you are still getting to know him. If you can see this going long term and there's anything at ... (read in full...)
Does he still wish we were together or is his he done?
Q. i need help? i was married for 16 years together for 20 had 3 beautiful children together. built three homes without complication went thru a business deal with friends and got screwed.. my husband began drinking heavily and disconnecting from ...
A. 3 October 2010: sounds like he is letting someone do the work for him. His drinking probably will still be the same. The new girlfriend may not feel for him like you did as you know him, she may be liking a change of life with him, maybe she is financially better ... (read in full...)
We're both shy! Does he like me?
Q. I want to know if my cousin has a crush on me. What shall I do? It is quite complicated. I have a crush on him for 11 years. He lives in US and I live in HK so we only see each other for every two years. I am a Virgo and his birthday is on ...
A. 3 October 2010: When you see him, sit with him. Try to get to know him personally, general chit chat. Ask him what he's doing with his life. You could ask someone in the family, or a friend if he likes you. That would be a kick start. Is he on fb? add him as a ... (read in full...)
Secretly I don't want to get over him
Q. Hello. I really like this one person in my class. I've liked him for more than a year now and he doesn't know about it. I really want to tell him but I fear rejection. Due to which I haven't really even displayed any remote emotions of liki...
A. 3 October 2010: I'd say it's a very good starting point that you are very good friends. Can't you just accept that for now because it would be a shame to try and get over him when really he's done nothing wrong. Love can initially start from friendship.. Maybe ... (read in full...)
My sister was caught stealing from my prospective employer but doesn't care
Q. I have lost all respect for my sister. She was the person that I looked up to. The worst part is that she doesn't even seem sorry, and she isn't showing any guilt or remorse whatsoever. It's a long story.... I have just started back at college ...
A. 3 October 2010: Your sister has been an embarrassment to you. If she wanted something that she couldnt afford she could have asked you to see if you could get her some discount. Your sister is very lucky that she hasnt been prosecuted. If she is showing no ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should follow my head or my heart
Q. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months now , its been a very tough relationships as we both come from different backgrounds .. i'm from a quite nice one .. his isn't so fortunate .. but we love each other very much . i really truly love ...
A. 3 October 2010: It's an age old problem, parents not approving of our choice of partners. I had it for years. My husband was never good enough for me in my parents eyes. It won't be them dealing with him, so you must just go with your heart. They can't chose who ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he wants a relationship without having to come right out and ask him?
Q. What do you think i should do? I know this man for 7 years. The first 3 were just little talks in GYM and couple coffes at Starbuck. Then we started being very close. We even went out sometimes. The past year we went out few times, and ended up in a ...
A. 2 October 2010: All you can do really is tell him how you feel. There is obviously a reason why he can't be just for you. Some men don't really want to be committed in a relationship. He must like you for him to be there in your hour of need. ... (read in full...)
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