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Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 12 December 2010: Just out of curiosity, if your husband was seeing other women would you be as forgiving. Cheating is cheating who ever it is with. He has a lot of issues as well that seem too far out of your reach to sort out. He is in a proper dilema. I wonder ... (read in full...)
All 3 pregnancy tests came back positive, how do I tell my best friend he's the father
Q. Me and my best friend are both 14, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I ...
A. 7 November 2010: Arrange a time when you can speak to your parents and get their full attention. You may be able to all come to a compromise, but let them know you have spoken about it and decided what to do about it. You could also go to an advice clinic if you ... (read in full...)
Think my husband is having gay encounters
Q. Help! I recently discovered an email account I did nopt know about which led to Craigs lists postings I did not know about. Long story short, my husband of 18 years had communications with other men over a period of 4 months while travelling. He ...
A. 5 November 2010: After reading this, sounds like he is looking for men and sex. The only thing you can do if you want this to work is to keep a closer eye on what he's doing. If he's working away from home then he needs to find a job more closer to home. At the ... (read in full...)
He says he cannot trust me. How can I show him that I am there for him?
Q. Some may be familiar with my situation, some may not. Long story short, was with my ex and we broke up said I nagged and complained. He got another girlfriend then he and I came back together. We are communicating again and both still care for ...
A. 5 November 2010: Explore in depth, the reasons why you broke up. Make a list of all the things he says you 'nagged him about' See if you have a valid reason for these complaints. He may just want a woman who puts up and shuts up. Obviously you know your own ... (read in full...)
11 years older married man wants to have sex, is he just going to use me?
Q. Ok, I'm in a relationship but I have a frienship with an older man 11 yrs my senior anyhow he's married. It all started out as a friendship that developed into a much more intimate one, but the thing is he says he wants to bring it to the next ...
A. 5 November 2010: Blow him off!... (read in full...)
Should my Brother-in-law have helped me dress?
Q. I am 24, and my sister's husband took me to a hospital for a minor procedure that involved anesthesia. When I was done, he came in to see me. The nurse came in and said I could go, but needed to get dressed. She assumed he was my husband, and ...
A. 5 November 2010: I should just leave it there, he was respectful, he was there for you when you needed help. You were under the influence. He did have another alternative, he could have explained to the nurse that may be she could have helped you and he could ... (read in full...)
I want my girl back!! I'm shattered
Q. Hello, I am 22 years old and was in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 2 years roughly. we both loved each other like crazy. I would literally spend at least 12-13 hours of the day with her. We are both university students and go...
A. 5 November 2010: I read very carefully your story and It sounds like she does really want to end it with you. Your pleas and your crying will not win her back I don't think. You need to get on with your life. Just let her know you won't bother her anymore and she ... (read in full...)
Why do I think about a boy who makes me cry? I have a boyfriend already!
Q. I'm so confused =[ I have the greatest boyfriend in the world! He loves me with all his heart and I love him too. He's very caring, super understand and always ALWAYS there for me. Only problem is he doesn't live here. He recently moved away, we'v...
A. 5 November 2010: The age group you are in is a perfectly natural way to feel about boys. Hormones are raging and emotions are swirling in your head. If you truly love your boyfriend then you must be true to him. If you are weak and get swept up with another boy ... (read in full...)
All 3 pregnancy tests came back positive, how do I tell my best friend he's the father
Q. Me and my best friend are both 14, and basically a couple of weeks ago we kind of just gave into each other. We have kinda liked each other for years just never done anything about it. He took my virginity and I took his, but the condom broke. I ...
A. 5 November 2010: You are going to need all the support you need. First of all, just take the bull by the horns and tell him. The thing that you should be worrying about after that is telling your parents. I'ts not easy being a parent and when people say it is the ... (read in full...)
I worry that I'm forcing myself on my online friend of 7 years!
Q. Okay so I've had a friend for about 7 years now, we have never met in real life, and we have been through a lot. Mainly because of me being somewhat of a liar when I was younger and I felt that I was too ugly to be with anyone so I used a fake ...
A. 21 October 2010: Does she know of your intentions that you intend to fly down there. If not, make sure you ask her first if its okay. If she does know what you look like and she does know you are going to see her then good luck. You can't always judge what people ... (read in full...)
How often should I swallow cum?
Q. Me and my boyfriend like to do sex everynight.I really enjoy to give him a blowjob.He tells me to swallow his semen.I don't like swallowing.Is it harmful for body?Is it helpful?How many times in a week should i swallow cum?...
A. 20 October 2010: I say to my hubby of 36 yrs, You swallow a glassful, then i will. Needless to say it's never happened. It hasn't ruined the relationship because he loves me. Don't do anything at all that you don't want to do. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Its been 2 weeks with no contact from him should I just move on?
Q. so i was seeing this very nice guy since march of this year. it started out good. we would call eachother every day.i tried not to see him every day for the first couple of weeks. he seemed ery interested in me so i went with it. i didnt sleep with ...
A. 20 October 2010: It sounds like y ou are more serious than him. You shouldnt have to explain to him or run after him. If his feelings were as strong as yours he wouldnt want to be away from you for very long. He may be seeing others or just picking you up when ... (read in full...)
My best friend likes me but I have a boyfriend
Q. My best friend in the whole world told me today that he likes me. I like him too but the thing is that I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for a year and a half. I don't know what to do. Any advise?...
A. 20 October 2010: If you really don't know what to do and are confused by this then to be fair on your boyfriend you should let him go until you have decided what it is you want. Otherwise you could be in danger of two timing your boyfriend and that could be a ... (read in full...)
She said it's over but then she sent me this text. "I love you xxx" I'm confused!
Q. hey every1 . thnx for ur time in order to help me here . i posted like 3 days ago that my ldr gf broke up with me , coz she just felt like she doesnt need a bf anymore coz she has to focus on her career , anyway yesterday we spoke again and we had ...
A. 20 October 2010: She is treating you like a puppet, cut the strings and delete her number. No good will come of it. I totally agree with Aunty BimBim. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Loved him, got dumped, got over him, then he came back. But the distance and doubts make me wonder....
Q. Dear Cupid, Hello again, I have written here a few times over the past year asking for advice about my ex and the depression I was going through. He had moved back to his hometown 4 hrs away and told me he did not want to have a long distance re...
A. 20 October 2010: You got over him once and was able to live your life. I'm not telling you to get over him but you can live your life and see what happens in two years. You can't just put your life on hold because he's not there. He's only 4 hours away can't ... (read in full...)
Ghostly goings on...
Q. I'm sorry, but this is going to be a long one, but this is something that I'm really confused about and most of you that read this probably will either have no idea what to say or just think I'm crazy. Well I sense ghosts, I was able to repel them, ...
A. 20 October 2010: I used to dabble with the Tarot cards, a Tarot reader once told me to go with my gut reactions on anything I feel, so i do now and I'm amazed at myself when I just say things out of the blue, to people I don't really know. It's like a telephone ... (read in full...)
How can she expect me to tell her what I feel and how I feel if she's all aggressive about it?
Q. To the point: Sometimes, when I feel horny, I might send her tips about it, like a suggestive text message. But she always takes it the wrong way! Like, she thinks I'm always thinking about it, but I don't, I really don't. Especially when I ...
A. 11 October 2010: For a start, stop sending her those kinds of texts. Texts do come across very different from what we mean. You flippantly say she has a lower sex drive thats not normal for a 21 yr old girl. I wonder how much experience have you had with 21 yr ... (read in full...)
Going away with my boyfriend's family who hardly speak English! Help!
Q. Going away with my boyfriend's family who hardly speak English help? First and foremost this is the problem. My boyfriend is from Congo and my parents are from Jamaica and Ghana My boyfriend and I, his family and his brother girl friend are ...
A. 11 October 2010: I wonder if he has a soft spot for his brothers girlfriend. The route of all this lays with her. Is there something going on there? She has no reason not to like you. You have a gut instinct that something is not right. All you can do is smile ... (read in full...)
Finding some new and exciting to do
Q. I am feeling so bored lately. I don't know what to do or where to go I am not good at socializing plus I don't have a lot of girlfriends to hang out with. I have this same old routine 1. Get up in the morning 2. Get on the internet spend h...
A. 11 October 2010: You are in a rut that thousands of people are in. The internet is taking over their lives. Its very hard for these people to go out and socialize and meet people in reality. The next generation will meet their partners on line and not at social ... (read in full...)
In the middle between two guys with an issue
Q. I have two best friends, Jacob and Sam, they know each other and are very close. Sam developed feelings for me and we are seeing each other. i went over to a friends house a few days ago and Jacob was there. He started doing things like laying on ...
A. 11 October 2010: It sounds like Sam has been flirting with the girl that Jacob likes and Jacob has felt like he's 'got his own back', a warning to Sam to keep off his interest. They are playing games. You don't see what they are doing when they aren't with you. ... (read in full...)
My ex's girlfriends come to me and ask about the relationship we had. WHY?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question about something and am concerned about my ex bf's current relationship. 4 yrs ago I broke up with him before he got deported to Korea because I had gotten hurt by him so bad. However, when he arrived at Korea...
A. 11 October 2010: It could be him that is goading them into tormenting you. After all, how could they get your details unless he gave them to you. How do you know the gf he had in Korea isn't the same one as he has now. You seriously need to delete him, and them ... (read in full...)
She's not happy because I have more sexual history than her
Q. I'm currently in a relationship of 5 moths and it's been going good if i would allow it too, and accept her love and accept/believe the things she says. Short background information: my best friend and i went out one night, met up with some gir...
A. 11 October 2010: It does sound too good to be true but from what you are saying it's very nice for you. She must really love you to be like this. If you are struggling with it then the problem isn't her, it's you. You must believe in yourself. If you want to be ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know how I could catch him?
Q. Hi everyone! Um i'm not sure how to tell my story so i'm going to try my best. I have been working at my current job for 4 years and in my 3rd year we employed a chemical engineer ever since the first day I saw him I fall head over hills for him. I ...
A. 11 October 2010: If you have tried your hardest to no avail then it would be safe to say that he just isnt interested. If he lives in his own world then he has lived a life that you don't know about and he may not be wanting a relationship at this point in his ... (read in full...)
We talk every single day, non-stop, without fail.. But I'm not sure if he likes me the way I like him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 18, and the guy i'm "seeing" is 20. We met through one of my friends at a birthday party and as we both have blackberries, we exchanged pins so that we could talk on blackberry messenger, as it is easier than texting and it's...
A. 11 October 2010: It seems like his interest has wained since the night at the cinema. We can talk forever on the blackberry, that's easy like msn etc, it's not in person. As soon as the line is crossed from virtual to reality then the truth will kick in. He's ... (read in full...)
Getting over my first love
Q. Okay, I'm only sixteen years old. This is a long story but if you have time please listen. It all started around three years ago when I fell in love. Although this a long story I'm going to cut it short! Well I fell in love with a guy that lives ...
A. 11 October 2010: It's only normal for him to be out with his friends. If you get together over the holidays and always have done, that's nice. We always take it a step further in relationships and with each step comes a new level to adapt to. If one of you can't ... (read in full...)
In a 8 years relationship - isolated.insecure.falling apart.
Q. I have fallen in love a hundred times with only 1 guy, he deeply love me. he respects me, he always try to understand me even sometimes I know I’m being so dumb. I am 25 and he’s 26, and we are living together for 2years now, far from our home ...
A. 11 October 2010: He has found other interests and there's nothing wrong with that. You may have to pull him back a bit on the surfing of the net, it can be very addictive. You could ask him for some time together one day a week when he turns the internet off and ... (read in full...)
She doesn't love me anymore, I don't know how to get her back
Q. hello lately i lost my girlfriend it was a serious relation for two year and we plan to get marry we have an disagreement and i say something to her witch its say i cant continue with u its the third time and its en-aught i wounder if sh...
A. 11 October 2010: Your X girlfriend seems to have found someone else and you will have to accept this. It is sad after two years but she has told you that it's over and you must leave her alone. If she wants you back she will have to come and tell you. ... (read in full...)
My fetishes are getting me into trouble!
Q. I have slight fetishes for stubble, really tan skin, and um...big hands. The trouble is that if I see a guy with one or all, I can't stop gawking! It's so embarassing! My friends make fun of me sometimes because they say I like old cavemen. I can't ...
A. 11 October 2010: It is one of the first things that do get people together, the way they look. You like that type that's all. I don't like men with beards and have never been out with one, or moustaches. Thats just me. You have to have some idea of what attracts ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't his ex just move on? She' s married!
Q. My man and his wife have been separated for 10 years and divorced for almost 3 (legal issues delayed the divorce). She still wants to be in contact with him even though he has repeatedly changed his phone number, she always gets the number somehow. ...
A. 11 October 2010: They may just be talking as friends now, they have a son in common so that could be why, to keep things on an even keel. Whatever the reason as long as it doesnt interefere with your marriage it shouldnt be a problem. I wonder if she has other ... (read in full...)
I don't think we can be together because he doesn't see children in his life and I have a son!
Q. Dear cupid, I fell in love 4 years ago and got my heart broken for the 1st and only time when he cheated on me with someone that worked in the same bar as him. We were both young and not really ready to b serious so I forgave him and we remained ...
A. 9 October 2010: Sounds like he has been through a lot and probably hasnt come to terms with it yet. He was okay about seeing you again and having fun, but seeing your son could have brought him back to reality. Life with children has to be taken with ... (read in full...)
She said I was a bad date and she hates me and I don't know why!
Q. I went to a dance with this girl Im friendly with, at the moment she hates me and wants to avoid me. I have no clue what I did and she won't talk to me. I talked to her took pictures with her and in my fb profile pic she was in there also. Im ...
A. 9 October 2010: you may be a bit too lively for her. Do you really know what you are like when youve had a drink. The old Cliche' 'I can handle a drink' is sometimes wrong. Maybe your personality doesnt match hers and she saw something in you. You sound like ... (read in full...)
How to overcome problems?
Q. I have been loving one of my best friends, both of us didn't cross our limits) for 7 years. he is all to me but we felt that we cannot convince our parents so we decided to be good friends. suddenly lot of distractions in my life. before 2 years ...
A. 9 October 2010: You need to be more assertive and say 'No' to the men very strongly. It's your body, it's your choice. The men on the other end of the phone can say what they want, they can flirt all they want. Don't give them any details of where you live. If ... (read in full...)
Husband calls me names that no responsible woman would take!
Q. i have a husband who is too controling, mean, bitter and heartless. I am not working because we have two kids together and I am the one taking care of them, every day he calls me all kinds of bad names that no responsible lady can take, before ...
A. 9 October 2010: It's simple, he doesnt appreciate you, he doesnt love you. Your kids will suffer from all the abuse and they will probably start hitting y ou and disrespecting you. Leave him.... (read in full...)
Would you dump your boyfriend if he had a low/poor sexual experience at the beginning of a long term relationship?
Q. I'm 23 and I've only had sex once and that was when in was in my first year at uni. It was pretty simple in that it was just in and out missionary. I haven't slept with anyone since although i am fairly confident when talking to women even ones I f...
A. 9 October 2010: It usually sorts itself out if you are with someone that understands you and really likes you. If you are intending on dating lots of girls then you will have a lot to hold up to. People who work at it over the duration of time usually have the ... (read in full...)
Why does my mom speak so badly about my boyfriend?
Q. I need help. I'm 20 years of age and living with my mom as I cannot afford to move out yet - my boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. My boyfriend is very responsable, he pays rent, works, studies at university, owns a car and looks...
A. 9 October 2010: My mum never liked my boyfriend, made it very difficult for me all the time, for 8 yrs. We can't always please others with who we choose. If you are meant to be together you will overcome all obstacles. I did, and I've been with him for 36yrs.... (read in full...)
I want to be good mates with him again but I don't know how!
Q. Dear all agony aunts and uncles at cupid. i have a slight problem, and i think i know what i need to do, but i would like your advice too. so there's this guy, and i've ALWAYS had a thing for him, and he knew but i don't think he's ever had a ...
A. 9 October 2010: He knows you like him and is probably unsure of how to be a mate to you in case he leads you on or doesnt give you what you want from that relationship. He is in avoidance because of it. You need to strongly talk yourself out of it and get your ... (read in full...)
I keep on dreaming that one day she will come back to me...
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend few months ago. I made many attemps at reconciliation, but non of them work. FINALLY I GAVE UP. She has cut all contacts with me. She has even changed her phone number. She never reflected on my emails which i recently ...
A. 9 October 2010: Reading between the lines, she doesnt want you back. The only thing you can do is to remember the good times and move on. Find other interests in your life and find a woman who really appreciates you. If you don't stop contacting her she will ... (read in full...)
Subtle flirtation tips needed!
Q. Hi I need some subtle flirtation tips to use tonight on this guy I've fancied for about a month. There is a chance he likes me too but I'm not sure. I'm going out with a group of friends 2nite and he's one of them. Please help!...
A. 9 October 2010: Go out looking like a million dollars, so that you feel good. Wear something nice and dressy to catch the eye. Be happy, laugh, dance. Be the most popular one there, then talk to him, he will feel so special. Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Where art thou Romeo?
Q. I'm 16, I have never had a boyfriend or never had anyone fancy me. I'm popular, outgoing and loving but no one wants to be with me. It's not that I'm not preety and I'm not fat, just ordinary, people say I look like Dani Harmer, along with the thic...
A. 9 October 2010: You admit to doing self harm. This can be a serious psychological problem. Is some of you behaviour showing through with people that is making them keep their distance. You need to address this before you can attach your self to your Romeo. ... (read in full...)
Ex is causing me wedding day blues... help!
Q. I had my son when I was 19 as I was finishing my freshman year of college. My baby daddy was 26 and a total dead beat. We had dated for only a year. It's been five years since I gave birth and I'm getting married to the man I should've had my...
A. 9 October 2010: Surely he can't stop your son from being the ring bearer. He shouldnt be still trying to control you or the situation. Do you speak to his new girlfriend. Let her know what he's trying to do, then she may question him and want to know why it even ... (read in full...)
Why did she do that???
Q. please help!!! my girlfriend and i broke up. we got back together around two weeks later. i begged her to come home even when she was shagging her ex husband whom she is stll liegally married to! the question is.. why do i feel that she cheated? ...
A. 9 October 2010: If it was a man that was doing it we could say 'He's having his cake and eating it'.. I think this is a similar situation. She is obviously not over her husband. Send her back to him to sort it out one way or another. They have a longer history ... (read in full...)
I really think that I'm in love with a friend of mine.
Q. I really think that im in love with a friend of mine. We talk ALL the time, make each other laugh and we are really close. I told him that i liked him as more then a friend and asked if he liked me in the same way but he said that he wasn't sure ...
A. 9 October 2010: He will probably end up back with his ex as they still like each other. You may just be there to make him feel better about himself until that time. If he's had a girlfriend before then he will not be afraid to have one again so maybe you just need ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my work colleague?
Q. hey i like this girl at work but i dont know how to ask her out... once i asked her she said no... i might think she like me too... but i dont know how to approach her!!...
A. 9 October 2010: She said no once. I wonder why she said that, is her situation different since then? How many more times will you ask her before she says 'yes'. If her circumstances are different you should be able to tell if she likes you then that would be ... (read in full...)
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