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Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!
Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...
A. 8 May 2008: Your issue appears to be that he saw some other woman naked. If you don't like men going to strip clubs, just come out and say so. Don't get it all tangled up with giving or denying sex.
In fact, it's perfectly possible to look at women's naked bo... (read in full...)
What's the definition of adultery?
Q. Technical question - Are you committing adultery if you aren't the married person in the affair? If you are the girlfriend of a married man, are you still considered to be an adulteress? And would you only be his mistress if he supported you in ...
A. 7 May 2008: Sorry, it appears that the poster herself isn't the adultress. It's some person on Oprah.... (read in full...)
What's the definition of adultery?
Q. Technical question - Are you committing adultery if you aren't the married person in the affair? If you are the girlfriend of a married man, are you still considered to be an adulteress? And would you only be his mistress if he supported you in ...
A. 7 May 2008: Hey, I'm only looking at this question from the technical viewpoint!
Looking at the link supplied by Irish49, namely http://www.answers.com/topic/adultery, you find that the focus is on the married person.
Wikipedia says that "the definition o... (read in full...)
What's the definition of adultery?
Q. Technical question - Are you committing adultery if you aren't the married person in the affair? If you are the girlfriend of a married man, are you still considered to be an adulteress? And would you only be his mistress if he supported you in ...
A. 7 May 2008: Merriam-Websters:
Mistress: "a woman other than his wife with whom a married man has a continuing sexual relationship"
Adultress: "a woman who commits adultery"
Adultery: "voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other th... (read in full...)
I recently found out he'd been looking at pictures of "tgirls"....
Q. Hello. I'm a 24 year old businesswoman and my husband is 26. Our sex life has become non-existent lately - every attempt I made to seduce him was refused, even when I wore sexy lingerie (which he used to love!) I recently found out he'd been lookin...
A. 7 May 2008: Anonymous, I think Leanna was suggesting that poster was spamming by making the constant references to tgirls on flicker.com.... (read in full...)
I recently found out he'd been looking at pictures of "tgirls"....
Q. Hello. I'm a 24 year old businesswoman and my husband is 26. Our sex life has become non-existent lately - every attempt I made to seduce him was refused, even when I wore sexy lingerie (which he used to love!) I recently found out he'd been lookin...
A. 7 May 2008: I've never been in a situation like this so I can only suggest the following:
The problem here is not his looking at tgirls. It's the fact that he's refusing to have sex with you.
Sure, the tgirls may have something to do with it (on the other... (read in full...)
How do you have sex? what do you do during sex?
Q. Hey i am about to have sex for the first time with my longterm boyfriend, but we have never engaged in any sexual acts before other than kissing. my question is how do you have sex? as in what do i do as he is inside me, writhe around? roll over? ...
A. 6 May 2008: Do what you feel like. Actually, the first time may be nothing to write home about. It might hurt, or it might just feel curious. The first time I had sex I was just thinking, "Wow, this is what it feels like inside a girl -- so warm and soft and ... (read in full...)
I normally know how to please a woman so what I'm I doing wrong here?
Q. well i have plenty of experience when it comes to pleasing a woman.. i don't wanna sound cocky bc i am young and i have things to learn but we are very much in love and as you know in a relationship you want to please your partner.. well i know what ...
A. 6 May 2008: "rubbing on a girl for 45 min" --ugh, that sounds so horrible. I've never thought of it as "rubbing". It's caressing, fondling, touching... but not "rubbing". Maybe it's just a matter of words, but my feeling is that you should learn to be a bit ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says there are hotter girls than me. How can I feel better about myself now?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately... I asked him if he was still with me just because of the sex (because it seems it's the time he enjoys the most when he's with me), so he said: "Look, there are hotter girls tha...
A. 6 May 2008: Actually, what he said was better than saying you're the hottest girl in the world. If having the hottest girlfriend in the world is the most important thing for him, what are you going to do when he meets someone hotter than you? You going to feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says there are hotter girls than me. How can I feel better about myself now?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch lately... I asked him if he was still with me just because of the sex (because it seems it's the time he enjoys the most when he's with me), so he said: "Look, there are hotter girls tha...
A. 6 May 2008: Birdynumnums said it all.
The guy has told you that (1) it's not about sex, it's about love, and (2) even if the sexiest girl in the world was clamouring to get into his pants she wouldn't get anywhere because he loves you. That's a pretty b... (read in full...)
Should we get it on with each other while her fiancee is away?
Q. Hi, I have a kinda tricky situation here...Any advice would be really helpful.. I've got a female friend called Sam...she's 18..We've been great friends for 3 years now and we connect on everything so well. However shes engaged now...and bac...
A. 6 May 2008: What? She's engaged at 18? I think she's too young to make that commitment. But this is a difficult situation for you.
Possible scenarios:
YOU SLEEP WITH HER
1. You sleep with her and she decides she still wants to go ahead with the marria... (read in full...)
I can't control my ejaculation when she gives me a blow job. How can I last longer?
Q. Alright I've got a strange question for you all. When my girlfriend gives me a handjob it feels good until it starts chafing obviously but then she might switch to giving me head or whatever and it feels good also but its not until she starts giving ...
A. 6 May 2008: Stop her from giving you head and do something else. It's not easy to actually control yourself from coming. Sometimes the best thing is to move to an activity that doesn't stimulate you so much. Something that she would like, like giving her oral ... (read in full...)
After 42 years of marriage my husband unexpectedly left me for a younger woman.
Q. After 42 years of marriage my husband unexpectedly left me for a younger woman. I really did not believe anything was wrong between us, i am totally and utterly heartbroken by his deceit and coldness. It is beyond belief the way that he told me,...
A. 6 May 2008: I feel so sad reading your post. You spend 42 years of your life with someone and they do that to you? Did you ever get an inkling what a cad he was during your marriage?
Ok, we often hear of older men suddenly running off with younger women...... (read in full...)
We differ in our attitude to fidelity. What can I do here?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for 8 years now. She has 2 boys 10 and 12 years old that only really know me as their dad. We have had some rough times in the past, partly because she suffers from SAD (seasonal affective disorder) and partly ...
A. 6 May 2008: Matt, I just read your post and the comments. Hang in there mate! It's heartbreaking to think she was just using you and wasting your life as a "convenience".
As for the guy sitting on the sofa, well, just think, he's got to put up with this wom... (read in full...)
I don't feel like a woman because I have a small chest!
Q. I am 28 years old and am 4'10" and weigh about 95 lbs and my chest is rather small....is that a big deal for men? My husband says he doesn't care and that I'm perfect, but is he telling the truth? He's always told me that he is a "butt" man and I ...
A. 5 May 2008: I'm not going to add much except to say:
I LOVE SMALL BREASTS!
They are so pert and sexy. Plus, I love to concentrate on nipples, and don't ask me why, but nipples on small breasts are so much more fun to stimulate. Somehow, nipples on small... (read in full...)
It was special for her, but are there other methods to ensure she has an orgasm?
Q. some educated answers would be great here!! I'm with a women with whom I make love with, literally for hours!!! Its great. The other day she had an orgasm through penetration, and I was shocked to learn that that was only the second time that had...
A. 5 May 2008: Just keep doing what you're doing. If you can give her an orgasm orally, that's already more than satisfactory, considering that some women have great difficulty achieving orgasm at all. If you can give her an orgasm through penetration, just ... (read in full...)
I'm not deformed or ugly so....how come I've never had a girlfriend? I'm 33yrs old.
Q. I am 33 years old and have never had a girlfriend before, never had a meaningful conversation with a girl, never flirted before, havent really 'liked' anyone for 11 years, and I don't have ANY friends. It's not like I am deformed or ugly, I just h...
A. 5 May 2008: I understand how you feel. The fact is, the worse you feel about yourself, the harder it is. And the harder it is, the worse you feel. I've been in that kind of vicious circle myself.
Lots of people have made a very valid point. People generall... (read in full...)
I dread when night time comes, because he always wants sex. But I'm in love with my lesbian friend!
Q. I'm a 32 Y/o female. I got married in Feb 2007. I met my husband while serving in Iraq, he was in my same unit. we got back to the states and I got pregnant. we set the date to marry. I was't so sure. I so love this man, but it wasn't the same. My...
A. 5 May 2008: There doesn't seem to be any future of the marriage if this is how you feel. This is not what how you want to be.
Difficult as it is, try to cushion the shock of losing you and make him understand that you still care for him. It just wasn't m... (read in full...)
Should I let myself or someone else get emotionally attached if I'm moving?
Q. Hi I was wondering if i could get your opinion on something i have been giving a lot of thought. I recently just started a new job and for the first time since my terrible breakup with my ex girlfriend. i really like a colleague, however i am u...
A. 5 May 2008: It's a hard one. I've been in the same situation.
It's hard enough knowing you'll be moving to a new city, with all the implications of a long-distance relationship. But going to China is a totally different kettle of fish. Once you're in China... (read in full...)
How do I convince her she needs to grow up and work on this relationship with me?
Q. Dear Cupid.... I have been with the same woman for 4 years and we are still living with her mother If anyone out there knows how tough that can be I sympathize. I can never get her to admit when she has done something that hurt me because ...
A. 5 May 2008: Sorry, this woman doesn't deserve you. You are working hard trying to build a life for the both of you, and she goes out and sleeps with another man! Come on! She is walking all over you and you are too nice to realise how perfidious this behaviour ... (read in full...)
Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!
Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...
A. 5 May 2008: "A woman turns her sexual availability to her partner on and off at her own risk." Having written this, I think it goes for the man, too. Making yourself available to satisfy your partner's sexual desires is part of a loving relationship. Surely we ... (read in full...)
I just lost my virginity- it hurt him because I'm really tight- will it get more comfortable?
Q. hey, i lost my virginity two weeks ago. my boyfriend said that i was 'tight' and it hurt him a bit. Anyway, we did it again and although it didnt hurt him this time it still hurt me a bit even though he was gentle and he kept asking me if he wanted ...
A. 4 May 2008: Yes, it will get more comfortable. The first two or three times it may continue to hurt. I think this may be especially so if you try again too quickly, because the area may be torn or tender and needs a little time to repair itself. But in time at ... (read in full...)
Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site about strip clubs!
Q. Hey Question for the BOYS and MEN on this site... ladies are welcome to write their comments as well.... After a boys night out in a Strip club .. coming home to your wife,fiance or girlfriend ... wanting to have sex with her at that moment...
A. 4 May 2008: Does it matter how he gets aroused, as long as you're the one he wants?
What say a girl came home from a night out with the girls and said, "We all got into intimate talk about our guys. I got so turned on, I just couldn't wait to come home and... (read in full...)
Does anyone else just not get that turned on when they are intimate with their partner?
Q. Can somebody please help me! Does anybody else just not get that turned on when they're being intimate with their partner? But finds it pretty easy on their own? I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and I thought maybe at the beginning...
A. 4 May 2008: I'm not sure what you're comparing this with -- your previous boyfriend(s) or your own expectations.
If he's not measuring up to your previous experiences, then he needs to try a bit harder!
If he's not measuring up to your expectations of ... (read in full...)
When did everyone stop masturbating? Or do you still do it?
Q. Hi, just for curiosity, when did everyone stop masturbating? Or do you still do it? I am 36 but stopped when i was about 20ish. Also, when did everyone start. Males and females should answer...
A. 4 May 2008: I think I was about 15. The last time was .... (let me think).... the night before last. It's not only a pleasure and a relief, it's a good way to keep your sexual organs greased up and in good working order. :)... (read in full...)
My new GF is making me choose between her and my son from a previous relation because she views my ex as a threat. Is there a middle ground?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for over a year now...we have had a fairly rocky relationship (mainly due to the fact i have a 2 year old son by another woman). It was fine to start with but as time has passed i have tried to keep my...
A. 4 May 2008: It sounds like your girlfriend wants a clean slate: she loses her family, you lose yours... She may resent the fact that you have an ex and a child complicating your relationship with her. If she's willing to risk breaking off with her own family, ... (read in full...)
I feel guilty now for wanting children, when I once said I didn't. How do handle this?
Q. I've been married for 5 years, I'm 27 and our relationship has lasted over eight years. When I was younger I didn't think I'd ever want kids. All of a sudden I can't stop thinking about having a child. My husband doesn't, and I feel guilty for want...
A. 3 May 2008: I once had a girlfriend. After we split up she found a new guy and they got married. Both of them were over 30. In their case it was the husband who really wanted children and my ex didn't. I don't know what arguments he used, but eventually he ... (read in full...)
He said when we make love that it's emotional for him. What did he mean?
Q. My boy friend and I just got back together, and we made love like we always do. Sex with him is amazing! We discussed a lot of things today and he mentioned that when we made love it was emotional for him. I didn't understand that comment...so I ...
A. 3 May 2008: That is a fantastic compliment. Of course that's the way it should be, but he is saying that sex is more than just the mutual fulfilment of an appetite. It's a way of expressing love. The fact that he feels it so strongly as to say it to you is a ... (read in full...)
I haven't seen him for a year but we email. Should I call him and what do I say?
Q. We have been keeping in touch by email, but I want to call him and I'm pretty nervous, I call him the other day and I just was like chicken s**** and pretend being some else. I felt so bad I couldn't find the courage to talk to him, cuz I didn't ...
A. 2 May 2008: You didn't say why you wanted to call him. Are you trying to find out if it's ok to start the relationship again? Or do you just want to find out if he's moved on?
Anyway, the first thing is, talk to him like an old friend. You know, how ya doin'... (read in full...)
I 19 and really, really ready to lose my "V" card but a little unsure how to make the moves!
Q. I am 19 yearl old and still a virgin,and my newest girlfriend isnt. i think that she wants to have sex with me but she knows im a virgin and its making things a little weird between us when we come close to having sex.. i dont know what i am ...
A. 2 May 2008: Tell her you really want her to be your "teacher" and take you all the way!... (read in full...)
He promised he wouldnt, but he's still looking at other girls, help!
Q. How do i trust my boyfriend again after he has lied so much? My boyfriend carried on looking at other girls even though he said that he wasn't, he seen how much it was hurting me yet he continued to do it, and lie about it again and again. Now my ...
A. 2 May 2008: You say that he is lying. When you say that, do you mean he ogled girls and said he wasn't doing it? That's called lying. Or do you mean he said he wouldn't do it again and he did? That's called an inability to keep a promise. There is a ... (read in full...)
It's the same old routine every time. I need more foreplay.
Q. Whenever i have sex with my bf its always the same routine. i toss him off he fingers me i give him head FOR ages! then he jumps on me and we have sex. And ive tried everything i can but i just cant come straight out with it, i just cant ...
A. 1 May 2008: Um... Not my strong point, but...
I imagine you in a darkened room with candlelight wearing black lace panties and bra, with a strategically placed hole over each nipple and the crutch. This daredevil young lady tells me no intercourse until I ... (read in full...)
My wife watches porn while I'm at work. Why?
Q. i recently discovered that my wife is watching porn when i'm at work. is this normal? is she doing it for personal pleasure because she is'nt satisfied by me?...
A. 1 May 2008: Well, we now know what she does while you're at work. More to the point would be what she does when you get home from work!... (read in full...)
Should I enjoy being a prostitute this much? I need money for school.
Q. I wanted to make some money for school and decided to work as a prostitute as it is a quick way to make really good money. My question is this: I am enjoying this a lot, but on TV you are always seeing hookers who hate what they do and hate the men ...
A. 1 May 2008: You are not strange. Listen to the lady with 40 years in the industry.
Despite the stigma, the sex industry is a service industry. It's a bit like being a hairdresser or masseur, but a bit more intimate... I understand that many sex workers ... (read in full...)
I fell in love but found out she has a daughter from another relationship! How can I look at her the same?
Q. Dear friends out there, thanks for all the great advice you are giving to the world because it's helped lots of people, me included. However, I have one very disturbing situation that I have gotten myself into unintentionally. I fell in love wit...
A. 1 May 2008: Oh, and by the way. She quite possibly no longer gives a fig about the man who fathered the child. If the man didn't hang around, she'd rather forget him. But she'll never forget her child. The man is not important. The child is.... (read in full...)
He promised he wouldnt, but he's still looking at other girls, help!
Q. How do i trust my boyfriend again after he has lied so much? My boyfriend carried on looking at other girls even though he said that he wasn't, he seen how much it was hurting me yet he continued to do it, and lie about it again and again. Now my ...
A. 1 May 2008: To amplify a little.
As a girlfriend once said to me: "I don't care where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home!"
Guys will look at girls' figures, there's no doubt about it. You should regard this as a purely aesthetic pursui... (read in full...)
He promised he wouldnt, but he's still looking at other girls, help!
Q. How do i trust my boyfriend again after he has lied so much? My boyfriend carried on looking at other girls even though he said that he wasn't, he seen how much it was hurting me yet he continued to do it, and lie about it again and again. Now my ...
A. 1 May 2008: Men will always look at other girls, even if it's out the corner of their eyes.
I realise that many girls find it annoying or objectionable, but I think it's better to save your anger for bigger matters. It's not a threat to your relation... (read in full...)
Why do we girls go for the bad boys?
Q. this is just a curious question here. Why do most girls fall for the "bad boy" lol so far i have liked 3 guys and two of them are bad. I wont get into it because i hate when folks judge, but anyways most girls who i know and are friends with much ...
A. 1 May 2008: Have you ever heard that men find female prisoners, even female murderers sexually fascinating?
Let me in on a secret. Bad girls turn me on. I wish they didn't, but they do. But so do good girls, come to think of it...
... (read in full...)
I feel this extremely strong love for her, yet extreme sadness at the same time. Why?
Q. I have a question about my feelings for my g/f. We have been going out for over a month, and have been best friends for about half a year. I truly think I love her, but she has had sex before several times with multiple guys. The relationship...
A. 1 May 2008: You're not alone. There are heaps of posts dealing with this issue on Dear Cupid. Sadness is one way of reacting. Others react with anger, pain, disgust... In many ways it's normal and natural for a man to feel like this, but it has to be overcome ... (read in full...)
I was shocked when my friend told me she was no longer a virgin.
Q. Yesterday my best friend told me a secret. She told me that she wasn't a virgin anymore. I was in total shock. I thought she knew better than to do something like that. I don't know how to explain it, but ever since she told me that she wasn't a ...
A. 1 May 2008: I guess it's kind of a shock to realise that something has happened that is absolutely inconceivable to you, especially if you come from a strict background. But as time goes on you'll find more and more people around you are taking that big step. ... (read in full...)
I fell in love but found out she has a daughter from another relationship! How can I look at her the same?
Q. Dear friends out there, thanks for all the great advice you are giving to the world because it's helped lots of people, me included. However, I have one very disturbing situation that I have gotten myself into unintentionally. I fell in love wit...
A. 1 May 2008: I can understand how you feel. It's a big thing to find out that not only has this fairy-tale girl you've fallen in love with had men in the past, she has also has a child. I can understand the shock that you feel. It takes a while to come to grips ... (read in full...)
He likes "golden showers" and has other fetishes. Is this a high sex drive or something else?
Q. My special male friend loves to masturbate over the phone, he also love for me to pee on him in the shower, and loves to play with my small feet. He usually blows his load 3 times during a 30 min session when we are together. does he have a high sex ...
A. 1 May 2008: He sounds fine to me!
He has a high sex drive and a few fetishes. Nothing to be alarmed about. All part of the normal spectrum of human sexuality.
Don't worry about it and enjoy him for what he is.
(By the way, a liking for Golden Shower... (read in full...)
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