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He loves me, but now his wife has found out he doesn't want to know me.
Q. I have been with someone for the past 3 years but found out 6 months ago that he has recently married. Because I love this person so much I agreed to be the other woman. I know that he loves me and he tells me all the time that it was a mistake ...
A. 16 September 2008: Silly, maybe, but it wasn't all pointless. Now you are very clear where you stand and what will happen if you stay with this guy. You have to get away from this man now, and you know it. So go out and get your own life, away from this sleazebag. ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 5 September 2008: Glad you've made the break! Good luck with your new life! You're lucky to be away from this creep. I cannot believe how he treated you.
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Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 26 August 2008: "I've sort of made a mess of things because I wanted to believe my lover so much".
So you didn't listen to a word we said? You believed this creep and you didn't believe us?
Now that you've totally ignored our advice and got yourself in deep... (read in full...)
I do not like my physical appearance, and I have very low self-esteem, how do I stop thinking negative thoughts, and increase my low self-esteem?
Q. 1st of all id like to ask God for forgiveness for not appriciating what he gave me. Hi im 18 years old and im very slim and 5 feet and 1 inch tall... I really dislike my physical appearance... everywhere I go people ask me if im 12 yrs old or so...
A. 25 August 2008: Well, this is not a philosophical answer to your question BUT, I love short slim girls. LOVE! And I love girls who look younger than their age. You sound very very appealing!
Since you're only 18 I can understand that it's galling to be compared... (read in full...)
I'm older than the girl I met, is that bad?
Q. I am a 29 year old male from the UK. Two months ago, I met this lovely 21 year old young lady. I have fallen head over heels for her; we are very much in love. But, the age gap bothers me. Does it really matter that my girlfriend is many years yo...
A. 19 August 2008: There is absolutely no problem with this age gap! What if she was 31 and you were 39? Would you regard that as a problem? How about 41 and 49? This is hardly an issue!
The only caveat that I would add is that 21 is a young age in absolute terms. I... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 24 July 2008: Well, that's two undesirables out of your life! Things can only get better!... (read in full...)
He's much older than me, and I don't allow him to kiss me. I'm not sure I understand everything about love and lust. Opinions, please?
Q. I am 20 year old. Last year I met a man who is 38 through a common friend and we became good friends. I know it sounds a bit odd as the age difference is too much to be friends.he is divorced. After knowing him for four months one day he told me ...
A. 18 July 2008: You don't understand his intentions? Why don't you ask him? Why do you want to kiss me? What do want to be to me?
It's not good for him to be coming on physically like this. If he is in love with you, he should make it clear that he wants to be wi... (read in full...)
He asked if I would wear a strap on and take him from behind?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months now. We were fine at first but now.... He has started asking really difficult sexual favours from me. He recently asked me if i would wear and strap on and take him from behind?!?! I didnt know what ...
A. 18 July 2008: Wow! This guy sounds kinky! And I don't mean that in a bad way.
The problem is that he's going too fast for you. You're obviously a staid, normal, sensible girl and this guy's wild sexual ideas have thrown you a bit. Ask him to slow down, take a d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's memory problems... are they a sign that he's not interested in me or something medical? For example, he completely forgot that I had been in hospital!!!
Q. I am feeling upset and that my boyfriend doesn't care about me because he has forgotten some things which have been important to me. I love him so much but I feel like I am getting little in return at times. I am starting to worry that he has a ...
A. 17 July 2008: I'm also the forgetful type, and I think a lot of guys are like this.
Whatever people's troubles might be and no matter how sympathetic I may feel when I hear them, they very quickly slip my mind and I say things the next day that show I've com... (read in full...)
We divorced without any communiction, and now that we have talked , we realize it could have been a mistake, how do we repair this situation?
Q. I have an unusual problem which I can relate to the misunderstanding which ended the lives of Romeo and Juliet. I was married to my wife several years; we split up for a while and were out of touch much of the time. Her family had contributed ...
A. 17 July 2008: If it's good enough for Elizabeth Taylor, it's good enough for you!
http://archives.record-eagle.com/2004/jan/25spouse.htm
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At 26, should I stick to sex with guys or try switching to girls?
Q. I am 26 years old and never had sex with a girl, only guys, I never had the loving for girls, until few months ago, what is the best way to see if I like girls,as i am trying chatting a going clubbing but cant get any girls, should i just stick to ...
A. 17 July 2008: This is not such a difficult question.
Of course you should try it with a girl! At least then you will know what you are missing out on. If you like it, try it some more. If you don't, you can always go back to men with renewed vigour.
But it'... (read in full...)
How can I stop my masturbation habit? It feels like I'm cheating on the girl I love!
Q. I am in great problem.. please someone help me get out of this crap.. i am not able to have a firm control on my mind.. I love a girl a lot. and she too loves me a lot.. now a days because of some problem at her place, we are not able to be in to...
A. 17 July 2008: Masturbation is not a problem. And it's good to keep your genitals and prostate in working order by masturbating.
It's not good if you masturbate in preference to having sex with her, but that doesn't seem to be the problem here.
Pornography i... (read in full...)
Can you buy viagra legally in Cyprus? Or is there anything better you can buy?
Q. I have trouble getting hard when wanting sex when drunk and going on holiday to cyprus next month can you viagra in cyprus and also is they anything betting you can buy. I bought some blue pills from ann summers but i tried one because i wanted...
A. 17 July 2008: Why do you need to get drunk to want sex?
Try having a few less drinks and you will enjoy sex much more anyway. Viagra should be used as a last resort. Nobody wants to rely on drugs to get an erection. It's a sad, sad thing that most men would ra... (read in full...)
We didn't use protection, but he pulled out. Could I be pregnant?
Q. umm, i had sex without protection and he pulled out of my vagina. after he pulled out i seen pre cum and real cum came out at the same time. but it didn't get inside of me. could i be pregnant if that happened ?...
A. 16 July 2008: I've used the withdrawal method a lot in the past. I never got a girl pregnant. Then I got my current girlfriend. She got pregnant twice even though I withdrew. It's not safe and you should use contraception or protection.... (read in full...)
Was it wrong for him to do this?
Q. hi every body im 13 years old ... is this wrong? a boy held me down and kissed me asked for sex asked for pictures and then when my friend calls him he says he doesnt know me so i talked to him and hes like o i remember you and i was like duh and ...
A. 16 July 2008: Of course it's wrong! Make no mistake about it, he's treating you like a piece of shit. Don't let boys treat you like this. Ever.... (read in full...)
My fiancee had sex with another woman, I'm having a hard time dealing with this.
Q. This is crazy! My fiance' and I have been together for a number of years. We have kids together and life is just what it is, life. We have great sex and have had a threesome in the past and the topic has come up to have another and possibly ...
A. 16 July 2008: The problem is one of honesty and openness. I don't know what your rules are on foursomes, threesomes, etc. are, but she should be honest with you.
I suggest she may be afraid to be honest with you, and in that case you need to give her reassura... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??
Q. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...
A. 16 July 2008: Good to see that it worked out!... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 16 July 2008: Hey, I'm 54 and I don't act like that!
This man sounds like an insensitive domineering type (to put it mildly) and he's using his age and experience to cow you into submission. The fact that he's been married 5 times and has 13 children also mak... (read in full...)
My husband accuses me of masturbating in my sleep and, and he yells at me, now he wants to video tape me while I am masturbating, it is causing major problems because I don't want him to do it, what do I do, we are on the verge of divorce??
Q. My husband just recently started to accuse me of masturbating in my sleep. This causing major problems in our marriage. He now is requesting I allow him to video tape while I am sleeping. I know I am not doing this because when he has yelled at me ...
A. 16 July 2008: This is not normal behaviour. I am very curious. Has this strange behaviour come out of the blue? Has your marriage been quite normal all these years, or have there been previous episodes or early signs?
I will leave it to someone else who has ... (read in full...)
How Do I Keep My Ex Away From My Social Scene?
Q. ok , so me an my ex got together about a year ago. we spent a lot of time together, probably too much, but all that time was spent at his, at his mates ir driving him to and from his mates, i never had anychance to see my mates, when i did break th...
A. 15 July 2008: I just think you have to cut him out of your life as hard and ruthlessly as you can. He's got no right to be intruding into your life. It's obviously tough if he wants to be an arsehole and destroy any chance you have of enjoying life without him. ... (read in full...)
My husband accuses me of masturbating in my sleep and, and he yells at me, now he wants to video tape me while I am masturbating, it is causing major problems because I don't want him to do it, what do I do, we are on the verge of divorce??
Q. My husband just recently started to accuse me of masturbating in my sleep. This causing major problems in our marriage. He now is requesting I allow him to video tape while I am sleeping. I know I am not doing this because when he has yelled at me ...
A. 15 July 2008: He called your family to tell them that you masturbated in your sleep? This would worry me more than his desire to videotape you.
He seems to be making such a big deal of it, why would he want to videotape it? Normally a guy who found his wife mas... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 15 July 2008: Oh dear, that's a terrible, terrible thing to say. I can't believe that anyone would say anything so hurtful as that. I'm sorry, this person is not a true friend. You should forget about her. One day she may wake up to what a heartless person she's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on fisting me and having rough sex even though I have had many operations 'down below' and it causes me so much pain
Q. so i think i need some advice cause i am not sure what to do. my fiance and i have been together for a year and a half. we are deeply in love and he does everything under the sun for me. i couldnt ask for a better man. but we have a few sex issues. ...
A. 14 July 2008: My God, I can't imagine a worse combination than a anal fister and a woman whose multiple operations render her totally unable to bear fisting!
I cannot believe that someone could "make love" to another person knowing that that person was failing ... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??
Q. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...
A. 14 July 2008: Incidentally, in this case it is obvious that there is no room for accommodation between the OP and her boyfriend. Since it torments the life out of her, causes her to break down crying, and causes her to take extreme action like destroying her ... (read in full...)
I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??
Q. My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...
A. 14 July 2008: I don't think this is a pro-porn board. The people here try to avoid extremes.
* One extreme is represented by women like marieclaire with their implacable hatred of porn in any form or in any circumstances.
* The other is the phenomenon of po... (read in full...)
Is my sex drive too high for a girl my age, as my boyfriend says?
Q. I asked a question about my boyfriend's sex drive, but now I have a question about my own. My boyfriend (We'll call him Matthew) tells me that my sex drive is too high for a girl of my age. I'm eighteen and I find myself in the mood upward o...
A. 14 July 2008: It's not too high at all. No such thing as too high!
However, it might be too much for your boyfriend to keep up with! In which case it's just a mismatch between sex drives. You could just as easily say your boyfriend's sex drive is too low.
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I only like receiving oral sex, any suggestions, to help me reciprocate?
Q. Hello. I have some sort of phobia or fear or disgust of giving oral to a women. Now I've been with my girlfriend for a year and she is very relaxed in giving me oral and demands none because she knows how I feel which I really appreciate of he...
A. 13 July 2008: Oh dear! I couldn't imagine not going down on my woman!
The thing is, it's such a treasurehouse of delights. Those labia are just fabulous to run my tongue over and feel gently between my lips. That little hole is fabulous for a little gentle t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has left me twice for other women, should I trust him this time, or move on, I do love him??
Q. My boyfriend of 5 years has left me twice for another women. The last one was a 17 year old girl, and now he came back and says he loves me and wants to work on thins. But i took him back once and he promised all the same things, so should i fall ...
A. 13 July 2008: A pattern of breaking up and getting back together, breaking up and getting back together is not a very good one. I don't think the prospects are terribly good for such a relationship, although there is always a chance that in the end the two people ... (read in full...)
I was so mad I slapped her across the face!
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had canner. I even missied a week of school because of it. When I told my best friend say I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slapped her across the face1!! Why would ...
A. 13 July 2008: I don't know if you've seen your friend, but it's possible she feels horribly ashamed of what she said.
She may have felt at a loss how to deal with something so deeply affecting as the loss of a brother, and her way of wishing the discomfo... (read in full...)
Views on condoms - sex more pleasurable without?
Q. I now feel ready for full sex-my boyfriend is too. We've talked about contraception and condoms.Some of my friends saythere's no difference in the pleasurable sensations for a woman whether a man wears one or not.Others say the feeling is much bet...
A. 13 July 2008: The answer is simple. It's much better without a condom. For both the guy and the girl.
But as the aunts have pointed out, it's not much fun having sex without a condom if there's all hell to pay for it later. If you fall pregnant or get a diseas... (read in full...)
How can I tell when my boyfriend has an orgasm?
Q. I have never been able to tell when my boyfriend is having an orgasm during intercourse. The first guy I slept with I could only tell because it burned when he ejaculated and it turned out I was allergic to a protein in his semen. With my current ...
A. 13 July 2008: Girls never have a problem knowing I'm coming because (1) my penis swells up to a larger size (2) my penis pulsates as I come. There are also the facial expression, breathing, etc.
But there's another reason. I usually stop moving when I come. Th... (read in full...)
Would he love me more if I was in a porn film?
Q. If your boyfriend watches Internet porn should you film an internet porn film of yourself? My boyfriend watches porn, even though he thinks I don't know it. He goes on the internet, and he consistently lies about going on the porn sites, even thou...
A. 13 July 2008: He wouldn't love you more, but he'd certainly get turned on!
Only do these things if you really feel like doing it yourself. For instance, do you have a secret desire to be filmed in a golden shower flick? Then go for it! It could be a huge tur... (read in full...)
He loves me, but now his wife has found out he doesn't want to know me.
Q. I have been with someone for the past 3 years but found out 6 months ago that he has recently married. Because I love this person so much I agreed to be the other woman. I know that he loves me and he tells me all the time that it was a mistake ...
A. 13 July 2008: I would find someone else. Why would you want to be in a situation like this, anyway? I think the only thing that makes it palatable to you was the fact that he seemed to prefer you. That may have been some consolation, but the fact that he doesn't ... (read in full...)
My gf found porn on my computer. Is she over reacting?
Q. Hi there, I could do with some advice on my girlfriend’s reaction to finding porn on my computer! I know it's understandable my girlfriend of 4 mths should not be happy with this, but she was completely devastated when she found out as if I had ...
A. 13 July 2008: I mentioned that porn made women feel insecure and disrespected because so many women who dislike porn have cited this as the reason.
There is porn and there is porn. Yes, there is animal sex and pissing on women. There are also women pissing ... (read in full...)
My gf found porn on my computer. Is she over reacting?
Q. Hi there, I could do with some advice on my girlfriend’s reaction to finding porn on my computer! I know it's understandable my girlfriend of 4 mths should not be happy with this, but she was completely devastated when she found out as if I had ...
A. 12 July 2008: There are a lot of threads about this. You might do a search of "Dear Cupid" using the keywork "porn".
It's a fact that guys often don't take porn terribly seriously. On the other hand, the previous poster is, unfortunately, typical of the reac... (read in full...)
How do I get her to stop worrying about my adolescent sexual experiences??
Q. Hi I've been with my gf for 2 years now, I love her to death. She is the second woman I have ever slept with, the first was my girlfriend that I had between the ages of 13 and 16 (on and off, mostly off- I dumped her for good a few weeks after I ...
A. 12 July 2008: This is a tough one. Reading your post, I believe every word of it. I didn't have sex as a teenager, either, but I can believe that it's nothing special. The trouble is, your girl obviously feels very insecure and thinks you're "just saying it".
... (read in full...)
My wife wants me to send her the money to file for a divorce. What do you think?
Q. Hi there, two weeks ago I posted my concern at "dearcupid". It was about my thai wife who got pregnant from a Thai man. Yesterday she sent me an email to let me know that she is going to divorce me. Thus I got to call her up. She claimed that she...
A. 12 July 2008: There are some absolute horror stories out of Thailand. One is the Thai woman married to a foreigner who has all these male "cousins" hanging round. Of course, the cousins are all boyfriends.
This woman of yours sounds like a wife from hell. I ... (read in full...)
Is there a particular age that a woman, is assumed to be sexually active or not a virgin?
Q. At what age is it assumed a woman is sexually active? For men, is it a turn off to find out a woman is a virgin? Especially, of those men that are of mature age? For women, how old were some of you when you lost your virginity? What sort of pre...
A. 12 July 2008: You "waited" till you were 17?
16 or 17 seems to me being terribly young.... Are all those high school students running around after class having sex before they do their homework?
I guess I'm showing my age. I waited till I was 20 :) ... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 12 July 2008: The OP has apologised privately for her outburst. And I was impressed that she admitted that she's used to getting her own way and needs to change.
I don't think that people should be just written off as "hopeless". It's always possible for peop... (read in full...)
Quiz on guys!
Q. I have couple of fun questions on you GUYS !!! 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more lik...
A. 12 July 2008: 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating?
Because kissing is a step on the way to seducing the girl to have sex. Once you've reached the ultimate goal, why go through all those arduous steps again. (Actuall... (read in full...)
I didn't reach to climaxing in my relationships, does my problem have anything to do with the way I masturbate?
Q. When i masturbate, i do it face down, rubbing my clitoris in a pillow, floor or bed and my orgasms are amazing. I've tried to masturbate the regular way, just by sitting or laying down on a bed face up, and rub my clitoris with my fingers or ...
A. 12 July 2008: No one can tell you exactly what to do because it's your body, and everyone's body is different. You have lots of time to experiment and find out. Take it easy, don't hurry, and enjoy the journey!
By the way, have you used a vibrator?... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 12 July 2008: Just as I was posting the previous posts, I got the following message from the OP in my mailbox:
"hun please! just wanna tell ya, i'm not a nasty hoe k. and R.E. should be with someone like me not a fat nasty geek ok. get it right sweetie.... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 12 July 2008: "Despite their image as gorgeous, masculine hunks, I've heard from a number of people that they are not always terribly good lovers."
I was talking about football players here. ... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 12 July 2008: OK, I apologise for my previous reply. I don't normally like putting people down when they are asking for advice, but your post just rubbed me up the wrong way. I'm sorry to hear that you couldn't get the guy you wanted. It happens, more often than ... (read in full...)
How Do I Keep My Ex Away From My Social Scene?
Q. ok , so me an my ex got together about a year ago. we spent a lot of time together, probably too much, but all that time was spent at his, at his mates ir driving him to and from his mates, i never had anychance to see my mates, when i did break th...
A. 11 July 2008: I don't get this. He's your EX. He has no right to be bothered if you don't invite him along to YOUR night out. He doesn't own you!
You don't have to apologise, you don't have to do anything. Tell him to get lost. And keep up the secrecy. He's got... (read in full...)
I didn't reach to climaxing in my relationships, does my problem have anything to do with the way I masturbate?
Q. When i masturbate, i do it face down, rubbing my clitoris in a pillow, floor or bed and my orgasms are amazing. I've tried to masturbate the regular way, just by sitting or laying down on a bed face up, and rub my clitoris with my fingers or ...
A. 11 July 2008: It's quite possible that the way you masturbate has something to do with it. I had a girlfriend who masturbated like you. In the 8 years we were together I was never able to give her an orgasm, whether through intercourse or oral. We would go for ... (read in full...)
Geek gets love, popular girl gets lovesick!!!
Q. Ok this is how it is, i met this awesome guy named R.E. at school, and him and my bestfriend were going out when i met him, but then he broke up with her and me and him started going out, but i had a boyfriend that was on the football team and he ...
A. 11 July 2008: Sounds like R.E. and you would be a terrible match.
1. You are a liar. You lied to him that you broke up with your HOTTIE football team hunk.
2. You are really up yourself. What makes you think you are so good that you can refer to other p... (read in full...)
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