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My fiend claims she likes the same guy, if I go with him it will put an end to our friendship.
Q. ok, the situation is that my friend told me he likes me and i like him too, but then when i told my other friend this she claims she likes him also… alot, and being with him would put an end to our friendship. what do i do?...
A. 4 July 2008: As they say, all's fair in love and war....... (read in full...)
I get aroused very easily, is this wrong and can it be controlled?
Q. i think i have a slight problem. the problem i get is that i get aroused really quickly, which i feel is not a good thing. last night i was out with some friends and things got a little touchy feelly. all he did was slowly stroked my arms and put ...
A. 4 July 2008: Wow, that's wonderful. You don't need to control it. You are a very sensual person and guys will love it. The man you end up with is a lucky guy.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend asked me how big/small his penis was compared to my exes. Does it really matter?
Q. My boyfriend asked me how big/small his penis was compared to my exes. when i said i didn't remember he said i was lying. so then i said fine, they were all smaller, then he was angry that i remembered what their penises looked like! why is he doin...
A. 4 July 2008: You're damned if you do and damned if you don't!
Tell him you don't remember them very well, you just know that his size was overwhelming so of course you noticed that they were smaller than his. HIS is the only penis that you remember in any deta... (read in full...)
Help! I'm so inexperienced. I don't have a clue what to do with a penis!
Q. help! Im so inexperienced in bed. Ive had a few sexual partners but they've always taken the lead. Basically i dont have a clue what to do with a penis and feel so stupid. Ive never given a blow job and wouldnt even know where to start. Im even usel...
A. 4 July 2008: Also figure out which parts are sensitive. The straightforward answer is, the underside, especially towards the top. Also the balls.
Caress and be gentle. Squeezing the penis is OK. "Rubbing" (like rubbing the skin anywhere on the body) it is no... (read in full...)
Help! I'm so inexperienced. I don't have a clue what to do with a penis!
Q. help! Im so inexperienced in bed. Ive had a few sexual partners but they've always taken the lead. Basically i dont have a clue what to do with a penis and feel so stupid. Ive never given a blow job and wouldnt even know where to start. Im even usel...
A. 4 July 2008: The most important thing is to love his penis, have passion for his penis, but be gentle.
Don't ever "rub" it. It's to be caressed, cared for, fondled, loved.... Don't forget, a penis was meant to go in a vagina, which is warm, soft, and wet. Whe... (read in full...)
Met an amazing guy in a foreign country, now I'm depressed that I can't see him again until February. Please advise.
Q. ok guys i need help - although i dunno if there is a solution! ok, i was with my boyf for 3 yrs and we broke up - on friendly terms. just before we ended, i was in brazil and met this amazing guy. we were with eachother for only 3 days but swapped ...
A. 4 July 2008: One other point, holiday romances have a habit of petering out in the light of solid reality. I hope it's not the case here, but the romance of meeting in a strange and exotic place, the eagerness for new experiences, the loss of inhibitions... ... (read in full...)
Met an amazing guy in a foreign country, now I'm depressed that I can't see him again until February. Please advise.
Q. ok guys i need help - although i dunno if there is a solution! ok, i was with my boyf for 3 yrs and we broke up - on friendly terms. just before we ended, i was in brazil and met this amazing guy. we were with eachother for only 3 days but swapped ...
A. 4 July 2008: I think you were being tough on q1605. A lot of what he says makes sense, although expressed somewhat elliptically.
I don't agree that there are any issues about your previous boyfriend, infidelity, or anything else. That's just the luck of the d... (read in full...)
I really struggle with the way he talks to his friends about women...
Q. I have what I think is a great relationship with my boyfriend - He always says he is really happy and we talk about having a family next year. We have a great sex life too - only problem is that I really struggle with the way he talks to his ...
A. 3 July 2008: It almost sounds as if he's taking you for granted. Has he always been like this, or is it something that's only started since you got into a comfortable routine?
It does sound as if he wouldn't mind a bit of excitement, but on the other hand, a ... (read in full...)
Met an amazing guy in a foreign country, now I'm depressed that I can't see him again until February. Please advise.
Q. ok guys i need help - although i dunno if there is a solution! ok, i was with my boyf for 3 yrs and we broke up - on friendly terms. just before we ended, i was in brazil and met this amazing guy. we were with eachother for only 3 days but swapped ...
A. 3 July 2008: Well, q1605 has certainly been put in his place!... (read in full...)
He sent me this email... opinions please?
Q. I was dating this guy for 6 months and I'm 7 months pregnant and he left me for another girl and I don't know why. He is excited about the baby but doesn't want to be with me, can you read his e-mail and let me know what you think?dearest Miranda, ...
A. 3 July 2008: If I'm reading this correctly, your husband never really let you go, you never really let your husband go, and your husband is now back with you. Is that correct? That seems to be the boyfriend's reason for wanting out.
At any rate, you're i... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008: Lazyguy, never a truer word was spoken! All of these nice agony aunts are actually causing lots of agony in real life. Then they come on here and pretend to be sweet and sympathetic!... (read in full...)
Anyone know the percentage of women who masturbate in India??
Q. precentage of women masturbation in india?...
A. 3 July 2008: I would LOVE to know the answer to this question. Also the approximate time of day. You know, with the population of India being so huge, and all being within one or two time zones, that's an AWFUL LOT OF WOMEN masturbating within the space of a few ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me with both my siblings!
Q. I ahve been married 27 years but since the day I got married my husband cheated. I always knew but naturally lied to, but things have just come out. I have a twin he put his tongue on her while she slept and she woke up and freaked and told him ...
A. 3 July 2008: Also, I'd be curious to know if this behaviour stopped some years ago (you mentioned actions while he was in his 20s), or whether he is still like that.... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me with both my siblings!
Q. I ahve been married 27 years but since the day I got married my husband cheated. I always knew but naturally lied to, but things have just come out. I have a twin he put his tongue on her while she slept and she woke up and freaked and told him ...
A. 3 July 2008: He sounds like a sex maniac who is depraved enough to touch anything in sight. If he was a 15-year old boy I might be able to understand, but as a grown man it's not good that he's unable to keep his lust within bounds. I'm sure that if the family ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my husband's younger brother and had sex with him. Why is this so wrong?
Q. I'm a married woman in my 20s, I really love my husband. He's in his 20s also. We have a great sex life. Even so, I've been attracted to his younger brother (also in his 20s) since before we got married. Recently, his brother and I got a little ...
A. 3 July 2008: What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Have you got a sister or female cousin? I suggest you get your husband to hook up with her and have some raunchy sex.
I'm sure you can both relish your experience when you get back in bed with... (read in full...)
He says he can't be in a relationship with me but he wants to still be intimate?
Q. Recently i met this guy and began talking to him. we bacame very close in a short space of time. For the first couple of months we were talking every day over the phone for hours upon hours. We then met up a few times and it was great and he then ...
A. 2 July 2008: I think the poster explained that he wasn't getting a "fuck", so she can't technically be called his "fucktoy".
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He says he can't be in a relationship with me but he wants to still be intimate?
Q. Recently i met this guy and began talking to him. we bacame very close in a short space of time. For the first couple of months we were talking every day over the phone for hours upon hours. We then met up a few times and it was great and he then ...
A. 1 July 2008: He wants to have his cake and eat it too.
He says he's not ready for a new relationship, but he's certainly ready for a bit of no-strings-attached intimacy! If you're not happy with a relationship like this, then you don't have to put up with it.... (read in full...)
My partner of 9 years has been secretive and dishonest!
Q. I have just found out that my partner of 9 years has been lying to me. He has been looking at porn on his mobile and getting off on it. Now that isn't the problem its the lying and the secrecy and the fact it has escalated to him using text ...
A. 1 July 2008: It sounds like you disapprove of his looking at porn. I think he was lying because he was ashamed of it and didn't want to let you know.
By pushing porn appreciation outside the bounds of your relationship, you appear to have inadvert... (read in full...)
Vaginal wind problems?
Q. What happens to cause a vaginal wind (fanny fart) and what can you do to prevent this happening?...
A. 1 July 2008: Why would you want to stop it? It's great! Only ever happened with one girlfriend, but she was a real turn-on in every way. In fact, her muscle spasms were sometimes so strong that she once pushed my penis out!... (read in full...)
I never wanna fall in love again because I'll either be a WHORE or he'll be a PLAYER!
Q. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm still deeply, madly in love with my ex. He broke up with me today, again. He always does it. I just, I guess I'm an idiot. When we first met, the chemistry was all over. When we started dating, everythi...
A. 1 July 2008: Lots of guys have problems accepting their girlfriend's past sexual history, no matter how innocent it was. But when it gets as pathological as it is with your guy, it's a relationship-breaker.
No matter how "wonderful" he is in every other re... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him - But he lives in another country, and he has a girlfriend!
Q. I've loved my best friend of five years for a long time, and I used to think that he was interested in me as a girlfriend. We live in different countries but I eventually plan on returning to his country and I always hoped we'd wind up toge...
A. 1 July 2008: It's sad when the person we love slips beyond our grasp and I can understand your pain. But it's too early to write the rest of your life off yet!
The way ahead is to let him go and find someone new. You shouldn't keep pining about the one that... (read in full...)
Is 15 too young to fall in love?
Q. is 15 too young to fall in love? and to find the one you wanna spend the rest of your life with?..i know it would take lots of work and stuff but if you love the person you'll go through it all....
A. 1 July 2008: I agree that it's too early at 15 to be thinking so far ahead. You may indeed find your lifelong companion at 15, but you won't be in a position to really truly know for sure for a few years yet. At 15, your own ideas will change as you grow older, ... (read in full...)
He saw me naked yet did not step over the limit with me! He says he did not want to rush things but I'm worried he finds me unattractive?!
Q. A guy i've been seeing occasionally came to visit me this weekend. He drove 1.5-2hrs to get here. This would've been our 4th "date". During our first two we had just cuddled but on our last date we made out a lot. I wasn't sure what was going to ...
A. 1 July 2008: He's taking his time. He possibly wants to be sure before he goes into an intense sexual relationship. The trouble with intense sexual relationships is that they are very hard to break off even when all the signs say you should.
I don't think yo... (read in full...)
I love him but he is being really cruel to me...should I file for a divorce??
Q. For the past few months my husband has been threatening divorce, and it's been really lowering my self-esteem. We got married and moved to the states this year. He is able to work, and I wasnt able to work since I had no authorization. Recently, I ...
A. 30 June 2008: The change in situation may have a lot to do with it.
Before you came to the States, you were a normal, self-sufficient woman. Now that you're in the States, suddenly you seem below-normal, unable to work, and with a low educational level (that ne... (read in full...)
Anyone else turned off by the way some guys kiss?
Q. Is there a reason why some men when they kiss a woman every seems ok but when the lips touch there comes the hard tongue and they think is sexy and that makes them great kissers. I find it a turn off and is not seductive..I actually said to this ...
A. 30 June 2008: I think the problem is that some guys mistake their tongue for their penis.
Whether in sex or making love, it's always better to be gentle and teasing.... (read in full...)
I'm 6 mths pregnant and I hate what's inside of me, what do I do?
Q. im 17 and 6 month pregnant i dont feel i love this child i hate whats inside of me what do i do ...
A. 27 June 2008: Look into the options, but wait till the little fellow/girl pops out before you do anything. You might find yourself loving it after all.... (read in full...)
After 10 years, it's starting to bother me she's the only sexual partner I have had. Is this a mid-life crisis??
Q. My partner is 6 years older than me and we have been together for the last 10 years. She is the only g/f I've ever had but she has had sex with at least 25 boyfriends prior to our relationship. After 10 years, it is only just starting to bother me ...
A. 27 June 2008: I'm going to go against the consensus here. It's no use telling you that it's much better with a steady lover because you've never had anything to compare it with. You've got to find out for yourself.
Why don't you try a prostitute? You'll c... (read in full...)
I need opinions on this letter I've written the boy I like!
Q. I have a question. I was wondering if anyone could give me their thoughts on this letter I was going to mail to the boy I like telling him about an idea I had. Please give me ur honest opinon. Here it is: Hey (Anonymous) I want u 2 know that...
A. 27 June 2008: I agree that short and sweet is better. It should be a pleasant, friendly, but polite invitation, not a heartfelt confession of love.
If he accepts, and things go on from there, there will be plenty of time for confessions of love then!... (read in full...)
He keeps hurting me--but I love him!! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend, after going out a bit told me if i wanted to go to his house and i said yes after a while of hanging out he was pressuring me to have sex with him but after i told him no he got really mad and start pinning me to wall and ...
A. 27 June 2008: This is extremely serious behaviour. "Love" should be something wonderful. This most definitely is not.
Find someone decent to love, not someone who rapes you and abuses you.... (read in full...)
He was my friend with benefits, but now he has a girlfriend!
Q. i have known this guy that i really like for 8 years and we have been kinda freinds with benifits, now he has a gf and he says he loves me and doesnt really like her. a couple of dayz ago we had an amazing nite together where we were cuddling and ...
A. 27 June 2008: Are you really only 13 years old?... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, but then kicks up a massive fuss over small mistakes! What do I do?
Q. How can I stop missing him? Long story short: early in the relationship he asked about my past, I lied, came clean, he judged me and called me names (for my past) and became a bit controlling (I eventually stopped seeing my friends because ...
A. 27 June 2008: No man should stop you from seeing your friends. Everyone needs friends, family, and lover. You can't drop one; it will cripple your emotional and social life.
Despite the fact that he wants to control your behaviour, your attempts to do the same... (read in full...)
He dumped me via email! How can I move on and regain trust in men?
Q. I just got dumped today by my boyfriend (now ex, I suppose) of 4 months by email today. He sent it to me in response to my calls yesterday when I had a horrible feeling that he was avoiding my calls. In the email he said that he will still st...
A. 27 June 2008: It may sound trite, but men and women are all PEOPLE. There are some pretty faithless, uncaring men out there. And there are some pretty faithless, uncaring women out there. Just as there are decent men and decent women out there. There are men who ... (read in full...)
I don't hear from her now we've broken up, and it's bothering me.
Q. I know this may seem like a weird thing to say but...I broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago...and about a week ago...I haven't heard anything from her (by that I mean she hasn't been on my messenger) I don't want to sound worried but it's ...
A. 27 June 2008: If you broke up, she's doing the right thing. She shouldn't be continuing on as if nothing has happened. That's virtually the same as not breaking up at all.... (read in full...)
What counts when it comes to losing your virginity?
Q. I am a bit unsure about other peoples opinion and the cold hard fact about virginity. Right then, i want to start by saying that i believe myself not to be a virgin but i would just like to clear up a few things. My idea of losing your virgini...
A. 27 June 2008: You are rather splitting hairs here. So it only went in part of the way and you think you're still a virgin?
Well, I guess, however you want it. You can tell your next boyfriend that you had a dick part of the way in and you want him to finish t... (read in full...)
He goes completely soft if I stop even for one minute to get the condom!
Q. Been with my bf 4 a year.. during foreplay if im givin him a handjob he gets hard, but then if i stop at all for even a minute to get a condom he goes soft...whats the problm? Like i mean completely soft!!...
A. 27 June 2008: He should seek medical help for this. It may be a physical problem. It may be psychological. But going soft is not good for you, and it's not good for his ego, either. (In fact, the more he worries, the harder it is to get a hard-on. It's a vicious ... (read in full...)
I cant help screaming when my man and I have sex, but it wakes the old lady next door, I cant help it though, is this normal?
Q. I like to scream when I come. My boyfriend asks me not to make too much noise because there is an elderly lady living next door. Not long his neighbour complains about it. I feel embarassing and bad to wake her because we always make love after ...
A. 27 June 2008: Perhaps you could have a bit of sound proofing put in. Might cost a bit, but if you're going to invest in any lifestyle improvements, this is the one for you. I'm sure the elderly lady next door will thank you for it. And you will be able to scream ... (read in full...)
I''m in menopause and lost interest in sex but I'm upset my partner is resorting to porn!
Q. i am 50 years old going through menopause have gone completly off sex my partner for 2 years has informed me during a heated discussion that he is paying for porn channels of sky every month and is masturbating to it i feel sick and disgusted with ...
A. 27 June 2008: I think you are quite selfish. You are like the proverbial dog in a manger. And prudish to boot.
The ball is in your court to try and do something about your sexual relationship. He's doing his best, in the best way he can. Instead of being di... (read in full...)
He asked for another chance and messed around on me. I caught him and now I want REVENGE!
Q. i split up wiv my long term partner of 8 yrs last yr.i have a 4 and 2 yr old kids and they took it hard.alot was trust issues.i had herd rumors about him sleeping with other women but always took his word for it but he never trusted me ie;going to ...
A. 27 June 2008: Congratulations! You should be thankful that this liar has been exposed for what he is and is out of your life at last. His new girlfriend of 3 months may have forgiven him, but with the cat out of the bag you can be pretty sure she doesn't trust ... (read in full...)
How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women?
Q. How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women? At the moment, I feel like a) I'm not good enough for him and b) upset that he'd even want to look at these I need advice, please....
A. 27 June 2008: If it's not an addiction, having him look at pictures of naked women is nothing to get upset about.
If I found my woman looking at pictures of "beefcake" I guess I'd get a bit defensive, too, so I can understand your feelings, given that I'm no b... (read in full...)
I don't want my classmates to know I'm gay, how can I rig this test?
Q. I am a psychology Student and I'm on my 4th year of studying. I have this major subject called Projective testing and it reveals the deepest and inner part of yourself that you hide. The test shows many aspects of personality that is basically what ...
A. 26 June 2008: I find it difficult to believe that any psychological test can reveal you are gay.... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: I felt quite sad reading your last post.
You say you don't know what love is. Maybe he feels that, too. Or maybe he's fallen out of love himself. Whatever the cause, the two of you have a lot of sexual and relationship issues that are causing ... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: The way you put it, he definitely has serious resentments pent up inside.
"Castration" (means he feels inferior and less masculine). Rape (means he's punishing you for your "indiscriminate" sexual desires). "Find nice friends in the park" (means h... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: Well, the problem lies with your husband's poor sexual performance, not your nymphomaniacal desires! :)
His rough sexual play and blaming you for his premature ejaculation sounds like he's angry with you for some reason.
It also sounds like... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: Posted my response after an exchange between Daniel Pew and the OP, so my comments might be off the mark.... (read in full...)
Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: Which is the problem?
1) Your husband's lovemaking is boring and a chore, and he starts getting impatient after 5 minutes.
2) No matter how good your husband's lovemaking might be, you just want multiple sexual partners, that's what you like.
... (read in full...)
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