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female
age
30-35,
*ikkig1989@hotmail.com
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years... he's Turkish... I'm going to his country to marry him in March... am i doing the right thing? Reply to this Question
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reader, A Cappella  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 So... did you marry him?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 February 2008):
 If you have found your true love, then it is not wrong. But you will need to find out about their cultures and way of life there and be willing to adept.
Good Luck.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (9 February 2008):
 You know this reminds me of that one scam, where this man met this woman in another country to marry her, but she had someone kill him off and then they took his money.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (8 February 2008):
 at your age? no.you should be aware they if you think you can bring him back you will be sadly mistaken. I know several women married to Turkish guys and even though they are married and business professionals and stinking rich UK immigration won't allow him a UK passport or rights to stay in the UK.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (8 February 2008):
Find out how women are treated in Turkey. What rights would you have? Do you speak Turkish? How would you get along? Can you get a job there (are you allowed to get a job there)? Do the research before Turkey becomes your country, too.
No matter how much you love him, if you're unhappy because of your environment your marriage will be strained. Look before you leap, hon. Good luck.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (8 February 2008):
 Your asking a bunch of strangers whether you should marry a man? If you dont no the answer already then DONT DO IT your young you have your whole life to get married and settle down live your life while you still can
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): if u even have to consider the question
then the answer is probably no.
what are your concerns?
x
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (8 February 2008):
 if you have to ask the question then i would guess no. you are having doubts about this and it doesnt seem like you are ready for marriage yet. you need to figure out why you are having second thoughts and find out how you really feel about this man
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): This decision is a big one and you obviously have some doubts. So stop the process until you work it out.
Please, if your unsure of ANYTHING about this marriage, stop and figure it out. Moving, culteral differences and youth indicate to me that maybe if you unsure enough to post on here that you have some doubts. It is wise to follow through those doubts.
Marriages are not all sunshine and flowers. It is hard work, involved sacrafices and compromises. Marriage should be something you commit to for life.
Work out what you are hoping to achieve or gain from this marriage and what you are willing to contribute or sacrafice.
It's a big committment and life changing situation. You need to wonder and work out if this is really the one.
It is much harder to get out of a marriage once your attached, than take the time to be totally ready and able to handle this new life you are considering.
Take time if you think for any little reason you are not sure.
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female
reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 February 2008):
 If you have to ask then the answer is no.
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reader, AuntieAmber +, writes (8 February 2008):
 hi,,,well,,,how are we supposed to help you if you havent added information,,,there must be a reason why you are having second thoughts about it,,,ask yourself if this is what you really want,and marriage is a thing that is ment to last for ever,do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this man ?
amber
xxx
good luck !
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