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I have a small penis,,how can I satisfy a female?

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Question - (16 February 2008) 44 Answers - (Newest, 11 May 2012)
A male Australia age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Hi

im a guy in my late teens and im really embarrassed

ive got a very small penis just on 2 inches fully erect ive never had a girlfriend im to embarrassed

what can i do can i even satisfy a girl?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2012):

Man I have only a 4'9 inch penis I hate it and fill very insecure about it,but in your case you can do something about it insurance will cover penis inhancement surgery of you are under three inches do to the fact that under three inches its considered a non functioning organ so look into it.

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A female reader, Dorreemom United States +, writes (6 May 2012):

Dorreemom agony auntMy Dear,

keep in Mind:-

1. It is nothing to worry what we have naturally.

2. Female want just powerful man while intercourse.

3. Even size doesent metter !

4. Your caring nature n Itimacy is enough for your partner in relationship.

Enjoy Life!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011):

if you are scared, your hand can be enough. don't dream too much.

if you wish to settle down just marry a woman and don't play with her. find a girl who will accept the way you are. if none, stay with your hand.

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A male reader, Richie12 United Kingdom +, writes (3 June 2011):

I understand what you are going through. I have a similar sized penis and it has been a problem for me. Most of the girls I have been with have struggled getting much from sex with me. Normal sex has not done anything for my previous girlfriends and unfortunately most have ended due to this fact. I did appreciate a couple of the girls honesty, they explained that they were used to much bigger men in their past and it was getting them down. Try not to let it affect your confidence - life isn't just about sex.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010):

hey dude,as many friends told you that size does not matter what matter is foreplay.but your sex life will depend on the girl that how she react with this.yes,technically you will face problem during in and out.your penis will slip here and there.but i tell you one thing if girl really loves you size really doesnot matter.gud luck

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010):

The best sex I ever had was with a man who could not have been more than 2 inches erect. He had to work a bit harder with the thrusting but he got it all the way to cervix. I came every time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010):

Just copy the link--

http://www.torrentz.com/e24a71299dedab18c0ebe45aef9ec8727c269b4b

And download it using utorrent...........Its a documentary movie , I have a long dick but still I used it on more that 23 girls and believe me , i have made them just shiver but dont forget to use grape seed oil...........Hope you have the confidence now..........Best of luck.

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A male reader, StevenTasker United States +, writes (27 July 2010):

It's okay to be below average but there are things you can do about it too. Have you tried exercising your penis? It sounds ridiculous but I got a little bigger from it. You have to work at it a lot but it's worth it because all the gains are permenant.

There are 3 different basic exercises called jelqing, stretching, and kegels. They're not to complicated but you need to make sure you learn how to do them properly so you don't mess anything up down there. Here's a website if you want to learn more about the exercises:

http://tinyurl.com/NaturalLargerPenis

Hope that helps you out. It's helped me quite a bit and I think if you work at it you'll see an improvement.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010):

i lerned size dont matter fore play is your answer

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A male reader, krazykid United Kingdom +, writes (8 December 2009):

i have the same problem mate and im 15 but my girlfriend doesnt mind we aint had sex YET lol but i have done things like fingerin and shes tossed me off and she doesnt mind you just got to be proud of ya dick man you made it so get it laid man =]

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A male reader, under average United States +, writes (22 May 2009):

under average agony aunthey... your condition is well understood here, I'm 5.5 and not that thick, some girls will orgasm just cause they really want to whether it's a finger,dick or a cucumber. I have made all but a few orgasm but the oines that didn't with my penis ended up exploding with my finger, I know..weird but... if she don't orgasm put your middle finger in and point it back at yourself and jam on it! that's the g-spot! she will orgasm unless she is 1 out of 10 that just will not due to some funky ass condition that doesn't allow them to orgasm...good luck dude

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A male reader, under average United States +, writes (22 May 2009):

under average agony aunthey... your condition is well understood here, I'm 5.5 and not that thick, some girls will orgasm just cause they really want to whether it's a finger,dick or a cucumber. I have made all but a few orgasm but the oines that didn't with my penis ended up exploding with my finger, I know..weird but... if she don't orgasm put your middle finger in and point it back at yourself and jam on it! that's the g-spot! she will orgasm unless she is 1 out of 10 that just will not due to some funky ass condition that doesn't allow them to orgasm...good luck dude

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A male reader, under average United States +, writes (22 May 2009):

under average agony auntI am 5.5" erect and what I have to tell you is that you have to use it like you own it! low levels of confidence are the biggest turn off for girls and it really doesn't matter what you're packing as long as you can make her feel good somehow.

I've encountered a couple girls that simply will not orgasm with intercourse but I can make it happen with my finger, weird I know but they enjoy it and I don't look like a douche bag that doesn't know whats going on... take yuour finger and put it in, point it back at yourself and jam on it, that's the g-spot and she will blow a gasket, trust it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009):

Well I have a fairly average small penis it's on the 5" side and honestly i'm the best my gf's had it's NOT about the size of it it's about how it's used.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009):

Man... I agree with the others... do not be shy. I too have a little dick... but guess what... i am proud of it... if you learn how to use it... you'll have girls chasing you to fuck them.

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A male reader, arvind India +, writes (9 April 2009):

its not about how long is your penis if it is 2inch long its more then enough... you have an girlfriend if it is an about sex make her happy in fore play and then intercourse she would feel much better and happy with you and don't worry you r perfect to have a girl enjoy........

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A male reader, kansasdude408 United States +, writes (3 August 2008):

Hey bro. I know how you feel, but it is like everybody says 4play is key. I have been with a girl for 6 monthes or so and we have never had sex but she dont complain because in the end all that matters is how you make her feel not your penis so chin up buddy and learn how to be a genlemen and to use your tounge and fingures and once you master that you can make any girl scream with pleasure later

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008):

well first you could let her rub it so she gets used to the size....then she would probably get horny and not care if you have a small penis or not she would just want you to fuck her!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

my wife told me that 2 of her previous boyfriends were hugely well endowed. that it took them ages to get it all inside her.

she said she loved the feeling of being filled up but never ever had an orgasm with either of them.

i have a 5 inch when erect penis and she says i am the only man who has ever made her orgasm through intercourse.

why? because my foreplay is good and always got her really aroused before penetration. plus she loves me. never loved only liked the other men.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008):

Foreplay. Oral. General kinkyness! If that's a word..

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A male reader, Ernie Coyne Canada +, writes (28 April 2008):

Technically, you have what is medically called a micropenis. So you should consult a qualified urologist. On the other hand, you can have satisfying sex with a woman by being a good lover. Use lots of foreplay, and I would suggest giving her an orgasm before you put your penis inside her. Use your fingers and your mouth and tongue to do so. During intercourse, you should put a finger on her clitoris and gently caress it while you're going in and out. For information on skills designed for a guy with a small penis, as well as overcoming the embarrassment, check out www.smallpenisgreatlover.com. with those tips, and a little guts, you'll find the perfect woman for you who will love the hot sex you give her. good luck.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

The sensitive part in a woman's vagina is near the entrance.

Also the clitoris is perhaps the most sensitive. So if a man resorts to digital and oral manipulation of the vagina it can to a great extent compensate for the shortness of the penis.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008):

true man as long as you know how to use what you got your gonn be fine, i also am almost 17 and i stretch 2 and maybe a half with erection. you will find away around it bro

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008):

Adopt the French motto: "love a woman with you heart and your mouth." Remember,good lovers have a sense of humor, are interesting, courageous, stay in shape and are sensitive to their partners needs,emotionally and physically. You can buy a good 8" latex dick for $50.00. You can't buy the other attributes.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008):

To be honest, it all depend on the female thatu are with. If she's a understanding person, then she will work with you. I know for a fact you can have good sex with a small penis. it may take longer to make her come. but put forth the effert and you and her will be happy. learn how to eat the pussy. try out 4play. go to the sex store, some shit in there can help. you got to be willing to learn. if not. you will never make her happy!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2008):

it will be ok size doesn't matter i found that out i was a little embarrassed of the size of my penis but then one day i hooked up with this girl and we dated for about a year and then one day she wanted 2 have sex and i said ok but i have a little penis she said it will be fine and it was we are still dating and we both enjoy having sex together

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A female reader, sugar_sugar United States +, writes (19 February 2008):

sugar_sugar agony auntA boy I dated was on the very small side, but he manages to get the most gorgeous girlfriends! He always has girls chasing after him and they are always stunning.

Perfect the other areas of sexual interaction - fingering, oral.

As everyone has mentioned, not every female comes from sex so you could try doing doggy style and stimulating the clit as you do so.

There are definitely ways to overcome it though!

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A male reader, Zenebe Ethiopia +, writes (17 February 2008):

don't worry.this is not a problem.i thin female are not satisfy by big penis. just warm up them ,kiss them,do just like for them .you are the lord of them

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A female reader, korculan queen Australia +, writes (17 February 2008):

Good advise from the last post. Wasn't it Madonna who said it is not the size of the wand that matters but the wizard who waves it. If you are worried then your insecurity will affect your ability to please a woman and you will be constantly thinking about your size. Mate foreplay is what gets us girls going. Try with your next girlfriend WITH YOUR TONGUE TRACE ON HER CLIT THE ALPHABET IN CAPITAL LETTERS. By the time you get to O she will be saying OH. My man is big enough for me and I have never measured him. What gets me off is his tongue and watching him enjoy going down on me and yes his nose actually also helps get me off when he nuzzles and burrows in. Mate happiness is a wet vagina not a big dick.

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A male reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (17 February 2008):

How about doing this and then you won't have a problem with the size of your penis. If you become enlightened as to a woman's vaginal make-up,then you will see that even your nose can bring her to an orgasm,and I am sure it is much shorter than your penis. When her vagina has fully opened-up you can see her clitoris,that heavenly-jewel,that when directly stimulated by your penis,fingers or your tongue induces her orgasms. It is just a small button of flesh that rests between the upper junction of her vagina,where the labia,vaginal lips,come together. So with her vagina fully open the size of your penis is more than ample to pleasure any woman's sexuality. So right now you have an upper head problem,not one below your navel Just keep what I have said and you'll do just fine in the sexual arena.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008):

Did you ever see Duece Bigelo? Its a funny movie, but there is a quote that is very accurate I don't remember the exact words but it is something along the lines of, "Woman feel as self-concious about their entire bodies as you do about your small penis. What they really want is for you to make them feel special."

It is so true. What turns me on the most is when I feel like the hottest girl in the world. When I feel like someone desires me so much, needs me, I get randy and its the only time I get off. I know that most people would consider me an attractive girl, although most people wouldn't guess that I'm so so so self-conscious. I'm constantly thinking about my imperfections. Make her feel so good about herself that she forgets her own insecurities, and she won't even notice your flaws.

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A female reader, faith_believe_love Korea - Republic of +, writes (17 February 2008):

faith_believe_love agony auntWhy are you worried so much...? Don't be ashamed of what you've got all you need to do is to work it..

My husband was on the small side too but he always put me into orgasm. Just like what the other says "small but terrible" and "big things come from small packages". Don't let this lower your self-esteem. Go and get a girl and give it try, you won't lose anything if you do it, you know maybe your strength. Just kidding. God Bless!!

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A male reader, cnnonyx Australia +, writes (17 February 2008):

Im lucky to be blessed with a 'big one' - but its funny, while some girls loved it, my current girl doesnt react at all to it

I still manage to make her orgasm though - however, I may as well not even have a penis. Its all tounge work.

It may be a bit embaressing having a 2 - incher, agreed. Whatever girl you do get with though, hold off on penetration. First few encounters, touch her a lot, and become a master of the mouth. Your penis size will not matter when you make her buck about wildly due to your hands / fingers / tounge work.

As for your confidence with penis size, it would be a tad intimidating, but the rewards of making a woman reach ecstasy by not even using your 'member' is so satisfying, a definite ego (and ultimately confidence) booster.

Good luck!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008):

loads of good advice for you - also don't focus so much on your penis and penetration. Slow it down and like others have said concentrate on the foreplay. And yes lesbians do manage without a penis and we have great orgasms! Hands, fingers and tongues will get your girl screaming so take your time, find out what she likes and don't make sex all about the penetration. And if she really likes you she is going to want you for more than your penis and if you're just having casual sex then take the time to find lots of different ways to make a girl orgasm.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008):

FOREPLAY! what you need to do is plenty of foreplay! Make love to her body and mind with your hands....with your lips

with your tongue....with your words....with your hand actions and deeds....way before you penetrate. Find out where her "soft spots"/erogenous zones/ sensitive areas are

and then concentrate on those areas of her body. Make her putty in your hands and you can satisfy her. I too have a small penis (to me anyway), but I've been with over 300 women sexually. And have had over 6 longterm relationships

(over 2 years at a time). Only once did a female complain of the size of my penis.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008):

you dont need a huge penis to satisfy a women,just find a tecniec that suiets you from behind on top or on the side theres alsorts of ways...i had a boyfriend who only had a 4 inch but he did very well and was gd in bed mix it with oral or hand playing..and if the girl is realy in to u she wont care if its 2-9 inch she'll want to be with u cuz of you...huni dont be shy you'll be ok and remember its not the size of the boat that matters its the moution of the wavexx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008):

Ok, well, as a woman, I know for sure you can get a girl to orgasm. There are toys that you can put on over your own erection, or you can use your tongue, or, you can rub her clit with your erection. There are a lot of things you can do.

Good luck, sweetie.

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A male reader, boosh United Kingdom +, writes (16 February 2008):

hi mate dont worry size only matters to shallow women, the important thing is the bloke thats standing behind it.

i work at the urology clinic at my local hospital so i have some facts for you.

a man whose non-erect penis is smallish will usually achieve about a 100% increase in length during sexual excitement.

a man whose non-erect penis is on the largish size will probably manage about a 75% increase.

virtually every man forgets that it doesn't matter how long or how short your penis is, because the vagina will accommodate itself to any length.

the vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 3 inches long when she's not sexually excited.

and for women who have had babies are only slightly different

even when aroused, a woman's vagina usually extends only to a length of about 4 inches

if that hasnt made you feel better dont worry mate, there is also other things you can do, if you go to your doctor and ask for a referal to see a urologist to maybe have surgery to increase your size, and take it from there, some cases can even be done on the N.H.S

Good Luck

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A female reader, hello1 United Kingdom +, writes (16 February 2008):

hello1 agony auntLesbians don't have penises yet they keep each other sastified. Just remember that

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States + , writes (16 February 2008):

Tisha-1 agony auntThe numbers are with you; only about a third of women achieve orgasm through intercourse alone, the rest of us need manual or oral stimulation. There are lots and lots of fun ways to enjoy sex.

A girl doesn't fall for a guy for his penis, ladies, am I right on this? It's not the penis that keeps us interested, it's what he does with what he has! Self-confidence, integrity, honesty, sense of humor, now those are keeper qualities. And being an excellent kisser, that's something to remember. I don't think about the penises of the men I've been with, I think about how they treated me and the other people in their life.

Head up, shoulders back, chest out. Remember that most of us have something we wish we could change about ourselves, including the girls you might be interested in. A girl will fall in love with you and all your fine qualities.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (16 February 2008):

Dr Vendetta agony aunti have a decent sized penis. and i still don't get laid and i've never had an offical girl friend.

its not the size of the nail, its the hammer you're hitting it with.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom +, writes (16 February 2008):

kenny agony auntIf a girl does not want to go out with you because of the size of your manhood then she is simply shallow and not worth being with in the first place. Its not the size that matters, more importantly i think alot of woman will tell you its how you use is what counts. SOme guy could have a whapper, like ten inches, but if he uses it incorrectly the woman will obtain very little pleasure from it. Use lots of foreplay techniques to bring the lady to orgasm this way, i think that the vigina is also only stimulated for the first 2 or 3 inches i believe anyway.

All the best

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A female reader, O Connor Ireland +, writes (16 February 2008):

O Connor agony auntwell first of all just to let you know, that the size of the penis isn't the most important thing in sex and relationships. there are alot of other things that you can do to satisfy a girl, and just because you think that you have a smaller than average penis, this doesnt mean that you cant have sex and please someone. once you know how to use it, it will be just as good!! foreplay, and other penetration etc., can often be more enjoyable for a girl. i wouldn't worry too much about this, there will be a girl out there that will look past the size of your penis and see you for your sense of humour, personality, and your good heart.

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A female reader, bayleex United Kingdom +, writes (16 February 2008):

bayleex agony auntNot every girl is satisfied through penertration so just do lots of foreplay. And apparently a girls g-spot is only 2 inches up anyway.

Having a small penis may be embarassing but if you find the right girl she is going to like you no matter.

Just remember the saying 'Its not how big it is, its how you use it'

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