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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): Do not cheat on her!!! How can you ask such a stupid question? gosh! If you love her dont do it, if you feel you want to sleep with other girls then split up with your girlfriend because thats unfair, if you do cheat on her and if you do cheat on her you're making a big mistake. I hope she's been cheating on you as well.
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reader, one  +, writes (4 February 2008):
Just don't let her find out about it, then she won't be hurt.
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reader, one +, writes (4 February 2008):
Just don't let her find out about it, then she wont be hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): What?! Oh come on, you're gonna hurt her anyway! I think that's a really irresponsible thing to say, how could you even love your girlfriend if you want sex with someone else? I suppose everybody gets a time where they fancy being a bit naughty with someone else, but it's never this serious.Please don't, you'd break her heart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): sorry mate but if you want to experience it with other girls you're gonna have to break up with your g/f because that sorta thing hurts girls alot as my g/f tells me while shes writing this message. hope you take this into consideration and good luck with your decision. bye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): Perhaps there is a way. Would she be up for a MFF threesome - or maybe a MMFF foursome - or even better, a MFFF foursome? If yes, there's one answer for you at least!
Phil
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 there is no way to have sex with other girls and still be with your girlriend, unless of course she is open to that. why do you feel like you need to go out and have sex with other ppl? chance are its not going to be as rosy as you think it will be and if you enjoy sex with your gf then thats probably the best you will get. if you love her and enjoy being with her, then thats the best sex your going to have. if you really want to get out there then your going to have to break up with her. but first of all be honest with her - you never know, an open relationship may be something she would welcome. but talk to her and be prepared that she may wanna break up. just dont cheat on her
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): You need to talk to her and explain what you desire. You will need to break this to her gently and be prepared that she may want to break up with you because of this. However, you may discover that her thoughts on this are very different. The worst thing that you could do is to cheat on her. If she happens to be agreeable with you dating others then it would not be cheating. I have no idea what the chances of this is, but this is what my wife allowed and even wanted me to do after my divorce. My then girlfriend knew that I was her first partner after my divorce and only my 2nd sexual partner ever and wanted me to date others so that I would be sure that I really wanted her for a long time partner and not just wanting the first woman who I dated after my divorce. I know that this is unusual, but there have been other women that have done the same thing and has been discussed on this forum in the past. In those instances the women were in their 20s and had never been married. We were in our mid 30s.
I have to ask why you want to do this. Is it because she has had several past sexual partners or just because you want to experience other women sexually?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): You cant have your cake and eat it! Simply, if you want to experiment with other people then thats fine but you must end the relationship you are in first. That way you can do whatever you want without feeling guilty. If you are really that concerned about hurting her then you either need to stay faithful or end it before you make moves on anyone else - its only fair.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 You cant!
Its scummy and you shouldnt do it to her. Its not fair, how would you like it if it were done to you.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Break up with her then sleep with other girl. Do the right thing, she will never get back with you if you cheat on her. You may stand a chance if you break it off, see other girls then realise you love her, come back..bla bla. you get the story
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Hi
You cant. You need to finish it with her first. Otherwise your commit the ultimte sin of having your cake and eating it basically.
Its a shame, but the majority of people want to experiment with different sex partners at some point after losing their virginity and i wouldnt be surprised if at some point your girlfriend will feel the same.
Tell her prehaps split for now so you can both experience different people, then who knows in the future, you might be able to give it another go later on down the road maybe?
Just an idea.
There is nothing wrong or unusual with feeling the way you do though, its how you deal with it that counts.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008):
I am sorry but the only way you can do this is by spliting up with your gf. If you want to have sex with other girls i would say your current gf is maybe not the one for you or you would not want 2 have sex else where. Good luck,Hollyx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): You either want to be with your girlfriend or you don't!!!
There's no way for you to have sex with other girls without hurting your girlfriend! What if it was the other way round and she wanted to have sex with other guys without hurting you? What would you do or think then about it??
Its not fair to do this to your girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): There is a way, you break up with her and then you can sleep with all the girls you want.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (1 February 2008):
 There is no way you can do it without hurting her as long you are dating her you must be faithful to her
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reader, rcn  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 As long as you are dating her, it would be inappropriate for you to have sex with anyone else. Being with her, I'd have to say there is really no way to do it without hurting her.
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