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writes:I am due to be married in a few weeks. I have almost everthing prepared but 1 problem still keeps me awake at night, here's the background to my story so I can then ask the question: From age of about 12 I had these 'friends'.. There was about 8 of us in the group and I always felt like the tag along... I was never called for, I might see them out and I would then come out and join them... I always felt like the black sheep of the gang I was the heavy one out of them and never had confidence as all the boys used to fancy them - Not me... Then I met this guy who liked me and asked me out. I couldnt believe it because I immediately fell in love with him. Then we completely drifted apart except for one of the girls whom I went to college with. I saw her every now and again and only hung out with the rest of them when I got bus home. I began to feel they were somehow jealous of me because I was the happy one for a change. When we all got our first 'Proper Jobs', I never saw them at all, even though we lived on the same street. Should I send my 'child-hood friends' to my wedding?
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reader, O Connor +, writes (20 February 2008):
 well to be honest if it was me, i wouldnt bother, i mean you're not friends with them anymore are you? if you are inviting them to renew a friendship and catch up, then fair enough. but if you would only be asking them to show them how successful you are, and to fill seats then dont bother. your wedding should be filled with those you love. if you want to then do, but dont if you feel that you just 'should'. if they were your best friends from you childhood and you had wonderful memories of them, then maybe yes, but from wat you have written, all i can get is that they made you feel smaller and less significant then them. dont invite them just to boast your life, after all its not going to make you any happier. congrats by the way, i hope you have a beautiful day!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 You are now somebody and getting married ,it is payback time to those childhood friends who thought you were the black sheep in the group. LOL!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (20 February 2008):
Yes, you should as they are very special friends.A lot of water has passed under the bridge and it is a good time to catch up with each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Personally if it was me I wouldn't. I mean your not friends with them any more, you don't socialise or hang out so why do you want them at the biggest day of your life? If you still feel really badly invite them into the Afters of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Congratulations on your wedding plans. So anyways, by what you have described, if that were me, I wouldn't invite them. I mean are you just trying to fill up space at your wedding??
If they had been GREAT childhood friends of yours who you loved dearly but had fallen out of contact with, then I would DEFINITELY invite them. But it doesn't sound like you all even really liked each other or ever really got close. You haven't even had much contact with them, since then. And even with the contact you have had, nothing much has changed. Its not like you click with them any better now then you ever did. It almost sounds like they're just strangers to you.
But if you are having a big wedding and you just need to fill up space, then I guess, why not? Sort of...I personally, probably wouldn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): It's all up to you, but I feel that if you had to ask, then the answer would be NO! But 'invite' who you wish to your "blessed" event.
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reader, keely-h  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 I think you should, what is the harm?
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