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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'm on my period and the guy I've recently started seeing has tried to make a move. I'm just curious what you all think would be a nice way to tell him to stop without disgusting him. "Stop, I'm bleeding," doesn't seem to quite cut it. Since it's early in our relationship I just don't want to ruin the mood. I'm fine just doing things for him, but he wants to return the favor. Additionally I don't want to discourage him from going for it in the future. Any ideas?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (20 February 2008):
Hey people don't crucify the guy for being so horny,maybe the lady also gets horny when on her periods.I once had sex with my ex while she was on her periods and it wasn't so bad and would do it again if given the opportunity.However,dear poster you need to openly tell your man that you feel uncomfortable having sex while on your periods.If he flips out and never wants to sleep with you again.know he's a JERK.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): I had this problem recently, with my (now! :D ) other half who wanted to meet up with me. I just said to him, ''sorry, it's the wrong time of month''. He totally understood, if a man isn't understanding when you tell him something like his, he's not worth bothering with in all honesty.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 February 2008):
 You can tell him,
the strawberries is in season .
the red tide is coming in.
Cleaning in progress.
out of order.
Gremlins making jams.
I ate too much tomatoes and ketchups.
If he cannot understand then tell him in plain and simple English, I am having my periods.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): I've used "so, um - not a good time of the month for that, actually" Sometimes they're slow and don't get it, but mostly they follow
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): Hun, just say something like
"hang on, its that time!" or "its that time of the month"
Really, he will understand, if he's even a little bit woth being with!!
Im sure he'll get it!!
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reader, fishdish +, writes (19 February 2008):
 It sounds like he is writing off your period as a problem, maybe saying it doesn't mean much to him. if that's the case then just Tell him it makes you uncomfortable to engage in sexual activity during your period, i don't think a lot of women even FEEl sexy when they're on it, (ie bloated and bloody and smelly) so, there's that. he should respect you and want you to be comfortable and have fun as you want it or see fit!
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reader, jazninch  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 its normal if he loves u he should understand and wait a couple of days
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): Are you saying, you don't want say 'no' to him when you have your period?? And you're worried that saying 'no' will discourage him from going for it, in the future? Worries are fears..so stop with thinking this way. A women's period cycle is all part of human nature and all guys know women experience this...once very month. Just tell him what all us gals have done in our pasts, you can say, 'no can do---it's that time of month'. My opinion...if the guy likes you alot and is a mature, understanding fellow, then he should be able to muster up some good ole self control and so should you. It's either that or 'batten down the hatches and hide' yourself away from him, during the time you have your period. Tell him you will do him the 'favor' but he can't comply for you because "it's that time of month'. He'll understand
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2008): Hi Hunny
Its simple sweetheart sorry hunny time of the month, And your making me horny I can wait sweetheart if you can!!!
Men no about it but they dont no unless you tell em outright, I wouldnt worry about telling him you can do it in a lighthearted kind of way sweetheart, He will understand and if he doesnt then you no were you stand eh! love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (19 February 2008):
 well first of all its not like your period last forever, so wats his rush, cant he wait?!! if you do find yourself in that situation again, when something simply has to be said, just tell him that you cant right now -its that time of the month. he's old enough not to get disgusted by you saying this, and waiting will only make it all the more exciting!!
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