Would this be considerd rape...i don't want to think badly of him...
Q. Mah boyfriend and i had been together for 5 months...we had had sex before but one night we were washing his car in his barn and there is a couch in his barn. Well sprayed him with the hose (juss being goofy) and then ran to couch. he followed too ...
A. 9 November 2009: pps
but remember: you didn't feel like you were raped. you felt like he over stepped the mark, he said sorry, it wasn't a big deal. you were annoyed rather than hurt. this is very very important. how you felt determines what it was, really. just... (read in full...)
Would this be considerd rape...i don't want to think badly of him...
Q. Mah boyfriend and i had been together for 5 months...we had had sex before but one night we were washing his car in his barn and there is a couch in his barn. Well sprayed him with the hose (juss being goofy) and then ran to couch. he followed too ...
A. 9 November 2009: ps
Having said that, it all hinges on how long he kept on going after it was clear you didn't want it. If it was a couple of times then he reluctantly pulled out, ok. If it was several minutes and you were all the time upset, not ok.... (read in full...)
Would this be considerd rape...i don't want to think badly of him...
Q. Mah boyfriend and i had been together for 5 months...we had had sex before but one night we were washing his car in his barn and there is a couch in his barn. Well sprayed him with the hose (juss being goofy) and then ran to couch. he followed too ...
A. 9 November 2009: No, I don't think it was rape at all. Well, I wouldn't consider it so. I think it was this:
You are both very young. He has a very strong sex drive. He doesn't quite know where the boundaries are yet. You were both horsing around in the barn. Hi... (read in full...)
Can a guy in his late 30's be interested in a girl in her late 20's for a serious relationship?
Q. Could a guy in his late 30s be interested in a woman in her late 20s for a more serious relationship? We are 10 years apart, almost to the exact day....
A. 9 November 2009: Why not? You are at life stages that are compatible. She will soon be (if not already) at the home-building/nest-making stage. You, as a man, if you haven't already done all that, will certainly be thinking about it. Women, I hate to say it, are ... (read in full...)
Are women intimidated by an attractive male?
Q. Hi, I'm kind of curious, I work in with a few woman and I not really after pulling them or sleeping with them at all, I've got someone else in my eye! However what I'm curious about it are women intimidted by an attractive male either at work or in ...
A. 8 November 2009: So, are you very attractive, do you think?... (read in full...)
I'm depressed after my abortion.
Q. im 14 and i had an abortion in February, and know im depressed and want a baby. what do i do? please help me. i have never been this depressed in my life before please please help me ...
A. 6 November 2009: I am so very sorry for you. What you are feeling is grief, because someone close to you has gone now. It is completely natural to feel this, and to feel that you want another baby. To be honest, the only real cure for abortion is another baby, or ... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.
Q. Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...
A. 5 November 2009: Good luck. Personally, I am so grateful that my son now has a sister. I know that when I am gone, he will have someone of shared flesh and blood, and family culture, to love and support, and to receive love and support in return. It isn't just about ... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.
Q. Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...
A. 5 November 2009: I say again, you are a mother, so you know what you are doing. You know what you would be losing.
When I had a termination, it was my first child, so I didn't know what I was doing. When I subsequently had children, I was shocked again to think wh... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.
Q. Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...
A. 4 November 2009: ps
and forget about the money and 'lifestyle' - of course you'll survive. and if the new guy was so nice, why can't you give that relationship a chance? i know it is an early time to get pregnant in the relationship, but it doesn't mean it can'... (read in full...)
Having second thoughts about possibly terminating my pregnancy.
Q. Hi,i can't believe i am 39 and got myself into this situation.Firstly i have a 6 yr old daughter from a previous relationship.I have been dating a new guy for about 3mths and have just found out i'm pregnant.My inital feeling is to have an ...
A. 4 November 2009: Something similar happened to me, also after 3 mths of being with (a very unsuitable) person. I was also 39. I didn't have an abortion, and my daughter (18 mths) is the absolute light of my life. I also have a son, older, from my previous ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends make me feel drowsy. Why?
Q. I was wondering...everytime I am with my boyfriend I feel extremly tired. Like we will be sitting close (touching and holding hands) and all of a sudden a strong wave of drowsiness come over me. So I lay my head on his shoulder; but I dont sleep...
A. 3 November 2009: The same thing happens to me when i am next to my partner. And I also CAN'T settle easily to sleep without him. But if any time during the day I lie, or even sit, next to him (ie, within his aura!! It's true - we all have our own electro-magnetic ... (read in full...)
Is it true he just needs time and no pressure to sort himself out?
Q. Basically its a very complicated story. Back in April I almost lost my job twice over and me and my partner were not getting on 2 well. on august the 9th he cheated on me for a week just kissing with one of my friends. I forgave him, but he went to ...
A. 1 November 2009: pps
he needs not to feel trapped with you, because maybe this is why he broke ship... (read in full...)
Is it true he just needs time and no pressure to sort himself out?
Q. Basically its a very complicated story. Back in April I almost lost my job twice over and me and my partner were not getting on 2 well. on august the 9th he cheated on me for a week just kissing with one of my friends. I forgave him, but he went to ...
A. 1 November 2009: ps
and yes, i know it's hard, but i think that if you want any chance of him coming back, you have to just hold your tongue and give him absolutely free rein at the moment. if he wants you, he'll come back, and he will appreciate what you've d... (read in full...)
Is it true he just needs time and no pressure to sort himself out?
Q. Basically its a very complicated story. Back in April I almost lost my job twice over and me and my partner were not getting on 2 well. on august the 9th he cheated on me for a week just kissing with one of my friends. I forgave him, but he went to ...
A. 1 November 2009: I half agree with Dr Psych. Actually, I think your relationship wasn't going well and there were a lot of pressures (eg, your job), and it was all miserable and stressed at home, so it was the perfect situation for him having an affaire (men don't ... (read in full...)
How can I retract my foreskin?
Q. I am 15 and I can not retract my foreskin. Is there something wrong and what can I do to start retracting it?...
A. 31 October 2009: My partner recently told me that he frequently reminds his son, aged 5, (from a previous relationship), to retract his. He said that the first few times it hurt, but then was ok. I was surprised - I didn't know one was supposed to do this. I guess ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my period for one day so that I can have sex?
Q. how can i stop my period for one day so that i can have sex?...
A. 31 October 2009: ? Are you mad?! Of course you can't 'stop' your period for one day, to have sex, or anything else!
Either have sex while you have your period (no problem really, just a bit messy), or have sex another day. Simple.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are 14, we want to have a baby, any opinions?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are deeply in love and want to have a baby. Were 14...
A. 27 October 2009: Oh dear - everyone is being pretty hard on you. What I want to know is, why do you want a baby now? I guess you must feel very close to your girlfriend, and possibly the idea of starting a family is much more appealing than just going through school ... (read in full...)
How does one delay ejaculation?
Q. okay so here is my question. I am confused about the concept of premature ejaculation. I am a virgin but am talking about sex with with my GF. I can ejaculate fairly quickly by myself if the mood is right and i put my mind to it. Obviously ...
A. 27 October 2009: First rule: Don't get hung up about it. It will take time and practice to discover yourself how everything (and you) work. Frankly, I think the best thing is to allow yourself to orgasm in your own time - which may indeed be v quickly - but given ... (read in full...)
If he ejaculates quickly does that mean he is cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and i use to be sexual active but no longer... Well if we do.. he ejaculate very quickly (in seconds). I kno he feels back but i always told him it was alright. Dont worry its not a big deal, it can be fixed. I just love him so much ...
A. 25 October 2009: no way is he cheating. he wouldn't be getting fatter, for a start. and he would take longer to ejaculate. and there would be less semen.
i think he's depressed about something - talk to him, and forget this unfounded fear. i'm sure he isn't ch... (read in full...)
Since the divorce, my bipolar ex has made life hell for me!
Q. I am in dire need of help!!! I am a 47 year old female. I divorced my bi polar husband and we have been seperated for five years. I have not moved past the pain of the divorce. I have not accepted it and regret it. My husband was the love of my ...
A. 25 October 2009: First thing: don't regret the divorce. You say yourself that he scared you when in an episode, wouldn't recognise his needs, and his family treated you badly. He is now continuing to abuse you. He may have been the love of your life - you feel - but ... (read in full...)
Do I tell her or keep it to myself?
Q. Another Best Friends Wife Story... So my best friend got married to a wonderful girl about three years ago. She has been a very good friend of mine as well. I have been attracted to her throughout their relationship but very easily kept thin...
A. 13 October 2009: well, i think you should do a sort of combination of your options (and by the way, i don't think you should feel bad - you AREN'T going to act on anything and you DO love and respect your wife, so this is just one of those warm friendships which can ... (read in full...)
How can I get my family to believe me?
Q. I was the bad girl and very promiscious from the tender age 12. By high school, it was very well-known by everyone that I slept around frequently and had a thing of going after other women's men, especially the married ones. By the end of my ...
A. 12 October 2009: Well, there's only one other person who can tell the truth, isn't there? Him.
And what's this about him being drugged????... (read in full...)
I've been in limbo for 7 months and I need some answers
Q. my problem is quite complex..i'm 43 and a lesbian and should be in control of my heart and emotions but i am not it seems. i was in a relationship with another woman for 4 and a half years..but we grew apart..and she fell in love with a friend o...
A. 11 October 2009: why won't she see you?
will she not talk to you at all? not even email?
if she really won't talk to you, then you are going to have to work this out by yourself. if you were with her for so long then really you should know the answers to all t... (read in full...)
Dumped by a man who wanted to marry me!
Q. I have just been dumped by a man who told me he wanted to marry me. He said he wanted to marry me and then I told him I thought he was just using me for sex and money. He had stood me up several times and was worried I was being used again (by y...
A. 11 October 2009: I think life has already helped you - he has gone! And good riddance!!
Listen, if he was already asking you to pay for his habits, he would have been a crap husband, trust me. You don't need that.
xx... (read in full...)
I can't finD omeone my age to marry me!
Q. hello,can any one help me because i can't stand this situation any more.i am a young and very beautiful and successful girl. i look like 20 yr while i am 33 and this is causing a great difficulties to me because till now i can't find some one of my ...
A. 11 October 2009: Do you have a man in mind? Is there someone you love? Or are you still waiting?
And ... what is wrong with younger men? They have quite a lot of advantages ...... (read in full...)
I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!
Q. Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...
A. 11 October 2009: or, if not married, in a proper relationship. And not with your aunt!!... (read in full...)
I just lost my virginity with my unreal aunt!
Q. Hi...frnds i'm 18 years old boy.well i lost my virginity just a day before with my unreal Aunt.Actually i wasn't interested in any kind of sex with her but she asked me and i couldn't stop myself.I wanna know is it good to have sex with a 33 year ...
A. 11 October 2009: Does an unreal aunt mean, eg, the wife of your mother's brother? So not a blood relation, but related by marriage?
It all sounds a bit difficult and unwise to me. And she surely shouldn't be inviting you to have sex! I think you should find a g... (read in full...)
Shattered and Lost!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm about to graduate high school and, unlike my classmates, I am dreading it! When I was 13 I was kidnapped and abused, I also suffered from amnesia for 5 years. I didn't remember anything about my family or even my last name. I end...
A. 11 October 2009: This is very hard for you, I am sure, and I for one feel a bit cross with your parents for making it so. They should also respect your wishes, your life and your feelings.
Being a doctor is NOT a poor choice!! It is a great choice, and a rewardin... (read in full...)
Can you feel it if your soulmate dies without having ever met them?
Q. A very weird question I know but my friend has recently been telling me that she has these really bad aches as though she has lost someone in her life, which she hasn't, and she says it feels like she can never love anyone again but she doesn't know ...
A. 10 October 2009: To be honest, I think it is probably just hormones. They can make you feel very strong emotions, and then we're always looking for explanations for them.
... (read in full...)
He bled during sex, what does it mean?
Q. I had sex with a guy who is uncircumsised,and he started bleeding from his penis inside me... I am scared to death! Why did that happen? What does it mean? What should I do?...
A. 9 October 2009: well, it could mean he has an infection, or indeed something as serious as cancer. it could also, however, be that the little bit that connects his foreskin on - there's like a bit that stops it going all the way down - sort of lets it go so far ... (read in full...)
I'm dating an extremely busy guy, what do you think, should I just let him go?
Q. The situation is this: I'm dating an extremely busy guy, who has a lot of things going on in his life right now. I don't really know what to "call" our situation. He kissed me on the head (I don't know what this means. People claim that it's ...
A. 8 October 2009: I think you need to ask him straight if you're 'going out' or not. If you don't see each other for weeks, and never have sex, then I can't see what kind of relationship this is? Pretty useless to you, I'd have thought. You need to clarify things ... (read in full...)
Are watery eyes while giving a blowjob a turn off?
Q. Is it a turn off if a girl's eyes are super watery after/during a blowjob? I'm excited because I finally got the hang of deep throating and I can fit my boyfriend's entire dick now. And don't worry, I wasn't forced to learn or anything; my ...
A. 8 October 2009: You are a lucky girl if this is the worst of your worries at the moment : ) - of course he won't mind.
And don't worry about the comments - this site invites questions about sex, and you have just been candid and honest when asking your ques... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants kids, but I don't think I do. How can we get through this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. I'm almost 28 and have two kids, 6-8 from a previous marriage. What is preventing our relationship from progressing is that I have had a vasectomy and am not really sure if I'm going to wan...
A. 7 October 2009: Sorry - didn't mean to say that all women want kids. I know some don't. I just have such an incredibly strong drive to have kids that I can't quite believe it's true that some don't. But I know I'm wrong.
As for the girlfriend changing her mind... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants kids, but I don't think I do. How can we get through this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. I'm almost 28 and have two kids, 6-8 from a previous marriage. What is preventing our relationship from progressing is that I have had a vasectomy and am not really sure if I'm going to wan...
A. 7 October 2009: ps and as for being tired out - talk to her about that (without putting a damper on things) - plan how life would look, and plan in some time for yourselves. It IS possible. I have an 18-month-old and I do pretty much all the looking after (well, ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants kids, but I don't think I do. How can we get through this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost three years now. I'm almost 28 and have two kids, 6-8 from a previous marriage. What is preventing our relationship from progressing is that I have had a vasectomy and am not really sure if I'm going to wan...
A. 7 October 2009: I understand why you value the peaceful time you have with your girlfriend, but yes, you do need to think about how good it feels to hug your children, and how whatever it costs, or however tired you are, you still would never be without them.
... (read in full...)
I don't think my virginity meant anything to him
Q. i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...
A. 3 October 2009: ps
Yes, having now read the other comments - I also thought 'hey - here we go - another sociopath' .... often v charming, but totally heartless. Again, be careful. I'm not going to tell you to ditch him straight off, because you feel a lot for him ... (read in full...)
I don't think my virginity meant anything to him
Q. i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (about a month ago). he was not a virgin, very experienced from what ive heard and what hes told me. about an hour ago we were just talking and watching tv, and he turned on a channel with guys cage ...
A. 3 October 2009: He's showing off. He's a stupid kid who thinks he knows it all. He wasn't thinking about your feelings - but in a warped kind of way he was trying to impress you (with his sexual prowess) and compliment you (at least you are No.1 in his list of ... (read in full...)
Surprisingly old for a raver!
Q. I'm not attracted to women my own age, either socially or sexually. I'm a healthy, tall and well educated man, single but looking after two children who are now both teenagers and quite independent. Over the years relationships have tended to l...
A. 1 October 2009: Well, who would want to be pursued by someone with bunions, of whatever age? I have a similar problem to you. I have tried a man much older than myself, and one much younger. I am now with one younger by 8 years, and I have to confess that I like ... (read in full...)
I want what's best for the baby -- how soon should the father be left to care for her?
Q. I've just recently split up with my boyfriend of 6 years and i'm comeing up to my eighth month in pregnancy. We spoke on the phone last night and both decided that we would like to get back together at some point,(when he has sorted himself out and ...
A. 26 September 2009: long!... (read in full...)
I want what's best for the baby -- how soon should the father be left to care for her?
Q. I've just recently split up with my boyfriend of 6 years and i'm comeing up to my eighth month in pregnancy. We spoke on the phone last night and both decided that we would like to get back together at some point,(when he has sorted himself out and ...
A. 26 September 2009: ps I meant 'babies shouldn't be away from their mother for a long time when they are so YOUNG' (NOT... (read in full...)
I want what's best for the baby -- how soon should the father be left to care for her?
Q. I've just recently split up with my boyfriend of 6 years and i'm comeing up to my eighth month in pregnancy. We spoke on the phone last night and both decided that we would like to get back together at some point,(when he has sorted himself out and ...
A. 26 September 2009: Ok, I think that you're trying your best to be fair and decent, and to do right by your baby and her father - which is very good of you, and the proper way to behave. Hold on to this.
BUT. You haven't had a baby yet, so it's all a new experien... (read in full...)
I can't get into sex anymore. I feel like we're just replicating porn scenes...
Q. My partner's porn subscriptions have changed how I feel about him and our relationship. In the beginning, I was okay with it. But the longer we are together, the more turned off I become. I have sex w/ him to please him and derive no REAL pleasure ...
A. 24 September 2009: Thanks for that vote of confidence ... i need it. And I'm sure we can't be the only ones who feel like this. It's not that I am jealous or have a problem with him watching porn (especially since it seems that all men do that - so it just has to be ... (read in full...)
I can't get into sex anymore. I feel like we're just replicating porn scenes...
Q. My partner's porn subscriptions have changed how I feel about him and our relationship. In the beginning, I was okay with it. But the longer we are together, the more turned off I become. I have sex w/ him to please him and derive no REAL pleasure ...
A. 23 September 2009: I know just what you mean because I think the same has happened to me.
Unfortunately, mine isn't lovely in and out of bed - he has all sorts of problems and is usually deliberately horrid. : ( Anyhow, on the sex front, when I met him I had neve... (read in full...)
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