Text interpretation?
Q. I have a text question. So I met this guy last week and we fooled around. That was on a Saturday night. So I get this text Thursday night that says "Still wanna hang out. We need to mess around soon". My response was "OK sure." So then Friday ...
A. 16 October 2010: 'Already pretty drunk' doesn't sound like much of an invitation to me. 'Going home soon' sounds like you need to pass out, given the drunkenness.
I don't think it comes across as a definite invitation, and could actually be taken as a brush of... (read in full...)
Wife isn't sexually attracted to me anymore! Any advice?
Q. I'm 41 and have been married to my wife for 16 years. We waited 6 years after marriage for kids to make sure we were compatible; we don't believe in divorce. Our 2 children are ages 10 and 8. I am above average-looking, slim build.....I have never ...
A. 14 October 2010: You need her to get her to the doctor and get some oestrogen into her! Her sex drive has gone because of the op, because her uterus isn't there so isn't part of the system that generates the hormones that make her want to have sex, and also because ... (read in full...)
Since , Mom died, out family has been in crisis! How can I turn things around?
Q. My mom died in a drunk driving accident (other guy was drunk) seven years ago when me and my twin were 14 and our younger brother was 11. Our dad has been sober for about a week of the last seven years. Once, when I was 18, my dad told me the only ...
A. 14 October 2010: I am so, so sorry for what you are going through here. It sounds like you have taken over your poor mom's role, and no doubt she would be proud of you, even if you feel like you are trying to juggle soot and everything is out of control.
You are ... (read in full...)
She left her husband for me and now I don't want her!
Q. I dont think I love my girlfriend of two years anymore. Here is the situation, 2 years ago I met this girl, but she was already married for 4 years but something happened and we started talking with one another and before you know it we were getting ...
A. 13 October 2010: I feel beyond sorry for your girlfriend, because you really didn't know what you were doing when you told her to leave her husband. She has now thrown her lot totally in with you, trusting you, and you have had the time to realise you don't really ... (read in full...)
I have severe dating anxiety what can I do to control my symptoms?
Q. my problem is that i have severe dating anxiety. this is the reason i run out on most guys after the second date. a few days ago i met this really nice guy and he wants to take me out this thursday. i said yes but now the anxiety has kicked in. im ...
A. 11 October 2010: ps
go and have dinner with him because ... the sooner you get a boyfriend, the sooner you won't have to go on any more dates!! Simple! : )... (read in full...)
I have severe dating anxiety what can I do to control my symptoms?
Q. my problem is that i have severe dating anxiety. this is the reason i run out on most guys after the second date. a few days ago i met this really nice guy and he wants to take me out this thursday. i said yes but now the anxiety has kicked in. im ...
A. 11 October 2010: Control of symptoms: have a big glass of wine before you go out : )
No, seriously - you need to get perspective and calm yourself enough to enjoy yourself.
But I know with these anxieties that what you really, really need is for a guy to see... (read in full...)
In the middle between two guys with an issue
Q. I have two best friends, Jacob and Sam, they know each other and are very close. Sam developed feelings for me and we are seeing each other. i went over to a friends house a few days ago and Jacob was there. He started doing things like laying on ...
A. 11 October 2010: Jacob has behaved very badly, and used you to get back at Sam (for doing something he didn't intentionally even do).
That is a simple issue. Sam is right to be mad. You should be, too. I would be. How dare he do those things to you, just to pay s... (read in full...)
Do I owe this person anything?
Q. Hey!!...I have a tough question. There's this friend I know (just a friend) who I haven't spoken to for more than a month. And she has done a lot to help me over the years, but she is using guilt as a means to get her own way. She seriously thinks ...
A. 11 October 2010: Just trying to work this out, as it's a bit confusing.
No, of course you don't owe her anything, but it seems she is joining in with your family to make you feel guilty about not having kids, and because she's been so kind to you, you feel lik... (read in full...)
Friend starting to get a little more friendly with my backside
Q. Theres a guy at school who I am crazy about and me and him have always acted more than friends around eachother. We always flirt, hug and text eachother etc. We've been like this for a little while now but recently we've become so much closer. He is ...
A. 10 October 2010: he obviously wants the relationship to become physical... (read in full...)
Do I owe this person anything?
Q. Hey!!...I have a tough question. There's this friend I know (just a friend) who I haven't spoken to for more than a month. And she has done a lot to help me over the years, but she is using guilt as a means to get her own way. She seriously thinks ...
A. 10 October 2010: well, you owe her kindness and friendship and being there if she ever needs you, but you certainly don't 'owe' her having kids. ?? what a bizarre idea. why should you? it is your life.
who is this friend? how old is she? who does she want you to h... (read in full...)
How can I change our sex only relationship into something more?
Q. A few weeks ago, I got talking to a guy at a bar (foolish place to meet someone I know). One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Since then he has added me on facebook and texted me a few times. We have seen each other on nights ...
A. 10 October 2010: Yep, the others are right: the only way is to tell him you feel it went too fast, and that you like him too much to have a cheap arrangement with him, and that you don't want to sleep with him again until you know each other better, but that you ... (read in full...)
My ex is dating a new guy. Do I have a chance to get her back?
Q. So I started dating this girl about a year ago and 3 months in I made the mistake of kissing another woman. I was really drunk and it was a huge mistake. After cheating I realized I really didn't want to be with anyone else because it felt so wrong. ...
A. 8 October 2010: well, firstly, you were VERY stupid to tell her about a kiss that meant nothing - hope you have learnt your lesson - sorry, but true.
ok: can you get her back? hmm. not sure. she dropped you so completely. only if you crawl.... (read in full...)
After 25 years of no contact,can he be 100% trustworthy?
Q. Twenty-five years ago, I fell in love with a Turkish man, and he with me I believe. He was very kind and very protective of me. After 3-4 months, he took me to meet his entire family in two different cities. And he asked me to marry him. I had been ...
A. 7 October 2010: I don't doubt love being able to last forever and a day ... I just think perhaps you gave snippets of information, and not the full picture. I don't totally understand why you didn't marry in the first place, or why you waited so long to contact him ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 7 October 2010: I am so pleased you asked him, and I now also feel very mean for having just assumed he was selfish and didn't care (although it might have crossed his mind that you felt a bit unloved ... but then I think quite a lot of men don't really think in ... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 6 October 2010: Wow - well done - if you have the strength to do that, you are already halfway there - this is just exactly what you need to do with him. Good luck! And it will work out either way - either he will wake up and be fair, or you will be free of his ... (read in full...)
After 25 years of no contact,can he be 100% trustworthy?
Q. Twenty-five years ago, I fell in love with a Turkish man, and he with me I believe. He was very kind and very protective of me. After 3-4 months, he took me to meet his entire family in two different cities. And he asked me to marry him. I had been ...
A. 6 October 2010: It doesn't sound to me like you even like Turkey or the Turks very much. What then is this idea of marrying someone and living there??... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 5 October 2010: Looking through the other comments you have made as well, it sounds to me, sadly, as if he just uses you to fulfil his needs, and it really isn't a reciprocal relationship at all. You give, on demand, and he just takes. He isn't interested in your ... (read in full...)
Do women tell their friends EVERYTHING about their boyfriends???
Q. Ok, to all women, do you talk to your best friends and tell them everything about your bf. i mean everything, like dirty details?...
A. 5 October 2010: I think Cerberus is right that that whereas women won't necessarily tell all sexual/physical details (very probably not, if in a mature relationship - they become protective of their man's secrets), they WILL give the full emotional low-down on him. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend confessing he has no desire for sexual intercourse?
Q. My question is how do I deal with my boyfriend confessing he has no desire for sexual intercourse? A year and a half before we met he found out he had prostate cancer. He had it removed, and right before we met he had surgery/ inflatable prosthetic. ...
A. 4 October 2010: This is very sad. Unfortunately, though, there is no substitute for the real thing - real sex - and you / your body / your soul knows this. As you say, no amount of being nice and looking after you can make up for that.
I think you have to think... (read in full...)
Why wont my husband perform oral sex on me?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 11 years now and I am very hurt by the fact he will not perform oral sex on me I give him bjs all the time but he won't ever return the favor. I desire it so much that I often think about cheating to get oral ...
A. 4 October 2010: because he just won't.
unfortunately some men are like that. lord knows how you get him to do it. i doubt he will go for sex therapy. maybe tell him you will find someone else to do it if he won't. but that kind of ultimatum is always bad.
... (read in full...)
Do women tell their friends EVERYTHING about their boyfriends???
Q. Ok, to all women, do you talk to your best friends and tell them everything about your bf. i mean everything, like dirty details?...
A. 4 October 2010: not totally everything. well, i don't. i have a certain loyalty that prevents me. and also one only really goes to the level of detail that one's friends do, and if they don't tell everything, you don't either.
so your secret(s) might be safe ...... (read in full...)
Sex? I can take it or leave it...
Q. I'm 31 and my boyfriend is 28 and sometimes i dont wanna have sex but i do anyway, dont want him cheating on me, thats why i do it and now we live together what should i do?...
A. 4 October 2010: ? for sure in any monogamous relationship there will be some times when one person is up for it and the other is too tired/has a headache/just isn't in the mood - but - and this is a big but - if the sexual relationship is a strong one (as in deep, ... (read in full...)
How do I smooth things over so I can be part of my neice's life?
Q. I just found out that my brother's girlfriend is pregnant. Her and I had a falling out at the beginning of this year over her cheating on him with our step brother. Well, he forgave her and they stayed together but she's not over it yet and is ...
A. 4 October 2010: Well, she did the bad thing - cheating on your brother with your step brother is pretty damn bad. That your brother forgave her is just her good luck. I think you are very big-hearted - I would be so cross (to put it very mildly ; ) that she was now ... (read in full...)
After 25 years of no contact,can he be 100% trustworthy?
Q. Twenty-five years ago, I fell in love with a Turkish man, and he with me I believe. He was very kind and very protective of me. After 3-4 months, he took me to meet his entire family in two different cities. And he asked me to marry him. I had been ...
A. 3 October 2010: Sorry but this does read as really quite a bizarre story. He went to Switzerland with a husband and wife and ... dot dot dot??
How can someone you haven't seen for 25 years or more 'still love' you? The whole thing is very odd.
I feel actual... (read in full...)
After 25 years of no contact,can he be 100% trustworthy?
Q. Twenty-five years ago, I fell in love with a Turkish man, and he with me I believe. He was very kind and very protective of me. After 3-4 months, he took me to meet his entire family in two different cities. And he asked me to marry him. I had been ...
A. 3 October 2010: Well, to be fair, I think he could also wonder whether you are trustworthy ... you first dumped him with a letter, then you re-contacted him, suggested yourself buying a flat with him (which presumably would have taken something like the money you ... (read in full...)
Wife taking 24 condoms on holiday when she is going with 3 other women.
Q. hi my wife and i have funny kind of marrage (i think we have been married a lot of years) yes i know how many 30. each year she and 3 old (well same age girlfriends go away on holiday for a week. this year they are going on a crusie and i was...
A. 1 October 2010: maybe that IS what they do.
would you mind if she was going to have a bit of sex with someone while on the cruise?
if you would, ask her about the condoms and why she has them.
if you wouldn't, don't ask her. just let her do it. you've be... (read in full...)
Husband and I got into big fight and he got arrested!
Q. My husband and i got in the biggest fight i would say we have ever had and the nieghbors called the cops. Well he got arrest ( well i was change our daughters diaper, infront of our son) for a warrnet. he got 10 days no bail no 2 for 1. our s...
A. 1 October 2010: i'm glad it has made him think a bit. i hope it will all go well for you guys now. i'm sure you will all appreciate each other more when you get him back : )... (read in full...)
Husband and I got into big fight and he got arrested!
Q. My husband and i got in the biggest fight i would say we have ever had and the nieghbors called the cops. Well he got arrest ( well i was change our daughters diaper, infront of our son) for a warrnet. he got 10 days no bail no 2 for 1. our s...
A. 26 September 2010: Can you get a message to him and tell him you are really upset without him? After all, you didn't call the cops - the neighbours did.
Maybe you could borrow some money to go and see him?
Or just wait till he is out. 10 days isn't that long.... (read in full...)
Are they right??? Should we look for someone else?
Q. I am a guy of 23 years of age in a relationship with a girl of 23 as well but she is 3 days older than me. We both have been pressurized by friends, relatives and people generally that the relationship can't work, they say it will be better if I ...
A. 26 September 2010: To me this is obvious nonsense - you are ideally suited if the same age - but in some cultures/traditions the man is supposed to be older so that he can dominate the marriage/woman. Also so he can understand her a bit more.
As my partner is some ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend playfully slapped me?
Q. We have been together eight months. I am 22, and he is 21. We were at a party last night. Parties are not my thing at all, but I went so that we could spend time together, as we are both very busy with school during the week. I thought we were both ...
A. 26 September 2010: No, in my opinion, it isn't. As you said yourself, it didn't hurt you physically - so it must have been very very light, as it is easy to hurt someone with even a mild slap on the face. But it hurt your feelings. OK. You hurt his by an insensitive ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to enjoy sex at all?
Q. Is it normal not to enjoy sex at all? When me and my bf have sex i really dont enjoy it always seems to hurt no matter what way we do it, we've tried different types of condoms but thats not helping at all. I feel a lot of friction down there so we ...
A. 23 September 2010: Have you ever had sex without a condom?... (read in full...)
Discomfort...
Q. This is a very embarrassing question but, last night my boyfriend touched me down below for the first time and it hurt a bit so I told him to stop and today it still feels a bit uncomfortable, I don't know if this is because of him touching me or ...
A. 23 September 2010: Well, it depends where and how it feels uncomfortable. It could be either, but for sure the shaving can cause irritation. If it is from something yr boyfriend did, it will soon calm down.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of leaving my husband, insights please!
Q. I am finally getting up the courage to leave my husband who I have been married to for 17 years (I am 38). My husband has never made any solid plans for us as a couple during our marriage, has just drifted along on the personal side of things, ...
A. 22 September 2010: It is extremely difficult to get out of a rut, which is what it sounds like you have been in for really quite a long time now. You are right, of course - but although we can often know we are right, it also often takes us a long time to get from ... (read in full...)
Any aunts specializing in domestic abuse questions?
Q. Are there any Aunts who specialize in answering domestic abuse questions? I ask because I'd like to write in private rather than post on a public board. ...
A. 22 September 2010: You are very welcome to email me. I will try to help you. I understand that if you are posting here, you want someone to talk to anonymously. That's fine - please do send me a message if you want.
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Are women satisfied with average size penis or do they fantasize about bigger penises?
Q. hello everybody, thanks for the time i would spend in order to answer my question :D mu question is mostly for women who are married to men with average penis size, i just wanna know are the women in this situation really satisfied with their hu...
A. 22 September 2010: Really honestly and truly i only fantasise about my partner, and for me, his is the only body in the world.
Women are probably more loyal than you realise : )
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When wearing revealing clothes, do women want men to look?
Q. When women wear revealing clothes - like skin tight exercise stuff, or a busty plunging neck line, as two examples - do they want men to notice? Does it make women happy to catch you staring, if you do so discretely? I am a bit confused about ...
A. 21 September 2010: When I wear clothes like that, yes, it is because I want to be noticed, BUT, I certainly wouldn't want anyone to say hi to me because of it. Oh no.
You don't need to give a furtive glance to spice up your day. You give a very quick, direct l... (read in full...)
Love of my life, getting back together with her?
Q. So here it goes gang. Long time reader, first time poster. I recently had a strange even unfold. First I will give some back history. I dated this amazing girl for about 2 and a half years. She is a grade younger than me (only 6 months in age ap...
A. 21 September 2010: I think you should see her and I think you should either make long distance work, or she should go with you when you spend the year abroad. Life is so much easier if you find The One earlier rather than later ... don't let her go.... (read in full...)
Will I always have to tolerate porn?
Q. I hate porn, will I always have to tolerate it being in a relationship? I mean, I only had one boyfriend, and we had sex, a lot. Of course, it bothered me he looked at other women naked. I didn't look at other men naked, because I knew it made him ...
A. 19 September 2010: You were just UNlucky. I think there are a load of guys out there who have a ton more respect for their girlfriends than I think your ex had. He used you like a doll - to recreate what he'd seen. OK, it turned him on, and kind of turned you on ... (read in full...)
Will I always have to tolerate porn?
Q. I hate porn, will I always have to tolerate it being in a relationship? I mean, I only had one boyfriend, and we had sex, a lot. Of course, it bothered me he looked at other women naked. I didn't look at other men naked, because I knew it made him ...
A. 19 September 2010: You were just lucky. I think there are a load of guys out there who have a ton more respect for their girlfriends than I think your ex had. He used you like a doll - to recreate what he'd seen. OK, it turned him on, and kind of turned you on (apart ... (read in full...)
Wife cheating on me and planning on leaving me. How do I get over this?
Q. Recently I found out that my wife is cheating on me with some other guy. Though, I think they have not slept yet but she is madly in love with him. We have been married for almost 15 yrs now and have kids. Our marriage has not been the best in ...
A. 18 September 2010: This is very painful for you, and I can understand why you want to pay for the course. On the surface it is because you want her to finish it, to have the qualification - you want the best for her. But in reality, deep down, I think paying for the ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to this much older woman! What should I do?
Q. OK.... So I have this aunt who isnt really my aunt... she was my moms best friend since i could remember. How ever my mom and her are not friends any more but her and I have gotten closer and closer. We have grown into our own relationship and we ...
A. 17 September 2010: Classic Mrs Robinson scenario. She's 48. Of course she knows what's going on. And if she is down the gym all the time, i very very much doubt that she hasn't got a lover or lovers somewhere - she just doesn't tell you about it. You are infatuated; ... (read in full...)
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