Pregnant...but I don't know who the father is!
Q. I am in such a dilemma. Three months ago, I was at my boyfriend's house and he had to leave suddenly after a very secretive phone call he made to someone. My suspicion is that he was calling another girl, whom I know to be my ex-best friend. I think ...
A. 5 May 2009: ps
and how pregnant are you? if you already have a slight bump, i very much doubt you can have an abortion now (and you haven't talked about wanting an abortion, either) (i am pretty against them as i had one when i was young, and have always r... (read in full...)
Pregnant...but I don't know who the father is!
Q. I am in such a dilemma. Three months ago, I was at my boyfriend's house and he had to leave suddenly after a very secretive phone call he made to someone. My suspicion is that he was calling another girl, whom I know to be my ex-best friend. I think ...
A. 5 May 2009: You poor, poor thing - you need someone to talk to, and help you. I'm sure this will all be sorted out.
I know you think your parents will be mad, but don't you think they'll get over it? And as for which boy is the father - that you can only tel... (read in full...)
He already has a kid
Q. So Im 17 years old. I met this guy. He's really sweet. Kinda seems like the player type though. So he tells me he has a gf. But she lives in l.a and I guess its not working out between them. So I kind of try to hold my distance until they're done. ...
A. 4 May 2009: ok - sorry - didn't realise - for some reason I thought he was older than you.
Well, if she doesn't want to be with him, and lives miles away, then what's the problem? Yes, he has a baby - but then so do loads of people after they've had a relati... (read in full...)
He already has a kid
Q. So Im 17 years old. I met this guy. He's really sweet. Kinda seems like the player type though. So he tells me he has a gf. But she lives in l.a and I guess its not working out between them. So I kind of try to hold my distance until they're done. ...
A. 4 May 2009: ps
men who are trying to live a double-life always describe their relationship with the mother of their children as awful, and say they only fight all the time. They don't tell you about the loving tender moments with their baby and his/her moth... (read in full...)
He already has a kid
Q. So Im 17 years old. I met this guy. He's really sweet. Kinda seems like the player type though. So he tells me he has a gf. But she lives in l.a and I guess its not working out between them. So I kind of try to hold my distance until they're done. ...
A. 4 May 2009: This is a complicated situation emotionally, and my feeling is that you will only be hurt in it, and also other people - the girlfriend, and the baby. I think you should also think of them. You can't be sure of what he is telling you - he is, I ... (read in full...)
Two and 1/2 years and I want more than kissing
Q. hey i have been with my boy friend for 2 and a half yrs now. and i keep giving clues for over a month that i want more then just kissing. i want to go futher as i want to have sex with him. but he isnt getting the message and i dnt want t...
A. 4 May 2009: Seems a bit strange. What is the situation with your relationship? Do you think you will get engaged? Does he ever talk about sex? I think either he has strong views on sex before marriage, or he is worried because he has some sexual hang-up (eg, ... (read in full...)
I think my Dad is cheating, what should I do?
Q. I think my dad having an affair. I was doing my parents taxes and found a receipt of condoms, my parents don’t use them. I know it can be a lot things but I have had many suspicions! I’ve always been a straight forward person so I confronted him. He ...
A. 28 April 2009: Sorry - I don't agree with the idea of telling your mum she neither needs nor wants to know, when she is sick. I don't know how sick she is, or what is wrong with her, but I think you need to think VERY seriously about interfering like this in your ... (read in full...)
I have stomach pains and dark blood, after my b/f fingered me as I was just coming off my period, any ideas?
Q. hi, i wonder if you can help meee.. im 16 and my boyfriend is 17. yesterday he fingered me, and i was just coming off my period. there was some blood (ewww) and today ive been getting shooting pains in my stomach and dark blood, but im not sure if ...
A. 24 April 2009: I think that during your period, it is totally normal that any kind of sexual activity can make the blood get going again (horrid, i know, but that's the truth of it). Especially if you have an orgasm.
The dark blood could well be the end of your ... (read in full...)
I have stomach pains and dark blood, after my b/f fingered me as I was just coming off my period, any ideas?
Q. hi, i wonder if you can help meee.. im 16 and my boyfriend is 17. yesterday he fingered me, and i was just coming off my period. there was some blood (ewww) and today ive been getting shooting pains in my stomach and dark blood, but im not sure if ...
A. 24 April 2009: I think that during your period, it is totally normal that any kind of sexual activity can make the blood get going again (horrid, i know, but that's the truth of it). Especially if you have an orgasm.
The dark blood could well be the end of your ... (read in full...)
I have stomach pains and dark blood, after my b/f fingered me as I was just coming off my period, any ideas?
Q. hi, i wonder if you can help meee.. im 16 and my boyfriend is 17. yesterday he fingered me, and i was just coming off my period. there was some blood (ewww) and today ive been getting shooting pains in my stomach and dark blood, but im not sure if ...
A. 24 April 2009: I think that during your period, it is totally normal that any kind of sexual activity can make the blood get going again (horrid, i know, but that's the truth of it). Especially if you have an orgasm.
The dark blood could well be the end of your ... (read in full...)
Handsome man in nightclub alone intimidates a woman?
Q. I am in a bit of a pickle.... I am a 26 year old guy. I have been told I am very attractive by many females, and I have noticed a lot of woman looking at me.....in streets, at clubs etc. However I am totally clueless and I may be misinter...
A. 18 April 2009: ps
just saw your bit about you looking away and pretending to text - well, surely you know that's why you aren't getting anywhere? If a girl is secretly checking a guy out, then he looks up and clocks her and then looks immediately away and buri... (read in full...)
Handsome man in nightclub alone intimidates a woman?
Q. I am in a bit of a pickle.... I am a 26 year old guy. I have been told I am very attractive by many females, and I have noticed a lot of woman looking at me.....in streets, at clubs etc. However I am totally clueless and I may be misinter...
A. 18 April 2009: If a guy is incredibly good-looking but not very outgoing, yes, I think it unlikely that (sober!) women would approach him. They most likely think you are either taken or that you are aloof and wouldn't want them.
The other thing is, that maybe yo... (read in full...)
How could I trust her in the future now?
Q. I have been dating my 24 year old girlfriend for 2 years(I am 32). We had some minor issues over the last few months over us being a bit more serious(i.e moving in together) so we gave each other a little space however we still saw each other at l...
A. 18 April 2009: Erm, unfortunately women tend to do this. She is no worse that most of us. We are controlled by our hormones, and when you come of birth control and are on your own hormones again, it goes totally to your head (or elsewhere!!) and I honestly think ... (read in full...)
What do you think guys - good or bad signs?
Q. There is a girl I like. I've never spoken to her before but I see her everyday. Her friends all seem to like me but I don't know about her. Today I was playing football with my friend and she was watching us. Everytime I went near her with the ball...
A. 18 April 2009: yep. she fancies you.... (read in full...)
Is an affair in the cards...non stop emails and phone conversations
Q. Hi. A question for the ladies out there. The older man is higher up in the organisation than the younger man, the younger man is slighty better looking, the older man is taller and stronger, the older man is English and sophisticated, the younger ...
A. 18 April 2009: Yes, it would appear to be going somewhere with the older man, but he is something of a player, it sounds, with his relationship and his children and his (possible) other woman and his books on how to fall in love ... The older man is conducting a ... (read in full...)
I have my whole life ahead of me but don't know if I could kill my child... Help!
Q. Hello. My name is Anna and I am 17 years of age. I have just found out that I am pregnant after being fourced to sleep with my boyfriend. I have not told anyone as I know they will be judgemental. I am only 17 and have got my whole life ahead of me ...
A. 17 April 2009: I was forced into an abortion, and it really did ruin my life. Don't believe what they say (or don't say) - you are absolutely right to feel this isn't the right thing to do, because it isn't. You will always regret it.
I had a chat with an 84-ye... (read in full...)
I'm in an abusive relationship
Q. I am in a abusive relationship. My boyfriend is a possesive and jelous maniac. He does not let me go out with my friends, he doesnt let me talk to any male friends, he does not let me work in places that any guy will be, he doesnt let me wear alot ...
A. 17 April 2009: You are totally right to be seeking help. You are right about everything - what he's doing is not normal, and he shouldn't be doing it. He has a big, big problem, and unfortunately you are caught up in this.
You need to act very carefull... (read in full...)
Reddish color in cum?
Q. I am a female who notived this redish color on my cum!!Its is a mixture of blood and water color. Im a little worried, is it normal for the cum to have a bloody color??? ...
A. 16 April 2009: ps
If you've recently had an abortion or miscarriage, or a failed conception you didn't know about, you can also have a sensitive uterine lining for a few months, which means that when it is disturbed (eg, by sex, orgasm) it sheds a bit. I have had ... (read in full...)
Reddish color in cum?
Q. I am a female who notived this redish color on my cum!!Its is a mixture of blood and water color. Im a little worried, is it normal for the cum to have a bloody color??? ...
A. 16 April 2009: If you have some kind of pale pink discharge all the time, then you must go to the doctor - that isn't normal.
If you have it only after you've had sex, and only sometimes, then it could mean you have a sensitive area on your cervix that is being... (read in full...)
I think I am pregnant, but no access to pregnancy test kit!
Q. i live in Cairo , Egypt . suspect that i'm pregnant and need a pregnancy test , i know most of you are from abroad but i have no idea where to go , the pharmacies i've been to i never saw any and here u can ask yea but for someone my age and with no ...
A. 15 April 2009: ps
What are your symptoms?... (read in full...)
I think I am pregnant, but no access to pregnancy test kit!
Q. i live in Cairo , Egypt . suspect that i'm pregnant and need a pregnancy test , i know most of you are from abroad but i have no idea where to go , the pharmacies i've been to i never saw any and here u can ask yea but for someone my age and with no ...
A. 15 April 2009: Maybe one of us could send it to you? I don't mind doing that, if it would help.
Or why not just buy one over the internet?? That would be anonymous and easy, don't you think? You'd need a card to pay with though.
I don't mind doing it and... (read in full...)
Is it sex if he only goes in a little bit, but doesn't break my hymen?
Q. i know it is quiet weird to ask , regarding my age but i just have to .. i wanna know if what we are doing is -sex - , me and my bf , he slightly enters me and u know in and out all that , but not that he actually gets his peins -inside- my hymen ...
A. 15 April 2009: Here, I found this for you:
http://health.discovery.com/centers/sex/sexpedia/hymen.html
It's all about hymens. Basically, the hymen is only a partial covering of the opening, because when you have your period, blood needs to be able to come out.... (read in full...)
Is it sex if he only goes in a little bit, but doesn't break my hymen?
Q. i know it is quiet weird to ask , regarding my age but i just have to .. i wanna know if what we are doing is -sex - , me and my bf , he slightly enters me and u know in and out all that , but not that he actually gets his peins -inside- my hymen ...
A. 15 April 2009: If he has put it a little bit in (I guess you mean maybe gone just inside the lips) and actually ejaculated there, then of course you might be pregnant. The hymen is often not totally intact by your age, from exercise as someone said such as bike ... (read in full...)
Is it sex if he only goes in a little bit, but doesn't break my hymen?
Q. i know it is quiet weird to ask , regarding my age but i just have to .. i wanna know if what we are doing is -sex - , me and my bf , he slightly enters me and u know in and out all that , but not that he actually gets his peins -inside- my hymen ...
A. 14 April 2009: In my opinion, that is not quite sex, no. Trust me - there is an awful lot further to go yet.
... (read in full...)
Got my mistress AND my wife pregnant. Now my wife is being difficult. Shall I leave her?
Q. Last month I asked a question about how I could get my wife to forgive me after I had an affair and the other women got pregnant. Thankfully she forgave me but now things seem to be getting worse rather then better. My wife told me that she too is ...
A. 14 April 2009: ps I meant 'God, forgive HER' !!... (read in full...)
Got my mistress AND my wife pregnant. Now my wife is being difficult. Shall I leave her?
Q. Last month I asked a question about how I could get my wife to forgive me after I had an affair and the other women got pregnant. Thankfully she forgave me but now things seem to be getting worse rather then better. My wife told me that she too is ...
A. 14 April 2009: Save your marriage. You can. She is just totally and utterly blown away by what you've done, and hyper paranoid. God, forgive him - cut her some slack - you'd feel bad as well, in that situation. And she is so vulnerable, being pregnant. And what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has cheated 6 times and I don't know how to get him to stop
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend has cheated on me yet again. This is the 6th time that this has happened and I keep taking him back. The girl called me and said that he was with her on Valentines day when he told me that he had to work. I found ...
A. 14 April 2009: It is really sad. I think you are in the position more women find themselves in when they are married. They are in the situation of: he is my guy; I am committed to him; I love him; what is worse - hoping I might be able to trust him, and still ... (read in full...)
Large tipped condom does ????
Q. my boyfriend and i bought a variety pack of condoms. Ribbed and Studded, i completely understand, but what is the large tipped one ment for? When he put it on it was just like the top was all baggy and didn't do anything for either of us. Is this ...
A. 14 April 2009: Don't tell me spermicide doesn't affect the sensation of intercourse, because it does. Some of them have a kind of anaesthetic effect - trust me - it is true - it even lists 'numbness, lack of sensation' as one of the possible side-effects. For us ... (read in full...)
Large tipped condom does ????
Q. my boyfriend and i bought a variety pack of condoms. Ribbed and Studded, i completely understand, but what is the large tipped one ment for? When he put it on it was just like the top was all baggy and didn't do anything for either of us. Is this ...
A. 14 April 2009: Lazy Guy, I have to say that in my experience, condoms are just not it, somehow. They have evil stuff on them (spermicide) that means you don't feel things in the same way at all, and all this ribbed rubbish is only to try to spice them up and ... (read in full...)
I feel like a sinner and I don't know what to do!
Q. I feel so so dirty! A man on here helped me with one of my problems and we got chatting and he said he'd help me with any other problems. Anyway he started talking sexually and I did too cos I was so unbelievably horny but now I feel so dirty and ...
A. 13 April 2009: for Andrew's email address, click on 'About us' at the top of the questions!... (read in full...)
I feel like a sinner and I don't know what to do!
Q. I feel so so dirty! A man on here helped me with one of my problems and we got chatting and he said he'd help me with any other problems. Anyway he started talking sexually and I did too cos I was so unbelievably horny but now I feel so dirty and ...
A. 13 April 2009: You have to do three things:
1) Report this person to Andrew, who runs this site - his email is andrew@dearcupid.org
2) Stop feeling guilty - you were drawn into something completely inappropriate by a man who should never have been on this sit... (read in full...)
How do girls masturbate? I'm not really comfortable with sticking stuff in my vagina yet.
Q. I'm a 16 year old girl and I don't really masturbate. I’m not sure how to. Is that weird? Is that bad? Me and my boyfriend are doing a lot of stuff with hands. This is the first time either of us have gotten this close to another person b...
A. 13 April 2009: I think you're right - you need to try on your own first, and find out a bit more about your body works.
Certainly forget about sticking things inside you - this is not in any way necessary, and millions of women rarely if ever do that, although... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want to have biological children and I do!
Q. My husband doesn't want to have biological children and I do. What should I do?...
A. 13 April 2009: He stood at the altar and promised to have children with you. It's completely natural and normal of you to want to have kids with the man you love. It's totally unfair of him to expect you to quell this incredibly strong natural desire.
I don't kn... (read in full...)
Help! I am so lost with this one
Q. Hi i was with my ex for years and we just recently split. i think it was mostly my fault because i changed after i was raped by a man i used to work with. my ex didn't know about the attack and i didn't tell him till after we split up but i wont...
A. 11 April 2009: Sweetheart, I think you should still be with your boyfriend. He still loves you, you still love him. What has come between you is another man's dreadful act, and you not knowing what to do, how to cope, with what happened. I'm sure your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cums too quickly. What can we do?
Q. My boyfriend and I were about to have sex two days ago and he ejaculated very quickly. It didn't even last much of a minute. We then tried again fifteen minutes later and the same thing happened. The first time we did it he lasted a lot longer. I ...
A. 11 April 2009: Have a lot of sex. A lot of times. Then he will eventually start going longer.
Obviously he could also start engaging with himself and trying to distract himself, etc., to keep going longer, but that kind of interrupts the experience for him, I'd... (read in full...)
Can 2 people truly be happy with eachother forever?
Q. this is a simple question and there is prbly no right answer. can two people truly be happy with each other forever?...
A. 10 April 2009: Yes, I have no doubt about it. However, you need judgement and LUCK to meet the right person, and then you need enough of a sense of romance to understand that being in love is a daily labour of love. It takes time, energy and application - it is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cums too quickly. What can we do?
Q. My boyfriend and I were about to have sex two days ago and he ejaculated very quickly. It didn't even last much of a minute. We then tried again fifteen minutes later and the same thing happened. The first time we did it he lasted a lot longer. I ...
A. 10 April 2009: there isn't any problem!!! he is just young and, erm, lively, as it were : )
the thing is, that even if it happens quickly, he can go again pretty soon after, i would imagine.
if you have sex twice a day for the next 3 months, he will calm dow... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and terrified!!!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I am sooo upset, I have found out that I am pregnant and I don't want my mum knowing because I am afraid she will think I am a slag. Please help what should I do ?...
A. 9 April 2009: CONGRATULATIONS! So glad to hear you have a beautiful baby girl! : )
Don't worry - I'm sure she will be fine in a few months time, and at the moment she is getting the best care possible.
As for your life - I am impressed : ) It is great that y... (read in full...)
My buddy's dating a nut job because the sex is amazing
Q. My buddy is dating this really messed up girl. They have some really good highs but some bad lows. It's extremely draining for him and he puts up with a lot and I know why he does: The sex is really good. He's got some particular "pref...
A. 8 April 2009: You can never really tell someone what to do in a relationship - well, you can, but in the end they will always do what feels best for them, regardless of any advice.
I'm not sure what this 'preference' is that they share, but if it is such a s... (read in full...)
How long do you wait to tell your bf and parents that you're pregnant?
Q. Curious.. If the Dr. gives you the Big surprise that you're pregnant..how long do you wait to tell your boyfriend? Is there a right time? I don't want to freak him out until I'm 100% sure..? And the parents? ...
A. 7 April 2009: Re: miscarrying in the first trimester, I agree with the aunt who said that it's actually better if people know you are pregnant, because then if something awful does happen, you have their support and understanding, and proper recognition of what ... (read in full...)
How long do you wait to tell your bf and parents that you're pregnant?
Q. Curious.. If the Dr. gives you the Big surprise that you're pregnant..how long do you wait to tell your boyfriend? Is there a right time? I don't want to freak him out until I'm 100% sure..? And the parents? ...
A. 7 April 2009: Tell him when he's in a good mood, yes - that is good advice. And make it a priority to tell him as soon as it seems a good moment, because every minute you know and don't tell him is a minute he will look back on as you lying to him - truly, they ... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and terrified!!!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I am sooo upset, I have found out that I am pregnant and I don't want my mum knowing because I am afraid she will think I am a slag. Please help what should I do ?...
A. 15 December 2008: I am too just so so happy you told your mum - i thought she would understand, because she had you when she was young, and i bet she has never ever regretted that!! : )
It will all be lovely, I am sure ... am just so happy your mum and boyfrien... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and terrified!!!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I am sooo upset, I have found out that I am pregnant and I don't want my mum knowing because I am afraid she will think I am a slag. Please help what should I do ?...
A. 7 December 2008: ps
How to tell your mum:
Mum, I need to talk to you. Something has happened and I need your help. Please don't be cross with me. .. ... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and terrified!!!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I am sooo upset, I have found out that I am pregnant and I don't want my mum knowing because I am afraid she will think I am a slag. Please help what should I do ?...
A. 7 December 2008: You're 15. I'm nearly 40. Let me tell you what I've learnt since I was 15 ... (because you just do learn stuff as you go along, and that is what advice is - giving someone else the benefit of what you've learnt the hard way : ).
OK. First thing, y... (read in full...)
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