I can't get into sex anymore. I feel like we're just replicating porn scenes...
Q. My partner's porn subscriptions have changed how I feel about him and our relationship. In the beginning, I was okay with it. But the longer we are together, the more turned off I become. I have sex w/ him to please him and derive no REAL pleasure ...
A. 24 September 2009: Thanks for that vote of confidence ... i need it. And I'm sure we can't be the only ones who feel like this. It's not that I am jealous or have a problem with him watching porn (especially since it seems that all men do that - so it just has to be ... (read in full...)
I can't get into sex anymore. I feel like we're just replicating porn scenes...
Q. My partner's porn subscriptions have changed how I feel about him and our relationship. In the beginning, I was okay with it. But the longer we are together, the more turned off I become. I have sex w/ him to please him and derive no REAL pleasure ...
A. 23 September 2009: I know just what you mean because I think the same has happened to me.
Unfortunately, mine isn't lovely in and out of bed - he has all sorts of problems and is usually deliberately horrid. : ( Anyhow, on the sex front, when I met him I had neve... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and had sex with my cousin, she wants us to do it again.
Q. Lately my cousin and I have been seeing a lot of each other. We are both 15 but we both have a thing of ending up on our own some how. Then one day when my mum and dad went out to go shopping they were gone about 2 hours. I can't remember how but we ...
A. 22 September 2009: no, you shouldn't. she is too close a relative. at the moment you can say it was a one-off ... but if you do it more, it will really disturb you over time, i think. say no and find a different girlfriend. be nice to your cousin but just explain you ... (read in full...)
Still low after his affair. I don't know how to get over it!
Q. hi all really need bit of advice. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 7 years we have a beautiful 4 year old child together, we live together and have alot of commitments. thing is, about 18 months ago i found out he was...
A. 18 September 2009: I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. But I'm sure you will get over it, in time. You just need time, and to realise that it wasn't anything to do with you, at all. He just went through a phase, in the way that we all do sometimes, but ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this new guy about the abortion I'm about to get?
Q. A little over a month ago, I had a one night stand. Unfortunately, I did not use correct judgment and we used the withdrawal method. As it turns out, I can attest it is not as effective as I'd hoped to believe. An Abortion has been scheduled for ...
A. 16 September 2009: Seekeretta, I'm sorry if I sounded harsh in my first reply, it's just that your post sounded much more concerned with sex than with the baby. I am completely against abortion, and I speak from experience, having been forced into one when I was 21, ... (read in full...)
Should I tell this new guy about the abortion I'm about to get?
Q. A little over a month ago, I had a one night stand. Unfortunately, I did not use correct judgment and we used the withdrawal method. As it turns out, I can attest it is not as effective as I'd hoped to believe. An Abortion has been scheduled for ...
A. 15 September 2009: Do you think that having an abortion will just be like popping in to the hairdresser's or something? You are likely to feel something after this procedure, both physically and emotionally. If you are getting close to someone then it might be ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I feel she see's right through me...
Q. I just wish she loved me. We've been together for 7 years and have 2 children. I love her, in love with her, she isn't. It's reaching obsession point now and I'm craving affection and her love. I want to marry her but she won't marry me. I adore her ...
A. 15 September 2009: Sorry - this sounds bad. It sounds like she doesn't really want to be with you, or that she at least takes you for granted completely. What is the story of your relationship? You're pretty young as well, to have been together so long and have 2 ... (read in full...)
He says he's too old for this - any advice?
Q. Hi I am in an age gap relationship, my partner is 57 and I am 37, we have a great relationship, he has a boy of 8 from a previous relationship whom I have known since he was 3 and we get on brilliantly, there is only one problem I have recently ...
A. 13 September 2009: This isn't fair. If you are a unit together, then he should be the father of your child. What - are you supposed to get pregnant by someone else and then him father the child? In which case, as he will be fulfilling the fatherly role, why not just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends best male friend calls him all the time, even at night. Am I over reacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2yrs and in that time his best friend who is a boy calls him upto 10 times a day, whether he's at work with me, anytime even at night he calls him. Its really annoying, am i over reacting ?...
A. 12 September 2009: some men have these kind of relationships with their 'best mate'. yes, it's annoying, invasive and jealousy-inducing, but you can't do anything about it. if you say anythig he'll get defensive and probably, i'm afraid to say, his mate is his most ... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about my suspicions or am I just overreacting?
Q. Lately my boyfriend has been really moody and becoming more and more aggressive towards me. He says things like "I just want to fight you sometimes" and "do you always have to ask questions? you're so f*ing dumb." a friend pointed out to me that ...
A. 8 September 2009: I wouldn't just come out and ask him. I might ask one of his close friends, if I was also friends with him. Just kind of say 'oh, he's been really weird lately ...' and say what's been going on, and ask if the friend has notice it too. And then ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but I'm not sure which guy is the father!
Q. Im 26 and just found out Im pregnant. The thing is, I have slept with 2 men - one 4 weeks ago, just a day after I finished my period and someone else 2 weeks ago. Im unsure who the father is but I think it is more likely to be the guy I slept wi...
A. 27 August 2009: I'm also pretty sure it is the second guy. It must be him. Your reasoning is right. ... (read in full...)
Recently divorced: will I be able to move on?
Q. I was married for 3 years I got divorced recently because I caught my husband cheating on me........ and ever since the divorce my friends are pushing me to go on dates but I just can see myself with anyone right now, I am still hurt from the ...
A. 25 August 2009: I'm sure you will move on, but you obviously need time - a lot of it. You need to accept what has happened and find a way of living with it. You need to compartmentalise it in your feelings/mind somehow - find a way of filing it in your experience. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is having his baby and I feel jealous
Q. I don't know where to start... When I first got together with my guy, I knew his ex was having his baby, and I seemed alright with it. I was warned, when I first met her, that she wasn't actually a nice person, in fact, she was manipulative and...
A. 11 August 2009: and now I read your post again .. sorry, but I really don't like the idea that the baby dying would be great because then you'd have nothing to worry about ...??... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is having his baby and I feel jealous
Q. I don't know where to start... When I first got together with my guy, I knew his ex was having his baby, and I seemed alright with it. I was warned, when I first met her, that she wasn't actually a nice person, in fact, she was manipulative and...
A. 11 August 2009: I don't know about her but I find his comments about the baby being dead before birth pretty unsavoury. Also, how did she get pregnant? Obviously he was sleeping with her, unprotected, just a few months ago. Where does that put him? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex is having his baby and I feel jealous
Q. I don't know where to start... When I first got together with my guy, I knew his ex was having his baby, and I seemed alright with it. I was warned, when I first met her, that she wasn't actually a nice person, in fact, she was manipulative and...
A. 10 August 2009: You are in an excruciating situation, and I can understand all of your feelings. I think this is how you should think about it:
1) There is NOTHING about having the baby that will make him want to go back to her, if she is that bad. I don't be... (read in full...)
Every time we have sex I think about her with others from her past
Q. Well im not going to write a book, but this is really putting a burden on my sex life with my girlfriend. Ive been dating my girlfriend for a year now. She is awsome, she really is a great girl. Last summer was kinda a roller coaster, it was grea...
A. 4 August 2009: Ok.\
No 1, she is definitely getting something totally new and different from you. And it is something she really likes. That's why she is with you, and not anybody else. Think of it like that. You are better than the others. Way.
Next thing. S... (read in full...)
Should I use online dating sites?
Q. I am 20 and have never been in a relationship/kissed/ect. I was wondering when and if it is a good idea to use the on line dating sites? Or should I just wait till I am older?...
A. 3 August 2009: I think you need to meet someone in person. I don't actually think online dates are the best idea for you, as you have no experience and no way of judging people. I think you'd be better to, eg, find out about speed dating and try that. Or, to be ... (read in full...)
What should you do if you've missed some pills and have unprotected sex?
Q. hey i just wanted to ask, if u have been on the pill but missed a few pills and had unprotected sex, what should you do? I am goin on hols next week and i gota take my pill back to back so i dnt have my period wen im on holiday. but ive put on a lil...
A. 3 August 2009: yep, second that. go to the doctor and be checked out BEFORE you go on holiday. and don't keep taking the pill for now.... (read in full...)
A poop question..
Q. This is wierd and I hope somebody knows what it is that is happening!. For the passed 2week myself and my girlfriend have had this strange happening when we go to the the toilet. When ever we go to the toilet to "poop", we have both noticed tha...
A. 3 August 2009: it could be a coincidence that you both have the same thing, or it could be you both have some sort of infection that has this as one of the symptoms. if it is a coincidence, then you could have this because yes, the delicate tissues there are being ... (read in full...)
A poop question..
Q. This is wierd and I hope somebody knows what it is that is happening!. For the passed 2week myself and my girlfriend have had this strange happening when we go to the the toilet. When ever we go to the toilet to "poop", we have both noticed tha...
A. 3 August 2009: it could be a coincidence that you both have the same thing, or it could be you both have some sort of infection that has this as one of the symptoms. if it is a coincidence, then you could have this because yes, the delicate tissues there are being ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to put your baby in temp. foster care and then claim it back at a more convenient time?
Q. hi im 15 and i just found out i was pregnant. i know my options, abortion, adoption, or keeping it. i don't want to give my baby up for adoption because i dont think i could handle carrying it for 9 months and then giving it away but if i abort it ...
A. 31 July 2009: also look at this:
http://www.standupgirl.com/web/?gclid=CL245ZS3_5sCFZgU4wodhCMK9g
and this:
http://www.youngmommies.com/index.html
... (read in full...)
Is it possible to put your baby in temp. foster care and then claim it back at a more convenient time?
Q. hi im 15 and i just found out i was pregnant. i know my options, abortion, adoption, or keeping it. i don't want to give my baby up for adoption because i dont think i could handle carrying it for 9 months and then giving it away but if i abort it ...
A. 31 July 2009: Re: Canada adopts - but she doesn't want to give her baby away. She just wants to complete her year of school so she isn't a complete drop-out.
Sweetie, what you don't realise yet, and what we should be telling you here (because we are here to ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to put your baby in temp. foster care and then claim it back at a more convenient time?
Q. hi im 15 and i just found out i was pregnant. i know my options, abortion, adoption, or keeping it. i don't want to give my baby up for adoption because i dont think i could handle carrying it for 9 months and then giving it away but if i abort it ...
A. 30 July 2009: I think that when you have your baby in your arms, you won't care whether you're living in a shoe box ... or eating only toast for a year ... you won't want to give that little bundle of love and joy to anybody. And he or she will only want you.
... (read in full...)
A girl kissed my boyfriend, is this considered cheating?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that another girl kissed him.it happened 7 weeks ago.he was out and stayed in his friend's house,he went to bed in his friends house.later a girl came into the bed and turned to him and kissed him.she kissed him twice.he ...
A. 29 July 2009: he didn't cheat. cheating would have been realising it wasn't you but kissing back and going further ... he didn't initiate it, he didn't pursue it, and as soon as he realised he was being (attacked!!) he got out of the situation.
no, he didn't c... (read in full...)
Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time?
Q. Can you be in love with 2 people at the same time? I am just curious as to what others think about this....
A. 29 July 2009: yes you can. however, you will love each differently, and one will be the better match for you.... (read in full...)
I had my first blow job but I didnt feel anything!
Q. I'm kinda shy here, so this is a BIG step forward for me ^^' Anyway recently I finally got over a self-confidence issue of not allowing anyone to do anything to me, and I received my first ever blowjob! (YAY!) Unfortunatly for me, I couldn't reall...
A. 29 July 2009: Hmm. Not sure. If you are very shy - I mean really shy - then maybe you kind of switched off somehow. I can't quite believe that, though. If you masturbate normally and feel normally then, I can't understand why you shouldn't feel when it is ... (read in full...)
I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 29 July 2009: I am in a similar situation in that i am with someone who is treating me pretty badly. He doesn't really want to be with me, but we are tied together by work and our baby. I loved him a lot - more than i have ever loved anyone. However, he has ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to hang out with me when he has a wife, a kid, and another on the way?
Q. hey everyone. i am a 17 year old girl and im having an issue. I like this guy named Tony who is 26 years old and he used to work as a security guard for my school. When he was working for my school i used to skip class andhang out with him and we ...
A. 28 July 2009: I'm sorry but maybe there's something wrong with me .. i actually feel sorry for tony. Let's look at the facts. His wife betrayed him and left him. He had feelings for a younger woman who was totally innocent. No doubt, yes, her innocence attracted ... (read in full...)
His actions scare me
Q. My boyfriend of two years and I have broken up before, at the time our conflicts were getting really really bad. I know I have made the arguement worse many times, I have a dry sarcastic nature that hits him in just the right way, but there are ...
A. 24 July 2009: To be honest, this doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship, and I think the patterns of behaviour you two have here are unlikely to change much. Sorry to say this, but I think things will only get worse. He is obviously quite emotionally ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to hang out with me when he has a wife, a kid, and another on the way?
Q. hey everyone. i am a 17 year old girl and im having an issue. I like this guy named Tony who is 26 years old and he used to work as a security guard for my school. When he was working for my school i used to skip class andhang out with him and we ...
A. 24 July 2009: I think it depends what kind of kisses he gives you. If he's just a physically affectionate guy, which is totally possible, then his physical warmth is just his way of showing he cares about you as a friend. What makes me think there possibly ISN'T ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my fiance even though I'm pregnant?
Q. I thought I was going to marry my best friend, but now I feel like I am making a huge mistake by committing my life to my fiance. "John" and I were as close as any friends could be- we worked together, spent every day together and hung out in soci...
A. 23 July 2009: My God - this sounds terrible. You can't live like this. Yes, absolutely NO doubt: you should leave him and be on yr own with yr baby, and live a fair, happy, decent and relaxed life . That he is being SO mean to you - with the money, taking ... (read in full...)
My BF says if I loved him I would have sex with him
Q. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 39. he said he loves me and if I loved him I would have sex with him. what should i do?...
A. 23 July 2009: personally i don't think we have enough info here to help you. what are your feelings? do you want to have sex? is your problem the age gap? why are you with him? etc ...... (read in full...)
I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!
Q. I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My ...
A. 21 July 2009: This is crazy, and if what you desc ribe was the mild stuff, well, frankly I'm surprised you haven't throttled him - I would have.
Look, it just isn't on for him to do this. You are in a marriage, or supposed to be, and this is blatant sexual b... (read in full...)
I think its impossible for me to be pregnant!
Q. My partner has been on holidays for almost 4 months, so we havent had sexually intercourse for a while. He got back a 2 weeks ago. I am now 9 days later havent had a pregnancy test not sure if i want to. i was talking to my partner about this and we ...
A. 20 July 2009: Tina, I am so so sorry this has happened to you. You need time to recover, and to understand that this just wasn't meant to be - however, I'm sure you will have another baby, and that will be meant to be.At least now your boyfriend has come to terms ... (read in full...)
My b/f keeps asking me for anal sex, I don't know what to do or how it's done?
Q. Ok, my boyfriend keeps asking me to have anal sex with him. I have never taken it up the butt and am not sure if it will hurt or what i am supposed to do. Can you help me?...
A. 13 July 2009: I seriously recommend you say no, because if you do it once, he will want to add it as a permanent feature to your sexual repetoire, and over time you will be physically damaged by it.... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so ugly all the time?
Q. Why do I feel so ugly all the time? It's not like I'm disfigured or anything, I'm normal, but nothing special. My friends have always been prettier than me though, got all the attention, etc. Sometimes I feel OK, but the minute I'll watch TV an...
A. 9 July 2009: I think you are feeling what most people feel quite often, if not all the time, when they are young. Even if they are pretty. Girls often feel very very very self-conscious. I spent a lot of my teenage years worrying that I was totally unattractive, ... (read in full...)
He is mistrusting, paranoid, insecure and trying to control my life
Q. This story sounds minor but it pretty much sums up my relationship with my boyfriend of two years, who I love dearly and he wants me to move to Italy (where he is from)... So I bought two pairs of shoes, I work in a professional setting. The he...
A. 7 July 2009: Sorry, but I don't think he will change, and sadly there's a good chance he will get worse. If you really like him you could try a (short) stint in Italy to see if he is more relaxed at home, but I doubt he will be. Sorry : (
And to be honest y... (read in full...)
I'm mis-reading my wife's signs, what am I missing here??
Q. I can't read my wife's signs. I get home the other day and she heads upstairs to put the kids to bed. Just before leaving the room, she tells me (and shows me) that she doesn't have any underwear on. After the kids are in bed, she takes a bath. ...
A. 7 July 2009: i agree with brit below - personally, if i had been behaving like that, i wouldn't have been intending to wait until the end of the movie. i would have expected someone to follow me up the stairs after i showed them the no underwear ... she sounds ... (read in full...)
What is the right way to ask someone if...
Q. Okay, I'm female 14. I have this cousin a few months older than me. A few years ago when she was visiting this thing happened. I was outside and had decided to go back inside the house and then I heard giggling, so I went to the room it was coming ...
A. 7 July 2009: You could just ask if she liked sitting on his lap, or something like that, to bring up the subject and see her reaction.
If this is what has happened, and your dad has unfortunately done this to both of you, I'm afraid you really do need to speak... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend is threatening me and I'm worried he'll try to take the baby!
Q. hi. i know i will probably be pre judged but im 17 and im due my baby in the begining of october. i dont quite think its a question im going to ask, but i feel so down and low at the minute, and i just feel like i need to let everything out! and...
A. 6 July 2009: you poor, poor thing. first thing: no, it is not in any way remotely your fault. that bugger forced himself upon you with no protection - that is why you are pregnant. you have taken it responsibly, though, and are preparing for your baby. he, on ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but I don't want him to get in trouble.
Q. I am 15 and I'm pregnant with my boyfriend that is four years older than me i need help i don't want him to go to jail i live in florida he wants to be there for me and the baby and he plans to marry me i love him to death is there anything i can ...
A. 4 July 2009: am so sorry you're all upset like this. in my country (england) it's different, and i don't think he would get into trouble. it won't help anything in this situation and he wants to do the right thing by you. i think you should first contact any ... (read in full...)
Is this normal... or not?
Q. Tell me if this is normal or not. I am a 14 year old girl who occasioally likes watching sex scenes from movies... Not real dirty ones just ones that make me " hot" if you will. Some of you may know how it feels ... How good it feels when you are ...
A. 4 July 2009: It's totally normal. That is one of the perks of being an adult : ) (but there's a hell of a lot of rubbish you have to put up with and sort out as well! : ( Welcome to adulthood ... ; )... (read in full...)
I think its impossible for me to be pregnant!
Q. My partner has been on holidays for almost 4 months, so we havent had sexually intercourse for a while. He got back a 2 weeks ago. I am now 9 days later havent had a pregnancy test not sure if i want to. i was talking to my partner about this and we ...
A. 26 May 2009: hey there ...
you have got someone with you - me! I am listening, and thinking of you, and would give you a hug and make you feel better, if I could.
A very similar thing happened to me, at your age, too. My father said/did the same thing - said t... (read in full...)
I think its impossible for me to be pregnant!
Q. My partner has been on holidays for almost 4 months, so we havent had sexually intercourse for a while. He got back a 2 weeks ago. I am now 9 days later havent had a pregnancy test not sure if i want to. i was talking to my partner about this and we ...
A. 21 May 2009: hey, i hope you're ok ... please write and tell us you are!
have just read all the posts since i asked you way back about what happened. and i am the one who Star gave you the link to.
you and your friend are right - if you had an abortion aga... (read in full...)
I think its impossible for me to be pregnant!
Q. My partner has been on holidays for almost 4 months, so we havent had sexually intercourse for a while. He got back a 2 weeks ago. I am now 9 days later havent had a pregnancy test not sure if i want to. i was talking to my partner about this and we ...
A. 15 May 2009: When is the last time you had sex with him, and what happened?... (read in full...)
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