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If he ejaculates quickly does that mean he is cheating?

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Question - (24 October 2009) 15 Answers - (Newest, 25 October 2009)
A female Canada age 36-40, *ovehurtsbadly writes:

My boyfriend and i use to be sexual active but no longer... Well if we do.. he ejaculate very quickly (in seconds). I kno he feels back but i always told him it was alright. Dont worry its not a big deal, it can be fixed. I just love him so much that i feel as though he has lost his confidence in himself. I love sex and yes great sex would be great. But i love him soooooooooooooooooooooooooo much i think its something we need to work on. But my question is.. Is it true if you have sex with your boyfriend and he ejaculate quickly means he si cheating?? I dont want to believe it but it stays in my mind. I just dont believe it at all. He is always sleeping and always tired. He has also put on a few pounds. What should i do??????

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A female reader, Lovehurtsbadly Canada +, writes (25 October 2009):

Lovehurtsbadly is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Yeah u are right it was the stupidest thing i ever heard .. thats why i wanted others opinion on that statment. Well in regards to the not getting enought sex statment. Hmm we do have sex but no as often as we sould, if it was up to me for sure i would want it everyday. I just dont know what to think anymore. I love him and hopefully everyting will be alright/ i will stick by my man and stay true to him. Thanx again.

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A female reader, Lovehurtsbadly Canada +, writes (25 October 2009):

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Thanx for your help everybody... I really do appreciate it

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009):

That's the stupidist thing I've ever heard...

However, there is a possibile explanation. If he's mastrabating as his form of sexual relief, and doing so secretly, he may have trained his penis to come very quickly so he won't get found out. This is sometimes called the "deathgrip", as guys will hold on so tight that they come fast and the penis gets used to this. You can see that the problem is when he makes love he's going to have a short fuse.

There are likely other combinations, but cheating is not one of them.... put your mind to rest on the cheating part.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (25 October 2009):

DoubleM agony auntPremature ejaculation can be for a number of reasons, but probably the least of which is cheating.

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A female reader, bitch United States +, writes (25 October 2009):

I agree with everybody here, if he is not "lasting" a very long time he probably is not having sex often enough so he would not be cheating at all.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009):

no it just means he is uppset about somthing or has alot in his mind... i dont think his cheating on u

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009):

No way... The other aunts are right. The less sex, the quicker.

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A female reader, eve567 Georgia +, writes (25 October 2009):

My husband does the same thing,2mints tops that is it.Well I don't know but my husband has been seening other ladys and I realy dont know if he does any thing.There is one lady he has been talking to for some time but I dont know if they have.He dont know what I am fixing todo live him but it doesnt mean he is.Good luck and tell us more maybe we can help in some way.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (25 October 2009):

natasia agony auntno way is he cheating. he wouldn't be getting fatter, for a start. and he would take longer to ejaculate. and there would be less semen.

i think he's depressed about something - talk to him, and forget this unfounded fear. i'm sure he isn't cheating.

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A female reader, indieee Australia +, writes (25 October 2009):

Babe.Because use havnt had sex in a while.Sex can feel really good for the guy,Expecially if it is without a condom.You should really discuss your feelings with him.And i am sure he will tell you the truth if he loved you.I wouldnt stress.

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A female reader, mama2bee United States +, writes (25 October 2009):

if he's ejeculating quickly it means he's not getting any. it means he hasn't came in a while so that means nothing, if he's cheating you, you can't tell by how fast he ejeculates.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009):

P.S and as for ur ejaculation question, thts the most ridiculous thing iv ever heard! Ofcourse its not true, he's not cheatin on u, he's jus got sumat on his mind x

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A female reader, sunnycomet Canada +, writes (25 October 2009):

sunnycomet agony auntUsually the guy will look better (not worst) if he is cheating. He would be trying to lose weight not gaining it. I really don't think he is cheating on you. I would suggest to him to see the doctor (have a blood test maybe) to see if anything is wrong with him...where he is always sleeping and tired.

Good Luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2009):

Maybe he's stressin with work? Or he may feel depressed abt himeself which cud reult him in gaining weight and sleeping all day,

U shud try talking to him and ask what's bothering him, tell him no matter what is bothering him tht u love and will support him, try something new! Take salsa dance classes or take a trip to ann summers become adventurous and just make him feel sexy abt himself, good luck xx

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (25 October 2009):

Ummm...ejaculating quickly would normally mean that he's not getting any...

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