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... Send *oviefan a private message | | | *oviefan's profile:Well i live in the United States in the State of Indiana. I feel like i have some things i cant contribute to help others because I have experienced a lot for my age and have always been a little mature for my age to the point that when i was in middle school i scared some of my teachers. I seemed to mature.. And this plus the fact that im good at logically thinking things threw and can connect things in life and movies that others wouldn't even notice. This has allowed me to learn things some people have to wait a life time to learn. This has also made others until recently distant from me, and made me cold for a long time.
I enjoy movies, music, anime, manga, video games, reading, building relationships, and hanging with family and friends.
And as of right now im single after getting out of a relationship that caused me a lot of stress and pain and im hoping to find someone i feel the same way about as i did for her.
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Ready to date but going away, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I really would like a relationship as it has been a very long time since I last had one. I've just not been interested in getting involved after the love of my life broke up with me. But now my interest is returning, and it's now something th...
A. 9 February 2008: Yeah thats understandable. I dont like being hurt and dont like hurting others but if things do turn serious you can always try to make things work long distance or have them come live near u if they will.
I hope everything works out and i wish y... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 9 February 2008: I figured some of you might want to know this but she took her ex back after he abandoned her. He came back. I heard this from a friend who about lost it when she heard this. I guess its true that people who enjoy making others misreable will end up ... (read in full...)
How can I impress her and ask her out on Valentines??
Q. I'm talking to a girl i met 2 weeks ago. I met her through a friend; we talked on msn then we went on a date to the movies. We ate dinner, it was really good and we had fun. I really like her; i asked her out for this weekend and she wants to go ou...
A. 8 February 2008: Do something really romantic, something really personal take her out for dinner, and a movie. Then make her a gift something she will really like or getting something personalized for her. The more personal the better. But be careful not to be to ... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea for our one year anniversary present??
Q. My boyfriend and i are going to celebrate our 1 year anniversary on Monday.. do you think giving him a picture of me ( a close up with my eyes looking real mysterious and sexy.. i look amazing in that picture if i may say so myself) in a frame is a ...
A. 8 February 2008: Yeah its a good idea, sometimes simple personal things like that we like better then stuff you can buy. But some guys wouldnt like it if there very materialistic. But yeah that seems like a good gift to me. Good Luck... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he like giving me oral sex??
Q. My boyfriend said he doesn't like giving me oral sex and i didn't ask why because i was embarrassed.. why do you think he wouldn't like it?? I like it!!??...
A. 8 February 2008: It could be several things. If you dont shave and have hair down there he could very well dislike having hair in or near his mouth. I dont mean anything mean by this but if you are not the cleanest down there that can be a major turn off for some ... (read in full...)
Should he make more noise when he comes?
Q. I always need to release the sexual pleasure/tension obtained during intercourse by crying out and moaning etc. My boyfriend says nothing but sweats like mad-his only noise is a series of gasps when he orgasms.Is this normal for a man as he's only ...
A. 8 February 2008: We are not very expressive on that matter you will probably get groans or slight vocal sounds nothing massive like what you do. And often times we shot it more physically then anything. So dont worry its normal.... (read in full...)
What are all these spots around my pubic area?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I just wanted to ask for some advice. I don't shave down there but it's always sore and has red spots everywhere down there and sometimes they even bleed. What do you think it is? ...
A. 8 February 2008: If you are not sexually active then chances are that its pimples, ingrown hair, or iritation from shaving there. Or a mix of the three. I have a had a few of the first ones once in a while and its very iritating until they go away. And on the ... (read in full...)
Ready to date but going away, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I really would like a relationship as it has been a very long time since I last had one. I've just not been interested in getting involved after the love of my life broke up with me. But now my interest is returning, and it's now something th...
A. 8 February 2008: You probably should just wait until you go to collage if that is in the next month or two. But if its much more then that then you go out and mingle a bit. Have fun. And just because you are going a little far away doesnt mean a relationship you ... (read in full...)
Why do guys think its so hott to make a girl have an orgasm?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex he tries so hard to make me orgasm, it feels so good and I want to be able to Orgasm so bad but I dont know why I cant? Is it the fact I'm afraid we'll have to clean up my mess? Whats wrong? I know alot of girls ...
A. 8 February 2008: We like it because it can be a pride thing, and we like to make you feel as good as we are when we peak. But never lie about having an orgasm does more damage then it does good. But it really sounds like you are to worried about making a mess and ... (read in full...)
Do we all have a purpose??
Q. Do we all have a purpose? I wonder how can you explain,if your life doesn't go well?I mean if its a complete disaster. Is the best way , to think, it is happening for a reason? Or that you are punished? Or what is the best way to explain downfall? ...
A. 8 February 2008: We all have a purpose that is common among all. And that is to make the most out of what you are handed in life. To try to be happy, becuase as long as you are alive you will always have chance to be happy. Yeah there are always low points like when ... (read in full...)
I feel insecure without a bf and am not over my ex. Please help.
Q. I feel really insecure without a boyfriend and recently i found out i have 5 admirers the thing is i dont like a single 1 of them yet im still not over my ex. He went out with me for a day dumped me then went out with me again for a day then dum...
A. 8 February 2008: Dont go jumping into a relationship until you are over you ex. You could very well want to go back to you ex after starting something with someone else. And you will have to decided to hurt one of them and chances are the new boyfriend will be the ... (read in full...)
I've fallen head over heels for a boy, but he doesn't know who I am. What can I do?
Q. i met this boy 2day and i have totally fallen head over heels for him he is gorgeous but hes in the year above and he hardly knows me.:'( i want 2 stop feelin like this. My heart is acheing :'(...
A. 8 February 2008: Try not to think about him and find something else to take up your thoughts. Read or play games or play a sport. And becuase you barely know the guy i have a feeling this is what is called infatuation. Its where you basically really like someone on ... (read in full...)
Too wet!!! Please help!!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend I get really wet. I'm serious.... really wet but I usually don't even cum!! I just get very wet. My boyfriend says not to worry but I think it bugs him. How can I not get so wet during sex??? ...
A. 7 February 2008: It is normal dont worry about it. It is actuall better for sex because it makes things run a lot better. It reduces friction, by acting like a lubrication. So most guys like it so chances are your boyfriends is not just saying that to make you feel ... (read in full...)
I haven't had Sex in a year and It's really getting me down
Q. I'm 19, I've gone a year without sex, and I feel pretty upset over it. It seems like such a terrible thing to say to your friends; "Well guys, I've not had any for a year, now". I've been in relationships, but they haven 't worked out, and so I'm ...
A. 7 February 2008: Look for a relationship and not just sex, find someone u actually want to get to know better and you may possibly want to have a long term relationship with if things work out. And do not sit there and wallow in your own muck, the more and longer ... (read in full...)
How do I break off with him without it getting messy?
Q. I recently have come to the conclusion that the man that I have date for well over a year has never given me a straight answer about having a future. I have decided to end this agony on being with him. I had told him in April of last year that I ...
A. 7 February 2008: Things will always be a little messy unless he has become emotionally unatached or expected this. Then he will still probably become a little upset but still. You can minimize this by telling him
A: In person(always makes things less damaging... (read in full...)
Should I be more touchy feely with my new boyfriend, does it matter to guys?
Q. This is a question for guys...... i just started going out with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago.We had been friends for about 3 years before we started dating an our relationship is really friendly and not very romantic. We have kissed and what-not...
A. 7 February 2008: Some guys are really into it others are ok with it. So it really depends on the guy. If he seems toucht feely already towards you he may like being treated that way also. Try it, but if he reacts badly forget it. Just stop.
Girls are commonly... (read in full...)
Is this a strange habit of my boyfriend's?
Q. My boyfriend masturbates whilst playing on his xbox360. several times i have walked in on hhim holding the controller in one hand and his penis in the other. he does it with many different games, from racing games to war games. i've tried to ignore ...
A. 6 February 2008: Maybe he was watching porn, heard you coming in and switched it over. I have heard of people doing this and i play the 360 myself and you can switch really quick from games to videos or music. ... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 6 February 2008: Thanks everyone i have made a lot of posts over time dealing with this. And yeah i have been having major doughts about having a relationship with her lately like one of you picked up on, my mind keeps putting up walls to stop her from hurting me i ... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with my best friend, we are going out now, but I'm very inexperienced, how do we move on to home base?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend and it's soooo good. I'm not very sexually experienced though, and I want to take our relationship (we've been seeing eachother for a few months now)to the next level. This is something which i'm understandably ...
A. 6 February 2008: I think you should give things some more time but thats just me i cant make that decision for you. But the best tip i can give you is what worked for me. Well beleive it or not guys can be nervous about sex to. I reasearched a lot about what to do ... (read in full...)
We're newlyweds and my wife has no sex drive, help me !
Q. OK, Well me and my now wife have been together for 8 years and have been married a little less than 1 year. We have been together since I was 16 and she was 17. We did not have sex for the first year and a half. but after we would get crazy and ...
A. 6 February 2008: Try doing something that she will really like that romantic to get her in the mood. Make it a suprise. And this should make things more interested and make sure that you focus on how she feels so that it makes her want to start doing it more. And ... (read in full...)
She asked me if I found her friend attractive, I said yes, now she's mad, whats the go?
Q. My Girlfriend asked me if I was attracted to one of her friends, and I never want to lie to her so I told her the truth, that I thought her friend was attractive, but I don't want to be with her friend, I only want to be with my girlfriend and I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Females can be odd like this, u think they would be happy about you being willing to tell them something like that. Buts in most cases hey wont, this is one of the moments u should of told a little white lie.
Ok you are going to have to make thi... (read in full...)
I want to give a secret admirer Valentines card to a girl at school
Q. hi, i need some help about valentines. I really like this girl in my class and want to get her a valentines card. The thing is that i feel a little embarrassed and if she found out it was from me i'd completely die! But isnt expressing love what ...
A. 6 February 2008: Just go for it!
Dont be secretive about how you feel about her or anyone else, nothing will come of it unless you make a move or she does. And most of the time girls wont make first moves. And yeah you will be embarrased but you will have to learn... (read in full...)
I still feel insecure that he would be looking at women who are so much more endowed, how do I get past these feelings of inadequacy?
Q. I'm upset because I looked at my bf's history and found that he had looked at youtube clips of women. They weren't nude but were huge busted women wearing bikinis and lingerie. He feels very bad about upsetting me and feels bad that it's such a...
A. 6 February 2008: Dont make a big deal out of it unless it continues. And it doesnt really matter porn is enertainment, and isnt cheating to watch it, it can be consided by some to be cheating if they maturbate to it tho. Also he may have just been curious about the ... (read in full...)
Why do boys my age act so... undignified? - Calling me nasty names, and swearing.
Q. well,I have a question why do boys my age are so unworthy? See a today this boy named idiot came up to me and said f*** you.i was like what?and he said uhmm i didnt stutter.and then i was like what the hell? and he said did you want me to repea...
A. 5 February 2008: Well you my as well get used to it, ignore them. There will always be imature people throught school and once you get out. Just look for guys who dont do that, and find one who seems to respect females and not sexually bother them. By touching them ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my feelings for my ex to come back after they were gone for a while?
Q. Well these last few months i had been trying to get over my ex, and well it wasnt easy mainly in part because well she was my first person i ever fealt this way about and we were less then a week away from having sex then things went horribly wrong ...
A. 2 February 2008: I have had a long time to think about it and it went away entirely i looked at her with disgust because of what she did to me. And I almost did something horrible to get back at her but i couldnt do it. Even though i hurt badly inside i couldnt do ... (read in full...)
First love...Does it ever end?
Q. Hi, I want to know if your feelings ever truely fade for your first love or do we hold those feelings for the rest of our lives!! I know the saying that you never forget your first love! My situation is that, I went out with a boy when I was 16...
A. 30 January 2008: No, you will never forget it will always be there. It may fade a little and you will look at these memories in diffrent ways throught out your life because your perspective in life is constanlty changing. Sometimes it will be a painful memory but ... (read in full...)
This older guy fancies me, but I'm not into him, people are staring to talk its not fair , should I tell my boyfriend so he wont get the wrong idea?
Q. I have shared a mutual hobby with a married family friend of ours for quite some time (in agreement with our partners because they are not interested in this hobby), however just before Christmas he confessed to me that he had fancied me for many ...
A. 30 January 2008: Cut of contact with the guys as soon as you can to attempt to kill any rumors and to stop the ones already floating around. And i actually think i would rather have you tell me to my face about whats going on and to tell me that i may hears some ... (read in full...)
We split up, but she says she still loves me, is there any point in being hopeful we could get back ?
Q. Recently, my ex and I called it quits. She decided that after 2 1/2 years of dating that she needed time to herself and that over the past 6 years she's only had a few months of time where she wasn't dating. However, she says she stills loves me ...
A. 30 January 2008: She seems to be sending some signs that point that she has some hope that you and her will get back to together after having some time apart from each other. Sometimes this can make people closer either by just geting rid of some stress that has ... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 30 January 2008: You have the right to say no to such a thing. If its against your morals. Maybe you didnt handle things well. You should of probably just said "no i dont want to do that, i dont like that idea." And why exactly couldnt she get them herself?? I dont ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 30 January 2008: Thanks again everyone, well she sort of asked how far i had gotten. Well i answered but i was a little nervous about how she would react but she still treats me the same and she continues to ask questions about me and she has picked up on the fact ... (read in full...)
Am I jealous of my friend?
Q. well i was wondering if im jealous of my friend? you see me and her have the same classes together last year and this year.shes a alright looking i think.anyways this year a lot of boys like her.i dont know why? but she have big boobs.i mean lar...
A. 28 January 2008: Its not jealousy over the the breast size, its jealousy over the attention she is getting from males. You are who you are. And you are right to be glad that you are not big like that, they cause back problems and it will make it harder for you to ... (read in full...)
How do I earn extra money and still have time to spend with my kids?
Q. Quick question. Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I could do on the weekends to earn extra money but still spend time with my children? I already work full time and my evenings and weekends are usually spent cooking, cleaning and tending ...
A. 28 January 2008: To add what Kenny said, start doing Ebay in your spare time. You can make a lot of money selling things you no longer want or need. And i have something to recomend, my uncle paif for 3/4th of his house without getting a loan. He just bought the ... (read in full...)
Once in a lifetime opportunity? Should I show my LD friend I'm sexually attracted to her?
Q. Hello again, I'm 15, I have been speaking to a girl over instant-messager for just about a year now, I've always found her attractive (seen pictures and webcam) and she has a amazing personality. We have spoken of sex and we share fantasy's with ...
A. 28 January 2008: Yeah i dont know if its a good idea for someone your age to be already having sex if you mean full fledged sex. I dont mean that you have to wait for marraige or anything i just know 15 year person can not handle the effects of having sex that can ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 28 January 2008: Well that all makes since and i know the whole"actions speak louder then words" idea and i've preached it before but i wasnt sure if that was the best way to handle the situation or not so i guess i'll go about just being nice to her and she seems ... (read in full...)
Your points on the happiness spectrum
Q. What were the most happy moments in your life so far? And what were the most unhappy ones? ...
A. 27 January 2008: Happiest: Being with someone i care about Saddest: My ex hurting me for a man who did nothing but use her.....And destroying any chance of a relationship. ... (read in full...)
We had to split because he moved away but I miss him. I cant eat or sleep. What can I do?
Q. A significent other that I love has moved away. I love him dearly and miss him more and more everyday. A long distance relationship will not work and the move was for their own good. Since the depart I've been depressed and crying everyday. I cannot ...
A. 26 January 2008: I know how this feels it gets harder and harder then eventually it reaches a point where you just start to be able to think positive again and you start to steadily heal and want to find someone else. And you do what i do, stop eating, dont do ... (read in full...)
She can't see that sex is love for me
Q. hi I'm 54 my wife is 34 we have 3 kids in the beginning we had the best sex i ever had i love her so much it hearts dont work i have money look after kids all day we don't sleep together we have sex 4/5 times a year she dont touch me just says put ...
A. 26 January 2008: Tell her what you told us that you dont just want sex and that you want to still share effection with her. You have to tell people stuff like this sometimes for them to realize it. She probably thinks this for some reason. And maybe suprise he... (read in full...)
Why can't he talk to his girlfriend?
Q. my bestfriend has just told me that my boyfriend is thinking about moving away. he hasn't said anything to me, he says he can't talk to me. what do i do?...
A. 26 January 2008: Confront him about it, chances are he just didnt want to break it to you and get you upset. Were dum like that sometimes, we dont realize that it would hurt more if we didnt warn you and we just got up and left one day with out any explanation when ... (read in full...)
Are condoms foolproof
Q. can u get pregnant from cum alraedy bein in the condom?...
A. 26 January 2008: It works as long as the condom doesnt tear or rip while your inside with cum inside of it. And if you dont clean up well before round 2 you can get her pregnant. Even if you use a condom because yo can get it on it. Maybe you should consider... (read in full...)
Want baby to have daddy but he's a bum
Q. i feel so messed up right now and i dont know what to do. im 6 months pregnant at 19 and ive just found out that my ex boyfriend has gonorrhea, he says he didnt have it when we spilt up but he is such a liar i dont think i can trust him. we spilt up...
A. 26 January 2008: This is a tought one he may step up to the plate once the child is born, but do you think he will be a positive role model for the child doing the things he does. Guys can often time just run from being a father if there not ready so. IF it was up ... (read in full...)
Odds of her being pregnant
Q. I fingered my girlfriend a few weeks ago before i did I masterbated a bit bit i did not come before i fingered her we tickled each other for about an hour then i did it its almost time for her period and she is nervous that she is pregant. This may ...
A. 26 January 2008: Sperm can only survive like 3 seconds outside of the human body, meaning by the time you fingerd her the sperm was already dead meaning there is no chance that you got her pregnant so dont worry about it.... (read in full...)
What is rape
Q. i'm only 13 years old and I posted a question about a boy in my class rubbing against me while i was pinned against my locker. do you think he was trying to rape me?...
A. 26 January 2008: He didnt rape u or try to rape you, he sexually harrased you. Theres a major diffrence. Rape is the act of forcefull pinetration against ones will. Meaning he forced you to have sex when you didnt want to. And Sexual harrasment is unwanted physical ... (read in full...)
Will our values keep us apart
Q. Hi i'm 20 and met this wonderful guy at uni. We have been together for a couple of months. Anyway its transpired he is a virgin, weve discussed this and i have told him about my sexual history warts and all. The trouble is he says, not the fact tha...
A. 26 January 2008: He is seeing things from the point of view that i see this sort of thing, i would never do a one night stand while i was clear headed. And the fact that im a virgin still after the chance arose for me to have sex with out any real devotion there. I ... (read in full...)
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