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... Send *oviefan a private message | | | *oviefan's profile:Well i live in the United States in the State of Indiana. I feel like i have some things i cant contribute to help others because I have experienced a lot for my age and have always been a little mature for my age to the point that when i was in middle school i scared some of my teachers. I seemed to mature.. And this plus the fact that im good at logically thinking things threw and can connect things in life and movies that others wouldn't even notice. This has allowed me to learn things some people have to wait a life time to learn. This has also made others until recently distant from me, and made me cold for a long time.
I enjoy movies, music, anime, manga, video games, reading, building relationships, and hanging with family and friends.
And as of right now im single after getting out of a relationship that caused me a lot of stress and pain and im hoping to find someone i feel the same way about as i did for her.
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What should I do about my friends pressuring and harrassing me about sex?
Q. I really need help. My last attempt at getting my first girlfriend failed in a really odd and stressful way that has yet to end fully and conclusively because she keeps telling a few of my friends random messages to me saying that she still l...
A. 30 March 2009: Hopefully ignoring them doesn't piss them off, o well they have been doing that to me for some time. Thanks guys, im sorry i didn't respond till now never had a chance.... (read in full...)
Does he want more from me?
Q. My boyfriend just fingered me and it was really good. I just want to know will he want more now and want to have sex? I mean we have talked about how we are going to want a little bit but he is always all over me and was just wanting to know if he ...
A. 24 March 2009: He wants more, hes a guy. At his age that's one of the few things on his mind 24/7. Just don't let him, if he tries push him away and tell him no, and don't show weakness when you do it because he will keep pushing if you do.
Be strong, just don... (read in full...)
She said she'd go out with me soon, but still nothing. What should I do?
Q. I asked out a girl, she said she would go out with me in a few weeks when she got over her ex.. It has been over a month and nothing! We have even made out! What should I do?...
A. 22 March 2009: Girl did this to me an i waited 4 months and ended up getting screwed over really bad in the end move on, it will most likely be the most wise thing to do in the end. She will probably go back to him in the end like the girl did to me. ... (read in full...)
Help needed please. I want to break up with my boyfriend but not sure how to do it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I don't think I love him any more, at least I'm not in love with him any more. I recently met another guy and we went out as just friends but he's told me he likes me and I've said the same to him a...
A. 21 March 2009: You sure that you want to give up what you have with your current boyfriend, for a guy you know nearly nothing about in comparison. For all you know he could use you and leave you, and brag afterward that he stole you from him and had his fill. Guys ... (read in full...)
We had an amazing date but it's been 3 days and he still hasn't called...
Q. I recently went on a date with this guy, and we had an amazing time, we went for dinner, a walk and then a drive. We were out for 4 hours so I thought we'd see each other again, but he hasn't text me and it's been 3 days. Is he interested? ...
A. 21 March 2009: Its still possible that he is as q said, even at 21 a lot of guys are still very much man whores to many women and interests and hop from interest to interest, woman to woman without second thought. So try what you will , see what happens. Hope... (read in full...)
We had an amazing date but it's been 3 days and he still hasn't called...
Q. I recently went on a date with this guy, and we had an amazing time, we went for dinner, a walk and then a drive. We were out for 4 hours so I thought we'd see each other again, but he hasn't text me and it's been 3 days. Is he interested? ...
A. 21 March 2009: Not always true q1605, but most of the time yes. How old is he, is he 16,17, 18???
I was never this way but a lot of guys are, so odds are q is right or you scared him away.
Try to get hold of him, and if he seems to be avoiding you he ... (read in full...)
After I ask her out, what do I do?
Q. I posted on here a few days ago about a girl that i thought liked me that i liked as well, but i was unsure if i was reading her right. Well its confirmed that she likes me. She talked to one of my best friends about me and basically confessed to ...
A. 19 March 2009: we do what i would call most of the day dates we leave around 4 and stay out till at least 10 at the prom itself and then do whatever afterwords. And yeah I realize no one can do everything for me, its just i tend to panic and i need to have a rough ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever felt that they can never get over their ex
Q. Has anyone ever felt that they can never get over their ex.My ex was the love of my life. I am in a relationship right now.I compare every guy to him. Every one else always falls short.I know I am wrong.What can I do?I know there are still feelin...
A. 19 March 2009: It seems like it will never go away until it goes away, it just sort of faded after i started truly realizing it wasn't my fault what happened happened. Then my mind started to shift into thinking of what to do next, odds are the same will happen ... (read in full...)
I snooped and found messages I shouldn't have seen, now it's causing all sorts of problems!
Q. My mom and my step dad have been together ever since I was in kindergarten. I am fifteen now. They have been on and off basically my whole life. Separating then getting back together, etc. I have never really had a problem with it. A couple ...
A. 19 March 2009: Its not your fault, odds are she would of caught him herself doing such things. You did the best thing you could of done, that was tell her of his actions so she could sort things out as she felt appropriate. It could of escalated into an affair and ... (read in full...)
Good or bad? I want to have sex!
Q. My gf is 15 and im 14..we've known eachother for a long time and have been going out for over a year, so we have great chemistry, and we simply love eachother.... so lately we've been tlking about having sex for the first time...we want to ...
A. 19 March 2009: You don't need to be doing things like this yet, hold off. If you really like each other as much as you say you can both hold in there until your both of your states AOC or older and can take care of yourself financially and emotionally. Right now ... (read in full...)
Any tips for insecurity and what to do?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. I would really like to do something special and sexy for him in the bedroom (besides basic tipss.) But I am kind of insecure and chicken out. Plus, I don't know really what to do, and am shy when it ...
A. 19 March 2009: Insecurities are rooted in doubt, as soon as you stop worrying about anything you want to try and go into it with an open mind and not worry about it. If you just sit there and worry the whole time you wouldn't enjoy it anyways. You could also... (read in full...)
My mother is dating my ex-boyfriend...what do I do?
Q. My mother is dating my ex-boyfriend, who I was on and off with for five years. I am still in love with him and she knows it... well I'm not any more. They are actually trying to have a relationship. My kids loved him. She was never a great mo...
A. 19 March 2009: You cant really take your kids away from their grandmother, kind of immoral in itself. Does she know how much this bothers you, i mean it may seem obvious but you never know.
Is there any chance he is doing this out of spite or hate?
Is she ... (read in full...)
Dating tips for being in a backwards town
Q. I am currently attending a small boarding school with a rigorous curriculum that consumes most of my life. Coming from a class just shy of 50 students there is not much of a dating pool. I am about to graduate and go home for the summer before I ...
A. 19 March 2009: Talk to everyone you can, except for the people that look like they want to hurt you, lol.
Oddly enough that's how i found my soon to be girlfriend(long story) sort of. Never would of met her otherwise. Just try to communicate and network with peo... (read in full...)
Does it sound like she likes me or not and any tips to tell if they do?
Q. Alright I like a girl I and well i have been talking to her for about 2 weeks and I feel like things are going nicely. I actually found out we have a lot more in common then I previously imagined. I had someone I know say that she was talking ...
A. 18 March 2009: Will do, I had a feeling she did because she has very few guy friends except for a few who are in track with her but most of them are pompous jerks, so i pretty sure that is why she wont date any of them.
She seems really down to earth and I li... (read in full...)
How to tell my parentsthat I am sexually active?
Q. Can anyone help me with what I wany to tell my parents. Well the thing is that am sexually active and i want to tell them but I just don't know how. The one that really scares me to tell is my father. So how could I tell my parents that am ...
A. 13 March 2009: Just tell them anyway you do it your still going to get about the same reaction. They may already know somehow, and didn't say anything. My friends parents did that for a LOOOOOOOOONG time. If you tell them they will either get sort of upset and try ... (read in full...)
Not use birth control pills?
Q. Someone told me that a person who hasn't had kids should not us birth control pills. is this true?...
A. 13 March 2009: No, the whole point is to prevent having kids. A lot of girls take them to stop it from happening so they can have sex without their being much of a chance of pregnancy, but there is still a chance. Many at your age do it, I wouldn't recommend ... (read in full...)
I feel unconfident & ugly!
Q. Hi :-) I am 17 years old and everyday I just feel really unconfident and ugly. I know that a lot of girls struggle with this and that I am not the only one, but I just feel that something is wrong with me personally. I've never had a boyfriend ...
A. 13 March 2009: I am still sort of the way you are, shy and not the most confident. But its just one of those things you have to learn to move past and grow out of. If guys are looking at you, odds are you are just being over pessimistic about yourself. Accept ... (read in full...)
I need some self-esteem!
Q. Helloo there. I am aware that what i am going to say might sound like an average teenage girl but it is realy staring to get to me. I am 15, soon to be 16. I am 5ft 5ish and weigh 9st (126 lb) I know this might not seem a problem to some peopl...
A. 13 March 2009: Don't worry about it, your boyfriend doesn't seem to mind if he is getting frustrated with you not eating normally. Also a lot of guys like a little substance to to girls. Yeah its ok to be skinny, but 126 pounds isn't something to worry about. ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my bestfriend and I don't think she feels the same
Q. Hi I think i have fallen in love with my best friend. I know I am only 15 years old and you are probably thinking that I'm joking around or that I'm not in love with this girl but i am positive that I am. I really cannot stop thinking about her,...
A. 7 March 2009: Ten years from now if you didn't get in the car, will you wish you did.
Years from now will you wish you would of went out on that branch and asked her. Yeah it may be awkward to ask her especially if she doesn't like you. If she is really y... (read in full...)
Why won't he sleep with me?
Q. 4 years ago, I met 2 men on the same day: I was interested in both of them, but only one of them very assertively pursued me and I ended up in a realtionship with him for 2 years, and friends with the other "romantic associate"/man during that ...
A. 7 March 2009: Odds are hes like me and wont make the first move unless there is a major hint that action is wanted. I just don't want to risk messing up a friendship or relationship by letting my urges get the best of me. All men have the same urges but some tend ... (read in full...)
Cheating sucks!
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with a girl he works with. She kept offering him to fool around even though she knew he had a girlfriend and a family. He caved in but has never cheated before. We've always had a great loving relationship! He cheated ...
A. 7 March 2009: Being on meds isn't an acceptable excuse, it can effect decisions yes but unless he had a week will then he should of been able to resist. The fact that you cheated on him once also make this situation make a lot more sense it sounds like he thought ... (read in full...)
I am interested in learning more about men! Why do they act certain ways and what you should do about it.
Q. I am interested in learning more about men! Why do they act certain ways and what you should do about it, like if we got into a fight and he ignored me for 2/3 days, why do they cheat? What do they like in women? Why all of a sudden does he act ...
A. 7 March 2009: Why we ignore:
This is a complex situation in some cases but the common reason among males is that we tend to not like to be wrong and have a very had time admitting it when we do. Some guys also just don't want to make the first move because ... (read in full...)
Cheating sucks!
Q. My boyfriend cheated on me with a girl he works with. She kept offering him to fool around even though she knew he had a girlfriend and a family. He caved in but has never cheated before. We've always had a great loving relationship! He cheated ...
A. 7 March 2009: Well this is one of those things that tends to be a lot easier to do once you have done it once before. Odds are that he will do it again, there is always a chance that he wont but odds are against it not happening. I would say to get out now before ... (read in full...)
What can you feed a man so his sperm isn't so salty or sour?
Q. What can you feed a man so his sperm isn't so salty or sour? It doesn't have to taste like candy or anything....
A. 7 March 2009: LOT AND LOTS OF FRUIT AND STAY AS FAR AWAY FROM CAFFEINE AS POSSIBLE!!! Caffeine gives your sperm a really bad bitter taste, while fruit can make the sperm taste more sweet. I have actually heard that pineapple literally makes it taste like pinea... (read in full...)
This guy is really speical to me, I don't want to lose him.
Q. My situation is kind of crazy, there's this guy that I love so much. We met last year in April and we started out he wanted to be with me but I didn't want a relationship and we didn't talk for about a month and he started coming back around and now ...
A. 5 March 2009: This situation is a balancing act, if you make the wrong moves it will throw the scales off. First off you need to make him believe that you didn't mean what you said and explain to him why you said this. Just saying you didn't mean it isn't enough ... (read in full...)
2 months pregnant but look like 5 months! Will this change his feelings?
Q. I have had two other kids and now my new love and I are having a third baby and our* first. I have always been very small and went back to the same but this time I am like two months pregnant and look nearly five. I haven't gained much weight but my ...
A. 5 March 2009: Odds are it wont change his feelings, most guys are attracted to women pregnant with there kids, sometimes more so then when they are not . Its a parental deal, and odds are this excess size will most likely go away after birth, and so long as you ... (read in full...)
Just move on and forget?
Q. hi and i know this is long but please read it cause i just really need help from anyone please, im a 15 year old boy and just got out of a two year relationship. well my girlfriend (ex now) and i were very good friends before we started going out ...
A. 5 March 2009: Forgive and forget, its the 3 best words i can tell you. Yeah you had a little part in her decision but it sounds like she was just waiting for an excuse to dump you and run back to her ex who will likely hurt her. Its may sound cold but sometimes ... (read in full...)
I just don't know what to do next or what the next step is?
Q. I have always had trust issues from my first serious high school relationship where the girl i dated left me only a month after moving away. We had been together for two years and it was the typical high school sweetheart relationship that last two ...
A. 19 February 2009: I never approve of cheating but i know how it feals to be left by the one you really loved and replaced very fast it really hurt and made me very untrustworthy of any female that had interest in me for a long time and lost a couple friends due to ... (read in full...)
Should I take him back after the hurt he's caused me?
Q. I'm 16 and last year February I stopped going out with my boyfriend whom I had been going out with for a year and a half. We broke up but it was still like we were going out as we were still kissing etc. Then I went on holiday in mid August and w...
A. 19 February 2009: DONT TAKE HIM BACK FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS PRECIOUS TO YOU!!!
Sorry i had to release the fury of caps lock because of past experiences with this sort of thing. If you take him back you are essentially saying to the average male that it is ok... (read in full...)
How to prolong the climax?
Q. Okay I am about to have sex for the first time. I want to know if there's anything I can do to make myself not finish fast. Any advice would be great. Oh and yes I am being smart, I'm using a condom so don't worry about that. Thanks...
A. 19 February 2009: Just don't keep moving in a way that gives you the most pleasure, like when you masturbate and some motions and movements work better then others same situation. And when you feel like your going just try to hold back and slow down until the feeling ... (read in full...)
My friend is planning on cheating on his girl..what am I supposed to do?
Q. My friend started dating a girl i sort of have known for a while a month ago. They seem to be getting along fine, but recently they haven't been spending to much time together which is mainly because they are both pretty busy which is ...
A. 19 February 2009: Any more ideas that wont cause problems for me, i dont see one coming........ (read in full...)
My friend is planning on cheating on his girl..what am I supposed to do?
Q. My friend started dating a girl i sort of have known for a while a month ago. They seem to be getting along fine, but recently they haven't been spending to much time together which is mainly because they are both pretty busy which is ...
A. 19 February 2009: Yeah to take her away is not my goal, it just irritates me that guys like this even if its my friend who can be really cool. Always get the girls while nice guys like me get left out in the dust. I have never had a girlfriend and have yet to have my ... (read in full...)
I need some "first time" advice.... quick!
Q. For the past year my best friend and I have been getting closer. We have decided to have sex for the first time this Friday, so in two days. Is there any advice somebody can give on what to do and what not do? This is my first time but not hers. So ...
A. 19 February 2009: Dude im 18 and have never had sex, why do you guys find it so necessary to have sex so early so much can go wrong and possibly mess up your life or make it so much harder then it has to be. Yeah i want to and it makes me sexually frustrated as hell, ... (read in full...)
Why do they say they love you and then have no problem in breaking up?
Q. How is it that grown men can tell you that they are in love with you, seem so sincere, that you believe you can feel their love. but when circumstances arise and you break up they do not seem to have any problem cutting all ties with you?...
A. 17 February 2009: Dont get me wrong not all guys are this way, but most guys who would be considered the generic male do this. I myself am a guy and don't understand many of my other guy friends impulses to have sex with any girl, anytime,anywhere and lie cheat and ... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to set me up with a girl, but she is "fast". I know the are trying to help but...
Q. I have a problem, well here it is guys, My friends have been basically sick of seeing me alone without a girlfriend for so long. And have decided to try to hook me up with a girl. Well from what they have told me and my one friend who i really trust ...
A. 12 February 2009: I had the same feeling, and you guys just verified it, thanks. I was just worried that I was overreacting for some reason, and i didnt want to tell my friends to take hike without making sure i was right. Thanks guys ... (read in full...)
When a guy asks their girlfriend to get on birth control, does this mean he's thinking of something long lasting...?
Q. When a guy asks their girlfriend to get on birth control, does this mean he's thinking of something long lasting...? You know a more serious relationship? Maybe... trust, love, or just wants to feel the 'real thing'? ...
A. 12 February 2009: could, but it could also just mean he wants sex without having to worry about a condom or getting you pregnant. Personally i would do both just for safety, think of it like a firewall on a computer, condoms are like windows firewall they work but is ... (read in full...)
What song should I do for my audition and do you have any tips?
Q. well, this is one of those questions that isnt really a relationship question.. but i do need help. well anyways.. in a few weeks, i plan to audition for our school musical. im only in jr high, ninth grade.. and this is my first year being invol...
A. 6 December 2008: Rik Astley's "Never Gonna Give You Up"!
Just because it would be funny, and you have rick rolled every person watching you play it.
But just make sure to practice whatever you decide to do, i had to do a speech a few days ago and thanks to pr... (read in full...)
Should I confess my love even though it would stress her out?
Q. Well i have been waiting to ask this for some time but i was trying to decide on my own, but this decision is very important and i need to make the right one. Well there is a girl i have known since kindergarten but i was never really close to ...
A. 5 December 2008: She has made some sort of umapropriate moves towards me that she likes me and i made it clear it wasnt right and i didnt like it and it hasnt happend since. I do think she likes me and not just from this, but not as much as him or something along ... (read in full...)
I want her back. Is there anything I can do other than wait?
Q. Okay. I am 18 years old. I just a girlfriend 1 and 1/2 months ago and it's already done for. For the first month we absolutly were obsessed with each we said we loved each other every night ECt. We went on dates a lot. We have never kissed. But she ...
A. 4 December 2008: wait, but from what you said it could of been the fact that you seemed to unaggressive about what you wanted and that may have turned her off, just try to be aggressive next time be it with her or someone else, but don't over do it or force anything ... (read in full...)
Why is sex such a big deal?
Q. Why is sex such a big deal?...
A. 4 December 2008: You don't need to worry about it at your age, don't do it until your able to take care of a kid financially and you are not going to loose all your cash in stocks and bonds, and if you didn't understand what i just said you proved that you don't ... (read in full...)
I don't want him back, I just want to let it go! Words of wisdom, please!
Q. Ok, its been 4 years but I am still having trouble getting over my marriage breaking up. I had no idea the affair was happening, thought we were good together. I think what bothers me most is that when I found out about the affair (unfortunately ...
A. 4 December 2008: My first love really screwed me over, and in the worst way possible, repeatedly and when it became to much i just ignore her existence. This may seem cold, but if i even looked at her it made me feel sad and depressed. It took me years to get over ... (read in full...)
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