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... Send *oviefan a private message | | | *oviefan's profile:Well i live in the United States in the State of Indiana. I feel like i have some things i cant contribute to help others because I have experienced a lot for my age and have always been a little mature for my age to the point that when i was in middle school i scared some of my teachers. I seemed to mature.. And this plus the fact that im good at logically thinking things threw and can connect things in life and movies that others wouldn't even notice. This has allowed me to learn things some people have to wait a life time to learn. This has also made others until recently distant from me, and made me cold for a long time.
I enjoy movies, music, anime, manga, video games, reading, building relationships, and hanging with family and friends.
And as of right now im single after getting out of a relationship that caused me a lot of stress and pain and im hoping to find someone i feel the same way about as i did for her.
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Will our values keep us apart
Q. Hi i'm 20 and met this wonderful guy at uni. We have been together for a couple of months. Anyway its transpired he is a virgin, weve discussed this and i have told him about my sexual history warts and all. The trouble is he says, not the fact tha...
A. 26 January 2008: He is seeing things from the point of view that i see this sort of thing, i would never do a one night stand while i was clear headed. And the fact that im a virgin still after the chance arose for me to have sex with out any real devotion there. I ... (read in full...)
Secretly in love with my wife's sister. I realise my marriage was a mistake. What next?
Q. what if you can't stand being married to the person you've married. what if after years of being married you realize that you've made a mistake. what if your marriage has turned out to be that you thought you could change the person you married, ...
A. 26 January 2008: Well first off if you think you have made a mistake marrying her then yeah you need to get out if you truly feel this way. But you need to tell your wife in a calm sensative manner that wont make things worse then things already will be. And do no... (read in full...)
I'm disgusted... I found a fake rubber vagina in my bf's closet!
Q. I found a fake rubber sex toy resembling a woman’s vagina in my boyfriend’s closet! I got furious at him and threw it at his face and said “What’s this?” He got angry at me back and said it wasn’t my business, and he had it long before he knew me. ...
A. 26 January 2008: Give him another chance, the stuff like tha't isnt cheap so he could very well be telling the truth about it, being old he just doesnt want to waste the money by throwing it away. But if he is willing to throw it away if you will forgive him then ... (read in full...)
I like this shy guy and he knows I like him too but he's still in love with his ex!
Q. He still loves his ex (more like he feels 'lonely and emo' after the breakup). His ex is in the same class as him, so they hang out a lot and they're still best friends and all even before they were together. I chat and IM him a lot. I made the ...
A. 26 January 2008: Well you will probably have to ask him out in any case, if he is shy chances are even if you like him and he knows it he will not make a move and will wait forever and see if you will make a move. So you be the aggresser, yeah it's not very common ... (read in full...)
Found inappropriate conversations between them on the computer...I'm afraid my husband is cheating on me!
Q. My husband and I have been married for nearly a year now and so far everything has been great between us. I've never thought him to be one to do things behind my back or anything like that. But throughout our entire relationship, even before we were ...
A. 26 January 2008: Yeah you should wait until you get hard evidence either in the form of a actuale line of text saying something like that cements the fact that he is cheating and that they are not actually messing around in an odd way. I know people who joke like ... (read in full...)
I have thoughts of her having sex with another man and it gets me depressed ... can we ever have normal sex again?
Q. Hi there aunts! I have a problem. Me and my girlfriend (2 years an a half) had a relationship breakdown quite some time ago. She went to another guy and she told me that she used the moment when she was weak and kissed her. She hinted that they...
A. 26 January 2008: Well you may not want to talk about it but you are going to have to if you want to set things right, even if it makes you both upset. Unless you both deal with this it will just fester in both of your minds until things become worse. And chances are ... (read in full...)
My newly sober husband and a clueless boyfriend! Help!
Q. I'm at a crossroad here..My situation is tearing my heart apart and I need some advice from anyone who is willing to read this. Well I've been married for 3 years and my husband suffered a major car accident 7 years ago (before we met)ever since ...
A. 26 January 2008: Wow your between a rock and a hard place arent you. I know how that feels.
Well the best advice i can give you is do what you heart says. Is it screaming give you husband another chance and see if he will really change for the better this time. Or... (read in full...)
Can you break a penis?
Q. I know this sounds totally ridiculous, but can you break a penis? Is this possible? Just seen as you can break an arm or a leg, why shouldn't you be able to break a penis?...
A. 25 January 2008:
there is no bone in the penis but yeah its possible to snap it when its hard. I know a guy who had this happen. Him and his girlfriend got a little rought and lets just say it broke off and he bleed really bad, luckily they were able to put it back... (read in full...)
For men: do you think of your partner during masturbation?
Q. For the guys: Do you think of your girlfriend/wives when you masturbate?...
A. 25 January 2008: When i have been in a relationship i did yes, but the time before and after relationships i thought of other people and looked at pics and videos on the net. But when im with someone i felt like i was cheating looking at other girls picks and such ... (read in full...)
Meeting my partner's parents.
Q. If I guy tells a girl who hasn't met his parents that the parents said "Don't bring a random girl home, to bring home someone then break up with them after a week is something we dont want. Bring someone long-term". He told me I wasn't a random ...
A. 25 January 2008: Meet his parents he wants to have a long term secure relationship with you. Just dont do anything stupid in front of them and try to be polite and yourself at the same time. You will be nervous, but dont let it get out of hand.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
She does not want me to be a reason of her break up but we have slept together behind her boyfriend's back. What next? I love her...
Q. I have fallen in love with a girl I've known for a year now the problem is she has a boyfriend almost the same amount of time. we have discussed the issue and her excuse is she doesnt want me to be the reason they break up but we have slept ...
A. 25 January 2008: Tell the other boyfriend it could work in your favor plus its wrong anyways and if your girlfriend cheated on you u would want to be told as well. And dont tell him it was you unless u have to and make it so she doesnt find out it was you who told ... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my weight and general health in these conditions?
Q. I recently became ill with the flu and a chest infection. Over a week, I've lost half a stone in weight. I actually think I look loads better, my stomach is like totally flat now, but I checked my BMI (body mass index) and its 18.1 which is ...
A. 25 January 2008: I love how no one knows this even tho they preach this on tv so much. Just exercise and eat better and it will stay off. And if you start to loose more wieght then just adjust to stop loosing wieght.
And just to let you know some people naturall... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to increase my chances of getting pregnant?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for the last 2 years and i still haven't concived. i came of the pill just over two years ago and although my periods have returned to normal its still difficult to get pregant. i had a misscarrige ...
A. 25 January 2008: Are sure your ready after reading all the other posts?
IF you still are chances are the other posts are right the miss carriage probbably is causing the problem, the best advice i can give you is just have your jusband when he cums get in as deep ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat on me?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 4mnths, i was a virgin b4 i met him but he's had quite a few partners b4 me. Recently i have found out that ive got chlamydia. He told me b4 we had sex that he was clean, and he got tested for STIs in december b4 i got ...
A. 25 January 2008: Sometimes those test are not 100% accurate with some diseases and you should often times get tested a couple times to make sure something isnt missed during one of the tests. But it could be that he has cheated, or that he lied about the results of ... (read in full...)
Can I get him back?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 7 months about 5 days ago he finished with me, we had plans to have babies go on holiday an live together. i dont know y he has finished with me i love him so much he means the world 2 me. how do i get him back....
A. 25 January 2008: What he did is major jerk material. First off from this it makes me wonder if u can do better. But first off try finding out why he left and if he wont then you should move on and try to find someone else. You shoudlnt wait around for someone who ... (read in full...)
Why won't he touch me? Am I being selfish?
Q. The trouble is im in a long distance relationship and only get to see my BF for about 4 days a month or even 2 months. So when i'm home i cant keep my hands off him i want to kiss him and hold him and be intimate with tell him how much i miss him ...
A. 25 January 2008: Its probably as you said he just is still uncomfortable being naked infront of someone. And the best thing you can do is just sit there and tell him that he shouldnt dread over the past and let it hurt your future. Tell him that you find him ... (read in full...)
Should I move onto a new relationship with this girl even though we have both recently split from others?
Q. I like a girl at my school, but i dont know if i should move on already. I think im over my ex but i dont want to start something with someone else and find out afterward that im not and hurt her, and i dont want to do that to her or anyone else, ...
A. 25 January 2008: Thanks everyone i might try something like just being a little more then friends and staying there until were both comfortable. she has continued to try to get closer and closer by the day and asking me things like she was testing how truthefull i ... (read in full...)
Is there a happy romance after splitting from the only girl I've ever loved?
Q. 20, is there a happy romance after the only girl I've ever loved? Hi. I've dated who I thought was the love of my life since I was 16. She's the only girl I've ever been out with, and the only girl I have wanted to be with. She has broken up wi...
A. 24 January 2008: I went throught the same feelings recently and have just recently fealt like I can move on. She was the first person i ever loved but to put it lightly she ended up hurting me over a guy who used and cheated on her. She liked me too but she was ... (read in full...)
I want out of this relationship but I don't know how to break it too her!
Q. Ok, i have posted for help 2 times so far and both i have not added ALL the information, and iwant to be 100% sure about my next moves. AND I AM SORRY THAT THIS MAY BE VERY LONG!, but please read it all and help. ive been with my fiancee for...
A. 24 January 2008: You need to let her go you waisting her time if you are just keeping her around for sex and becuase you think you can keep patching a very flawed relationship from what you have said.
Just break it to her easily do not just drop it on her it would... (read in full...)
Is this girl jealous of me?
Q. Is She Jealous? This girl at my school in high school keeps calling me a slut i am a virgin and all but she conitues to call me a slut now like in jr.high and i am really sick and tired of it. I know I'm not a slut but what do i do about this gi...
A. 24 January 2008: Just ignore her and maybe treat her really nice that will really upset her. But dont get violent thats solves nothing. Best thing you can do is just ignore her until she gets bored from not getting any satisfaction from it.... (read in full...)
Do his reasons for masturbating to his exes picture sound valid?
Q. i am in a relationship with a 29 year old man (i am 41). we've had a very good relationship in and out of the bedroom thus far. however i found out recently that he has been masturbating to old nude photos of a very recent ex-girlfriend. what the ...
A. 24 January 2008: If its a nude pick make him git rid of it and give him another chance. But if he wont get rid of them then leave him thats the closest thing to cheating without actual contact.... (read in full...)
Should I accept his use of pornography whilst we are in this long distance relationship?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who is in Australia, I am returning within the month to move in with him. About 5 months ago we discussed pornography, he said that he'd delete anything from his computer...
A. 24 January 2008: Just let him do it. If he doesnt have acces to the real thing in a moral since then its ok. And porn isnt that big of a deal anyways. As long as he doesnt get addicted or damage expensive technology like computers. Or start choosing porn over the ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me tips on making my guy scream with pleasure in bed!?
Q. Well, another question... since I'm new in this thing called "SEX", I'm so curious, I've give my boyfriend blow jobs, normal thing I know, but the thing is that I don't feel like I'm giving him enough pleasure, when he is doing it to me I'm desperat...
A. 24 January 2008: Guys are not very verbal about how we feel during sex, if anything we may get a grunt or whine or something small like that. Girls make more noise.... (read in full...)
Are my fears based on something possible??
Q. My boyfriend just moved to Dallas a few months ago. We text each other every single day. I respect him by telling him where I'm going and with who I'm going with. However, there have been times when he fails to mention that he's going somewhere ...
A. 24 January 2008: It may be possible but does it really matter if he dated her in the past, and yeah if he did he lied about it and he may have personal reasons he did so maybe she cheated on him while they were together. And just doesnt want to talk about it. A lot ... (read in full...)
Are my fears based on something possible??
Q. My boyfriend just moved to Dallas a few months ago. We text each other every single day. I respect him by telling him where I'm going and with who I'm going with. However, there have been times when he fails to mention that he's going somewhere ...
A. 24 January 2008: It may be possible but does it really matter if he dated her in the past, and yeah if he did he lied about it and he may have personal reasons he did so maybe she cheated on him while they were together. And just doesnt want to talk about it. A lot ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am always walking on eggshells with my gf and it is wearing me down...what can I do??
Q. It seems like my girlfriend always is upset. It feels like anything I do. She is an emotional and sensitive girl - this she does admit. She will cry at any sad part of a movie, cry when she is happy; just generally emotional. However, her constant...
A. 24 January 2008: You will have to either just learn to deal with this or try to talk to her about her jealousy of other wemon. If she can talk about other guys you should be able to talk to her about other females. And if you are willing to talk to her about them ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my bfs friend...but I want to stay with my bf and just get his friend out of my head.
Q. Alright. Hi everyone. I know my story is a little long and complicated but if someone could give me a little clue on what to do to help me I would be realllly happy. I apologize for me mistakes because english is not my first language) Now here ...
A. 24 January 2008: Well what i did to get a girl out of my head that i had to get over and it seems to have worked was to think about all the negatives about the person you do not want to be atracted to anymore. And in yourcase think about all the good things about ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong or is it the thought that counts??
Q. My girlfriend of over2years didn't buy me a birthday card last week. She wanted to but didnt - for lack of money. Next week she went and spent her money on socialising. I would have apreciated a hand written bit of paper. It's 'the though...
A. 24 January 2008: Its the thought that counts. My ex didnt have the money on my birthday and made me a card by hand. Which your girlfriend should of done, something or at least something out of the normal for you. Even if it was something small.... (read in full...)
He's got a low sperm count and I'm finding it difficult to concieve. Is there no easy way out?
Q. Hello i was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on my situation. Well i will try to keep it short. I have been with my partner for 6 years and married 2. I have a 5 year old daughter from previous relationship and we are currently trying ...
A. 24 January 2008: Just keep trying my parents were trying to have me and my dad apparently had a similar problem and it eventually worked thus creating me. So your best option is to just keep trying and trying. And try to get in as deep as possible. And hope for the ... (read in full...)
Am I history?
Q. I've been dating a guy for two months now. He's in love with me and i'm with him.Problem is, his ex is pregnant. He didn't believe it could be his child, hence he wanted dna testing done the second the child was born. Now, she just gave birth ...
A. 24 January 2008: It will just snowball from here, move on. If its his he probably should be with her as long as he still has feeling for her because i dought any woman can take care of a child all by herself. And chances are things will escalate aka snowball as they ... (read in full...)
Will I cum the first time?
Q. Me and my girl are ready for sex talk, about what it might feel like and what we actually do. I'm wondering how many times i need to move my penis in and out to come-is there enough friction with a condom on. also i want my girl to enjoy it....
A. 24 January 2008: And on a similar note USE CONDOMS!!!!!!!!!
Forgot this in the first message.... (read in full...)
Will I cum the first time?
Q. Me and my girl are ready for sex talk, about what it might feel like and what we actually do. I'm wondering how many times i need to move my penis in and out to come-is there enough friction with a condom on. also i want my girl to enjoy it....
A. 24 January 2008: Yeah chances are you will cum far to quickly and leave her disapointed. Unless you get her almost to her peak beforehand by using foreplay and oral stuff because they can have and orgasism many times and keep going not so much with men, once you go ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't love me like he used to. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend was with me for a year and a half, and then we split up for a month (he was halfway cheating on me). During this time, he squished his love for me and since then, we got together and it has been 'growing back.' Well, it has been almost ...
A. 24 January 2008: All i can say is if you truly believe he loves you and that you also truly love him as much as you say then keep trying. The healing process on both sides could take days, months, or years. Depending on how much you hurt each other this last time.
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How do I handle competition?
Q. I love someone. He loves someone else. She's beautiful. And I've just found out that she has an an amazing voice too. How am i meant to take his attention away from her? She's just using him. I don't want to see him hurt, not again....
A. 24 January 2008: Chances are he will have to get hurt or have her do something very hurtfull to see how she really is. And if he loves her then he wont listen to anything you say about her. It will just push him away. I have dealt with a similar situation.
Just ... (read in full...)
How can I be strong enough to leave or deal with his having cheated even during my pregnancy?...
Q. My husband was sleeping with this other girl before we were married, he was actually dating her behind my back. He didn't break up with her until after we were married and he kept sleeping with her. We have been married less than 2 years and he ...
A. 24 January 2008: Get out ASAP, you are being used like a dorrmat. And the longer you sit by and put up with this the worse things will get, i had to deal with a situation like this for far to long with my ex. She was in love with him and did not want to let go, and ... (read in full...)
I do not have a driver's license yet, thus feel a bit embarassed. Is this a huge deal?
Q. Im almost 30yr old. And Im terrified of driving. So therefore I still haven't obtained my drivers license. Now is this a huge deal breaker for men ??? I don't lie about it but at the same time Im a little ashamed at times so I don't bring it up ti...
A. 24 January 2008: No, there isnt anything to be ashamed of. I know personally 2 wemon that are around 30 who dont have there license because they were a little afraid or they didnt feel it necessary. But i would reccomend getting it so your self sufficient and dont ... (read in full...)
He treats me like crap...so help me learn to 'unattach' myself from him..
Q. There's a boy that I started dating. We dated for over a year. In the process of us dating, I got attached. I want to know how I can get unattached, because he treats me like crap. I feel like he doesn't care about me anymore. There's another ...
A. 23 January 2008: Talk with him about how you dislike his treatment and if he gets mad or tries to avoid the situation the say that you are done and leave him. But NEVER NEVER NEVER jump into a new relationship right away you will end up hurting yourself and others ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with telling her what I want in the relationship that I'm not getting? or is this a sign that we should end this?
Q. Okay, so I'm still with the same girl I have been ever since I started posting on here. Distance relationship. About 9 1/2 months in. Right now she is studying abroad in England and things have just gotten really tough. I think it's probably good in ...
A. 22 January 2008: No theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. I would actually recomend it. Becuase sometimes she can not tell what your want or vice vers out of the relationship and it would be silly to throw it all away without even attempting to have her ... (read in full...)
I need help in seeing the reality of my own pain! What the most painful thing that has happened in your lives?
Q. What are the most painful things happened to you,,in your lifetime so far? I'm curious, what are the most hurtful things, what happened t others, and how they deal with it, as I feel, my life is full of pain, and everybody else seem to have smooth ...
A. 22 January 2008: You are having what i like to call a "Shinji" moment where you think you are the only one who feels pain and everyone else has it easy. Watch Neon Genesis Evangelion very good show, its where the little refrence came from.
Lets see:
A: My m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 4 yrs was e-mailing other girls online, is that considered cheating?
Q. I recently found out that my boyfriend of 4 yrs was e mailing other girls online behind my back. I confronted him about this and he apologized, saying that he doesnt know what he was doing and it was a mistake. He says he never met any of these ...
A. 22 January 2008: It can be considerd cheatinf it is in the right situation but chances are because he isnt focusing on one girl he just had a moment where he was basically experimenting to see what kind of girls are interested in him. And the younger the guy the ... (read in full...)
He is so loving and caring to her but her sexual desires are not met. What's his problem?
Q. I'm writing this on behalf of my sister. She got married(by a proposal) last week and after her honeymoon of 7days, she was complaining about her newly married husband's sexual attitude. We are in Sri Lanka and since it's an asian country,...
A. 22 January 2008: She si going to have to something to make him come out of his shell and depending on how much of an invert he is on these sort of matter it could be relativley easy or very hard. For example until last year i was kinf of afraid to confront a girl ... (read in full...)
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