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... Send *oviefan a private message | | | *oviefan's profile:Well i live in the United States in the State of Indiana. I feel like i have some things i cant contribute to help others because I have experienced a lot for my age and have always been a little mature for my age to the point that when i was in middle school i scared some of my teachers. I seemed to mature.. And this plus the fact that im good at logically thinking things threw and can connect things in life and movies that others wouldn't even notice. This has allowed me to learn things some people have to wait a life time to learn. This has also made others until recently distant from me, and made me cold for a long time.
I enjoy movies, music, anime, manga, video games, reading, building relationships, and hanging with family and friends.
And as of right now im single after getting out of a relationship that caused me a lot of stress and pain and im hoping to find someone i feel the same way about as i did for her.
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I don't want him back, I just want to let it go! Words of wisdom, please!
Q. Ok, its been 4 years but I am still having trouble getting over my marriage breaking up. I had no idea the affair was happening, thought we were good together. I think what bothers me most is that when I found out about the affair (unfortunately ...
A. 4 December 2008: My first love really screwed me over, and in the worst way possible, repeatedly and when it became to much i just ignore her existence. This may seem cold, but if i even looked at her it made me feel sad and depressed. It took me years to get over ... (read in full...)
Should I keep what I feel about him to myself until the time is right?
Q. Hello everyone : ), I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years but I've known him forever. I'm so madly in love with him. I wanna have his baby, so bad I know we'd both be great parents. I know that I'm not ready financially though. I just c...
A. 4 December 2008: Id say keep it to yourself until near the end of collage, because he could take it as your going obsessive on him and you may just push him away when you meant to pull him closer by confessing how you feel like that. When you do decide to confess, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets messages from sex sites, but denies being a member, says they are random. Is he lying??
Q. My boyfriend gets these instant messages from sex sites, stating "hey I liked your profile, if you want to see my webcam pics you can contact me at...." He says they are just random junk mail that everyone gets. I've got a yahoo account and I ...
A. 4 December 2008: I don't recommend that, he could take it the wrong way and get mad, you shouldn't do it just to mess with him. ... (read in full...)
When I like someone, my old shyness problem awakens again. Why can't I be myself?
Q. Well i thought i had dealt with this problem, and i have for the most part, but when i like someone my old shyness problem awakens again. And because of this anyone i like - i cant act normal and like myself around because of how i lock up. But this...
A. 1 August 2008: i can see your point but whenever i like someone i always think of them like a girlfriend as stated and its hard to shake that, i guess ill have to try. Thanks for the help. And ive also wonderd if i dated one of my friends would it help cure this ... (read in full...)
I've been shot down twice asking someone to the prom, why is everything going so wrong?
Q. Ugh, well i have been trying this week to find a prom date. Well my first attempt well i got shot down and she couldnt say it to my face, and she isnt going with anyone else. This really hurt my hope of getting one, and now my friends are trying to ...
A. 30 March 2008: Well I bought a ticket even thought i may end up just hanging with my friends. And i have asked my friends why i dont have luck with girls in this situation and told them to not sugar coat it, and they honestly dont know. Two of them were girls one ... (read in full...)
Why do girls show interest in me but not want to date me?
Q. Ok i dont understand this, and i am guessing someone can clear this up for me. Why can i not get a girlfriend. Ok i have had many girls show intrest and compliment me. But most of them are already with someone or im not attracted to them. There was ...
A. 27 March 2008: Well i dont think its because im arragent im actually kind of shy to a flaw sometimes. And it has hurt me in the past, but im trying to fix that and i have asked people out and i think im confident when i do so. I dont panic but i do seem a little ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to ask her out when so may guys are doing the same and stressing her out??
Q. I really like this girl, and she knows i do. But i have never really asked her out. She is single right now and has 7 guys other then me who like her and she likes one of them and likes a couple others. She keeps talking about all this around me and ...
A. 21 March 2008: Well i went to ask her out the day after i got answers on here and well i was sitting in class with her and having a conversation, and my luck the day im going to ask her she is going out with someone already, I was a bit agrivated and depressed at ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to ask her out when so may guys are doing the same and stressing her out??
Q. I really like this girl, and she knows i do. But i have never really asked her out. She is single right now and has 7 guys other then me who like her and she likes one of them and likes a couple others. She keeps talking about all this around me and ...
A. 28 February 2008: Wow this seemed really straight forward now and im amazed Collaroy remembered my previous post, thats something i would of probably personally never rememberd. But just to get that out of the way while on the subject, she has said on several ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to the maturity of older women, is this normal?
Q. I wonderd about this and i think finally that i was right all along. I like older wemon, it's because i don't like the imature actions of a lot of the girls at my school and thus making me not like them. But older women i have been around even if ...
A. 25 February 2008: Thanks, its just ive always been a little mature and most of the people who are my age are kind of imature and its a turn off. And Age is a massive deal and the fact that this will go away with time makes since becuase my mom and her boyfriend have ... (read in full...)
He said he got bored during sex.
Q. Me and my boyfriend had just gotten finished having sex. We were laying there together . He asked me " Do you ever get bored when we have sex " I said " No. why , do you ? " He said " A little bit. " Should I be affened by that? How can I ma...
A. 16 February 2008: Do something out of the norm, do something he would never expect suprise him, diffrent position, cosplay, toys, anything to make things diffrent. Mix things up so things dont become the same.... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm being treated right. What to do
Q. i dont know what to do my fella says he wants to always be with me can never see his life with out me...but hes changed so much ...yes when we first got together he was selfish and and didnt care bout what he said to people..well i hurt someone tuff ...
A. 16 February 2008: There are things majorly wrong with this relationship thus you should try to fix these by talking to him and telling him how you behavior makes you feel. And if he doesnt change his behavior for the better long term then you are best to move on. ... (read in full...)
How do I approach her with this.
Q. my girlfriend and i have been going out for 6 months yesterday. we are very much in love with each other. about a month ago we were making out and i made my way into her pants and began to finger her. she really enjoyed it and when i asked later ...
A. 16 February 2008: Just ask her if she is ok and if she feels ready to, dont just say we are going to have sex, or we are going to have sex or im leaving. And if she says no, then respect that and wait a while meaning a few months and ask again or wait for her to ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to help relieve the heartbreak I feel?
Q. Hello, So, here's my thing. I tend to fall in love, like deathly in love, with someone. And lately I've fallen in love with a very good friend of mine and just found out that she likes someone else. Now, this is the second time this has happened...
A. 16 February 2008: You are relying on someone else to make you happy which is a very unhealthy way of living. It basically gives someone the tv remote to you emotions they can control you and make you feel as they want you to feel. You need to figure out why you do ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex and there's this specific guy in mind.
Q. Here's the thing I want to have sex and there's this specific guy in mind. I told him already and he's cool with it. He's a friend of mine and sexy as ever. But here's the things I don't want a relationship and he has a girlfriend. Is is right for ...
A. 16 February 2008: Very very bad idea, don't do it. It will seriously strain your relationship with him, and if you know his girlfriend she will hate you after this. U basically you are giving you virginity to someone who is already taken. Save it for someone you ... (read in full...)
Will shy men like me EVER find true love ?
Q. Hello! I am a 25 year old man living in Syracuse, New York. I am very shy but i socialize when i can. My problem is i feel like time is running out. Everywhere i go i see people with their special someone and i don't have anyone. These hor...
A. 16 February 2008: First off there is someone out there that is what you are looking for. And there are plenty of girls that are looking for a guy like you but younger girls seem to need to mature a bit before they start to look for a guy like you. I have been in... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 16 February 2008: Congratulations, Andrew!
I hope the site continues to flourish and grow with time.... (read in full...)
Afraid I won't be good at kissing
Q. I kind of like this girl and well her friend knows it and keep trying to hook us up, and well it working. But she is playing hard to get, which i sort of enjoy. But her friend is trying to get her to just kiss me, and it was pretty close to ...
A. 16 February 2008: I love some of your comments, dont do it in public when every one is ogling you doing it and try to tell you what do like a sport, lol thats classic wording there.
But yeah i already googled that and found a lot of tips but im still kind of nervo... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get pregant without having sex??
Q. Is there anyway that you can get pregnant without having sex? I've heard you can get pregnant if you were suppose to be a twin cause there egg some how got inside of you is this true please help i really want to know........
A. 11 February 2008: If you get sperm on your hands and quickly do some fingering can make you pregnant. And if you get sperm near the vagina somehow that can cause it as well.... (read in full...)
It makes me so jealous when my bf talks about celebraties being fit...what shall I do??
Q. My boyfriend talks about models and celebrities being buff and good looking and it makes me sooooo jealous. I try laughing it off or talking bout celebrites being buff myself but that makes it worse!! I really dont like it. What shall i do?...
A. 11 February 2008: There no threat to you, dont worry about it. As long as you dnot catch him with Brittney spears in a mall or something you have nothing to worry about at all. It may make you a little uneasy and if thinking about it this way doesnt fix it then tell ... (read in full...)
What shall I do if it gets to the point where he wants sex??
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about 5 months now and here it comes.. hes 18.. im 14 . yes i know thats a big age gap but i really love him .. Everything has been great so far but lately we have been talking about sex alot (i have a extremely perverte...
A. 11 February 2008: Just tell him that you feel like you are not ready and feel to young and if he says thats ok and stops there and doesnt pressure you for sex or force it on you in anyway then you have a keeper. But if he keeps pressuring you or breaks up with you, ... (read in full...)
He is abusive, I want him to leave, he won't
Q. I'm in a verbal and sometimes physical abusive relationship and I want out. I don't know what to do we are not married but we have a little girl together and he says if I make him leave he will take her and I won't see her. I don't have the money to ...
A. 11 February 2008: Ok he wont get out people who are abusive will stick around and just make you more misreable, its often times a sick game to them. Just get a friend or family member(s) to help you financially or even state help on the financial side and change the ... (read in full...)
He cheats and cheats and cheats. What to do?
Q. hi i been wid my partner from last 5 years. Several times he has cheated on me, but i love him more than anything . is this just stupid love? evrytime he gets caught he promises me neva again. this has been ongoing. i have considered leaving ...
A. 11 February 2008: He will not stop doing what he does, so he will never od what he says. And there really isnt anything you can do about it except walk away. Its possible he will stop his ways eventually but i cant garuntee that and it wont be because of you. And ... (read in full...)
Do people who were abused lash out?
Q. I am so thankful that I finally got out of an abusive relationship I was in. He was emotionally abusive, for example he would get very angry if i didn't smoke or drink or sleep with him, he never respected me, and there's really so much more. And I ...
A. 11 February 2008: Yeah that a common reaction to someone that has been abused. There is always a breaking point with anything in this world, even the human mind. Once it reaches that point you will begin to do things that are odd for you in attempt to make things ... (read in full...)
Is this true love? How can I get my ex back?
Q. I really love my ex-boyfriend now,I dont know what to do how can i forget him,I promise to my self that his my first and the last one that i love eventhough some guys are courting me now but i dont like them coz there different of my ex bf...its ...
A. 10 February 2008: I made the same promise to myself and it makes things hurt more when you lose that person. And it could be love or it could just be that u are missing being with your ex and doing what you used to do. So i would give it a little time and if the ... (read in full...)
Where can we go on our first date?
Q. Hi, hope you can help. I need some suggestions on what to do. Next Saturday I am going on a date with this guy I met over a dating site. I really like him, we have been swapping emails over MSN, since early January. He had messaged me on the dating ...
A. 10 February 2008: Go see a movie that is always a good place to go on a date.... (read in full...)
Anyone got any help or advice for my sister?
Q. Help! My younger sister has been involved with a guy for about 5 years now who constantly puts her down (rude comments about where she lives, her taste in books etc etc). What really concerns me is that she seems unable to let go of him. She ...
A. 10 February 2008: Well i have been in the same situation. My ex was the same way about a guy who none of her friends approved of and had tried so many times to make her wise up and snap out of it. And it never worked. Her parents were to afraid to do anything about ... (read in full...)
Sex films and best mates
Q. My wife often lets me film her perform sexual acts on herself and me. I had never considered showing them to anyone until one day she told me I could show them to my best friend aslong as I pretended she didn't know. At first I was shocked by this....
A. 10 February 2008: Don't do it, your friend might think you are wierd. And something like that gets around. It takes one person with enought tech knowledge to take that tape or dvd upload it on the computer, convert it and plaster it all over the net on sites like ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can get to know him better?
Q. I've been friends with this guy ever since middle school and have just realized that I really like him as more than just a friend. He doesn't know how I feel and I'm not sure if he feels the same way. We haven't hung out for quite a while now as he ...
A. 10 February 2008: Wow have i been in his spot, im normally kind of shy, and when i like someone i become very shy until i am around them a lot and am kind of forced to stop being shy. So it really sounds like he likes you because he is being shy but will talk to you ... (read in full...)
Stuck in the middle...
Q. Hello all, I have always had a close relationship with one of my closest guy friends. We have always shared information or given advice about our relationships and other things along those lines. We have been there for each other through thick an...
A. 10 February 2008: Ok from the way that you worded the part about you current boyfriends basically is sayin that you are not really happy with him. Something is not there that you want if you are just going to settle with him because things are comfortable. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
He texted me and told me to leave him alone because he is physically and emotionally drained... what do I do?
Q. I met a man online, and we clicked right away. We had our first date, and things went beautifully. On our second date, my family showed up, and needless to say it was awkward. The next day he called and cancelled our third date, stating his dad ...
A. 10 February 2008: He just didn't like you as much as you liked him and used that as an exscuse to get out without hurting your or admitting it. He is basically being a coward, I'm sure you can do better. And from now on I don't recommend finding partners over the ... (read in full...)
She will just laugh at me and think I'm a freak, what should I do?
Q. I'm 16 and a virgin. Everyone is doing it accept me but the thing is I have a small penis and it's wonky so I'm too scared to get with a girl cause when she wants sex she will just laugh at me and think I'm a freak. What should I do?...
A. 10 February 2008: Its no big deal, a guy who has a small one can do just as well as guy with a big one but he has to make up for it by doin other things more such as foreplay. And im not sure what you mean by wonky but everyone is sort of diffrent down there so thats ... (read in full...)
I want to have a skinny sillouette, yet the dangers of Anorexia scare me! Please, any advice?
Q. I really need your help. Ive watched a tv programme about Anorexia and for some stupid reason i want to be skinny like them. I looked up all the dangers of Anorexia and now im really torn, i dont want to die and i do want to have kids but i want to ...
A. 10 February 2008: You dont have to completely stop eating or eat less to loose wieght. Just eat healthier foods and do some exercises every day. Sit ups, push ups, or walking works. Anything to burn the carbs from the food you eat. And refrain from eating at night ... (read in full...)
Can't find guys that share my sex fetishes
Q. since I started having sex Ive always been into some wierd fetishes; like facials, anal, smoking fetish, and especially- BDSM. I enjoy pain during sex and many other 'strange' things.... I won't go into details.... but all the guys I end up shagg...
A. 9 February 2008: Yeah you need to just talk to your future boyfriends about your fetishes so they know that you like the stuff. Becuase guys like me do not want to do something wierd like that in fear that you may not like what we want to do and may get mad about ... (read in full...)
Was this poster wrong?
Q. This is a bit wierd, but in science i saw a poster of a woman - cause we are on the topic of sex ed - and the woman had three holes down below. do they??? or was the poster wrong cause i alway thought they just had two... thanks:) ...
A. 9 February 2008: Theres three. One for urinating, one for sex, and well another deficating. So yeah there is three. Most guys think there is only 2 becauase the 3rd one is small enought that many people dont notice it and it cant be used for sex or anything so ... (read in full...)
Ready to date but going away, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I really would like a relationship as it has been a very long time since I last had one. I've just not been interested in getting involved after the love of my life broke up with me. But now my interest is returning, and it's now something th...
A. 9 February 2008: Yeah thats understandable. I dont like being hurt and dont like hurting others but if things do turn serious you can always try to make things work long distance or have them come live near u if they will.
I hope everything works out and i wish y... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 9 February 2008: I figured some of you might want to know this but she took her ex back after he abandoned her. He came back. I heard this from a friend who about lost it when she heard this. I guess its true that people who enjoy making others misreable will end up ... (read in full...)
Am I too uptight about talking about sex stuff??
Q. Well i keep having a few girls say this and im starting to wonder if there right. They think im to uptight about sex stuff while talking. Well the tend to like to talk about sex related stuff a lot. And sometimes tend to drift into odd stuff that is ...
A. 9 February 2008: Ok thanks, i was starting to wonder if i was the one at fault here. They normally just ramble on about the stuff and most of the time is not that bad. And what makes it worse tho is they do this at school. And that just makes me even more ... (read in full...)
14...and having some issues with my body.
Q. hello, i'm 14 and i'm having some body issues. The other night when i was getting in the shower, i realized one breast is bigger than the other. Is that normal for teenagers or should i go to a doc about it?...
A. 9 February 2008: Its normal, most girls have a breast that is bigger then another and i believe that it is also normally the left one. So dont worry about it at all. Its normal.... (read in full...)
He says we can be together in time....but I'm not sure I can wait.
Q. I have a problem... I went out with my sister to meet her mate....we got on really well and a few days later he came into my work and asked me for my number...we started hanging out and we are getting really close.... We really like each other ...
A. 9 February 2008: Well you have to take his feelings and his position in mind. Just like guys are supposed to steorotypically. And its probably the best for the 2 of you to wait, becuase i dont think it would do anything for you relationship with your sister if you ... (read in full...)
Can we get engaged without him getting divorced??
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner for nine years, i would like to get engaged but the problem is that he is still married but has been separated for 15 years, could we still get engaged without him getting divorced just yet?...
A. 9 February 2008: I think you can but i dont think its a good idea to do so. You should probably wait until he gets the divorce papers signed and he is officialy divorced. My mother did what you are thinking about doing and from what i saw of that it was a terrible ... (read in full...)
How can I impress her and ask her out on Valentines??
Q. I'm talking to a girl i met 2 weeks ago. I met her through a friend; we talked on msn then we went on a date to the movies. We ate dinner, it was really good and we had fun. I really like her; i asked her out for this weekend and she wants to go ou...
A. 8 February 2008: Do something really romantic, something really personal take her out for dinner, and a movie. Then make her a gift something she will really like or getting something personalized for her. The more personal the better. But be careful not to be to ... (read in full...)
Ready to date but going away, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I really would like a relationship as it has been a very long time since I last had one. I've just not been interested in getting involved after the love of my life broke up with me. But now my interest is returning, and it's now something th...
A. 8 February 2008: You probably should just wait until you go to collage if that is in the next month or two. But if its much more then that then you go out and mingle a bit. Have fun. And just because you are going a little far away doesnt mean a relationship you ... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 6 February 2008: Thanks everyone i have made a lot of posts over time dealing with this. And yeah i have been having major doughts about having a relationship with her lately like one of you picked up on, my mind keeps putting up walls to stop her from hurting me i ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets messages from sex sites, but denies being a member, says they are random. Is he lying??
Q. My boyfriend gets these instant messages from sex sites, stating "hey I liked your profile, if you want to see my webcam pics you can contact me at...." He says they are just random junk mail that everyone gets. I've got a yahoo account and I ...
A. 20 December 2007: Yeah i would believe him because i have never signed up for a porn site and have windows Vista which stops most malicious software that can cause you to have this problem. recording your information and sending it to a remote server (a computer), ... (read in full...)
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