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... Send *oviefan a private message | | | *oviefan's profile:Well i live in the United States in the State of Indiana. I feel like i have some things i cant contribute to help others because I have experienced a lot for my age and have always been a little mature for my age to the point that when i was in middle school i scared some of my teachers. I seemed to mature.. And this plus the fact that im good at logically thinking things threw and can connect things in life and movies that others wouldn't even notice. This has allowed me to learn things some people have to wait a life time to learn. This has also made others until recently distant from me, and made me cold for a long time.
I enjoy movies, music, anime, manga, video games, reading, building relationships, and hanging with family and friends.
And as of right now im single after getting out of a relationship that caused me a lot of stress and pain and im hoping to find someone i feel the same way about as i did for her.
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He is so loving and caring to her but her sexual desires are not met. What's his problem?
Q. I'm writing this on behalf of my sister. She got married(by a proposal) last week and after her honeymoon of 7days, she was complaining about her newly married husband's sexual attitude. We are in Sri Lanka and since it's an asian country,...
A. 22 January 2008: She si going to have to something to make him come out of his shell and depending on how much of an invert he is on these sort of matter it could be relativley easy or very hard. For example until last year i was kinf of afraid to confront a girl ... (read in full...)
What qualities do guys respect in their girlfriends?
Q. Hi aunts :) I was wondering about what qualities a guy respects in his girlfriend? I read another user post this thought on DearCupid: "He was proud to show me off to his family and more so did those little gestures that means so much to us...
A. 22 January 2008: good personality, intelligence, sensitivity, caring, sweet,
attractive, understanding, confident, self worth, and a good sense of humor so you dont kill us, and common intrests.
And guys pretty much like the same thing guys like when it comes to ... (read in full...)
Mom's new husband seems to be pushing us all away from her!
Q. Hi everyone...I am having a problem with my mom's new husband. They first met about 6 months ago on the internet and decided to get married pretty much a month after meeting which was the first thing that bothered me since my mother has already been ...
A. 22 January 2008: Yeah this makes perfect sense. I am currently in a similer situation right now myself so i should be able to help. Well my mother has been dating a guy for 4 years. He was all fine and dandy for the first couple of years but he could be a total jerk ... (read in full...)
I'm so moody even my family cant stand me!
Q. Hello well ya see this i really need help its for any doctors out there please help me im so moody even my family cant stand me i dont want to make anymore problems i just wanna get on with my life is there any medication out there that i can take ...
A. 21 January 2008:
your neer the end of your teens so you dont have to deal with this much longer but you are indeed a teen still so you will be moody but if you are sure thats not why see a shrink or a doctor and see if they can help, but mostly likely its horm... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he want to build a more meaningful relationship with me after 18 months?
Q. I’ve been in a relationship for 18months.Since july 06. I’m 33 female and Australian.hes 29 so hes four years younger. Heres the deal.I have been in love with hijm since the beginning And I only assume he has too.The sex has been good but cou...
A. 21 January 2008: It could be and im starting to think that he may be afraid to take that step for some reason, maybe he fears he isnt what you need and doesnt want to get married and have u realize that then. Or it could be he is totaly afraid of comitment. It could ... (read in full...)
Dating this guy could create problems with my ex...help!
Q. My partner left me, after a four year relationship, nearly 7 months ago when our baby was less than a month old. My dilemma is that one of his best friends and I have feelings for each other and we don't know whether or not to act on them. We have ...
A. 21 January 2008: If u really do like this guy you are going to have to decide if he is more importent or your friendship with your ex is more importent. And your ex may not get mad, but if he does you need to consider these things in case. But you cant let your past ... (read in full...)
Marriage problem - midlife crisis or age difference?
Q. Hi I have been with the same (only) woman for nearly 30 years - she is older than me and has children from her first marriage. I love her very dearly, but aargh! I'm experiencing a real sense of restlessness - looking at other women, wanting t...
A. 21 January 2008: I would try to get her to understand how much it matters to u to have kids, and try to get her to just have one at least. And if she doesnt maybe you should deeply consider if you should let her go. Its your values and ideas on where your going in ... (read in full...)
I want him to love me more! So much so that he's be scared to leave me...
Q. i want to make my boyfriend love me so much so that he gets scared to leave me, but i dont know how....
A. 21 January 2008: You cant really make someone love you, you just have to find someone who loves you enought that they dont get up and leave you for the next girl that comes along. And bad boys are the ones who often times the ones who get up and leave so avoid them. ... (read in full...)
We have hurt each other very much and now she has left. I love her though...advice?
Q. Help, my wife has left me! We have hurt each other very much and now she has left. I love her very much and I know she loves me, but the pain is to big at this point. We have children and I also don't want them to hurt. I am feeling depressed and I ...
A. 21 January 2008: If you really do love her you could be at the point i experienced resently. Well you could be that you are so afraid of being hurt again that you dont want to give her another chance but part of you still wants to try to hold things together for the ... (read in full...)
Which one of them do I choose?
Q. I have a relationship for about 3 years.the last few months another man came to my life.the problem is that i don't want to lose neither of the two.both men are in love with me and so am i.What am i supposed to do?...
A. 21 January 2008: Compare the 2 and consider which is more compatible with you, which has a better future and all that sort of thing. But if you could stay with someone for 3 years and be happy i wouldnt be so quick to throw that away, you oviusly are happy with him ... (read in full...)
I feel unloved and unfancied. What can I do to get him to take more interest in me emotionally?
Q. Hi Im 7 months pregnant and obviously a little hormonal occasionally! I have a very emotionally retarded husband anyway but now im pregnant i find it even harder to deal with. He's a very successful, business minded kind of guy so i gue...
A. 21 January 2008: On the sex side, it is most likely the idea of the baby being involved. Most guys fear that they will hurt it somehow. Either by pushing on your stomach during sex or pokeing it while doing penetration. And a lot of these men will not admit it.
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How can I give my bf a good orgasm without full-blown sex??
Q. Hey, agony aunts. I really need help. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, and we've been taking things slow, but we're starting to think about fooling around a bit. Nothing major, we know we're too young to start anything too serious,...
A. 21 January 2008: I recomend putting this sort of thing off but if you feel like you want to do something for him its better to be doing this rather then full fledged sex. You are not ready for that until you are financially ready to take care of the child that could ... (read in full...)
How can we get enough time to be alone so we can start on oral sex??
Q. hey aunts, So I've got a boyfriend of just over 9 months, and we reeeally want to start moving forward with hanjobs and blowjobs, maybe but we cant find the chance to be alone for very long. We went to a movie to try it, but i was nervous about al...
A. 21 January 2008: I dont know if its a good idea to do that at your age but thats your decision and it cant hurt as long as he hasnt done this with a bunch of girls or has symptoms of std's. But do not go all the way at your age you are not emotionally or financially ... (read in full...)
Why should I be any different??
Q. Hi, guys. Yet again, another student-teacher situation. So, I'm a sophomore in high school, and I've had this massive crush on my chemistry teacher for a while. It freaked me out a great deal at first because I've never noticed any of my teachers...
A. 21 January 2008: Actually this is very common for people your age i had a crush on a teacher when i was 14-15 and i can tell just ignore him and do not go in early, and try to start a relationship with a student at your school and once things gett going you will ... (read in full...)
He doesn't tease me like the others...does that mean he likes me back??
Q. there is a guy at school named Alex I really like him but he doesn't know he has 2 friends that make fun of me but he doesn't join in 95% of the time and sometimes in class i realize hes looking at me is that because his desk is right across the ...
A. 21 January 2008: It could be but it could also be that he just isnt a mean person like his friends are. When i was in middle school everyone made fun of a girl all the time. And i rarely almost never took shots at her. Sure i didnt like her but i didnt see a need to ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a senior to date a sophmore??
Q. I like her a lot but the age diffrance has me a little worried and people at my school tend to call people cradle robbers etc when they date people who are not in the same grade. I really like her but I want to make sure its ok for me to date her. ...
A. 21 January 2008: ok thanks ive heard this from several people and i was making sure it was ok. I just know that if her parents really want to go after me i could end up in prison if ihave sex with her which i have never done with anyone and am not in a hurry. I ... (read in full...)
Do some girls enjoy emotionally hurting guys and using them?
Q. Well she had recently been ignoring me and i had been wondering why she had been doing this. It was really upsetting me so i tried ignoring her to get her to realize how much it botherd me, nothing changed. Well i had till now been waiting for...
A. 21 January 2008: Yah, she has done a lot more then this that has upset me and i guess i have been pursuing her this last 6 months or so and it all has just lead to her being cold to me and now she is beggining to what seems like, toying with my emotions. I dont give ... (read in full...)
Will girls be attracted to me only because they know I've got a large penis?
Q. Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until ...
A. 21 January 2008: Thanks for more comments and information. And yeah i know that just because im big doesnt mean ill be good at sex, you have to still try. And yeah im sensitive to females that im friends with or more, but with guys unless im upset im not. I try not ... (read in full...)
Will girls be attracted to me only because they know I've got a large penis?
Q. Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until ...
A. 17 January 2008: It doesnt bother me its just kind of annoying, and im more worried about the fact that everyone knows because my friends are loudmouths about somethings. And how that may affect my relationships. I dont care what people think. And when people harass ... (read in full...)
I am afraid of being alone!
Q. I think this is a very normal problem but I am trying to work at keeping it all in perspective and any advice would be gratefully received! I am a 33 year old man who has been married (for 7 years) from age 21 and that finished 5 years back and then...
A. 17 January 2008: Im younger then you but yeah you are still plenty young. But i know how you feel know that i have been with someone i would much rather be in a relationship then be alone. I like the affection i guess. And i dont really get much from my parents or ... (read in full...)
He's really wild, me not so much, but I'm willing to try anything, any ideas on something I can do to spice up our sex life?
Q. I have been seeing someone for awhile and we have experimented a little in the bedroom. I enjoy it, but he is a little more experienced (and wilder) than I am. He always talks about surprising him sometime when I come over. I know he is talking ...
A. 17 January 2008: Do what the other posters say, but the more spontanious it is the better, even if you catch someone with experience off gaurd it will make things that much more enertaining and fun for you and him. Spontanius is good in the right situations in ... (read in full...)
He spent mone at a strip club, I dumped his butt, now he wont speak to me, what is going on with him?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years after finding out he spent a large amount of money at a strip club without telling me. I told him not to call me until he wanted to be honest about how he spent the money. He didn't call me for five ...
A. 17 January 2008: Ok there is variables in this situation that you do not know about. He gave up because he doesnt think you are compatible because he likes the strip club and likes to do what single people do even if he isnt. Thats always a possibilitie. I ... (read in full...)
A long distance marriage, but he's a poor communicator, how can I get him to open up to me, or is there no hope?
Q. How do I get my husband to open up? We are apart and most of our conversations are over the internet. Though I can't get him to open up I will ask him about what he would like to do or go on vacation? he says as long as I am with you! I ask him ...
A. 17 January 2008: Tricky subject, i was very much like him for a long time and it took someone i was willing to adjust for to change me. I would never talk to girls, i just was terrified of the idea until i became physically sick from being in love with someone and ... (read in full...)
My man is a fratboy who treats me like dirt, is there any hope?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a year and a half. He stopped hanging out with his Fraternity friends for a long time because they were bad influences and he was so nice to me. Now, he has started again and is emotionally abusing me!! He says he wants ...
A. 17 January 2008: Get out ASAP! Chances are he will not change, guys who do this usually will not change and if he has been ding this even tho he knows he is hurting you then he isnt going to change. I just went throught the same thing except it was a girl who was ... (read in full...)
He wants anal sex, I don't as it sounds really bad, am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try anal sex. I have never done it and for some reason can't bring myself to do it. anyone have any words of wisdom. am I overreacting or is is as bad as it sounds....
A. 17 January 2008: It can be diffrent for each person, it can be a bit uncomfortable for some, and painful for others. And some people who's anal cavity is to tight it can bleed the first time u do it. And it really does nothing for females most of the time. But your ... (read in full...)
My friend just told me his loves me, should I reciprocate?
Q. A coursemate of mine who has been a close friend for sometime now, just told me he is in love with me. Am so confused that i dont know what to tell him.Should i accept his proposal or not?...
A. 17 January 2008: It your decision and your the one who has to lie with yourself the next morning so its up to and no one can make the decision for you. But if it was me i would, i have dated a friend and things went great. Some of the best partners you can have are ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I am pregnant do you think? Or is my body playing tricks on me?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and lost my virginity around 2 weeks with my boyfriend of 5 months, we used contraception (condoms)but with the second time we used them but when he took it off he tried penetrating inside me which he did for about 10 seconds, I told him ...
A. 14 January 2008: Im a guy thus not the most wise in this matter but i would say that its a little early for those symptoms to kick in, my ex girlfriend/ex friend was pregars with another guys kid and she is just getting morning sickness after 7 to 8 weeks, so i ... (read in full...)
He and I are good friends...so why am I so jealous when he dates other females?
Q. I am really, really good friends with a boy in my year at school, and I've been going thru some tough times recently and he's the only one whose been there for me. But when he has a girlfriend I get really jealous even though we are just good ...
A. 14 January 2008: You fancie him, even if you dont realize it. If your jealous its because you like him. And you wish you were that other girl. All i can say about solving the jealousy, you cant really. Just dont let it hurt anyone and try to ignore it or find things ... (read in full...)
I've gotten myself attached to someone unavailable...what do I do?
Q. I need advice. Find myself in a situation of my own making, and not sure what to do or which direction to take next. The advice I've gotten from friends has been split down the middle and I don't completely agree with either side. I guess I'm tryi...
A. 14 January 2008: Most i can say is move on, i was in a very similar situation except mine was diffrent in the sense she wasnt available was because she was with an abusive boyfriend who took advantage of her feelings. Well i tried to have something to do with her ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong for me to tell her when she looks nice, or compliment her at all without giving too much away?
Q. Dear those with superior knowledge :). I'm getting quite close to a good friend of mine. She's just broken up with her previous bf of 2 years and has taken it pretty rough. However she's slowly getting over it. I really like her and enjoy ever...
A. 14 January 2008: No its completely ok to do that just dont lay it on to thick and to often otherwise it will be ovius and it becomes anoying when a guy does it to much. I know a girl who hates a guy who is obssessed with her because he does it non stop. Its ok to ... (read in full...)
Should I abort or have this baby?
Q. help i just found out that i am 2 months pregnant the thing is that it is a result of rape. my family is pushing me to abord it but i dont think i can. i dont know why but something is pushing me to have this baby. i dont know what to do i need some ...
A. 14 January 2008: Wow this is a hard one, i dont like the idea of abortion at the least but you were raped. If it was a child with an ex boyfriend i would say have it with out thought. But its not. Im thinking you should probably have the child like you want to, its ... (read in full...)
I'm ready and shes scared? Help!
Q. ok i have a question me and my girlfriends have bin together for a long time and all we do is make out and i have felt her breasts before but its just im ready to do more then just make out and shes not just i askeed her and she said she just ...
A. 14 January 2008: Well just get her to come over like normal and talk to her and bring it up once she is comfortable. Well im a guy but from what ive heard its one of those things that you cant explain how it feels, kind of like the taste of food. You can say ... (read in full...)
My bf keeps asking for sex but I don't know what to do.
Q. dear cupid, My bf keeps asking me for sex, should i say yes or no? I am 13 and don't know what to do.... helppppp...
A. 14 January 2008: No your not ready, im 18 and im still not 100% sure im ready. I could deal with the consiqunces if i got someone pregnant but, i am planning on going to collage as well and if i have sex and get someone pregars ill have a harder time going throught ... (read in full...)
How are my parents likely to take the fact I'm dating a girl who is pregnant?
Q. How will my parents react to me dating someone who is pregnant with another persons child. Im 18 and i really do love her. And i will help her with the kid as much as i can once it born while im still in school and treat it like my own. Ive been ...
A. 11 January 2008: yeah thanks everyone, i know that its really my choice and they cant really stop me because legally i could be on my own and have considerd it before. But i dont want to ignore them and make them mad so they dont help me in the future. I have been ... (read in full...)
I'm bitter and angry, is this normal?
Q. Is it normal for me to become bitter and angry after being hurt by someone. And hurt others because of it. I have done things to others that i would never of done before, i have hurt others in my pain. And i always end up feeling worse because i ...
A. 10 January 2008: I have before this post been controlling it but my friends tend to like to bring up the subject in agitating ways and it causes me to more or less get very very antisocial to the point that when they try to get me back to normal igo off and hurt ... (read in full...)
She doesn't mind me smoking during sex but insists I wear a condom. Why?
Q. my girlfriend doesn't mind that I smoke but always insists that I wear a condom during sex-even though she's on the pill.Any blokes with a similar situation as to why?...
A. 9 January 2008: Im a guy and even thought im never had sex and ive heard stories about how condoms can make sex less pleasurable. Im still planning on making sure i wear one my first time, as well as make sure she is on the pill and that i pull out as long as she ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if they just want me for sex?
Q. i was just wondering. well i have only had sex with 2 people and just six times between the two. but it took me a long time to actually agree to have sex with them because i didnt want to feel like we had to have sex everytime we were together or ...
A. 9 January 2008: If he only seems interested in you if there is a chance that sex could happen, and it isnt neccesarily true that if he tells his friends what happend that he only wants sex, i mean if a few of my friends had never done it or if she was really ... (read in full...)
Help with emotional issues and complicated relationship. I don't know what to do?
Q. I have been in love with a girl at my school for my entire High School carrer and im in my last year and i was with her off and on this last year. Because she wont stay away from her user and abusive boyfriend who has never had a job and for the ...
A. 23 December 2007: I know she has emotional issues and low self value, it bugs me and ive tried to help her realize the mistakes she is making because she thinks she is worthless. Hasnt worked she says she knows she is making a mistake but her actions say otherwise so ... (read in full...)
Once hurt very badly by a man I loved, now I run a mile everytime I'm in a relationship getting serious because I'm terrified I'll hurt again. This way I'm hurting others as well. Advice?
Q. It's 3 A.M. and I have just got back out bed. There's something I can't get off my mind so I felt the need to ask my friends on 'dearcupid' for advice. It all started two years ago when I met a guy called Jay* we were seeing each other for ar...
A. 22 December 2007: I know how you feel im going throught the same thing right now i got hurt badly a month ago to the point that if i just saw the girl i got disorented and would end up crying. I can only say that you are going throught what they call the "Hedghogs ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to date a girl that my friend had or has liked?
Q. Ok my friend obsesed over a girl for the last few months and seemed to really like her. Well i went to a party with him and met her. We talked a lot and messed around together and had a lot of fun. Then this entire time my friend kept giving me ugly ...
A. 22 December 2007: I like her but its not the same as the last relationship i was in. Before i was dating her i couldnt stop thinkng about her. This girl i do think about her but not that much. Maybe its just im still afraid of being hurt again and i dont want to make ... (read in full...)
Should I date the girl I love - even though she's pregnant with another man's child?
Q. Ok i have been trying to get the girl i love for the last year and i have sorted succeded for a while. But she couldnt stay away from her ex who is a horrible person, he uses and abuses her. And she just wouldnt say no to him in hopes he has ...
A. 22 December 2007: Well im still going to make myself available to her when she needs help and tell her that i still will be with her if that is what she wants. But im not going to wait around and do nothing waiting for something to happen that may never happen. So im ... (read in full...)
Should I date the girl I love - even though she's pregnant with another man's child?
Q. Ok i have been trying to get the girl i love for the last year and i have sorted succeded for a while. But she couldnt stay away from her ex who is a horrible person, he uses and abuses her. And she just wouldnt say no to him in hopes he has ...
A. 18 December 2007: Well you guys seemed to be rights she wasnt over him, as i was suspecting anyways, how can someoene get over someone they have been with for 2 years. But he is pulling his act again to make her think he has changed. He seems to be taking ... (read in full...)
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