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writes:i feel so messed up right now and i dont know what to do.im 6 months pregnant at 19 and ive just found out that my ex boyfriend has gonorrhea, he says he didnt have it when we spilt up but he is such a liar i dont think i can trust him. we spilt up because he was always lying about working late but really he was smoking pot with his mates. he keeps saying he wants to try again and be a good dad but if he can sleep around only a month or so after we broke up, he wont keep his promise but i dont want my baby to not have a dad. please can anyone give me advice about this because its really getting to me and i really cant handle this.
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 This is a tought one he may step up to the plate once the child is born, but do you think he will be a positive role model for the child doing the things he does. Guys can often time just run from being a father if there not ready so. IF it was up to me i would say find someone else. Becuase from what you said on here the negatives outway the positives. And someone who isnt his blood father can be as good or a better father for the child if you find the right type of guy. And there are guys who will date a pregnant woman i almost did in the last month but she screwed me over so that has fallen apart. And those type of guys are the ones you normally would want to hang on to.But its up to you to decide, do you really think he will step up to the challenge or will he run once things get hard to smoke a joint with his friends and dissapear for a while. I hope you make the right decision, and if you need someone to talk feel free to message me.Good Luck
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 January 2008):
 remember this, all though you may not be together, and even if he's not good for you in a relationship, children don't judge parents the same way we judge a partner. i'd wait and see if he steps up to the plate after the child is born. i've seen people who were really going down the wrong path, and just having a child completely changed their live and was the strength behind them improving and being a better person.
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