He said he would wait for me but the way he is acting I am not sure he will.
Q. Just to recap: I was in a 3year relationship with a man I loved dearly and with all my heart. However, we fought a lot and he never understood the things I needed and I was always wrong which frustrated me a lot and was always unhappy. He is a gre...
A. 4 December 2007: Hey Alicia...
That sure is complicated! When relationships are not working, they are not working, if they are beginning or if you have given three years into it, they are not working.
Now. The first guy; I believe you've tried everything... (read in full...)
Should I go on and hope she changes her mind or is she just playing me??
Q. Hey there, I'm pretty new to this type of thing, but I really need some feedback on a situation I am in from some people not involved. There is a girl that I work with, and we've been working together for about half a year now, that I've been get...
A. 4 December 2007: I think you should really reconsider your relationship with this girl. Nothing has really started yet and she has shown she is not emotionally ready to begin a relationship. If she believes she will hurt you in the long run, believe her! She ... (read in full...)
I really like my friend but am worried my sexual inexperience will ruin it.
Q. I think i'm starting to fall for my (guy)friend. We've been friends for a year maybe but we just started to get a lot closer in the last few months, and we spend a lot of time together just the two of us (as opposed to with our group of friends ...
A. 1 December 2007: If this guy really likes you for who you are he won't have a problem with you having no experience sexually. Being new to sexuality is something beautiful you are deciding to share, or no to, with someone and you shouldn't be ashamed of it. Read ... (read in full...)
I am being blackmailed by a one night stand who has stolen my phone and threatening to reveal I am gay. Please help.
Q. I am at wits end..i had my phone stolen by someone with whom i had sex..he threatened to take my photos, stored phone numbers,etc. and expose me to others as being gay.. He asked for money in return for the phone and information..i gave him what he ...
A. 1 December 2007: You can say you lost your phone and thats it. If he calls someone you can just say your phone was lost. On the other hand, if he has pictures of the two of you that is a whole new deal itself.
If he is a sex worker (which sounds like because ... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex 9 days ago, my period was due 6 days ago. Is it too soon for a pregnancy test?
Q. 9 days ago I had unprotected sex...(ther only time i'm ever had unprotected before)..my period was due 6 days ago...it STILL hasnt come on...I'm really worried as i've never been late before. I want to take a test on monday but will it be soo soon ...
A. 1 December 2007: A blood test is very accurate after conception. In Puerto Rico you can go to any lab without a doctors order, check if you can do the same there.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
He's married but it wont last...either somebody is going to get fed-up or killed.
Q. I know I'm probably not gonna like what I hear, but I need to know what you think anyway. Several months ago I started seeing someone, and please take into consideration that we have known each other since childhood, and have since been great ...
A. 30 November 2007: If he is so fed up why doesn't he get a divorce? You shouldn't be between them because, like it or not, they are married and remain married! You have no right interfering in someone else's marriage; respect and then ask to be respected!
My ad... (read in full...)
I am worried I am turning gay...but I don't want to be.
Q. I am a 13 year old boy and i am worried that i am turning gay. dont get me wrong, i dont hate gay people i just dont want to be gay. When i think about penises i get an erection. when i masturbate and i think about penises, i get an orgasm much mor...
A. 30 November 2007: Lets start with the second one as it is the easiest, most men have some kind of angle in an erect pennis. It can be upward or to the sides, I believe this is nothing you provoked rather than your anatomy itself.
On the other question. You are ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my shyness?
Q. i am 15 and i am dating a 12 year old i hav had a major crush on me for 9 months and a couple of months ago she told me she loved me, i asked her to b my girlfriend, she siad yes, we have been dating 3 weeks and we still havnt spoke face 2 face, we ...
A. 30 November 2007: Usually males mature later than females so it might not be a real difference among you two. The only one who will really know that is the two of you and how are you able or not to talk and communicate with each other.
Don't rush anything... (read in full...)
Do you think he's just after Sex from me?
Q. ive known this guy for nearly 2 weeks and i really like him the thing is i dont think he belives me as i told him it again yesterday and he said ive not proved it to him, do you think hes just after sex,ive stayed over night at his place 5 times and ...
A. 30 November 2007: Yup... probably after sex!
Why are you staying there so often, you barely know this guy! Be careful if you are developing feelings for this guy. When a guy really likes someone he looks for conversation, he tells her he likes her, he looks fo... (read in full...)
Early teenager, wanting to look older without using make-up.
Q. i put my phone on mute when i was talking to the boy i liked and our friend. when they thought i was off the phone the said something about me and my two best friends. they said one of my friends look like their in highschool, the other looks like ...
A. 30 November 2007: You might want to take a look at what you are wearing, how you style your hair and your attitude. Attitude and conversation can get you very far as to seeming older than you really are!
In terms of clothing and hairstyle, look at other people a... (read in full...)
My father-in-law died a year ago. How do I help my wife to get over her grief and enjoy our holiday?
Q. Hello my wife's dad died just under a year ago and in afew weeks we are going for a long weekend in blackpool with her family and our daughter because that where he liked to go, they went there a lot of holidays and because he spent a lot of his ...
A. 30 November 2007: Death is a really difficult experience for everyone. Mourning is a very personal process and there is no protocol for helping someone through it. However, there are a couple of things you should consider:
1. Try to talk about the wonderfu... (read in full...)
Why am I still waiting around for her?
Q. Well this is my first help on here... i came on here to try and see what i can do because im lost at the moment. im 17 and broke up with my long term girlfriend 6 months ago, we were together for nearly 2 years and have a 8 month old son together. ...
A. 30 November 2007: The thing when ending a relationship is the emotional ties take a lot longer to brake and most times one needs to work on making that a healthy break.
The two of you will have a relationship for life as your son will unite the two of you. (B... (read in full...)
Why doesn't it pay to be a nice guy? Why are women attracted to unkind men, abusive, players?
Q. Why dosen't it pay to be a nice guy? i do all i can 4 her and still no reward just get crap. I even tryed being bad to her and i got crap. So why are woman attracted to a%^ and *^*4? and why are they messed up? Someone tell me? because im so lost ...
A. 30 November 2007: Some women are attracted to "bad boys", the thing is you seem to be attracted to those women. Not all women like bad boys. I believe the thing I find interesting of "bad boys" is they are intriguing, mysterious and stand their ground. However, I ... (read in full...)
I feel like she gets a lot of the intellectual and social parts you want in a relationship from me. But gets kissed by the other guy. Confusing!
Q. Let me just jump right into it... She is dating another bloke. Their relationship isn't all that great and isn't terrible. I just don't expect it to last much longer. I really like this girl and have for sometime. And yes, I made a move...
A. 30 November 2007: Girls can have guys as friend.. even if this is very hard to understand. If she has thrown you into the friends closet (really and not just because she is in another relationship) I don't think you can get yourself out.
If her relation... (read in full...)
Could there be a medical problem with me... I'm 19 and I've gone off sex (although oral sex is fine).
Q. hiya. recently i have completely gone off sex. i am a 19yr old female. ive been withmy bf 6 months and for the last 6 weeks not had sex cause iv just not wanted it. hes given me oral sex which i love my no matter how aroused i get i never want to ...
A. 30 November 2007: I think it is more likely that there are other psychological triggers involved. If you can get aroused and (I assume) have an orgasm, there doesn't seem to be something physically wrong.
Look for early childhood inappropriate experiences with sex... (read in full...)
Didn't use protection 3 days before my period was due. 5 days late now. How late is late enough to worry?
Q. Hey...I'm now 5 days late. I did have unprotected sex with my bf 3 days before my period was due....which was sunday...but it still hasn't come on now :S could I pregnant? How late is late enough to worry? Thanks for reading, any advice would be ...
A. 30 November 2007: If you have an irregular period (as it seems) anything could happen! You should not use the counting method if you have an irregular period. If you are regular then 3 days before is really safe.
Give it a couple more days, even stress can make... (read in full...)
I am dating another man but do not feel anything when he ejaculates, only a leakage. Do I learn to control my high drive or leave?
Q. I've just divorced of my husband. The last year together we didnt have sex at all. He has got problem of erection and refuses to sort it out. Since then he doesnt even touches me. He makes me feel really bad. Now I've met this man 18 years ...
A. 30 November 2007: If you are really interested in this guy you need to look for alternatives for yourself. Visit an adult store with him and look for alternatives with which he can please you even if he is not able to have an erection. It seems he would be willing ... (read in full...)
My depressed gf dumped me but I have fallen for her.
Q. My girlfriend came round this week and told me that she cannot be in a relationship and that we are over. We have only been together 2 1/2 months but have clicked from day one, haave perhaps gone too fast but generally things have been great. The ...
A. 30 November 2007: You should let her know you are there if she needs you but be careful...
Depression is a clinical psychological diagnostic that should be given by a professional and should not be taken lightly. If she is really depressed, she is not in an emoti... (read in full...)
I really feel his ex is trying to come between us, with actions she has undertaken, manipulation, gossip. Do you think I am overreacting?
Q. I just wanted people's views on the suituation I am in. I have been with my boyfriend 9 months. He was with a girl for 4 years before me, they had been split up for about 5 months prior to us getting together. In that time, my boyfriend said...
A. 30 November 2007: I actually don't think you are overreacting. The truth is a four year relationship (including sentimental attachments), does not end in five months. This does not mean he will get back with her, but he probably has mixed feelings about his ex.
... (read in full...)
We decided to talk less frequently to avoid arguments. Is this the end of our relationship?
Q. my boyfriend moved to italy a few months ago, and we were in a really happy relationship. ive been over to visit once and he comes home for xmas soon. recently we've decided we talk to eachother too much, and this is causing us to have arguments, so ...
A. 30 November 2007: The truth is in a long distance relationship the only thing you do have is conversation. Relationships need to build and grow and the only way to do that is being together and sharing the experience of life. If you two, as a couple, can not ... (read in full...)
I can't let go of him. How did I get tangled up with this loser?
Q. so i am in the worst situation i can imagine. i thought i was smarter than to get in a relationship with the biggest loser ever but i guess not and now im stuck and i need someones help. "Sam" and i have been together for almost a year. ON and Off....
A. 13 November 2007: I had the same experience with a guy. I really liked him, the only difference being I left the first time I knew he was cheating on me. I didn't want to let go, but I was SURE I deserved better by the way I treated him.
People that have suc... (read in full...)
I've gone away to university, now my bf wants to split up, how can I keep him?
Q. Hi. Im completly new to this but I don't know who else to talk to. I'm 20 and just started uni about 6 weeks ago. I've been with my bf for nearly three years now and we've got a good relationship(we argue but not alot, we trust each other completley ...
A. 13 November 2007: I am not sure you can! Love is a feeling and a commitment you SHARE with someone. If that person does nos feel the same way about you, sooner or later that relationship will end.
What I would advice for you to SEE if there is something to be sa... (read in full...)
Are her hormones playing her up?
Q. I have been dating a girl for nearly a year, and a few months ago, we found out she was pregnant. Prior to this we had been shopping for rings, and talking marriage. Ever since we have found out, she has been a lot more distant, and extremely ...
A. 13 November 2007: It is very likely hormones are doing their thing. Every woman is different, but all women are affected by hormonal, emotional and, obviously, physical changes during pregnancy. Read some baby books, look for information on the web and try to be as ... (read in full...)
How can I avoid sabotaging this relationship?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend has been sent away with work for a month or so. I'm missing him so badly and I have slipped into major paranoia mode. He texts me most days but says he has a work phone and will get in trouble if he keeps ringing me and texting me ...
A. 13 November 2007: Breathe!! There are certain things in life you cannot change. If someone will be unfaithful and leave is one of them. With that said, you need to use all of your trusting skills. Being apart is a strain in your relationship, if on top of that you ... (read in full...)
Is my unstable relationship with my father the cause of all this?
Q. I've got a problem that I've only really been able to talk about with one person. See, I seem to fall in and out of infatuations so easily. I'm not sure why this is, exactly. I'm 14, nearly 15, and I've gone to an all-girls school all my life. I'm ...
A. 13 November 2007: The fact that you are attracted to older guys might be an indication of a subconscious desire of a mature male figure in your life which could be associated with a father figure. However, this is very complicated to analyze and to overcome. You ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to tell my bf I'm pregnant. I'm 16 and he's currently in another country until June.
Q. A little help here guys? Okay im 16 years old and 4 weeks ago my boyfriend moved to another country, to be back sometime between January and June!! BIG problem. Today i found out, im six weeks pregnant, definatley my boyfriends i...
A. 13 November 2007: Although there might be a lot of love and passion between the two of you, you are really young and having a child is a huge responsibility. So I do understand your fear. However, you really have no choice hun. He deserves to know... however he ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my boyfriend away from this gay guy?
Q. i have a huge problem my best friend "guy" is inlove with my boyfriend!! i know my best friend for 6 years through this years i didnt know he was gay and actually i knew my boyfriend from him and because of me they are really good friends and i hate ...
A. 13 November 2007: You can not choose your bf friends! That is his choice to make! If you do not doubt your boyfriends sexuality, what is the problem with them being friends? On the other hand, this gay guy is also your friend, so I believe some trust should be ... (read in full...)
Do I leave him?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for three years and we selpt together and im not a virgin anymore but here in egypt you cant tell that you`re not a virgin. one year ago i lied to him but i didnt mean to i was supposed to travel for the weekend but i di...
A. 13 November 2007: This is a very delicate situation to give advice to, and, because I am not literate on your culture, I shouldn't. If you can, answer these follow up questions for me:
What would happen to you if you said you were not a virgin to your next par... (read in full...)
My life is in utter shambles...Filing for Divorce
Q. This is a long and painful story that I will post here, but I need to get some opinions from some "disinterested" third parties as my friends/family have pretty much weighed in on this issue. First, some background to "set the stage" for what's to ...
A. 13 November 2007: Well, I think thats not weird, I might have done the same! There are a lot of guys out there who are married and saying they will divorce just to start something out. Next thing you know they are reconsidering or not sure anymore. Furthermore she ... (read in full...)
She has commitment issues!
Q. Hi Guys and thank you for reading! I have been with this girl for 1 year and a half. After 1 year she dumped me because she thought she did not love me anymore. I called her again and again, but nothing, she would not answer my calls. I let her...
A. 12 November 2007: This is a really difficult one for me as I, honestly, understand her and feel sympathy for you.
She could have other types of psychological stress that she has not been able to work through. Maybe other relationships that didn't work out, an ... (read in full...)
Afraid my friend is anorexic
Q. I'm really worried about a friend of mine, she is becoming obsessed with what she eats. She has started writing a 'food diary' with what she eats every day, I looked at it and it has things like 'half a bowl of soup', 'half a mars bar' etc. I'm ...
A. 12 November 2007: My advise would be to just sit down and talk, casually (not specifically about this). Maybe you can say you want to start a diet with her. I think she might have gotten some advise about dieting and she is taking it a bit extreme, but I don't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I know the truth?
Q. About 10 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of a year, under duress from my parents - so it wasn't my choice. I said i wanted to remain good friends, because prior to dating we were great friends. Within three weeks of our breakup he declares ...
A. 12 November 2007: As harsh as it might seem, you just sound jealous. Maybe you love this guy still, but he's moved on and you need to deal with that!
If you feel betrayed by your friend then thats something to consider. Is this friendship really importan... (read in full...)
My daughter's bf is disrespectful - and I don't know how to handle this. I've taken care of my grandchildren up to now.
Q. My Daughters bf just shows no respect .. my daughter has been dating this guy for about 5 yrs they have 2 children together , My daughter and her children live with me . My one grandaughter is almost 3 and they other is abt 8 months the 8 mth has ...
A. 12 November 2007: This is a VERY difficult situation. Unexpectedly, I assume, you have encouraged a very difficult situation for yourself and a very easy one for your daughter.
Although she is just out of college, she could get a part time job or a full time job... (read in full...)
Should I end my current relationship and hook up with the new girl?
Q. I've been in a relationship just over a year now, it's a rocky relationship at best and more then once has nearly ended but that's not the problem..... A few weeks ago I went back to college and I met this other girl in college. We haven’t slept...
A. 9 November 2007: I almost wrote in Spanish! lol
Here we go... I think you have two separate issues. I don't believe you should end a relationship because you are making eyes with someone else, I think you should end it because you think (and apparently she does... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell her or end it
Q. I really need some help/advice. i have been dating this girl for 3 months. She is great in everyway. A few problems though,we dont talk as much as we used to and we RARELY go out now,she says shes always busy etc. which i know is a lie sometimes. ...
A. 9 November 2007: If you truly care for this girl I would suggest ending the relationship. From what you are saying, I think she might be having some trouble with the relationship too as she is constantly unavailable. This should be done in person, maybe you don't ... (read in full...)
How can I help my wife relax at this stressful time?
Q. Hiya erm just want some advice and tip on how to get my wife to relax abit more. Shes been pretty stressed at the moment and is trying to do more than physically possible. I just want to try and give her a nice relaxing day tomorrow but any advice ...
A. 9 November 2007: Well it is important that you help her feel comfortable. You could buy bath salt to use on the tub, get some slow music, maybe give her a non sexual massage. Suggest a movie date and cuddle on the sofa with snacks and a blanket (pick a good, happy ... (read in full...)
I met a new guy whom I like more than a friend but I'm still hanging on to my ex in a way. Should I take this new chance?
Q. I broke up with my ex 9 months ago, he moved in with another girl shortly after me, I have stayed on my own,but he still keeps texting me, and i meet up with him every few weeks, he says he loves me, and hes gonna leave her, but hasnt never followed ...
A. 9 November 2007: Some guys tend to cling after ending a relationship. He might have moved on too fast thus making a bad choice with his new partner. However, the clue here is: he moved on! And you should do the same.
I think an honest conversation with you curr... (read in full...)
Am I being a jerk?
Q. It's been eight months since i broke up with my high school sweetheart of four years. She's pregnant and getting married but i still think about her. I've dated alot and got over most of the junk with a relationship that lasted three months. I'm ...
A. 9 November 2007: If you don't like her, you should not be with her. In the end you will unknowingly hurt her when you start avoiding sex or intimate contact with her.
On the other hand, there are people to whom physical appearance is a must. They just like thi... (read in full...)
My bf of 2 yrs drinks daily, I don't think this is healthy for a family life. Wonder if I need to move on.
Q. Well i've been with my boyfriend over 2 years we've had many downs and ups but now im wondering if he is the right guy for me for my future cos if not then i need to move on. Sometimes i find he is selfish and doesn't respect my feelings. But mo...
A. 9 November 2007: In AA they have two easy to answer questions:
1. Is it difficult for him to stop drinking once he's started. Not necessarily that he cannot stop, but he prefers not to?
2. Has he come into any trouble by his drinking?
The answer for the s... (read in full...)
How to sneek spermacide
Q. HELP ME AGONY AUNTS! My Boyfriend And I Have Been Going Out For A While Now And We Were Thinking On Having Sex. Now Problem With Me Is The Fact That Im Scared That The Condom Will Break Or Somthing. Yes Im On The Pill But I Also Suggested To My ...
A. 9 November 2007: Sorry to be the one to tell you but there are several things you should consider before having sex: 1. Sexually transmitted diseases (STD) often do not present symptoms and are still contagious. A lot of people might have them and spread them ... (read in full...)
I want to be friends, but I'm unsure.
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. I am completely happy about it. I do want to maintain our friendship but He has said that if I keep calling him that we will never be friends. I don't know what to do. He broke up with me for a 14 yr old. He is ...
A. 9 November 2007: From experience, I believe it is not possible to have a friendship with someone you just broke up with. There are a lot of possible mixed feelings from either side. In time, maybe, you will be able to maintain a friendship, but I would guess th... (read in full...)
My life is in utter shambles...Filing for Divorce
Q. This is a long and painful story that I will post here, but I need to get some opinions from some "disinterested" third parties as my friends/family have pretty much weighed in on this issue. First, some background to "set the stage" for what's to ...
A. 7 November 2007: Apparently your wife has some really deep issues to deal with. The thing is you cannot deal with them for her and she is not interested in doing so at this time. This is not your fault nor are you able to change that.
Your life, on the other ha... (read in full...)
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