Would a girl know that I like her with this kind of xmas gift?
Q. Were co-workers and we've known each other for about 5 months now. Hung out couple of times and seem to start a good friendship. I'm so into this girl but i just cannot read her. She seems to appreciate little things i give her once in a while, ...
A. 17 January 2008: Ahhh... yes! It is such a personalized gift that I couldn't imagine someone not knowing there was something more than a friendship going on in your mind. Her reaction, however, doesn't seem that appropriate for a hand made gift. If she fancy you ... (read in full...)
First love, but we don't say I love you...
Q. im going out with this girl who i really do think is my first love..but we dont say i love you to eachother, ive said it before and it caught her offguard which made us take a week a way from eachother, so i learned the lesson to wait, dont get me ...
A. 17 January 2008: Relax... breathe!! Saying I Love You is a very special thing for everyone. I have said I Love You only to three persons in my whole life! You can not force an I Love You from someone, you need to let her feel it and be comfortable enough to say ... (read in full...)
I know what an orgasm feels like but I can never get one through sex. Any advice?
Q. Ok, Im jus going to go all out here because I really need some answers, and its not making any sence to me. I masterbate, and I know exactly what having an orgasm feels like, but I never get one having sexual intercourse with my fiancee. I talked to ...
A. 8 January 2008: Well...
Having an orgasm from penetration is rather difficult for a lot of woman who are more excited by clitoral stimulation. What you can do to help is:
1. Masturbate whilst having penetration, this way you can both have an orgasm at the sa... (read in full...)
He's alcoholic, won't help around the house and demands sex all the time. What can I do to improve the situation?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and boy do we have drama. He's alcoholic and he recently relapsed, he's isn't as bad as he was before he started going to AA but it still bugs me because I've had past relationships with people who ...
A. 8 January 2008: Hi there...
Being an alcoholic is really difficult and if he has gone to AA then he will probably go back someday. Have you been to Alanon or any other groups for family and codependents? Knowing the AA program and the true personality of alcoh... (read in full...)
We want sex but can't. What should we do?
Q. This isn't funny. It's true. I'm experienced, she's a virgin. We have 5 years between us and in our twenties.2 years together. I'm an average guy, it's just everytime she said it was hurting her I backed off. I want to have sex with her...
A. 8 January 2008: Ok... so there might be a couple of things to consider:
1. Go to a special adult store, if possible, with her. You can find: lubricants, small vibrators, small plastic penis and creams that will somewhat numb the area (usually used for anal sex... (read in full...)
8 years down the drain in exchange for somebody she knew for a matter of weeks; she had been unfaithful on other occasion, before this. I'm so confused, thinking I did something wrong!
Q. I would like to share my story with you all it is unique in its own way and i would very much appreciate any help and advice you can give me. Me and my ex were together for 7 years 6 months i am now 25 and she is now 23, we met when we were teenager...
A. 3 January 2008: Hey Leedle
That is such a heartfelt story! The truth is there is not much I can say... she decided to leave and you have been supportive, yet there was really nothing else you could do. The fact is both of you had a great relationship, and prob... (read in full...)
Can the pill give false pregnancy test readings?
Q. Dear cupid, I'm now quite worried,I am on the Pill and have been for almost 2 years i have regular sex with my long term boyfriend without using any other contraception apart from when on antibiotics for what ever reason as it is advised you use ...
A. 2 January 2008: If you are really worried about being pregnant you could take a blood test, at least in Puerto Rico, you don't need a medical prescription for it. Also, read information about the birth control pills you are on, it should tell you about the ... (read in full...)
Needing some advice on giving my new girlfriend an orgasm, should we use enhancing gels?
Q. hello everyone. I hope your holiday was good. so anyway I am hanging out with my new girl next saturday night, and we are probably going to have sex. She has had sex twice, and enjoyed it, but hasn't had any orgams. I have been with 4 women, two of ...
A. 2 January 2008: Sex should be consensual in all forms. You should not put something on her if she does not allow you to, meaning, you should talk to her and tell her there is something you want to try out. Let her see it or read about it, this is her body and you ... (read in full...)
Should I keep trying or should I leave it up to her to make the next move?
Q. I need advice, there is this girl that i have always liked who a few months ago i discovered liked me. The catch is she was with someone else. We agreed that we would not act on these feelings since it wouldn't be morally right. She broke up with ...
A. 2 January 2008: Well, I think she knows how you feel, cause it is kinda obvious... so, just cool off for a while. Wait and see if she makes a move, and if she doesn't, then do something else in a couple of weeks but skip the hunting for a while. Sometimes we need ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my partner that I'm feeling really low?
Q. I don’t know how to tell my partner that I am feeling really low. I have always been prone to depression now and again, but I have been struggling with an extremely heavy workload which my boss didn’t appreciate until it was too late. I had what ...
A. 2 January 2008: Hi there...
I am not a doctor nor a clinical psychologist, but you could be facing a psych illness rather than a physical one. Have you been to a therapist? Depression can cause physical ailments as the ones you describe. Treating depressi... (read in full...)
Does he fancy my friend, who's just been dumped? He said he meant to comfort her by this allusion at my expense.
Q. I've been seeing my new boyfriend for a month and up until now, things were perfect, until last night. We went out for a few drinks, then bumped into a friend of mine who has just been dumped, and my b/f was like, "Oh, whoever dumped you must be mad ...
A. 2 January 2008: Well maybe it was a stupid metaphor on his part, but don't take it out of it context. By what you are saying, he was just trying to cheer her up. Men, sometimes, don't think straight and he really believes he did nothing wrong. I would have ... (read in full...)
My ex is going out with my friend, and I fear it might be wierd. Any advice?
Q. ok, so i broke up with my ex 5 months ago. we met each other through church. now i find out he might be going out with another girl (one of my closest friends) from my church. i have no problem with him dating again (i already have a new boyfriend). ...
A. 2 January 2008: We all have to live different experiences in life that will make us mature and grow. If they have a lot of chemistry together and you already moved on, give them a chance to do the same. It is always kinda weird to see an ex with a new love, ... (read in full...)
She pretended she wasn't on birth control and refused sex, but has now confessed she WAS on birth control, should I be angry?
Q. My girlfiend and I have been together for a year, and due to financial issues, she claimed she couldn't afford birth control. For two months she's supposedly been off birth control, but she confessed today that she has been taking birth control, and ...
A. 2 January 2008: If you are not angry why would you choose to be? Don't! However, you should have a conversation with her and try to understand where she is coming from and the reasons for holding back sex and not telling you what was really happening. Honesty is ... (read in full...)
Ti Amo: What if somebody said it to you?
Q. I was just wondering what reader's partners would do if they heard the word Ti Amo said to them? (sounds strange, this question, but I'd like your views) Ti Amo means (from a web description) It means that you want the person well – very well...
A. 2 January 2008: It just means I love you in Italian. In Spanish it is Te Amo. It is an I love you but very heart felt, otherwise we use other words to describe you care and like someone as "te quiero" but not yet love them. It can also be said to family and ... (read in full...)
If you love someone, shouldn't you just be with them? Why does forbidden love exist?
Q. I dunno about you lot, but I find 'forbidden love' hard to understand. There are natural problems such as 'unrequited' and 'already taken' which cannot be helped. However i see it as unnecessary to put a law on student-teacher relationships. A...
A. 2 January 2008: Societies shouldn't have to make laws for people to behave as they should. However, sometimes people don't make the best choices possible and/or hurt other people in the name of their own interests... this is where laws come in.
Loving or feeli... (read in full...)
I met a girl online, but I worry some issues I have will ruin a relationship
Q. I met a woman on the internet about 2 years ago.When we first started to chat we told each other alot about each other.Her past scared me off but we still talked.After being in therapy,I relized anyone 46 is going to have a past just like I do.I ...
A. 2 January 2008: Well... is this your grandmothers house? If so, can you afford to live on your own? Your grandmother might have given you the world but it is about time you take a stand and do a life for your own. Even the Bible says to leave mother ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend runs to his ex when we have problems and I'm sick of it!
Q. my boyfriend keeps running between me and his ex, when he has problems with me he runs to her and vice verse. I told him to get lost as three is a crowd and i deserve better, do you think i made the right choice, i love and miss him too much for ...
A. 2 January 2008: Well, making a decision as saying goodbye to someone you love is really difficult... but there was really nothing more you could do and still have your dignity!
This guy is only toying with the two of you and as long as you let him do it, he w... (read in full...)
I'm still madly deeply in love with my ex. How do I move on?
Q. how do i move on when im so madly deeply in love with my now x partner,i cry all the time,i cant eat,finding it impossible to sleep,cant even be bothered to feed my children,and i dont want to be with anybody else,he is my bestfriend and soulmate ...
A. 2 January 2008: If your life has had such a strong impact that you are not eating nor feeding your children, it is probable you need some professional help to aid you in getting through this rough times. Having said that, how long has it been? How long were you ... (read in full...)
I sent him a photo of my friend instead of mine and recently he texted me to set up a meeting soon. I really like him, what can I do now?
Q. Hi can someone help me I meet a guy online and we seem to hit it off well. He asked to see my photo and I sent him one of my friend "I know I know" I should not have done that but I liked his attention, the problem is he thinks that I am from the ...
A. 2 January 2008: I agree with Angel of Love, there is no way around it but telling the truth! The way to do it is your choice. However, if you feel the situation could become uncomfortable then talking over the phone and then sending a picture in an email would be ... (read in full...)
We've been trying for a baby for 4 months an nothing...!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for 4months now and nothing seems to be happening and i am beginning to get worried....am i over reacting a bit, and is there anything i can do to improve our chances..help please....
A. 26 December 2007: I believe you should visit your ginecologist to get some tests done. However, you should probably be trying for a year (3-4 times a week) before considering there is some sort of trouble.
Good luck!
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No contact for 2 months then I get a message; Merry Christmas. I love you. What does this mean?
Q. I broke up with my bf almost 2 months ago, but he wanted to remain friends...we just basically needed a break, but he slowly lost contact with me and began ignoring me...then he moved in with his new gf...its Christmas and I haven't heard from him ...
A. 26 December 2007: Let the new year bring you new experiences and a new love! Life is full of possibilities, choose to smile, have fun and love your family and friends. Happy holidays in these difficult times!... (read in full...)
What could these mixed signals mean??
Q. Heyy. Im 15. I'm just wondering what this guy i have known since i was little is thinking. Lately i have met up with him for the first time since i was about 4 years old. I am attracted to him and love his personality. When we met up he looked a...
A. 26 December 2007: Give time to time. Time is a very good allied, he will tell you what you need to know. Waiting is just the crappy part!!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How can I get him to "push my buttons" more?
Q. Ok i have a bit of a problem i love me b/f but sometimes i swear he has no clue about anything now im not sayin he is stupid but he just knows how to push my buttons and say the wrong things at the wrong time.....how do i drop a hint about how i ...
A. 26 December 2007: Sometimes, in a relationship, you have to say things your partner does not like to hear but you need to say them anyway. It is very important, when in a relationship, to be truthful to what you think and feel. If he is making you uncomfortable, ... (read in full...)
Is this kind of fighting my fault?
Q. I am in a loving but emotional rollercoaster of a relationship that can get verbally abusive and extremely hurtful. It's been 3 years and we are both tired of it, recognise the problem, but somehow haven't worked out a way of dealing with it. Let ...
A. 26 December 2007: I have mixed feelings on your post. On one hand you should be able to tell him what you want or don't want to do. If it was important to you to have an alone time with him maybe you should have agreed to go out on a family night (it was Christmas) ... (read in full...)
What are her intentions? Please help!
Q. I'm in the military and married my high school sweetheart whom I am more in love with today than I have ever been. We have been together about 7 years and married for almost 4 years. We both cheated when we were "kids" and just dating, but we have ...
A. 26 December 2007: She might be sending mixed messages because she has mixed feelings! It has to be very difficult to love someone but then not being able to have a "normal" marriage in which you can only see him 4 out of 14 months... that is a lot to ask from a ... (read in full...)
No contact for 2 months then I get a message; Merry Christmas. I love you. What does this mean?
Q. I broke up with my bf almost 2 months ago, but he wanted to remain friends...we just basically needed a break, but he slowly lost contact with me and began ignoring me...then he moved in with his new gf...its Christmas and I haven't heard from him ...
A. 26 December 2007: I think it means he appreciates you as a person and appreciates the relationship you had. He though of you and wanted to let you know.
He moved in with someone else after just 2 months of a breakup. Sometimes life has a way of taking out of o... (read in full...)
Does my crush like me? How do I know?
Q. how do i tell if my crush likes me? I'm naturely blonde so i act dumb sometimes. when i first moved here i didn't notice him at first until this boy that picks on every day.he stars at me and finds thing to anoy me.every day he would say oh thi...
A. 26 December 2007: Hey there...
If you want my honest opinion, I think you should let this go. Casey knows you like him (as does the rest of the school) and he has decided not to respond. Maybe he likes you and he is shy or he doesn't like the attention he is ge... (read in full...)
I feel all over the place at the moment and have no idea what to do.
Q. I feel all over the place at the moment and have no idea what to do. Theres this guy who I have been friends with for about 5 months now and he likes me I think and I like him a lot too...hes really nice, funny, charming, interesting, he respects...
A. 26 December 2007: Hi there!
You are a very young gal and very mature for your age I would say! The truth is you should be exploring these areas with which you don't feel comfortable before starting a sentimental relationship, once your feelings are at play it ... (read in full...)
Gutted he didnt want a Christmas kiss....does this mean he doesn't like me??
Q. hi there, I was just wondering what to do, you see i sort of like this guy who my best friend likes (i liked him first) and i was going to stay away from him because friends matter more then fighting over a guy. Yesterday i asked him if he wanted...
A. 23 December 2007: Hi!
There could be a million reasons why this guy preferred not being kissed, however, you should let him take the next step if there is one to take! Being flirty and letting someone know you like him is fine, but the guys like to do the "hunting... (read in full...)
Looking for reconcilliation with my best ladyfriend.
Q. I fell out with my best “lady- friend” 3 years ago. She was separating from her husband (my best friend too) and because I did not want to take side, my silence in her eyes damned me. She accused me of something unbearable and I, in a flux of anger ...
A. 22 December 2007: Hi there...
I am really sorry she has decided not to answer your letter yet. Sometimes people need time to heal and to forgive and ask for forgiveness in matters that are very emotional to them. In time, she might have an answer, maybe just not... (read in full...)
Looking for reconcilliation with my best ladyfriend.
Q. I fell out with my best “lady- friend” 3 years ago. She was separating from her husband (my best friend too) and because I did not want to take side, my silence in her eyes damned me. She accused me of something unbearable and I, in a flux of anger ...
A. 13 December 2007: Hi Pelleas...
Is there any way you could sit down and talk to her before Christmas? You could call and ask her to meet and sit down and see if there is any way the both of you can come to terms with the experience. Maybe you could write a letter... (read in full...)
He left me two years ago, but still keeps in contact, should I wait for him to come back to me?
Q. i was with someone and left me for someone else two years ago! He is still with this person and has moved in with her but he still speaks to me alot, and tells me he's still interested alot! what do i do? I love him, will we ever get back together? ...
A. 10 December 2007: Even if he did leave her, eventually, is this really fare to you? Are you supposed to sit down and wait until he has had enough of the new gal and comes back?
Maybe this is the guy for you. By moving in with someone else he made a huge statemen... (read in full...)
Trapped by this feeling that I'm disgusting to women. Help!
Q. I feel so bad about sex and intimacy that I haven’t so much as kissed a girl in 3 years. My only sexual experience was 5 years ago and was really bad. She didn't seem to "hot" and I just couldn't do it, lost my erection and it was over and she left. ...
A. 10 December 2007: Yes... go to a mental health professional. Harsh but true! Your feelings of inadequacy probably have a deep root that needs to be looked at and healed.
I met a guy who probably felt as you do. We could talk nicely but if I were ever to get n... (read in full...)
I think I have annoyed him and I really don't want this to end.
Q. Just as a warning, this could be quite long. So, I met this guy about 4 weeks ago through a friend. At first, we were just gonna be friends, but he kinda figured out I liked him, and he asked me out. I suppose the situation is slightly strange...
A. 10 December 2007: Hey Raoul,
Actions speak louder than words. Is he calling you or inviting you out? Do you talk as often in the MSN?
This may be difficult to accept but it seems you both have different views on what "relationship" you two have. If he is ... (read in full...)
My fiance is to become a father by another woman. Will he eventually leave me?
Q. I need advice please - I am engaged to be married to a wonderfull man in a few months time. The problem is that he has an ex girlfriend that is pregnant and having his child. We were dating for three months and were already in love and talking...
A. 10 December 2007: Give time to time. Do you need to get married before this child is born? All relationships need time to mature and your does too. If my math is correct, you are planning to wed before your first year anniversary, if so, you should give it a ... (read in full...)
Can she go to a doctor and see if she's a virgin.
Q. If a 5 year-old girl did anything sexual would she still be considered a virgin at the age of 17? For example if she were to go to the doctor to get checked to see if she was a virgin or not would the doctor say that she is a virgin or that she is ...
A. 10 December 2007: Virginity is determined physiologically by the hymen which is a membrane that partially covers the vagina. However, some women are born with a torn hymen or even with non at all so their virginity could not be defined by this.
If, while 5, she w... (read in full...)
Looking for reconcilliation with my best ladyfriend.
Q. I fell out with my best “lady- friend” 3 years ago. She was separating from her husband (my best friend too) and because I did not want to take side, my silence in her eyes damned me. She accused me of something unbearable and I, in a flux of anger ...
A. 6 December 2007: First of all let me say I am very sorry for your loss, I lost my brother about 4 years ago and my mother and father still grieve him very much; so I am familiar with that pain. Some other people, however, are not because they haven't been through ... (read in full...)
Looking for reconcilliation with my best ladyfriend.
Q. I fell out with my best “lady- friend” 3 years ago. She was separating from her husband (my best friend too) and because I did not want to take side, my silence in her eyes damned me. She accused me of something unbearable and I, in a flux of anger ...
A. 4 December 2007: The thing in relationships and strains in them is all the persons involved are in some way responsible of what happened. Try to acknowledge how she felt and how you could have reacted differently.
Making amendments means asking for forgiven... (read in full...)
With my boyfriend over 2 years. It's kind of getting boring and settling into a routine.
Q. Please, I need suggestions big time!!!! With my boyfriend over 2 years. It's kind of getting boring and settling into a routine. What can we do to get the fun and excitement back into it???? I have suggested nights where just me and him meet up ...
A. 4 December 2007: Your imagination is the limit!!
1. Make a scavenger hunt for him with clues and little "gifts" at which the last surprise is a picture of you in sexy clothing with a message saying you are waiting for him in X place. Then make it worth it!
2... (read in full...)
My parents forbid me to see my bf but I still do.
Q. I am 15 years old my halfway boyfriend is 17, we aren't supposed to be together,my parents forbidden us to see each other. We have been together for like almost two years, when the started to not let us see each other was about 7months ago, i h...
A. 4 December 2007: Why did your parents forbid you to see each other in the first place? Is he bad for you? If you had already seen each other for more than a year, it seems unusual that they just decided not lo let you see each other.
Can you both sit down and... (read in full...)
He said he would wait for me but the way he is acting I am not sure he will.
Q. Just to recap: I was in a 3year relationship with a man I loved dearly and with all my heart. However, we fought a lot and he never understood the things I needed and I was always wrong which frustrated me a lot and was always unhappy. He is a gre...
A. 4 December 2007: Hey Alicia...
That sure is complicated! When relationships are not working, they are not working, if they are beginning or if you have given three years into it, they are not working.
Now. The first guy; I believe you've tried everything... (read in full...)
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