My boyfriend wants to become a Buddhist monk. What can I do?
Q. I have been together with my bf for 3 years. He is stable and nice guy. Few days back, he told me that he wants to become a monk when he is 55 years old and that was his goal in his life. I was totally speechless, besides tears i really dont know ...
A. 20 May 2008: A lot of things change in 30 years (judging by your age). The truth is he could die the day before his 54 birthday... I know, bad cynical joke. But my point is a lot of things change over the years including ones point of views in a lot of stuff. ... (read in full...)
He wants naked pictures of me
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. Its a long distance relationship. To be honest Ive never met him before yet. He is a friend of mines boyfriends brother. We enjoy talking to each other everynight for more than 4 hours. We just ...
A. 20 May 2008: Stand your ground. I understand this is a guy you like and with whom you enjoy talking to but the truth is that if he cannot respect you decision, he does not deserve you. A distant or close relationship is based on communication, trust and ... (read in full...)
I was outgoing and extroverted and we were always talking, but recently I've nothing to say to him. Do we have a chance?
Q. So. I need some advice. I've been seeing this person for 6 months now. When we started hanging out- as friends- i was acting like myself. I was outgoing and extroverted and we were always talking, I actually dominated most of the conversa...
A. 20 May 2008: The thing is, according to you, you had already broken the shell. Look for other explanations... has he been criticizing what you say or do? Do you think he disapproves of you or your behavior? Do you feel rejected and if so why? Has this ... (read in full...)
I had sex a couple of days ago and I'm still bleeding, why??
Q. i'm 15 years old and i just had sex a couple days ago. i'm still bleeding from this. i can't figure out if it is because he scratched me or if it i "you know what"!! please help me!!...
A. 19 May 2008: You should definitely visit you gynecologist since spotting between periods is not normal and if you are spotting without ever having a period something could be wrong in there or your hormones could be playing a trick on you. In any case, getting ... (read in full...)
In it for the kids, how do I choose a life of my choice instead of a life for others??
Q. THIS IS WHERE I'M AT RIGHT NOW IN MY LIFE... QUOTES I FOUND ON LINE.. HOW DO I CHOICE A LIFE OF MY CHOICE INSTEAD OF A LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN? I can choose to stay married until the pain of staying married becomes greater than the pain of...
A. 19 May 2008: Well... my parents divorced when I was 9. I remember my mother asking what I though about it and I actually told her to divorce! My father drank a lot and they also used to fight a lot. Whenever he was home he was cranky and I couldn't really ... (read in full...)
I sweat really bad, anyone knows how to stop it???
Q. this may seem a little funny but its a porblem that i dont konw how to solve. i sweat really bad. i use deoderant all the time and if its too hot ill look at my armpits and there will be massive sweat patches. even in school, i know that i ...
A. 19 May 2008: You can find some information on hyperhidrosis (excess sweat) in the following sites:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hyperhidrosis
http://www.parsec.it/summit/hyper1e.htm
http://www.hyperhidrosisweb.com/
Best of lucks!... (read in full...)
If you haven't had sex for several years, will it hurt over again like the first time?
Q. Hello,i am a 30 year old woman and i have a question and hopefully u can answer it for me I havent had sex in about 3 years i would like to know if it would hurt all over again ...
A. 19 May 2008: No.. it doesn't hurt like the first time. Just make sure to be lubricated and to take it easy so you really enjoy it! Good luck... (read in full...)
I had sex a couple of days ago and I'm still bleeding, why??
Q. i'm 15 years old and i just had sex a couple days ago. i'm still bleeding from this. i can't figure out if it is because he scratched me or if it i "you know what"!! please help me!!...
A. 19 May 2008: Are you bleeding a lot or just spotting? Is it time for your menstruation? Was it your first time? Do you usually bleed? Really need more info! ... (read in full...)
I thought he really liked me, but then he told me it was just a fling for him. I'm so hurt right now and don't know what to think or do?
Q. Hoping someone can help. I am so hurt right now. My ex left town three years ago and moved back to his hometown. He was with someone and they split about six months ago. He called me in February and I stopped in and visited with him in March.We have ...
A. 19 May 2008: Apparently it is time to move on!
He seems to care about you, just in a different way than you do. Give time to time to see what happens. He is currently emotionally unavailable for anything other than a physical relationship and you don't wa... (read in full...)
My wife since 4 years told me she is not happy with this anymore, what can I do to win her love and heart again?
Q. I am a young man married to a pretty lady who is my life and my one and only queen. She is more romantic than i am. For some time now we have been having a lot of problems in our relationship and i want to make her happy for the rest of our lives to...
A. 19 May 2008: That actually depends on whats going on... being very romantic on a one time basis versus working with whatever is making her feel she is not happy anymore might not be your best bet. Even though a romantic gesture will probably make her smile, ... (read in full...)
Why was she afraid to tell me about meeting her ex for dinner? Is this ok?
Q. why would my gf of 4 yrs.not tell me about her talking to her old bf? then i found out she met him for dinner and are now just friends.we were planning to get married,but the trust thing just went out the window.help! we love each other so ...
A. 19 May 2008: This is a very delicate situation, I honestly think it is not ok for her to do that. However, I would not run to any conclusions either!
Sometimes, and more so if you have been talking marriage, one can start to wonder what would have been if.... (read in full...)
Thinking of giving him sexy pictures of myself to be remembered during the short while he is away, how to have them done professionally?
Q. Hi My BF is going abroad for about two weeks, and I want to give him something so he can remember me ... I was thinking about some "sexy" pictures for each day ... but dont know where to go to have them done (want to have it professionaly done,so ...
A. 19 May 2008: I am not from that area but be careful. Having sexy pictures of you running around and falling into someone else's hands doesn't sound too nice. Or later on, into a scorned ex hands! Be careful.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Did I make the wrong decision by temporarily breaking up with him?
Q. So I was dating this guy that I was friends with for two years...just to give you a little bit of a background, his best friend and I were 'sleeping together' for 6 years...he knew coming into the relationship that I was with him but one night when ...
A. 19 May 2008: Sometimes we make bad decisions, but then, sometimes we make bad decisions to turn out to be the best. I know this will sound harsh, but if in less than two weeks this soul mate, love of your life, destined to be together guy has moved on with ... (read in full...)
Is this site legal?
Q. hi i no this isnt a relationship question but ive heard some other aunts talking about it before, is ******.com illegal in the UK? thanks xx [moderator comment: site name removed. No it's not illegal. Just inappropriate]...
A. 19 May 2008: With you on this one waterloo! How can this be answered? ... (read in full...)
I've never kissed. Should I ask this girl out?
Q. im 15 i really like this girl but ive only met her once we talk alot on msn but i really dont know how she feels for me how can i tell if i should ask her out or not? and im also very shy ive not actualy kissed a girl and ive had only 1 girlf...
A. 19 May 2008: Go ahead... ask her out. The worst scenario is she says no. And thats that! Other possible scenarios might include a yes and a kiss!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I avoid the stains?
Q. Hey :] hope someone can help me, this may seem funny but really its getting rather expensive :D, basically me and my boyfriend have only recently tried out handjobs and he prefers me to be on bottom. Is there anyway he can finish and not make suc...
A. 19 May 2008: I can think of a couple of things you could try out:
1. Use a condom for him to cum into.
2. Have a second tshirt available and wash the one stained before getting it back home.
3. Cover the penis with a paper towel when he is about to cum.
4... (read in full...)
Why these itches after I use my vibrator?
Q. After I use my vibrator, which is just a normal metal-type one, i itch really badly down below. I dont get this after having sex with a boy tho.I know its not STI as I have been checked very recently and got the all clear and that included thrush. ...
A. 19 May 2008: Oroberi is probably right, if you don't have the money to buy a new one, you can put a condom on it. An although it is just a toy, never use a condom twice. Good luck.... (read in full...)
It sounds as cheating as he is in another relation, but we're not formally divorced yet, would it be wrong if I ceded to his innuendos?
Q. ok, my question may be kinda silly but maybe fresh eyes can make sense of it. My Newly seperated husband (living with someone at the moment but not divorced from me) has been going on his webcam during our conversations on the computer and making an ...
A. 24 April 2008: Hello.. been there not done that.
My now ex husband used to do that when we separated and it continued after we were divorced. He still makes those approaches although he is married to someone else.
The truth is you need to know your motiva... (read in full...)
I am once again pregnant- going to have an abortion- can our relationship survive?
Q. Once again, I am really struggling. For those who have perhaps read my questions before, you will know that I am a very lucky girl in a loving relationship. But why don't i feel that way? My boyfriend is possibly one of the best things ...
A. 17 March 2008: Hello there...
Breathe!! Slow down. Is there any counseling available at your university? Can you access any counseling services in which you can talk with someone and try to organize your thoughts and feelings?
It seems you have two differe... (read in full...)
Soon after his fourth AWOL, we broke up once again. I want to forget it all, but I think I love him.
Q. last year, i got to know this guy. he's my first ever boyfriend. although i just knew him for a day, i've started to develop feelings for him. my girlfriends did remind me not to fall in love too fast for someone i didnt really know. but i didnt ...
A. 17 March 2008: Hey there...
It is really hard reading your story as I have had friends in very similar situations and it is always really hard for them to get away from these relationships. The truth is this is a very toxic relationship and getting out of it is... (read in full...)
He said we can advance by the time I reach 18 if I still like him. Why shouldn't we date now?
Q. I am 15 and i like someone who is 20. We both have feelings for each other but because of the age difference we have to wait until i am 18. he said that when i am 18 if i still have feelings for him than we should make the relationship serious. but ...
A. 19 February 2008: There is nothing wrong with liking someone. I think he is actually being a nice guy and protecting you.
At your age it might seem the world will end if you don't date this guy but it won't. Three years will give you the opportunity to meet oth... (read in full...)
Is it better to get experienced and then settle down? Do I sacrifice my relationship in order to acquire that "experience"?
Q. Is it possible to have been in one relationship with one person and just stay with that person? Or is it better to get'experienced' and then settle down? I am a lil confused, I have been with my gf for 1year and 2months, shes my first gf an...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi...
Two basic things here: 1.Your time together should not define your relationship status, your feelings should! 2.Being "experienced" is overrated! Having your heart broken a couple of times or having sex with someone and feeling absolute... (read in full...)
I just want the truth...is my bf bi or not??
Q. I need some serious help, my boyfriend and I have been together off and on for over a year.. I found out he was a member of a adult website and listed himself as bi-sexual, when confronted he was defensive and said no I just like looking at ...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi there!
I think the important thing here is you need him to be really honest with you about his sexuality and what he likes or dislikes. Is not only that he is or not bi/gay, but rather that if he has sexual fantasies or desires, you should b... (read in full...)
Wondering if many people out there have met someone later in life and whether there is hope for me yet!
Q. Hi, I'm in my early thirties and still haven't met the love of my life. I've had quite a few short term relationships (weeks/months) but nothing that you would consider serious I don't know why this is the case. I've had my heart broken a few tim...
A. 19 February 2008: Hi there...
First of, its always a good exercise to examine yourself and the reasons for so short term relationships. Sometimes there might be something in our past or they way we signify relationships that might damage our perspectives of love ... (read in full...)
Is he having or had an affair?
Q. This is an update to a post i put on dated 18.12.07 regarding a "Happy Birthday" text sent to my husband. I have as advised kept an eye on things this month. There have been phone calls between him and her, which would be work related. Last Tu...
A. 28 January 2008: Hi there... this might sound harsh but... you really need a hobby! Not only there seems nothing is going on but you are making it sound like saying darling is a sin. If all emails are work related, I don't think there is anything there. On the ... (read in full...)
I found messages between my husband and his ex on the internet,he went out with her, I can't get over the hurt
Q. I need advise on somthing that is tearing me apart. I have been happily married for 8 years and my husband and i have a great life together. I will get to the point, he has been using Facebook for the past couple of months and comes home an...
A. 28 January 2008: Hi Melika...
There are two, very separate issues here, that you are kinda mixing up (difficult not to). Not being able to have children is not your fault and you should not beat yourself over it. There are other alternatives the two of you can ... (read in full...)
Things were going well, then suddenly sour. I don't know what to think.
Q. Dear readers I have a question which i need some help and advice on. By not knowing me i think you can provide me with your honest and open opinion I met this guy off the internet in August. it was an indian dating website which i had no hope of w...
A. 28 January 2008: To be honest... if you have been together for five months and he is still debating over if he likes you enough or not, I don't think he is your guy! I can understand that someone might not be sure about going out on a second date because of looks, ... (read in full...)
Mom died, and my family is turning their backs on me, what can I do?
Q. I rang my Mom on Tuesday and was told by my sister on Tuesday that my mom had six weeks left to live. My sister had contacted everyone else in the family but me. My mom is in the US and I live in Ireland. I gathered up my resources and rang my Mom ...
A. 28 January 2008: Unfortunately I have known one too many families that fight over monies left by their mothers and fathers. I have even known people who talk about what they will or will not inherit once their parents are deceased. These are very difficult ... (read in full...)
I want to go on the "Pill", how do I go about it?
Q. need advice on the pill really, i really want to go on it but ive never had sex and never had really bad periods really, thing is i dont fully understand it any advice on the pill plz ...
A. 28 January 2008: Hey there...
There are different types of anti conceptive pills... depending on what you want to use them for (not getting pregnant, regularizing your period, etc) then you can choose the best option for you.
This is really a matter to be con... (read in full...)
He likes to receive, but won't give. Why not?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for more than a year. he's my first boyfriend and i really relaly love him. we've been having sex for half a year and he's the one who always initiates it. i do go down on him when i feel he wants it, but i ...
A. 18 January 2008: It is very selfish on him and you should have a conversation asking for your rights! lol
Certainly if there was something in a couple that one of them did not want to try for a reason, the other person needs to deal with that. However, you shou... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. Why can't he be happy with just a kiss?
Q. is my bf ok? we've been dating for a year now i really do care about him and he loves me to death. but im just wondering, everytime we kiss and i mean each and every time the kiss leads to something else. when we kiss he always wanna "cum" then he ...
A. 18 January 2008: Well... men are really really sexual beings. Having said that, he is just probably horny all the time he is around you! Have you tried to talk to him about this?
If you want to have sex with him, then thats your prerogative but you should s... (read in full...)
Could unprotected sex cause a problem?
Q. Right, about a week ago my period stopped. It wasn't very painful, but it sometimes isn't. But ever since I stopped, I've been having what I think is period pain. As soon as I stopped my period, I had unprotected sex. (I know unprotected sex was ...
A. 18 January 2008: There is not much to say here... if you still have pain you should definitely go to your doctor. I know some yeast infections that could cause discomfort but there is usually itching and foul discharge also.
Your pain does not necessar... (read in full...)
Is soap a good 'lube'?
Q. is it safe to have sex in the shower when soap is used as a sort of lub...
A. 18 January 2008: You should not use soap as it could irritate you. Try to have other types of lube available, water based.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I must always have a girlfriend?
Q. Why do I feel like I must always have a girlfriend? Meaning, I don't really feel like myself without one. My gf just broke up with me a few hours ago, over a stupid overblown argument. I don't exactly care that we're broken up. I feel more reliev...
A. 18 January 2008: Well... although we all were born alone, it is very difficult sometimes to be alone. If you find yourself spending time with a g/f just because you don't want to feel alone (because if you didn't have fun or talk much, you were basically alone), ... (read in full...)
How can I get on top and go at it more quickly?
Q. I know this sounds stupid, but when me and my bf have sex, when I'm on top (like, resting slightly forward, putting weight on my hands which are either side of his head) I can't seem to go fast enough. It's hard to go fast, and I know this is how h...
A. 18 January 2008: Well.. maybe you should try not to lean forward. If he holds your hands, he will give you some stability, that way you can just move your waist and it should be easier (as Phil said). Also, you can rest your hands is his chest.
The trick is... (read in full...)
I have so many problems in my life - not least a married man who can't make his mind up!
Q. i am divorced for two years and have a 3 year old son. i am a case of depression and very emotional and a emotionaly weak girl.i want someone in my life who loves me like anything and i keep on falling for married men as i cant bear loneliness. this ...
A. 18 January 2008: When we, in life, start making good decisions for ourselves, things begin to turn right. Why would you go out with a married man? If he is not happy at home, well let him fix that with his wife. She, as a fellow human being and female deserves ... (read in full...)
Was he doing it for longer than he admitted to?
Q. Hi this time last year I had learnt that my boyfriend now my fiance had been making calls to sex lines. I was drinking a lot and he had just lost his Nan and we had a lot of money toubles. At the time I was cut up however after a lot of thought and ...
A. 18 January 2008: I really think there could be something else bothering you, maybe you are not sure about getting married, so you are digging up a past that was more than a year ago.
Are you feeling cold feet? Best of lucks!... (read in full...)
Its all over before its started!! I need help please Guys
Q. Dear Cupid. A have a serious premature ejaculation problem. I think it is caused by my bad masturbation habits when I was younger. I wanted to reach an orgasm as fast as I could and I think that this has caused my problems. I need advice how to ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hi there speedy!! lol... sorry!! Well there are a couple of things you can do...
1. Whenever you believe you are getting close to the orgasm you can: think of something else besides pleasure, try to go slower, change positions, give her oral unt... (read in full...)
Are my interests normal?
Q. ok i know i probably already know the answer, but im gonna ask anyway. i look at porn sometimes wen i masturbate and i prefer looking at girls and girls rather then 'straight' sex, and i think about it too. i have a boyf and love him to pieces but i ...
A. 17 January 2008: Well, sexual curiosity and experimentation is quite normal at your age, but it doesn't necessarily define your sexuality. Sometimes some fantasies are just meant to be that, not real! And they excite us as fantasies but not so much in reality. ... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and now doesn't speak to me. Whats going on?
Q. So my girlfriend of about three months told me about a week ago that she wanted to "take a break" because she needed to focus on her schoolwork, and that there's some problems at home. I come to school the next day (Friday), and she doesn't say hi ...
A. 17 January 2008: Maybe you can try talking to her outside of school. Tell her what you feel and that you want to remain friends, to tell you if you have done something wrong and how to fix your relationship.
Breaking up with someone from school is very difficul... (read in full...)
Would a girl know that I like her with this kind of xmas gift?
Q. Were co-workers and we've known each other for about 5 months now. Hung out couple of times and seem to start a good friendship. I'm so into this girl but i just cannot read her. She seems to appreciate little things i give her once in a while, ...
A. 17 January 2008: Ahhh... yes! It is such a personalized gift that I couldn't imagine someone not knowing there was something more than a friendship going on in your mind. Her reaction, however, doesn't seem that appropriate for a hand made gift. If she fancy you ... (read in full...)
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