Known him for 2 weeks - is it too soon for a visit to his town??
Q. Hello everyone.. i have a question, and my friends are giving different answers, would be good to get some objective views! On a previous post, i mentioned my failing relationship. Well, it failed. To be honest, when it ended, i was devastated, but ...
A. 13 June 2008: Honestly, the two beds in one room do not sound like a good idea for someone you just met. Although I met my husband through the net -so I know there are good guys out there-, I definitely do not recommend making commitments to stay together the ... (read in full...)
Having a partner is not everything but I don't really want to spend the rest of my life on my own, any helpful advice would be so appreciated
Q. I split up from my partner in september because he cheated on me, it was the most painful time, emotionally and financially, i,m now starting to get on my feet at last and i can tell you, it hasn't been easy as i did love him to bits and i thought ...
A. 13 June 2008: Hey you just got back!! lol... relax and enjoy! I have 33 year old friends that have never had a boyfriend so you are definitely in good shape!! Here they say that if you've loved once, you'll love again...
I think the most important thing is... (read in full...)
How do I make make this not seem like an ulterior motive?
Q. Recently I sent my (LDR) ex g/f a gift I'd made her for Valentine's (we broke up before V-day) ... and she called to say she loves it/to thank me for it. ... to make this short(er) - I want to go visit her later this summer but I'm wondering ho...
A. 13 June 2008: Try being very casual and almost as if she brought it up. For example: "what are you doing over the summer", "it would be nice to see you", "we never went to X in your town". This are very subtle hints that should lead her to plan something out ... (read in full...)
Known him for 2 weeks - is it too soon for a visit to his town??
Q. Hello everyone.. i have a question, and my friends are giving different answers, would be good to get some objective views! On a previous post, i mentioned my failing relationship. Well, it failed. To be honest, when it ended, i was devastated, but ...
A. 13 June 2008: I will go with GothPod on this one... why don't you go with a female friend? That way you will certainly take out the "dating" reference and it will just be a party where you will meet someone new. You and your friend can sleep in the hotel and he ... (read in full...)
What should I do to help motivate me of help me quit weed?
Q. Okay heres the problem Im around the age of 24 and I have a very bad addiction to weed.I want to stop so bad because it's effecting me at my job but i've never felt so good in my life when I smoke. I know it's a dumb thing to do but if I dont st...
A. 12 June 2008: You need to look for help! If the possibility of loosing your job, your friends and your family is not enough for you to stop smoking, then you might be addicted to this. Addiction is considered (by some) a sickness familiar with the obsessive ... (read in full...)
Can you get herpes from kissing?
Q. Can you get herpes just from kissing someone with it? I frenched kissed a guy and later he told me he had herpes! Now I'm a little freaked, you can only get that from sex right? That's what he told me....
A. 12 June 2008: YES!! There are 2 types of herpes. Type I Simplex, which is the most likely (about 80% of the population has it) is transmitted from the mouth. By drinking from the same glass, eating with the same fork and you guessed it, french kissing. Up to ... (read in full...)
My brother is slowly destroying our family with drugs...
Q. I feel so sorry for my mum. My brother is 26 going on 16, and is addicted to cocaine. He has gone through periods when he gets off it, but ends up back there. Our mum is adorable, but she is soft. She has spent all his life spending on him. He ...
A. 12 June 2008: I think you should help out. The truth is drugs are a very difficult thing to deal with for all of your family and by being his sister you are automatically involved.
Look for information and aid in the narcotics anonymous pages. There are also... (read in full...)
She has changed so much since she became pregnant. How do I get it to go back to how it was?
Q. I met my girlfriend about six months ago. I am a very successful professional and she is a single mother with two small children. We come from very different backgrounds, but still, after the first date we were hooked on each other. She would call ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi there... since your post was not classified as verified writer, people who have already answered will not get a message of follow-up.
If you have another question regarding this issue feel free to post a new question and include new details/... (read in full...)
Should I be patient with him?
Q. QUESTION: Should I be patient with him? I'm a 'single' 30 year old female (with 2 sons ages 8 and 9 - different fathers) and have dated men older than myself (e.g.45yrs) in the past. Been out of a relationship for 2 yrs...was not 'looking' for an...
A. 12 June 2008: Wow... it seems you have really been able to reflect A LOT on what is going on with you and this is definitely very important for any relationship you are in.
In terms of him, I understand how your previous experience might make you go ballisti... (read in full...)
Should I be patient with him?
Q. QUESTION: Should I be patient with him? I'm a 'single' 30 year old female (with 2 sons ages 8 and 9 - different fathers) and have dated men older than myself (e.g.45yrs) in the past. Been out of a relationship for 2 yrs...was not 'looking' for an...
A. 12 June 2008: So... how did it go???? LOL.... I'm bitting my nails! ;)... (read in full...)
Is there anybody out there who feels as though being a wife and motherhood has enriched their lives rather than detracted from it?
Q. i am 23 years old. i live with flatmates, the same age as me, i have for 2 years. i have a university degree, a challenging, satisfying and well paying job. the majority of my friends are single, love to party and are out socializing at every opp...
A. 12 June 2008: I'm too in a circle of scholars and it is very interesting to hear and learn their rhetoric. I remember one of them saying she was pregnant and instead of the "congratulations" speech she got the "Are you keeping it?" question.
Truth be said ... (read in full...)
Is there really love at first sight?
Q. Is there realy such thing as love at first sight or is it just lust? Do men say they love you after a couple of dates just so they can sleep with you? Come on guys be honest have you ever done this?...
A. 12 June 2008: Mine was definitely at first sight and he isn't a hunk (me either). But when I looked into his eyes I just knew there was something great there. After we started talking we have never stopped, even for a single day. We recently got married after ... (read in full...)
Our mothers are always there!! How can we spend some time alone?
Q. hey me and my chick wanna be alown together but we cant no matter where we are our mothers are there!! any advice of where we can be alown. so far we only get to kiss at school but we cant be together after school becouse of our mothers!!...
A. 11 June 2008: Hi there... enjoy this part of your lives, you'll have a lot of time to grow up and have "alone" time later. Just enjoy the relationship you have, in the circumstances it is in!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Should I be patient with him?
Q. QUESTION: Should I be patient with him? I'm a 'single' 30 year old female (with 2 sons ages 8 and 9 - different fathers) and have dated men older than myself (e.g.45yrs) in the past. Been out of a relationship for 2 yrs...was not 'looking' for an...
A. 11 June 2008: Hi there... didn't mean to sound cruel, I was just repeating what you said in your post in other words that might be more difficult to read coming from someone else.
I said:
1. you are the one pursuing something el... (read in full...)
Has any one got back with an Ex? Did it work?
Q. I've recently got back in touch with the guy I dated when I was in school and he seems interested again, but even though he's the only guy I ever truly loved, something is holding me back from getting back with him. Has anyone else ever got back ...
A. 10 June 2008: I did... no it did not work out. As Frank said, if what broke you up is still there, there is a big possibility you will break up again.
Other than that... trying never hurt anyone!... (read in full...)
Two ex'es have disappointed me, how do I assure that my third lover will not leave me too?
Q. hey i will start that i loved twice in my whole life i am 18 years and i get dumped by the 2 guys i loved in my life the first one left me cuz he dont want me to speak to anyone except him and he dosent want me to have friends ... the second one ...
A. 10 June 2008: There are no assurances in love and thats what makes it wonderful!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with me, why do I still love my ex after everything that he did to me?
Q. Me and my ex broke up about a month and half ago. I still hurt and miss him, i cry alot, and im trying to meet other guys but i find it hard. My ex raised his hand at me on one ocassion, he said he didnt mean and it was sorry. I forgave him!...
A. 10 June 2008: Getting over someone takes more time hun. For some people even years. When we share so much of ourself with someone it is very normal to continue to have feelings for this person. However, by what you say, this is the best decision for both of ... (read in full...)
Do I end it or not?
Q. so im dating(1.5 years) a guy 4 years older than me. lately ive been feeling a little disconnected and its starting to really bother me. the romance is dying, he's always busy, and he recently told me he was applying to a job which was on the other ...
A. 10 June 2008: It really sounds like fading love. If he is good to you and a good BF you should consider talking to him to see if there is anything left to save. Other than that it seems you have the answers to your questions.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I walk out with my dignity intact? I am not a slut!!!
Q. I broke up with my bf last night. He kept bothering me about my past. In my past I made out with two strangers (older than me) when I was drunk. I also had a friend with benefits. I remained a virgin though. So I got fed up and broke up with him ...
A. 10 June 2008: The only important thing in life is what you think about yourself!! Do you believe you are a slut?
... (read in full...)
Should I be patient with him?
Q. QUESTION: Should I be patient with him? I'm a 'single' 30 year old female (with 2 sons ages 8 and 9 - different fathers) and have dated men older than myself (e.g.45yrs) in the past. Been out of a relationship for 2 yrs...was not 'looking' for an...
A. 10 June 2008: It sounds you have given a lot and he is not really giving that much back. You are creating a situation that is very comfortable to him as you give him the minutes to call you (and anyone else), you are the one pursuing something else and he has no ... (read in full...)
I have never 'cum' before!
Q. I've been participating in sexual activities for a couple of years, on and off. But I have never 'cum' before! I know not every girl cums, but I don't even get aroused. I am excited for about the first 30 seconds and then nothing. It's not painful, ...
A. 10 June 2008: You've had 30 seconds of pleasure doing what? Do you masturbate? Is this pleasure coming from the clitoris, penetration, G spot? Have you tried stimulating your clit during penetration? Really need more info to try and help out!... (read in full...)
How should I deal with this very puzzling girl who has stood me up again and again? I think I'll be seeing her soon as she's on an event list for the company I work for!
Q. OK I really really need advice on how to deal with a tricky situation!!! There is a girl who knew friends of mine and saw me out, she found me on myspace and started emailing me. Apparently I have been told I look like Anjelina Jolie (supposedl...
A. 9 June 2008: Hi there...
My intention was not to victimize her at all!! The truth is there are a lot of our actions that can be explained by previous experiences. The fact that she likes to play mind games (because it might give her some type of adrenali... (read in full...)
How should I deal with this very puzzling girl who has stood me up again and again? I think I'll be seeing her soon as she's on an event list for the company I work for!
Q. OK I really really need advice on how to deal with a tricky situation!!! There is a girl who knew friends of mine and saw me out, she found me on myspace and started emailing me. Apparently I have been told I look like Anjelina Jolie (supposedl...
A. 9 June 2008: I genuinely think that even though she might not have some physical ailment from which she was not able to attend your date, she does have something wrong with her. I mean, you just don't go about asking people out and then standing them up several ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried he might cheat on me!
Q. im so freaked out my bf might cheat on me.... ive been in a relationship for almost 4yrs now and ive realized that im quite a jealous girlfriend - and i hate tht im like this,,,, you see on a few occasions my bf has lied to me about other girl...
A. 7 June 2008: What did the text messages say?? If they were just talking whatever, and did not include anything like: I'll see you tonight, I miss you or I loved what we did last night... I don't think there is a lot to worry about. Seems you might be getting ... (read in full...)
I feel really abnormal because I have never been kissed! I'm 15.
Q. Ok, so Im 15 - 16 in a few months time - and Ive only ever had 1 boyfriend and never been kissed. All my friends have got boyfriends or have had them in the last year and all of them, with the exception of 1, have been kissed, so I feel really ...
A. 6 June 2008: Having or not a kiss definitely does not qualify someone as abnormal. A lot of other stuff does!
My first kiss, in fact, was when I was 16 and I REALLY didn't like it lol. So, don't think this is the best thing to ever happen to someone.... (read in full...)
My BF who recently expiated his penalty says I am hiding him! I am only afraid of my family's reaction! Any ideas?
Q. hi im dating this guy who came who came out of prison a few months ago, i love hm dearly bt i am so afraid dat my family wont accept hm nd that is causing problems for us at the moment cause hes feeling im hiding him and say if i really love him i ...
A. 6 June 2008: Well... how long have you known him for? Do you love him? Do you want to spend your life with him? If you answer more than at least 6 months and yes to the other two, he is right and you should introduce him regardless of what your family ... (read in full...)
Could he be he is scared of commitment because he was a virgin?
Q. i was my my best friends first. he was a virgin. i am in love with him but he dosent want to be in a committed relationship right now..... but yet we continue to fool around. does he love me? could he be scared of commit ? or is he just in it for ...
A. 6 June 2008: Nobody can tell you how he feels or thinks but by the little detail you provide I'd guess he just wants the sex. If he was in love this would show on his actions! Best of lucks!... (read in full...)
Just started dating a week ago, and found out she doesn't want any more children! Should I break up or try to change her mind?
Q. Me and this girl started dating a week ago, and i do like her alot and would love for this to continue for a long time, but she already has 2 kids which i am fine with and will treat them like my own, except i always wanted a child of my own, with ...
A. 5 June 2008: You've just started dating. Give yourselves the time to get to know each other... along the way the relationship could end, she could change her mind, you could change your mind, the war might be over. I mean... give time to time! A week is not ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is pregnant!
Q. I am 13 year old boy and i have a really big problem. i am dating a 15 year old girl and several weeks ago we staying at my house. its a long story but at the end we drank a bit and i was drunk and really horny so i had sex with her, i didnt use a ...
A. 5 June 2008: So... a bad choice, or maybe a couple of bad choices... but whats done is done! Talk to her and then to your parents. The truth is she needs to go to the doctor asap to have a lot of check ups and to make sure the baby is developing ok and she ... (read in full...)
Remembering our baby boy angel!!!
Q. I was wondering if anyone could help me. I had a miscarriage in january and my and my boyfriend are wanting to do something on what would have been my due date in a few weeks to remember our little boy. I am having a really hard time and the closer ...
A. 5 June 2008: Maybe you can have kind of a service with your spouse in which you write a letter to your baby boy with about what meant to have him in your life even for such a short period of time. Maybe include something acknowledging that would have been his ... (read in full...)
How to slim down quickly so that my dress will fit?
Q. Sorry this isn't a relationship question but: I bought a £135 dress from Coast a few weeks ago its absoloutly gorgeous, its a tight fitted boob tube satin dress and i tried it on tonight and its a little tighter than it was a few weeks ago when i b...
A. 4 June 2008: Try a low carb diet for these 7 days only and a lot of water intake. You can get information on the web. If you follow it rigorously you can definitely slim down in a week. Also, about 2 days before the dress up take down the water intake. After ... (read in full...)
I need someone to help, I know I need to move on from this relationship!
Q. I seriously need all the help I can get!! I've been with a guy on and off for 4years we have a daughter together... we've had a very ruff relationship never seeming to get over each other... its almost as if we are both addicted... my sexual past ...
A. 4 June 2008: Him knowing you are weak for him does not imply he is not letting you move on. He is just enjoying the ride you are letting him have. If you are not ready to let him go then you need some help for that, seek a professional counselor, spiritual ... (read in full...)
Good erection during oral, but loses it during sex!
Q. Why could my boyfriend keep an erection during oral sex, but lose the erection when he penetrated me??...
A. 4 June 2008: Try making new positions, gels to keep an erection and/or give him more sensation during penetration. Also, there are some vaginal exercises that can help you give him varied degrees of sensation during sexual intercourse. Get creative!
Best ... (read in full...)
Should I just walk out on two years of my life?
Q. I'm so tired of my relationship. My fiancee and I fight all the time. Nothing I do ever seems good enough to him. When we argue he gets verbally abusive and the last time he punched me in the leg after i threw something at him. I understand i probab...
A. 4 June 2008: I think walking out of 2 years of effort is better than:
a. Walking out of 4 years of effort (two more years into the relationship)
b. Walking in who knows how many years of emotional and physical abuse.
The truth is if a relationship is not ... (read in full...)
Will I pee if I have an orgasm?
Q. I have never had an orgasm before. When I think I am going to get one I have to go to the bathroom. They say that is what it feels like, but I really have to pee. Is their something wrong with me? Is their something that I can do in order to exper...
A. 4 June 2008: Okay... try this. Pee and then masturbate until you have an orgasm. That way you will know how an orgasm feels like and you'll be sure you do not need to pee.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Torn between two boyfriends - What do I do?
Q. I'm with this amazing guy right now, but my ex and I have been talking a lot recently. I had a lot of feelings for my ex when we were dating, and they have slowly been coming back. My current guy is really close to my family now and I don't know if ...
A. 4 June 2008: Try to remember why that relationship ended. Sometimes, when we have been away from someone we loved for a while we tend to only remember the nice things that happened with them. However, truth be told, you were on that relationship already and ... (read in full...)
We're going to meet in the summer as friends, but I'm afraid it will be a disaster!
Q. hi well this is kinda complicated, i've been speaking to this guy for just over 2 years and he recently told me he had feelings for me. we have never met and have been speaking everynight for the last two years the problem is i dont know how i feel ...
A. 2 June 2008: You just need to be open and sincere about how you feel/don't feel towards him. You can not change what he feels or what you feel so the friendship might be at risk but this is not your fault.
Meet him and see how it goes... if you don't fe... (read in full...)
I feel like my youth is passing by, any advice?
Q. So I have an issue that is bothering me and have been thinking about a lot lately. I am almost 23 years old and within the past 5 years haven't had a serious relationship and haven't had sex. I am almost done with University and then will need t...
A. 2 June 2008: Well ok.. so you identified it, it is lack of confidence. Now find out why and work with it. Your brain is VERY powerful and even though you might not turn into a social butterfly in a night, you have the capability to make significant changes.
... (read in full...)
Should I send him a "congratulations on your divorce" card to his parents to let him know that he has no power and control to stop the divorce, and to let him know that I am no longer his stupid little wife?
Q. my ex was a horrible nasty piece of work and loves to control and is a power freak but since december (just gone) i have stood up to him and given him abit of his own medicine!! see how he likes to be abused although i only gave him about 1% of the ...
A. 30 May 2008: I completely agree with Lazy Guy! Time to move on, have fun and forget all about him. Don't let him control your actions any further. I am pretty sure he will realize he is divorced from you!
Good luck!... (read in full...)
When we found out that we both liked the same girl, his exact words were, "let the competition begin". I'm furious with him!
Q. My best friend met a girl last week. He told me, "You two would really suit each other". I shrugged it off, he always says things like this, besides it takes alot for me to fancy someone. Im sure ive been a whole 2 years without liking a soul ...
A. 30 May 2008: Maybe you should have a conversation with him and let him know how you feel. A good friend, if not really interested in her, would probably back off. A good conversation should clear out what kind of friend he is and the motivations to pursue a ... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: Hi there...
It is very interesting that your post just revolves around the fact that she told rather than she did. I mean, if you are not concerned with her sexual behavior then what is the problem? These are sexual experiences she had and she ... (read in full...)
Is my long term off again on again boyfriend a drunk? what should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with the guy on an off since I was 17, we are now 40. we shared a house together in 2003 in which we were both in seperate relationships but both did not work out as we wanted to make the relationship work although he stil...
A. 30 May 2008: I am a recovering alcoholic. No one can say whether someone else is alcoholic, only that person can. You can, however, assume he might have a drinking problem. There are 2 questions he needs to ask himself:
1. When he starts drinking, is it diff... (read in full...)
I feel like my youth is passing by, any advice?
Q. So I have an issue that is bothering me and have been thinking about a lot lately. I am almost 23 years old and within the past 5 years haven't had a serious relationship and haven't had sex. I am almost done with University and then will need t...
A. 28 May 2008: Oh God... I am almost 30 and now I feel really really old lol... I am a firm believer that youth lives within you, and that partying and having a lot of casual sex is just, sometimes, being irresponsible. The truth is there are a LOT of ways to ... (read in full...)
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