How do I get my boyfriend's dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own?
Q. How do I get my boyfriends dad to move out or make my boyfriend realise it's time for us to find a place of our own? I've been going out with my boyfrind for 18 months, and moved in with him and his dad 7 months ago. My boyfriend and his dad have...
A. 30 June 2008: Well hon, that's between the two of them. He might feel some kind of "obligation" with his father and the fact that he might not be able to pay for rent alone. I wouldn't leave my dad in the streets either. Thats good family values and you should ... (read in full...)
My free-loading bf left me and our daughter! Should I ask for money?
Q. I have a relationship problem that I would like advice with. My boyfriend and the father of my child has left me. We had a disagreement about money. The way things are is that I pay all the bills, rent, food, childcare costs (we both work), heating, ...
A. 27 June 2008: I think it is very good you took a stand for yourself and your daughter. If he is interested enough in staying and in working out this situation he will come back. If he doesn't then that is definitely a message of his commitment to you and your ... (read in full...)
Some ideas for making conversation, please.
Q. Ok, this isn't really a big question, but it would be nice to have some advice. I'm going to hang out with this girl I like, and hopefully ask her out, and I was just wondering, if you were/are a 13 year old girl, what would you want to talk about? ...
A. 25 June 2008: Well I am not a 13 y/o girl but most people like to talk about interests and hobbies and a lot of people just like to talk. LOL
So just keep in mind a few questions and anecdotes of your own to share with her and that should get you started ... (read in full...)
I just don't know what my heart wants! And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. argh help! i dont know what i'm doing! i broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago after a 2 year long relationship, the breakup wasn't brilliantly handled on my part in the sense that i'd never broken up with someone before and I broke up with ...
A. 25 June 2008: Well... it is really difficult to tell the future or what you will or will not want then and there. The only thing you can actually figure out is the present. You need to take some time to yourself and sit down. You could write the plus and the ... (read in full...)
He's a sloppy kisser - how do I get over the problem without hurting his feelings?
Q. I have a huge problem. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 8 months now and I don't enjoy kissing him, I'm always first to break the kiss after a matter of seconds and this is due to the fact that whenever he kisses me it's wet, sloppy and ...
A. 24 June 2008: Well this is one of the tough one hon! You have to tell him and show him!
There are a couple of difficult things in a relationship in which you might feel bad for upsetting him, but when you are even considering ending the relationship over it,... (read in full...)
Should I let what people think of me including what my family thinks of me get in the way of having sex?? I'm 14
Q. Hello im 14 and me and my bf want to have sex but its a long distance relationship so we wanna have fone sex till we can actually meet up and have sex. I'm worried that my parents will be disappointed in me for loosing my virginity at 14 ive ...
A. 24 June 2008: Ho there...
It is not so much what other people think, is what other people KNOW. They are not being mean to you or wanting you to stay celibate for the rest of your life but having sex is a very big step in which the consequences are not limi... (read in full...)
Is it okay to stop taking birth control pills for just a month.!?
Q. Hello.! I was wondering if it's practical to stop taking birth pills for just a month seeing as my boyfriend is going on vacation that long (this Thursday 26th he's leaving) and I don't see my need to take it because, I obviously won't have sex. ...
A. 24 June 2008: That actually depend on the pill you are taking and how fertile you and your partner are. I have a friend who got pregnant because she missed ONE pill. So, you should just probably continue to take them this month or consult a physician for ... (read in full...)
Is there a site that offers support and motivation for teens that are trying to get fit and improve their health?
Q. Hello aunts :] This isn't really a relationship question, but you guys are always so much help. I was wondering if anyone knew of a site that offers support and motivation for teens that are trying to get fit and improve their health? Maybe a f...
A. 24 June 2008: Hi hun...
I found this one helpful and free... they also have teen groups. God luck!
http://www.sparkpeople.com/... (read in full...)
I'm in total turmoil and it's been 9 months now!!!!! HELP!!!!
Q. Hi. Back in February I posted a question along the lines of asking for advice on how to deal with the fact my ex of 7 years had met another guy at work and I couldn't help myself but ask questions about what they get up to. I thought it wa...
A. 24 June 2008: Well... moving on from a relationship in which you have invested so much and in which you had children, is not easy! You are comparing your new partner with your ex because you are not ready to move on just yet... you might need to spend some time ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 21 yrs old and have not had sex yet, I really don't know what I'm doing wrong. Please help.
Q. I'm almost 21 years old and have not had sex yet. my longest relationship was about 3 months back in high school when i was 16. i really dont know what the hell i'm doing. i'm not gay lets get that out of the way. I just feel sometimes too nerv...
A. 24 June 2008: Not having sex is definitely not a sign of being a looser, at least in my book however! Now, do you feel any type of sexual drive, ever? Do you masturbate? Have you noticed any difference in the last years in relation to your marijuana use?
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What constitutes cheating?
Q. Hi to all you advisors out there on this site. I don't have a problem, but here's the story. A few weeks ago we had friends over and somehow the subject of my 'former best friend' came up. He is only a 'former best friend' because of his divorce, he ...
A. 24 June 2008: Well... what happened to the list? Any edits? What did friends say?... (read in full...)
Recurring yeast infection is affecting my relationship! Help!
Q. OK,,,for the past 3-4 years I have been suffering from reoccurring yeast infection..everytime more and more often. It will go away for a month and then be back the next month. sometimes its light, but other times it will make it really uncomfortable ...
A. 22 June 2008: I've heard recurring yeast infections could have more serious causes so you should definitely go to the GYN. I also found this and thought it could help:
You can help prevent a vaginal yeast infection by doing the following:
* Eat a balanc... (read in full...)
Speed dating. I have two days to prepare - so tell me how I can make a woman want to make love to me in 6 minutes?
Q. Hey guys and gals. I'm single recently divorced and looking at new dating options…ways to meet others. And there's a lot of new ways that involve internet dating...too many to mention. But I was looking at this new thing called speed dating (new...
A. 22 June 2008: Six minutes might be just what you need to impress someone. Sufficient time to be funny, a little flirtatious, to let her know the kind of things you like and to let her tell you the things she like. I was definitely into my current partner at ... (read in full...)
This thread is Rated "Arrhhh"
Q. As of late i find my posts.. vanishing or not even being posted. Apparently some of the mods/admins around here thinks its ok for a man to want to sleep with his sister. Instead of telling people what they need to hear, it seems as if they would...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi there...
I actually agree with a lot of the things you say in this Manifesto. LOL However, being judged or ridiculed is not what the questioners come here for, I do believe they get that at home and that's why they come here (there are, of ... (read in full...)
Should I wait untill after his birthday to break up with him?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend. We have been together over a year. His birthday is in 5 days. Should i wait until after? What is the best thing to say? I would really like to stay friends....
A. 20 June 2008: Well it is a good time to learn timing. I totally agree with birdy, just tough it up for the next 5 days. Try to be nice and gentle and just wait out. Have the best birthday with him and then start emotional separation until you break up.
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How can I make an honest effort in saving my long-term relationship without telling him the fact that I was seeing someone else behind his back?
Q. I need advice on how to deal with the fact that I had an affair and whether to fess up to my man or not. I was a total slut; I was seeing another guy for 8 months so no, it wasn´t a brief fling or one drunken mistake, I was completely sober and ...
A. 20 June 2008: I think that answer can only be given by yourself! What would be the right or wrong thing for you... However, in your post you concentrate your self on how since you made it wrong by sleeping with someone else, you want to make it right by ... (read in full...)
Am I incapable of being in a relationship?
Q. Am I incapble of being in a relationship? Whenever a guy I have feelings for starts to show interest I start to pull away from the relationship. It is like the thought of us being together makes me nervous and sick. I have been recently talking...
A. 20 June 2008: Thats one with which you need one on one help, not answerable here -to my understanding-. You might be making a subconscious connection with something (an experience, something you saw, something you felt, maybe at a young age) and thus are not ... (read in full...)
Is my Internet Lover having an affair?
Q. Right. Im in a long distance relationship. We only ever talk over msn. I really like him, hes a really nice guy and i met him over facebook. Yeah i know its risky, and hes 3 years older than me. But we get on really well. But Im really scared...
A. 19 June 2008: Well I met my hubby online and things are great. However, I do suggest you meet in person to see if the "sparks" are still there. If so, you might want to move closer or start something up.
I know most online relationships work, but I do think... (read in full...)
Am I...genuinely a good guy?
Q. This is gonna be a very long post, so I seek your patience and understanding. Let me provide some background information first. I am 24 this year, moving into the last year of university in a tough course and doing reasonably well. I am the o...
A. 19 June 2008: You want honesty... so considering that... here it goes:
You come off as a little full of yourself, doesn't mean you are, just that you come off that way. That would particularly hurt when meeting a girl as you are not there to find a perfect ... (read in full...)
She told me that she hates me...what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago but still talked, emailed back and forth, and hung out occasionaly. The breakup seemed more like a break as noone cheated or ripped anyones heart out and we just needed some space. I then told her ...
A. 19 June 2008: There is something more to this story that you are either unaware or decided not to tell!! So... what else?... (read in full...)
Was I being selfless or stupid??
Q. Back in November, my ex was given an opportunity to get a great job cross-country. He asked me to go with him and I said I could not at the time because of my work commitment. I told him that I needed some time to have my work experience and that I ...
A. 19 June 2008: The truth is some things just happen! I think it was ok you put yourself first in terms of your job, considering you were going to move just not right then. So, the fact that he moved on might be something that was bound to happen anyways.
He fo... (read in full...)
What am I doing to attract these men to me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 53 year old widow. Beloved husband I was happily married to for more than two decades was killed by a drunk driver in November, 2003. I started trying to date again a few years ago. I have attracted two men to me that I d...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi there...
I don't think you are doing anything wrong! You decided to part terms with the first guy because what you two wanted was incompatible, and thats why people date, to see if they can work together in a relationship. You decided ... (read in full...)
What constitutes cheating?
Q. Hi to all you advisors out there on this site. I don't have a problem, but here's the story. A few weeks ago we had friends over and somehow the subject of my 'former best friend' came up. He is only a 'former best friend' because of his divorce, he ...
A. 19 June 2008: LOL!! So you've really given it some thought huh? LOL!!
My changes to your well described list would be:
Cheating
- Having an affectionate relationship with someone that would deteriorate my relationship with my partner (being emotionally i... (read in full...)
Will he learn or should I jump ship?
Q. I know previous questions like this have been asked before, but I haven't found a satisfactory response. I live with my boyfriend and we only maintain a joint checking account. Even then, I also have my own personal checking account and only...
A. 19 June 2008: It does sound workable! What has worked for me and my partner is: we have separate accounts and a joint account. The joint account has an ATM which I have and it's off limits. Only usable for emergencies and with each others "permission".
... (read in full...)
Am I infertile or is it just luck?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for the past six months and we have sex quite often. We've never once used protection and don't get me wrong I'm glad I'm not pregnant! But I just don't understand why that's the case. Does that mean I'm infertile or is i...
A. 19 June 2008: It might be either way. The general consensus (for what I have read) is that a couple that haves sex at least twice a week for 12 months should get pregnant. If they don't then they need to have a check up.
It is also most often a guy thing. ... (read in full...)
Will he learn or should I jump ship?
Q. I know previous questions like this have been asked before, but I haven't found a satisfactory response. I live with my boyfriend and we only maintain a joint checking account. Even then, I also have my own personal checking account and only...
A. 19 June 2008: You don't specify how long have you two been together or if the relationship in all other terms is satisfactory to you. If you have been together for a while and you feel good in other areas I don't think you should get out of it. A lot of people ... (read in full...)
He played a prank on me, now says he cannot trust me. Must I carry on with this relationship?
Q. My bfriend and I have been going out for almost 6 months and last month he sms me from a different number and pretended that he was someone else and ask if I had a boyf. I said yes. Then he asked if I would go out with him at the weekend if my ...
A. 19 June 2008: Well if an unknown person asked you out on a date and you said yes I think you should probably have a deep and honest conversation with yourself. Do you really love him? Do you feel you want to be with him and just him?
I understand it was a... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my potential life time partner because of the baby issue...
Q. Hi. Im in an eleven months relationship with a guy who truly loves me and the marriage issue has always popped up. He recently got a job away from home. Im at university, just completed my diploma and willing to start with my degree. He has met ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi Kadisha,
There are some difficult decisions to take in life and this seems like one of them. Truth be told I do believe in giving in a little for a relationship, to make it work. However, you are very young and your whole future depends ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend talking like this when we are having sex?
Q. I don't understand my boyfriend's language towards me sometimes. While we'll be having sex, he'll be like "let me hit it from the back" or he'll be like, "i wanna f***" it makes me wonder am i just someone he wants to f***. He does treat me well at ...
A. 14 June 2008: I think he just gets excited in the spare of the moment. If you feel offended by it you need to talk to him about it and give him options as to what you'd like him to say. If your not annoyed, then just let him be, he is obviously happy with you ... (read in full...)
Does having sex in a pool raise the risk of pregnancy?
Q. would it be ok if i had sex in a pool with a condom or will it raise the risk of pregnecy...
A. 14 June 2008: I found this post on another website and thought it might be helpful:
A common myth about hot tub and pool sex is that a woman cannot get pregnant since she is in the water. The fact is that nothing in water can kill sperm or prevent pregnanc... (read in full...)
My husband intentionally got another woman pregnant... please help!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. We have two children and have been together for 11 years. When we met he told me about a woman that he really loved and how breaking up with her hurt him. They broke up because she would not leave the ...
A. 14 June 2008: You are not happy and he is not happy... why would you stay there? Because of comfort? There are a lot of important things in life including the possibility to be and feel loved by someone else! Don't miss that chance, because, you want to accept ... (read in full...)
I've missed coursework deadlines and now I'm worried my overall grade may suffer. How can I calm myself down??
Q. Hello all. This may not be a relationship question, but I could really use your advice. All of my college assignments must be handed in by Monday afternoon. I have been a good student. I've put a lot of effort into my work over the past 2 years...
A. 14 June 2008: Hi there...
You need to relax and calm down in order to concentrate sufficiently to finish your school work. Try using some calming tea or making some type of exercise to get your stress down. Make a schedule of the work to be done, divide t... (read in full...)
I haven't had a period for four years... could it be because I gained weight?
Q. hi i started my period when i was 12 i am now 17 and havent had a period since i was 13. do you think that this could be becaus eof rapid weight gain and lack of slep. since i was 13 i have put on quite a bit of weight due to personal problem...
A. 14 June 2008: Yup it could be because of the weight. Girls who are overweight or underweight might suffer from amenorrhea (loss of menstruation)-you can google that for more information along with overweight-.
In the case of overweight women it is because ... (read in full...)
How can I stop this addiction? Am I an alcoholic?
Q. Okay Im a male that sort of has a huge problem that I need some advice on.Im a 15 year old kid still in high school trying to make it threw but Im am sort of an alcoholic.I drink every single day,usually hard alcohol like a least a half of a fifth ...
A. 13 June 2008: Hi there...
I am recovering alcoholic and started my meetings at 28. A lot of people there (AA) had been struggling with alcohol since about your age. They really regret waiting 10-20 years to deal with this. If you can do it now, it will sav... (read in full...)
Any tips on first kiss?
Q. So I went on a date with my girlfriend last night and I ws thinking about kissing her. But I havent had my first kiss yet and I dont know how to kiss? So I thought I need some adviceonhow to kiss a girl....
A. 13 June 2008: Ok... nice... good boy for looking for advice!!
Hints:
1. Start slowly, just by giving her a peck. Then, if she wants to, continue to kiss her and open your mouth a bit. Be careful with your lips opening too much, you don't want to get her w... (read in full...)
Am I just being pathetic to be jealous when he says 'we' in referance to his ex?
Q. Is it wrong to feel annoyed if your boyfriend of 10 months (serious relationship, living together) says things like "us" and "we" regarding his ex wife. Let me explain. He left his ex-wife over 11 years ago. They have a boy aged 12. He needs a l...
A. 13 June 2008: Ok... so I'm not gonna call you pathetic because I think this is an ordeal a lot of women go through when their partner has a kid with someone else. However, I do think you are taking it too far. By what you posted he is referring to the parents ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend constantly talks to her ex!!! What should I do...?
Q. My girlfriend is constantly talking to her ex. I mean all the time. We had an argument about it and it seems she would let it get to the point where we break up rather than stop talking to him. She is going somewhere with him and his mates soon and ...
A. 13 June 2008: I REALLY don't think this is a good sign! Although when a relationship is over we have the possibility of continuing a friendship with that person (and I have with most of my exs), the truth is the past is bound to come into our conversations.
... (read in full...)
I want to do something with my pubic hair, do I have to go to a salon to get a 'landing strip'??
Q. Hey - am having sex with my boyfriend next week and wanted to do something with my pubic hair. I have it trimmed as it is now, but was thinking of maybe getting it done in to a teardrop shape or a "landing strip". Is this something I can do at ...
A. 13 June 2008: You could go to a salon but you can get special razors for this. They are tiny bikini line razors that can help you make the shapes you want.
Good luck and use protection!... (read in full...)
We haven't spoken in a week!! Does he see me as being too 'easy'???
Q. i feel that i am in love with this guy. but the thing is, the first time we ever met we slept together. he said to me that he likes me and that i would make a great gf. we have been talking on msn, and by texts, but in the last week we haven't ...
A. 13 June 2008: Hi anon...
The difficult thing to understand about boys, specially those your age is: they are really horny!! I think it goes on after 18 and maybe through life, but we need to understand that.
There are boys who will take you out and invite y... (read in full...)
Known him for 2 weeks - is it too soon for a visit to his town??
Q. Hello everyone.. i have a question, and my friends are giving different answers, would be good to get some objective views! On a previous post, i mentioned my failing relationship. Well, it failed. To be honest, when it ended, i was devastated, but ...
A. 13 June 2008: Honestly, the two beds in one room do not sound like a good idea for someone you just met. Although I met my husband through the net -so I know there are good guys out there-, I definitely do not recommend making commitments to stay together the ... (read in full...)
Having a partner is not everything but I don't really want to spend the rest of my life on my own, any helpful advice would be so appreciated
Q. I split up from my partner in september because he cheated on me, it was the most painful time, emotionally and financially, i,m now starting to get on my feet at last and i can tell you, it hasn't been easy as i did love him to bits and i thought ...
A. 13 June 2008: Hey you just got back!! lol... relax and enjoy! I have 33 year old friends that have never had a boyfriend so you are definitely in good shape!! Here they say that if you've loved once, you'll love again...
I think the most important thing is... (read in full...)
Known him for 2 weeks - is it too soon for a visit to his town??
Q. Hello everyone.. i have a question, and my friends are giving different answers, would be good to get some objective views! On a previous post, i mentioned my failing relationship. Well, it failed. To be honest, when it ended, i was devastated, but ...
A. 13 June 2008: I will go with GothPod on this one... why don't you go with a female friend? That way you will certainly take out the "dating" reference and it will just be a party where you will meet someone new. You and your friend can sleep in the hotel and he ... (read in full...)
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