What are some ideas regarding exercise if you enjoy being active but the gym bores you to death?
Q. I would like to lose weight because although people don't think of me as fat, I am very self conscious about my appearance. I would like to have a nice figure, but I'm afraid that I'm nearing that age where it's impossible to lose weight. My ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well 1st, you need to change your diet. It's always the 1 thing that people seem to forget when it comes to weight loss. There is a proper diet for everyone, and they differ. See a nutritionist about that. It is never too late to change your figure. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving to the States and I don't know if I can trust him when he goes
Q. my boyfriend of 8 months is planning on going to uni in the states early next year.he wants me to wait but i dont know if i want to.not coz i dont want to be with him but i dont trust him as he was in a relationship when we met and when he goes over ...
A. 28 August 2008: This is the problem with getting into a relationship under sticky circumstances, as I'm sure you have already figured out;) Do you have children with him, or a previous relationship? The only thing you really can do is talk to him about it. Not in ... (read in full...)
My wife left me, but now she wants to try again. I am torn between giving it another shot with her and this new girl I am nuts for.
Q. This is long so I appreciate anyone who reads it. I am 47 and married with a 7 year old son. I work as a senior manager and have lots of people who work for me. About a year ago a 24 year old came to work with the company, I'll call her T. She is ...
A. 28 August 2008: Age gaps tend to get in the way of perfect relationships, I know, I've tried a couple of times. However, thats just an opinion. If you want to be serious with a 24 year old girl, try to ask yourself if you believe she is ready for a divorced man, ... (read in full...)
He has secretly been looking at porn! What should I do?
Q. Here's my story. I have been with my bf for about 3years, living with him for about two. I'm 30 he's 25.The thing is I truly adore him, but we are not on the same level obviously due to age difference.I just don't feel he's ready for an adult ...
A. 28 August 2008: Yeah, this same EXACT situation is what brought me to this site originally, months ago. I handled it by discussing my feelings about it to my husband in a non threatning way. I tried to expain to him that he wouldnt appreciate it if I got my sex ... (read in full...)
Romantic gestures towards women - some brainstorming!
Q. Hi. For a little project I'm working on, please, would as many women as possible kindly list three gestures which they would deem to be 'romantic' towards them. Many thanks!...
A. 27 August 2008: The one thing that turns me on, romanticlly, has to be originality in romance. A dozen roses with a card in each one explaining why you love her. A romantic dinner in a place other than a restraunt that has some meaning to the relationship. An odd ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me and got the other woman pregnant! Why am I made out to be the villain?
Q. My husband and I have been married for three years and we have no children together. We are both 24 years old. His parents never approved of our marriage due to racial factors, he is white and I am asian. A week ago, for the first time, I fo...
A. 26 August 2008: Ughhhh, I am SOOOOO sorry. The only villain here is your husband. Not you, not even the other girl. Your husband knew good and well what he was doing. You did nothing wrong, please don't even begin to think that you have. From what you say, I've ... (read in full...)
I'm a lone wolf and have no one to tell things too.....
Q. heya, ok this is going to be long so prepare yourself. well i really dont think i can cope anymore, however serious that may seem. i have lost all my friends as school for the most stupid of reasons. so im basically a lone wolf at school whic...
A. 26 August 2008: Have you told your parents how you feel? Maybe ask them what they'd think about changing schools? I, at one point of my school years, was a loner as well. I started seeking out other loners (because you are not the only one at school) and made ... (read in full...)
He's gone a bit cold after we slept together! Any ideas on why this is?
Q. I met this lad on my holiday and we started chatting when we got back to england - he only lives about an hour away and i know the area he lives in because my sister went uni there. So after 3 weeks of constant talking (and i mean constant ... ...
A. 26 August 2008: It isnt uncommon for a young man to sleep with someone and move on (the hormons are raging!) When you say he has gone cold, do you mean he has gotten a little mean when he speaks with you, making you feel like you are bothering him, or do you mean ... (read in full...)
My cheating partner...I've received opinions from friends, but maybe the outside world? You there? Anyone??
Q. We had the goods and the bad in our relationship. We been on and off for 5 years. Now I'm 25 and he's 27(he has a five year old son from a previous relationship) We made a commitment 2 years ago, because we loved each other so much and decided to ...
A. 26 August 2008: It isnt about what other people think, it's about what you think. No one knows this guy like you do, and although other people are seeing his sorrows now, they didnt see him behaving like a horses ass when you were living with him. He got used to ... (read in full...)
Do I still need to take the morning after pill? I need an answer asap, please.
Q. I am 16 and i had unprotected sex last night, but i came on my period today. Do i still need to take the morning after pill? Please answer ASAP. Thanks a lot....
A. 26 August 2008: Yes, as a mama to 2 with another on the way, you certainly can be pregnant even if you started your period the next day. Take the A.M. after pill. Good luck... (read in full...)
Some cracks have appeared in our relationship.....is she cheating?
Q. With complete strangers thinking the same as I did in reference to my previous question posted I realise I did see exactly what was happening. I would like to hear what more people think. I met my girlfriend via a dating site in early 08. We rea...
A. 25 August 2008: She probably was cheating. You should move on. I know it is hard to detatch yourself from someone who has broken your heart, but please try, because she sounds like trouble. Unless you were irrational when you went by her house and discovered her ... (read in full...)
I may have given STD's to a married man I've been sleeping with and his wife is pregnant!
Q. Please Help....I have been seing this married man for 2 years now and he has a wife with a baby on the way. i know its wrong but please dont judge. I went to the Gynocologist and i may have vaginal cancer, to top it all off my test results came back ...
A. 25 August 2008: TELL HIM NOW!!! A poor innocent life is at high risk!!! If you have any bit of moral value in your blood, you would worry LESS about losing him and worry MORE about the life of a baby!... (read in full...)
I'm in love with our best friend, but I don't want to hurt my husband or break up our friend's marriage.
Q. okay here it is.about three years ago i started sleeping with my husband and mine's bestfriend. but I fell inlove with him .i told him i was inlove he said he loved me too.he's also married with 3 kids.he is not happy in his marriage but feels his ...
A. 23 August 2008: It is what it is..... Sounds pretty dramatic. You told the friend your feelings, you told your husband as well. "Somehow we are still together" ???!!! You are still together because if you leave your husband for the friend but the friend wont leave ... (read in full...)
Why are people so stressed and miserable?
Q. Why is everybody I see always so stressed and miserable? You only get one life,and its way too short to be anything but happy.why dont people realize this?...
A. 23 August 2008: Welcome to the U.S!! Look at the statistics, we are the only country with the highest rates of divorce, obesity, gas prices, (thanks Bush!) and really, the sad list goes on. With rates like this, people will get a little down. You are still young ... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend thinks I'm too young to settle down with, but I wasn't too young for sex. Is that just an excuse?
Q. I've always dated older guys but now my family think i should date guys my age. They usually are 10 years older than me. Do you really think age ain't nothing but a number? I'm currently dating a guy that has a girlfriend but now i want more but he ...
A. 23 August 2008: You're dating a guy that has a girlfriend? And you are wondering if this is just an excuse? It seems obvious to me that he dosnt want to leave his current girlfriend for you and, yes, he is using the age thing as an excuse (which is pointless ... (read in full...)
I'm a very insecure man and I lied to her about really stupid stuff. Do I have a chance with her?
Q. I have worked with this woman for two years. We finally met in April and immediatly started to date. I am a very, very insecure man and I lied about some really stupid stuff. She found out one by one (there were three) and each time I told here ...
A. 17 August 2008: Oh, dear. First, it's important to slove the insecurity issue. It will destroy any relatonship you are in wether she is the one or not. It will always come between you and her. (And I don't speak for all ladies, but in my opinion, insecurities are a ... (read in full...)
I'm a clingy person and I tend to be obsessive, need advice please?
Q. hi i need serious help. i'm clingy person and i tend to be obsessive. plus i'm a totaly failure at realtionships. this year i have gone through 10 different guys and then i become obsessive then they break up w/ me. i dont no why i'm like tat. i ...
A. 15 August 2008: I suppose the first step in solving a problem is to admit to having one. You need to pick up new hobbies (dont confuse that with hubbies, lol). Going through guys like water gets old, and wears you down. Being paranoid with someone you are with that ... (read in full...)
My husband went away for a week claiming that he needed some time alone. I have discovered all kinds of things on Facebook from his 18 yo 'friend.' Guess where he went away.
Q. My husband and I have been having some marriage troubles...he went away for a week claiming that he needed some time alone. I have recently gone onto Facebook and he is on there too. I have discovered all these sexy, love, suggestive bumper ...
A. 15 August 2008: "Honey, I don't think you'd be too keen on finding these on my facebook, and these types of charges on the Visa card", as you hand him the obvious evidence, would be what I'd do in your situation. When was the last time you had time alone? Maybe NOW ... (read in full...)
I want to move out!
Q. I am 15 and i hate my family and i wish i could live some where else and just talk with them sometimes i hate it here, i love them but, i think i would be better off not living with them i fight with them, a little to much. but i don't want to hurt ...
A. 12 August 2008: I felt the same way you do at your age. Try to remamber that the way they treat you now is most likely in you futures best intrest. Unless they are abusing you, they are trying to keep you on the right track. My mother used to ground me for what I ... (read in full...)
If my husband's ex'es are such good friends of him, why can't we all be friends instead of him sneaking?
Q. Hello, I have a question about my husband. Now, he has ex girlfriends that he consistently texts when we have arguments. Now, these girls are only like 21 or 22 and I'm 28, so naturally they have rude comments and don't really get the whole story of ...
A. 12 August 2008: Your points are understandable and valid. I've said this before and I will say it again: a person with nothing to hide, hides nothing. And your instinct is telling you what? And why are you second guessing it? I'm not saying he is cheating, but ... (read in full...)
Some girls at my school are hating on me... how can I deal with this?
Q. Dear cupid... theres these girls at school that wont leave me alone... i was cool with them at the begging but some guy got in the way.. ever since theyve began hating me there whole lil click has started hating on me... i fought both of the twin...
A. 12 August 2008: Is the age bracket that is displayed by your screen name accurate? I ask this because at 22-25, these types of situations are far more rare than if you were, say, in High school. Just know that fighting never solves anything, in most cases, it makes ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is a terrible lover. How do I improve this?
Q. Sex with my new boyfriend is not great, and even though I like him I'm about to call it quits. I am thinking of pretending like I'm completely uninterested in sex to see if that kick starts him. I hate to play games, but talking about sex with ...
A. 7 August 2008: Ah, a selfish sex partner is never something that leaves you wanting more. What worked for me is in the heat of a sexual moment, taking control of the situation completely. When is is good and hard, and ready, and tries to push your head down there, ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been away for a month and a half, I want to masturbate and look at porn. Is that cheating?
Q. My girlfriend has gone away and i miss her loads. We have a very active sex life and she will be away for a month and a half. I have thought about masturbating but i'm not sure if its okay to or not. Also, if i do and i use porn to help, is that ...
A. 7 August 2008: It's refreshing to hear you sound so considerate. Your girlfriend is a lucky lady. I, personally, don't think it is cheating to release your load to a good porn, but some ladies do. If it is really a concern of yours, ask her if she would be ... (read in full...)
I can't move past my boyfriend kissing another girl. Can you help?
Q. Hi, I am having a baby with my boyfriend and I'm having serious trust issues due to his past behaviour and my own. A few months ago, pre-pregnancy, my boyfriend (we are both in our mid to late 20s) of 2 years months kissed a girl at a club while he...
A. 7 August 2008: As a mother of 2 and expecting again, I know that these types of situations fall in a far more intense level of worry than if you were not carrying child. At this delicate stage in your life, you are thinking "I need a solid confermation that he ... (read in full...)
I just found out that my wife has a post office box just for letters from her "friend".
Q. My wife said she loves me but is not IN love with me. She said I didn't pay attention to her just after I found out I have MS. Now shes talking to an old lover, but said they are "Just Friends". how should I feel? I had a bad time for about a year ...
A. 5 August 2008: I'm sympathetic to your having MS. My mother has chronic progressive MS now for 18 years. I feel for you, and hope that soon they create a cure for this!!! She, too, had these types of issues with her husband one she found out. She made the mistake ... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a married man for 6 years and I think he's talking to other girls online!
Q. Hi: I have been seeing a married man for 6 years now, he tells me he loves me but he keeps chatting with women on line and wanting to get to know them better. When I ask him about he says it is not true but I know otherwise, what should I do?...
A. 5 August 2008: Heheheheh....sigh. You are suprised? Upset? Hurt? Betrayed? Yeah, think of how his wife will feel when (not if, WHEN) she finds out about you!!! Ever consider dating a single man?... (read in full...)
My 'best friend' tricked me in to believing he could help me date this girl, yet the whole time he was dating her himself!
Q. I have fallen for this girl at school, the problem is she does not know that i exist. I have liked her for 4 years, since i started secondary school. I am really shy, but my best friend knows her really well. He was telling me what to get her like ...
A. 1 August 2008: Tough question. I would figure out the details on why she is no longer with your "friend". Is it something you are prepared to deal with yourself? Did she know you liked her at all while the were together? Is your "friend" trying to make a mends ... (read in full...)
My best friend told me I was obsessed with my brother dying, now he hasn't got the guts to apologise! Why?
Q. My brother died couple of weeks ago because he had cancer. I even missed a week of school because of it. When I told my best guy friend (also my brother's friend) he said I'm "obsessed" with him and need to forget about him. I was so mad I slap...
A. 1 August 2008: I am sorry for your loss, it isnt something you just forget about, and your friend was being very selfish and inconsiderate when he said that to you. He probably is afraid to appologize in person because he dosnt want to get smacked again, lol. He ... (read in full...)
Why am I hardly ever in the mood for sex?
Q. Is there something wrong with me? I am hardly ever in the mood for sex and i am only 23 years old. Does anyone have any advice for me, to help me have more of a sex life with my boyfriend?...
A. 1 August 2008: For some ladies, once they have been with their boyfriends for a while, they get a little too accustomed to the same old action in bed. It gets to the point where when the two of you reunite at the end of the day, all you want to do when he wants to ... (read in full...)
Has anyone actually had any proven success in gaining weight?
Q. Not a relationship question sorry, but a health one. I am 21 and am very skinny....however I eat like a horse yet still don't seem to put on any weight! I have zero definition on my arms and legs and it looks horrible. I am going the doctor anywa...
A. 1 August 2008: I'm not a guy but my brothers and I are twigs, and for people with our body type, the best thing to do is to gain muscle, not weight. Start going to the gym, or swimming everyday. My brothers were sticks in high school, but they all picked up some ... (read in full...)
Thrilled about a new pregnancy! What is something special that I can do for my wife?
Q. Hi all not really a question but more of an announcement! I want to tell the world but I think this is the closest I shall get! I am very excited, my beautiful goddess of a wife has just informed me we are about to have another child!! It wil...
A. 1 August 2008: And, I just found out, just an hour ago that I, too, am expecting a third child. Horray for pregnant mamas!!!... (read in full...)
I need to leave and fix my life but it is just so hard. Am I wrong? Do I need help?
Q. Well here is my situation. I was previously married to my high school sweetheart. We dated for 11 years and were married for 3. The second and third year of marriage was terrible. He worked a ton and so did I. I worked nights, weekends or day ...
A. 1 August 2008: I am in the same boat, only, I have 2 kids, and do all the at home stuff. My sweetie works now all day, everyday. I used to be the breadwinner, but, he is now. The thing is, it is easy to feel like your job is harder when you don't get to see what ... (read in full...)
I think I've gotten feelings for my ex again!
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 months now and really get along with him, i really like him, but recently i have been thinking about my ex alot. me and my ex broke up for silly reasons and i think iam getten feelings for him again. am ...
A. 1 August 2008: If your feelings are not as strong for your current boyfriend as they are for your ex, you need to leave your boyfriend. Be gental, getting dumped is a crappy feeling, especially if it is for an ex. But it isnt fair to keep your boyfriend hanging on ... (read in full...)
Thrilled about a new pregnancy! What is something special that I can do for my wife?
Q. Hi all not really a question but more of an announcement! I want to tell the world but I think this is the closest I shall get! I am very excited, my beautiful goddess of a wife has just informed me we are about to have another child!! It wil...
A. 31 July 2008: Aw, congrads Papa! What a beautiful blessing! I think it is so wonderful that you want to put your energy into creating something for the new baby. First, it is important to be the great understanding, supportive person to your beautiful wife (that ... (read in full...)
I get self concious around girly girls, and I sometimes feel like my boyfriend wants me to be more feminine. Help!
Q. hello! so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months now. we're close and all so it's all good. but i am so self conscious. like i'm a tom boy i guess. i'm not a girly girl at all and i don't wear girly stuff. it's just not me and i do...
A. 31 July 2008: You said it! Why would he be with you if he wants to change you? Fact is, you shouldnt compramise who you are to please others. He likes you because you are different. Different girls are rare. Rare can be more desirable. Girly girls tend to be ... (read in full...)
Get ex back? Or let him have my other ex's girlfriend?
Q. Me and my ex had a great relationship for over three months! We broke up because he said he needed a break... I was heartbroken! I talked him into getting back together the next day! A few days later he still wasnt happy with me and broke up with me ...
A. 27 July 2008: Leave him alone. Sounds like you are enjoying this drama, because you are having a hard time letting him go, yet your relationship was never that serious (as the two of you were constantly breaking up and getting back together). Be the adult and ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to make yourself like someone?
Q. There is this guy who likes me a lot and have for years. He's very sweet to me and would make a great boyfriend, which is what i really want. The problem is that im not attracted to him at all. I still have very strong feelings for the guy I lost my ...
A. 27 July 2008: Not right now. You like this other jerk because, well he's a jerk. The fact that he is a jerk turns you on because the thought of taming a bad boy is attractive. You are not in to this nice guy because there is no challange in that, no fun. Seems ... (read in full...)
I would like to ask her how she feels about him but I could not because it shows I do not trust her.
Q. My girlfriend told me she has a friend. She knows him before we are couple and during she was with her xs. She shares a lot of things with him. Her happiness and sadness. The guy does the same. I know if she loves him, we will not be a couple now....
A. 27 July 2008: But hon, you DON'T trust her. If you did, you would not be asking this question. You should tell her that you see a little connection between the two of them, see what she says. But, in this situation, it is imposible to sound trusting, because you ... (read in full...)
How will he react if I stop having sex with him?
Q. I really like this guy who basically just used me for sex. I wanted to date him but he saw our relationship as "friends with benefits" He said he cared about me and I think he kinda did, he just didnt want a relationship. He did boyfriend stuff with ...
A. 27 July 2008: I can only speak in "opinion" terms here, so here it goes. I'm guessing he has a couple of girls like you. He won't commit to one because that would mean he would have to cutoff the other ladies. You are being used, and it is a good thing you are ... (read in full...)
A stranger came in to my husband's work today and asked if he'd spent the night with his 18 year old daugher!
Q. I've been with my husband for 15 years now and we have 3 kids together. Today some man my husband claims not to know came to his work today. Only 4 people work there but this man came straight to him, called him by name and asked my husband if his ...
A. 23 July 2008: You have every right to be suspicious. Were you there when this guy asked your husband this question? If so, did your husband look a little suprised and scared, or confused? At this point it's a good idea to come right out and ask your husband for ... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't think I love him any more. How am I supposed to prove it to him?
Q. Everything's been going great in my relationship (or so i thought)and me and my boyfriend haven't had an arguement in ages. i saw him on mon and everything was fine. we had a BBQ and he kept saying how happy he was and what a good day it was. then ...
A. 23 July 2008: Wow, this guy is not okay. 1st he tells you he thinks other girls are hot, then he THREATENS to leave you if you don't prove your love?! Are you kidding?! Sounds like he has laid out the gameboard and wants you to play. There is an issue going on ... (read in full...)
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