Do guys ever get over "player" stage?
Q. I never thought i'd be one of those girls that are so in love they would put their life on the side for a guy. I cant say no to my best friend.I love him so much,even though he doesnt want to commit.I always end up givng in and messing around with ...
A. 12 June 2008: I have many guy friends in their late twenties and early thirties that I catch saying "I'm over the partying crap, I want to buy a home, settle down, get married." They get to that age where they see everyone around them settling down, and they are ... (read in full...)
Gave her a gift and she didn't even say Thanks!
Q. on a friend she's a girl I been kinds moving apart coz she said she dont like me, I spent over £30 on a gift n put it in her locker because I do not see her often but its been 2 weeks and she hasnt even said thanks in anyway! She knows how much ...
A. 9 June 2008: This is her way of telling you she isnt intrested in you. I'M SORRY. I hate to be the barrer of terrible news. What can you do? Move on. Find a better girl (because there are so many of us in this great big world!) She isnt worth your time, effort ... (read in full...)
He suddenly says he doesn't know what he wants, and now I'm left hanging
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 4 months. Because of distance and schedules, we don't spend all that much time together. But today, we had the rare treat of spending the whole day together. However, I kept getting this weird vibe from ...
A. 9 June 2008: By the time this question was posted, you have had a chance to calm down a little and distract yourself from these thoughts. If you love someone, or something, let it go. If it comes back, it was meant to be. Maybe his need for space to think things ... (read in full...)
He wants me back but isnt sure what to do with the girl he is dating now? Help!
Q. Well, I recently posted up stuff about my x and i... WELLLL... We ended up sort of working things out and now out of random we got into one little fight and now he is dating some 16 year old? OUT OF RANDOM!!!! That day he asked her out he was ...
A. 9 June 2008: I dunno what you posted about before, but my thoughts on this are: Seems he is going through some emotional struggle, and he is taking everyone down with him. If I were you, I'd give him the space he needs to figure out exactly what he wants from ... (read in full...)
I'm Lonely--where are all the down to earth, fun people at??
Q. I am so lonely after my husband had died, he was my best friend know he is gone. And do not have anyone to chat with at all. How can I make new friends or just have somebody close to talk with. I am fun person but people are so shallow and stupid. ...
A. 9 June 2008: UUUUnfortunatly, good, down to eartj people are super hard to vome by. I lived in so-Cali all my life, and got sick of the plastic energy all around me. Like you, I tried going to clubs, went to college, etc, seems like they are everywhere!!! I ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or is he using me?
Q. well recently moved country, and i found it really hard to make friends, then i met this boy he lives down the road from me, and we became friends, he gets on well with my mum and all my family, he ha a gf, but is always hugging me, flirting with ...
A. 8 June 2008: Probably. If he has a girlfiend, I'd avoid developing feelings for him. I'd make him feel crappy about flirting when he has a girlfriend, because it isnt fair for you or her.... (read in full...)
Having problems in the family!
Q. help. my cousin is addopted and he is about 5years younger than me, but i really dont get along with him, hes 7 at the moment and he has serious issues.it seems as though he has everyone wrapped around his little finger and when im around, it doesnt ...
A. 8 June 2008: Sounds like a rotten seed. I have a cousin like that. The best thing to do is avoid him as much as possible. Try to avoid family functions that he will attend. If your parents ask, just tell them he is mean to you, and thats it. Fact is, he is ... (read in full...)
I think I bothered him to much with all my texting!
Q. I was dating my boyfriend for 4 months and everything was going good. He was txt`n me multiple times a day, every day. I was in no doubt that this guy was `into me`. He lived about 50 miles from me, and i don`t drive, so he was alwyas coming to see ...
A. 8 June 2008: Texting is a very non-personal way to communicate. It's okay when you just want to tell someome you love them or to give them a quick message, but it isnt personal. It isnt a good way to get to know someone, or communicate your feelings with someone ... (read in full...)
How accurate are those home pregnancy tests?
Q. Hey my name is Emily i am 17 years old and i need answers on what to do.. Ok i have been dating this guy for about 2 months now.. We have did it bout 19 times.. And each and everytime we never used a condom and he said that he came in me all those ...
A. 7 June 2008: This dosnt mean you cant get pregnant. Sometimes, it's too soon for a preg test to pick up on preg hormones. Have you missed a period? If you havnt, and you are still expecting one to show up, it's probably too soon. When I was pregnant I felt a ... (read in full...)
I might be having a baby, but the "dad" is mean to me, should I tell the other guy who is nice to me that the baby is his?
Q. i had sex about 2 weeks ago and i think i missed my period... the dad treats me bad and only calls for sex. he knows i mite be having a baby but i know another guy who is better to me and i know he would make a good dad. should i just say its his ...
A. 6 June 2008: Wouldnt that be great though? Choose the father of our kids. Hm...but it isnt reality. It isnt fair, to baby or the nicer guy, you know? The father of my 1st kid is a complete tool, abused me right in front of my son. I remember thinking to myself, ... (read in full...)
She's pregnant with her ex and I'm going to prison in July. How should I tell her I like her?
Q. HELp!!! I've known this girl for 14 yrs. we've been pretty good friends. In the past 4 yrs we have lost touch. she's had a boyfriend then and I was married. My wife cheated on me so we are going through a divorce and around the same time my friend's ...
A. 6 June 2008: You should wait untill you have done your time to pursue any relationship. All too often, when one partner goes to jail/prison, the other cheats, and thats not good. Right now, it might be good to tell her you have feelings for her. Is it a down ... (read in full...)
My mind's in turmoil, I'm madly in love with an older man!
Q. I am a 20 year old female doing UG course in a college. I am madly in love with an old man who is 65 years old. I call him uncle. I know him from childhood and he is very close to our family. In the college I am an introvert seldom mingle with opp...
A. 5 June 2008: I dont typiclly advise people of THAT kind of age gap to create a relationship, I have done it, and many other girls I know have done it, and it just dosnt work out. What I find to be ironic about this is that you, myself, and all the other girls I ... (read in full...)
I blocked him on facebook but I'm still worried about my safety! Should I notify the police?
Q. alright so there's this boy who was really socially awkward so I tried to talk to him every now and then to help him out of it. Then he asks me out through facebook so I say that I'm not interested but he hunts me down and tells me in person, I tell ...
A. 5 June 2008: I wouldnt go to the police untill he does something again. Chances are he got over it, or found a different girl to creep out. I cant say for sure, however, so in this case, you need to use your best judgement. There might be serious evidence of him ... (read in full...)
Can we overcome this? He has issues with my past and my self confidence is low...
Q. Ok, I'm having a lot of doubts here. Me and my bf have been having problems. We've been together for almost two years, and we're mostly happy. But for ayear or so, there have been issues. It's about my past. I always had this "feeling" that h...
A. 5 June 2008: Oooo, if your self confidence is low because of your past, then mine should be REAL bad! We all have skeletons in our closets, even your boyfriend. Dont think for 1 second that he is perfect, there is no such thing. My past is absolutely rediculous, ... (read in full...)
Should I give my husband a second chance after he cheated and had a child behind my back?
Q. March of this year was the worse month of my life. I found out my husband of 5 years, had cheated on me 3 years ago. During that affair they conceived a child. The child is now around 3 years old and I never knew anything about her. I received a l...
A. 4 June 2008: So now that you have gotten some advice amd opinion, whats your next plan of attack? ... (read in full...)
Sad and confused
Q. Hi all, just wanted to share my story, and maybe get some advice, or new views on this So I can deal with the hurting… A year ago, I met a girl and we became rlly good friends. However, after a few weeks of hanging out a lot we started to get a ...
A. 4 June 2008: It isnt pathetic. I know many guys and girls in your situation. She IS usuing you, ans stringing you along. You are her fallback guy, when things dont work out, she comes running to you. She fears being alone, so you are 2nd on her wish list. You ... (read in full...)
Are open relationships better?
Q. Are open relationships better? When do you know you're ready for one? Do you think you could handle it? For me personally, i don't think I could do it; I can't stand the thought of my partner being with someone else. At the same time, it goes bo...
A. 4 June 2008: Thats a good question, and insight. It all depends on trust and honesty (which are the main building blocks in a good healthy relationship). An open relationship is awsome for a couple who are aware, and honest about being attracted to other people ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never listens to my feelings!
Q. It seems like my boyfriend never wants to hear how I feel, or what is it that he does that upsets me. Do you think I should break up with him?...
A. 4 June 2008: a whole loota guys have issues communicating, just like a whole loota girls have issues over-communicating. The best thing to do is to let him know you have 1 step out the door because he just dosnt seem to care. Be direct, dont use too much ... (read in full...)
I love this girl but creep her out!
Q. I am in love with a girl who hates me and wants nothing to do with me because I creep her out. However I'm not creepy or anything and she used to be just fine around me. How do I get her to change her mind?...
A. 4 June 2008: Need a little more info. How are you creeping her out? Has she told you?... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant how do we tell our families? (No lectures please)
Q. Hi, First of all im not here for lectures, as far as im concerned im a mature woman who may be within a certain age band *looks up* but I work 45 hours a week, I pay my way and i am independant, I have been in a serious relation ship for about a ...
A. 4 June 2008: "Hey, mom, dad, Guess what?!! I have the most WONDERFUL news! We're preganant! Isnt it great? We are so happy!" The more positive you sound, the lighter the reaction. Tell them you are thrilled about it. Thats what I did. I was shaking inside, ... (read in full...)
Why do men have affairs when their wives are pregnant?
Q. I have a question for the men..strange as it may seem but i feel i need to ask.Why do men whose wives are pregnant want a fling?? I know this isnt the entire male population but this has happened to me several times that i have been proposit...
A. 3 June 2008: EEEw, I know!!! Some guys are just rediculous, never want to man up to the consiquences of their actions. Some girls change when they are pregnant, with their hormones going crazy, they get moody, chunckier, a little more helpless, etc. Some guys ... (read in full...)
Should I give my husband a second chance after he cheated and had a child behind my back?
Q. March of this year was the worse month of my life. I found out my husband of 5 years, had cheated on me 3 years ago. During that affair they conceived a child. The child is now around 3 years old and I never knew anything about her. I received a l...
A. 3 June 2008: If it were my husband, he be gone! No words exchanged exept "see you in court", because we have 2 kids he will have to support. He'll do it again and again, and probably with this girl. As for your kids, would it be better for them to have a mommy ... (read in full...)
Could you tell me if I am pregnant?
Q. I was having fun with my boyfriend the other day, and we had intercourse trice.. He ejaculated outside the vagina on the stomach in the first time, we waited around 20 minutes before he got back in shape and we went at it again. i was wondering, ...
A. 3 June 2008: Thank you birdynumums, I was always curious about that myself:)... (read in full...)
Could you tell me if I am pregnant?
Q. I was having fun with my boyfriend the other day, and we had intercourse trice.. He ejaculated outside the vagina on the stomach in the first time, we waited around 20 minutes before he got back in shape and we went at it again. i was wondering, ...
A. 3 June 2008: LOL, I'm pretty sure that as soon as semen is contact with air, it dies. But beware of precum! It has more sperm than the ejaculation, and usually a man dosnt even know he is pre cumming when he is doing it. I dont recommend the "pull out" method as ... (read in full...)
How best to have a threesome!
Q. Is it better to have a threesome with two girls and a guy or two guys and a girl with your husband?...
A. 3 June 2008: It's up to the couple thinking of having a threesome. I am bi sexual, so either way is fine with me, but in some cases, a girl doesnt want to be with another girl, and would prefer 2 guys. Some guys are sickened by the thought of being with another ... (read in full...)
We think she's pregnant and don't know what to do!
Q. Hello.. We think my girlfriend is pregnant and were not sure what to do. We had sex just about a week after her last period finished, She is now 2 weeks late on her next period. She is getting weird stomache aches nearly all the time and he...
A. 3 June 2008: Hi there! Of course, preggy test first. By the way, my mum told me I would get thrown out too. She didnt. In fact, quite the opposite. She looooves her grandbaby, and so will her mum. Parents tend to say that kind of thing to PREVENT it from ... (read in full...)
How can I slow down my metabolism?
Q. Is there a way i can slow down my metabolism? I know its a wierd question, but i am really skinny and trying to put on weight. The pigging out thing doesnt work. I know my stick figure would be a dream come true for some else but where i come from ...
A. 3 June 2008: You are not alone. Even here in America, where skinny ladies are prized, I would love so much to put on some weight. I am 25, with 2 kids, and have never budged from being 95 lbs. I eat plenty of good foods, I tried workinmg out to maybe build ... (read in full...)
I know it's not just lust, but he is going out with another girl.
Q. I am in love with a guy a year older than me. Before anyone says am not in love its "lust" I am. I know I am. I never stopped thinking about him and he just makes me so happy and want to smile all the time any other time I am depressed and not happy ...
A. 3 June 2008: Yeah, it's rough because of this other girl. Maybe next time he sends you a flirty text, you can say, " I love when you flirt with me, but don't you have a girl friend?" maybe put on your joking voice and say "you should just leave her, and be with ... (read in full...)
A question about pleasure and pain in sex.
Q. this may be a weird one just to warn you :] when me and my boyfriend are together he likes me to slap him because it "turns him on" is this okay? I mean I don't want to hurt him if I do...I feel really bad about it. Is this like a pain fetish?? ...
A. 3 June 2008: Not strange. Some people like it, because during sex, you experience such pleasure, that pain is actually not so painful. I like my butt to be slapped ONLY during sex. Otherwise...OUCH! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is having trouble letting go of the fact I wasn't a virgin!
Q. My boyfriend of six months is having troubles letting go the fact that I wasn't a virgin before we started dating. I was totally honest with him when we first started dating that i wasn't a virgin coming out of a year relationship with someone else. ...
A. 3 June 2008: Let him no that your last boyfriend wasnt anything compared to him. Not even a comparison. Talk down on you past experience, and , try new things in bed and tell him "wow, that was the first time I've ever done that". You can't change your past, but ... (read in full...)
I got drunk and pregnant! Help help help!
Q. okai my friend invited me to her house party i said sure so that night i went.they were all drinking and my friend told me 2 take a lil so i did juz that little got me on it i got really but really drunk and the only thing i remember was a dude ...
A. 3 June 2008: Go to your parents. Sounds nuts, but now that the deed is done, there isnt much punishing they can do. Anyway, this is not something you can hide forever, and you will need their help on figuring out what your plan is gonna be. You have to decide on ... (read in full...)
Feel so attracted to my best friend, only recently I've realised she would be an absolutely perfect girlfriend!
Q. Hello, well basicly im starting to feel attracted to my best friend, only recently ive realised she would be an absolutely perfect girlfriend, i cant think of 1 fault, i know she liked me in the past do you think it might be worth a shot? We have a ...
A. 2 June 2008: In this situation, I always suggest not making a complete leap, only little steps at first. Drop hints, and look for signs that make it possible. If you get a positive sign, take your next hint a step further, if you get a negative sign, step it ... (read in full...)
My anger is wrecking my life!
Q. I have a huge problem, and it's tearing me apart. I'm 19 years old. My boyfriend is 23. Ever since I was a baby, and I'm not kidding, I've had a temper. I used to have tantrums in my craddle. When I was starting to eat real food, my mom would f...
A. 1 June 2008: LOL, oops, cant, you are anon! I really want to help you, and my current partner has the same exact problem! I've learned how to help him with it, because, like you, he has had this issue since he was a baby. If you send me mail, I can write you ... (read in full...)
My anger is wrecking my life!
Q. I have a huge problem, and it's tearing me apart. I'm 19 years old. My boyfriend is 23. Ever since I was a baby, and I'm not kidding, I've had a temper. I used to have tantrums in my craddle. When I was starting to eat real food, my mom would f...
A. 1 June 2008: You need to learn a little more about yourself before you work on anger management. Realizing that you are tempermental is the first step. I'm going to send you private mail.... ... (read in full...)
I had sex with the guy I met on line, but he does not know I am a minor as I lied about my real age!
Q. Right this may sound really stupid, and anyone who reads this is going to think I have a very low self estime and no confidence at all. But I used to go on chat rooms quite often, when I was bored or had no one to talk to on msn, and just for fun I ...
A. 1 June 2008: I dont know, I have a different opinion on this matter. You obviously care about this guy enough to not want to get him in to trouble, but you also care enough to want to be honest. I have been in your shoes, and what I did was I told the guy, ... (read in full...)
I think my best friend is bulimic, she also rarely goes out recently, how should I approach her on this?
Q. hi i think my best friend is bulumic because shes got really thin and gaunt looking we barely talk anymore she neva comes out she used to be loud but she is soo quiet now recently i was over at hers and i found a bag of laxatives below her bed what...
A. 1 June 2008: VERY touchy subject for girls. I wouldnt confront her, but let he know you've noticed something off with her personality, and you care for her. Let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk about anything, and nomatter what, dont give ... (read in full...)
An affair that I didn't want!
Q. I am married, I have a 27 year old disabled daughter and 4 other healthy grown children. I am VERY vulnerable. I have been "slightly" pursued, asked "if you ever need to talk, I am here" This man oversees a financial aspect of my disabled daughter. ...
A. 1 June 2008: Not shocked at all. My mother was emotionally alone, having a downs syndrum son, and my father M.I.A. It's hard to go though life with someone who dosnt share your feelings , concerns, joys, laughter, and so on. When it's missing, we always ... (read in full...)
How do you get over the heartache?
Q. how do u get over someone who u liked for 3yrs more than life? Someone who rejected you in a extremely nice way but u can't get over it. Someone who comes in ur dreams every nite? Someone pictures u luk at every nite. Someone u wish u saw everday ...
A. 1 June 2008: Time and distraction. Keep yourself busy with things that dont remind you of her, and remember that time is our greatest healer. If you love someone, let them go, if she comes back, it was meant to be. Serious stuff! I'm sorry you are hurting. It ... (read in full...)
He's still married and I'm having his baby! Help!
Q. I have something of a complicated situation on my hands. The man I am with is still trying to get the money together for his divorce. The woman knows about me, and although she did not officially want the divorce, she is willing to sign the papers ...
A. 1 June 2008: I learned that the sooner you tell the truth, the better. Like ripping off a band-aid. A baby is a hard thing to hide, even long distance. (congrads, by the way). He needs to be very stern and clear with her that it's done. It isnt your job. Your ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid about becoming pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a "committed" relationship. We have talked about sex and he says he would never do anything to make me uncomfortable and wouldn't push me; I believe him. I have stepped up and decided to start taking the pill. I have told ...
A. 1 June 2008: The pill is super effective. Really, it's all you need (to prevent pregnancy). Condoms are uncomfertable for some people. It's good to be paranoid about pregnancy, but dont let it ruin your sex life. The pill is good enough, over kill is ... (read in full...)
Second-Life is ruining my real life!
Q. Hi, I've been seeing my fiancee for 9years, and known her for over 10. A couple of years ago we started having problems within out relationship because my fiancee was feeling too tired most nights to talk to me let alone anything else. So,I s...
A. 1 June 2008: You seem very tolerant. She sounds like a complete mess! She is right, she does need to sort her mind out. Trust me, you dont want to marry a girl going nuts. She will only get nuttier. She might be able to talk to a theropist better than you think. ... (read in full...)
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