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writes:why do i get so easily jealous of other peoples relationships? ive been with my boyfriend for over a year and are moving in together next month, we have never had an argument and never bicker or fight, we love each other so much, are really happy and have a very open and honest relationship. However I still get jealous of other peoples relationships. For example, my best friend has been with her boyfriend for a year as well and are looking to buy a house with a mortgage (me and my bf are looking to rent), but they bicker and argue alot and have split up during a big fight.I dont get why im jealous of the fact that they're getting a mortgage together whilst me and my bf are renting, it feels like they've got a more serious and stronger relationship than i have because they are making a bigger committment and talk about marrying each other and having kids together whilst me and my bf dont discuss that. Dont get me wrong, i cant see myself with anyone but him but we never talk about the long term future with each other, we take each day as he comes. am i being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2018): Well first of all as far as renting or buying with another breathing human bad idea. Boyfriend girlfriend ninja turtle because as you can see they have split. I am proud to say I have always had my own its all a bad idea. So now lets look at this objectively my daughters dad wanted to or claimed he wanted to move into my house after I had the baby but he cheated on me a lot. I watched how he treated the ex before me and I am glad the house fell apart because I didn't want that around our daughter your mortage friends now have nothing still jealous?
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (21 April 2009):
You answered your own question. Youre jealous because you want to know where the relationship is going. You only mentioned this point briefely at the end, you need to be more honest with youself.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Slightly petty, but I'm sure most of us here will say it seems there is something lacking in your relationship that is important to you and it is causing you to compare it to other relationships. It isn't uncommon to yearn for what you don't have, however, I have always believed that it dosnt matter what materialistic things you have if you have true love, it's the only thing that matters. I stayed in a very shack like studio place in Hawaii for over a year with my now husband, and we never complained because we had eachother. We have evolved since then, but you can afford what you can afford. Things will get better for the pair of you as a couple in time. So what if your friend is buying a home with her boyfriend? They argue more often than you and your partner. Would you rather be buying a home and arguing with your boyfriend, or barely getting by with someone you have fun with and get along with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): Hello!
You mentioned you have never had an arguement or bicker at all, and you are jealous of your friend because she fights with her man. This is probably a normal way to feel. Conflict in a relationship isn't a bad thing. When you fight with your sgnificant other, it makes you communicate with them and work through problems TOGETHER, and when you do, it ultimately brings you closer. Maybe not tiny little insignificant fights, but when you work through the big ones, it definately brings you closer, speaking from experience. Their relationship probably IS stronger, because of the things they have had to work through. I mean, you have only been dating for a year. The first year of a relationship is still both of you being on your best behavior. I wouldn't worry too much, your boyfriend is committing to you by living with you, thats big for a guy. Talking about the future is always touchy, so maybe let him bring it up. I never talk about marriage or the future with my guy unless he brings it up, and he does everyso often, talking about buying a house together, etc etc. You'll get there. You just have to get through a few more things first.
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