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He said he doesn't think I love him any more. How am I supposed to prove it to him?

Q.   Everything's been going great in my relationship (or so i thought)and me and my boyfriend haven't had an arguement in ages. i saw him on mon and everything was fine. we had a BBQ and he kept saying how happy he was and what a good day it was. then ...

A.   23 July 2008: Wow, this guy is not okay. 1st he tells you he thinks other girls are hot, then he THREATENS to leave you if you don't prove your love?! Are you kidding?! Sounds like he has laid out the gameboard and wants you to play. There is an issue going on ... (read in full...)

The thought of getting caught really turns me on!

Q.   the thought of getting caught really turns me on when were having sex, i know it sounds really strange. when me and my boyfriend are having sex, i prefer to do it like, in his bedroom when his parents are in, or in his car, where its risky, i dont ...

A.   22 July 2008: As odd as it is, it is also very common. Its a pshycological reaction that happens in the brain when we are doing something we know we shouldnt be doing under certain circumstanses. The exctiement of what we are doing and the rush of knowing you ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions, or should I somehow let the girl know to stop flirting with me?

Q.   Hi, Here's my dilemma. A little more than a month ago, a girl (lets say Tammy) and her friend came up to my desk giggling, and she put her chest out and asked how she looked. I have also noticed that Tammy smiles and waves to me often, like ever...

A.   22 July 2008: Thats not fair for the "pretty" girls, because now THEY don't stand a chance with you. You can't let a bad past experience with a girl ruin your chances for love. We have bad experiences so that we learn from it, and let it help us grow and mature. ... (read in full...)

I get turned on by girls, am I bisexual?

Q.   im 20 and been with my boyfriend for lil over 3 years.i love him and he turns me on but i really enjoy watching lesbian porn and girls gone wild.we watch it 2gether but i kinda get mad for him 2 watch it but i dont say anything.anyways am i bi ...

A.   22 July 2008:  Nowadays, girls are being more open to coming out with their sexuality. You may in fact be bi sexual. My 1st girlfriend was my best friend 1st, but as time went on, and we felt more comfertable with sharing personal beliefs and such, we discovered ... (read in full...)

I'm not interested in this guy, how do I let him know I was just flirting?

Q.   Ok, i will be the first to admit I am a BIG TEASE! I love the attention I get from men. Guys at my work flirt endlessley with me, and I LOVE IT. I flirt back all the time but it's kinda a big game for me, I really just love the attention, i have no ...

A.   22 July 2008: Hehehehe, you are bummed now because all those efforts to grab attention from guys has paid off? Honestly, you have to understand that when you put off the vibe, they will catch on. Teasing isnt nice when it isnt used in moderation. Do you ever ask ... (read in full...)

Any suggestions, or should I somehow let the girl know to stop flirting with me?

Q.   Hi, Here's my dilemma. A little more than a month ago, a girl (lets say Tammy) and her friend came up to my desk giggling, and she put her chest out and asked how she looked. I have also noticed that Tammy smiles and waves to me often, like ever...

A.   22 July 2008: I'm unclear, you like her, but because of your morals you don't want to step on any toes? Or you flat out don't like her that way, wether she is with someone or not? The best thing for you to do without hurting any feelings or creating any ... (read in full...)

My wife to be had an abortion, what do I do?

Q.   Hi all, I am new here. I was googling about my problem and came here to this site and thought to post my dilemma. Ok, I know this girl for one and half months and we have had talks for hours and found that we both like each other and planned...

A.   21 July 2008:  Because you two have only been seeng eachother, you are still in the "getting to know you" phase. I wasnt clear though, did she have this affair while you were with her? In that case, it could effect your future with her because your trust for her ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend just confessed he's bisexual! Could there be something going on behind my back?

Q.   Just today my boyfriend of three years [on and off] has told me that he's bi. i figured, because it was VERY obvious but now its akward. we can hardly kiss anymore. and i've always wanted to have a three-some and he's THINKING ABOUT IT. is this just ...

A.   20 July 2008: Very rarely does 2 people that like eachother (bi, gay or otherwise) sleep together in the same bed and not do anything sexual, flirty or loving in some way. I don't know your boyfriend, so I can't speak for him. Fortunately, you have an open mind ... (read in full...)

I don't want him to think he's the reason I don't want to have sex, what do I say?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. He is the sweetest guy ever. He is always thinking of me first and buying me things when i dont expect it. We've talked about having sex. I love him more than anything but I'm not sure if i want to have sex ...

A.   17 July 2008: Dr.Solutions, I am more concerned that this girl now regrets coming here for advice, and yes, the root of my answer was to incourage self respect. It seemed to me that your answer had nothing to do with helping her feel comfertable telling her ... (read in full...)

Scared for life, walked in on my mom and dad having sex, how do I behave now, also I think it affected me in a negative way, help me out?

Q.   walking in on mum and dad.... HELP!!!...

A.   17 July 2008: Yeah, thats never a pleasant memory. When I was young, I had to stumble on the same situation (eeeewww), and the best way for me to process it was to laugh about it. Now that I am older, I see it as a great thing for them to be making love rather ... (read in full...)

More experienced than I am, and loves rough sex, never compliments me after sex, as I do her, instead, I asked a stupid question, and she bragged about her former partners, now I am a little depressed, please help?

Q.   Man o man, I am such a mess... I'm not even sure if this even something valid to be upset about, but its like this echoing thought that is pounding my head to death. My gf has had quite a few liaisons, about twice as many as me actually... In which ...

A.   17 July 2008: Of course you feel crappy about this. Anyone would. The thing is, she is with YOU. All the other sexual experiences meant nothing because she is no longer in a relationship with them. It is, however, very important to feel like you are the best ... (read in full...)

I don't want him to think he's the reason I don't want to have sex, what do I say?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. He is the sweetest guy ever. He is always thinking of me first and buying me things when i dont expect it. We've talked about having sex. I love him more than anything but I'm not sure if i want to have sex ...

A.   17 July 2008:  I think solutions guy is completely wrong. A young lady needs to have respect for her body, as a young man does as well. Poisoning her mind?! Are you KIDDING? Because I feel that she should respect herself before anyone else? I'd give that advice ... (read in full...)

How can I get the guy I cheated with and his boyfriend to break up?

Q.   Well how should i start...im gay, there's this guy I really really really like. Im 14, he 16. He has a boyfriend but 1 day he had sex with me and cheated on him with me in the mall bathroom. Ok his boyfriend walked in on us while we were doing it. ...

A.   17 July 2008: Glad to hear things are working out in your favor. Be very careful hon! My brother is 32, and gay, and he just discovered he has hep c. He wasnt the type to sleep around, in fact, been with the same guy for over 7 years. You are so young, please, ... (read in full...)

I've lost weight and dress sexier for him, yet he keeps watching porn. Was I right in scratching his collection so he can't see it??

Q.   My boyfriend and I had a disagreement a few months ago. It was about porn. I've tried to keep an open mind about it, but it torments the life out of me. I've tried to say "that's how men are, i shouldnt be so selfish" but it doesn't help. He ...

A.   14 July 2008: Hey. I know what you are feeling. Suuucks. Seriously, I always felt that there comes a point where a couple needs to be considerate of eachothers feelings, wether the other agrees with them or not. My husband and I are still trying to find our ... (read in full...)

I don't want him to think he's the reason I don't want to have sex, what do I say?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. He is the sweetest guy ever. He is always thinking of me first and buying me things when i dont expect it. We've talked about having sex. I love him more than anything but I'm not sure if i want to have sex ...

A.   14 July 2008: Waiting for sex is the most mature desicion you can make. If he is not willing to wait for it, he is not worth keeping. No matter how much $ he spends on you, and all the poetry he could write, you are worth waiting for! If he gets mad, you need to ... (read in full...)

What are the odds of my girlfriend being pregnant?

Q.   So here is my dilema. My girlfriend and I had sex last night and I came inside her. One hour after, she started her period. What's the odds of her getting pregnant? We have sex on a very consistant basis atleast once a day no more than 5 times a ...

A.   13 July 2008: I concieved while I was on my moon (period). It is a possability, and some ladies ovulate while they are menstrating. ... (read in full...)

Why do I keep breaking up with guys after 3 months?

Q.   i have met a lot of guys who are interested in me even dated a few and always ended up breaking up with them after three months. is it that i am not ready for a relationship or i havnt find the right guy what is wrong with me?...

A.   13 July 2008: Trial and error hon. I went through a lot of boyfriends (not all sexual) to get to the "one". And, he is perfect for me, exactly what I was looking for, and I only have eyes for him. I married him:) But, like I said before, Had to go through MANY ... (read in full...)

Is there a particular age that a woman, is assumed to be sexually active or not a virgin?

Q.   At what age is it assumed a woman is sexually active? For men, is it a turn off to find out a woman is a virgin? Especially, of those men that are of mature age? For women, how old were some of you when you lost your virginity? What sort of pre...

A.   12 July 2008: Now THATS a big question!!! It is funny you should ask because I've noticed that the age of sexually active girls are, well, dropping dramaticlly. I see girls here telling all about how they are going to lose their virginity at the age of 12, 13. It ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has left me twice for other women, should I trust him this time, or move on, I do love him??

Q.   My boyfriend of 5 years has left me twice for another women. The last one was a 17 year old girl, and now he came back and says he loves me and wants to work on thins. But i took him back once and he promised all the same things, so should i fall ...

A.   12 July 2008: It's so hard to love someone that don't love you. If he has left you twice, it's because he does not see a future with you. If you want to be serious, and have a family, settle down, etc, he is NOT the person to do that with. Soory hon:(... (read in full...)

We had sex, then he got mad at me and I don't know why!

Q.   I'll make this short and simple. I met a guy recently. I fell for him straight away. He had gorgeous eyes, and an amazing personality. After we met, we constantly called eachother and always wanted to see eachother. Well, that was all be...

A.   12 July 2008: Trust me hon, you were used. This happens too often with girls your age (and guys too, I suppose). Did you use protection at least? ... (read in full...)

We had sex, then he got mad at me and I don't know why!

Q.   I'll make this short and simple. I met a guy recently. I fell for him straight away. He had gorgeous eyes, and an amazing personality. After we met, we constantly called eachother and always wanted to see eachother. Well, that was all be...

A.   11 July 2008: He used you for sex...Now he thinks he has a good excuse to avoid you. If you were older, and wiser to this game, you would have known better and kept your temple to yourself untill it was crystal clear that he actually loved you. You were used, ... (read in full...)

I'm hurt that he didn't tell me about his promotion.

Q.   This guy I love so much, he's in the Air force and on assignment some place else. I found out he's being promoted and yet although we communicate often he didn't wanted to tell me. I had to founf out by a web page! We just emailed for this 4th of J...

A.   11 July 2008: If he sais he enjoys your "friendship", well, it's that simple. You are a friend. He probably did'nt even think to tell you about it. Maybe it would be a good time to tell him that you would like to be more than friends. Let him know how you feel ... (read in full...)

I only get turned on by prostitutes!

Q.   I have always have had sex with prostitutes, but never with a "normal" woman. I just don't get turned on by normal women. only prostitutes turn me on. Is there any thing wrong with this? Am i supposed to have sex with hoes the rest of my life? I ...

A.   11 July 2008: Same reason some people prefer to take drugs regularly than be sober for 1 second, or rob other people instead of getting a job. (This is only an opinion, not a fact), I think you are lazy, and afraid of reality. It's takes work to be with someone, ... (read in full...)

How do I get over my teacher infatuation?

Q.   The teacher who I was in Love with just left to go to New Zealand, trouble is shes female like me....... If I start from the beginning it is easier to understand. Last September we got a new Maths teacher, everything was fine for a few weeks, but t...

A.   11 July 2008: Everything about your hopes of being with her one day are unrealistic, I'm sorry, don't want to sound mean. Thats why they call it a "crush". The only way to get over it is with distraction. Are you just attracted to older ladies, or are you open ... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant the first time you have sex?

Q.   can females get pregnant when they have sex for the first time? ...

A.   11 July 2008: Happens often. Could you be????... (read in full...)

How do I have a 'serious relationship' with someone?

Q.   Me and this boy really like each other, we have for a while and I really want to be with him. The only thing stopping me is the fact that i've never really been in a serious relationship as I tend to get worried and never accept if someone asks ...

A.   11 July 2008: Really, there is no such thing as a serious relationship untill you are old enough to live in your own place with your partner. Thats when it gets serious. However, like Tremor was saying, it is a mutual thing, a balanced love, respect and ... (read in full...)

I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend does not want to stop having sex...

Q.   Im 17 and my bf is 23. i am 7 months pregnant and he does not want to stop having sex. i get tired and just wanna be loved. be4 i got pregnant we would have sex 5 times a day and he loved it but i cant do it anymore. hes the only person im allowed ...

A.   11 July 2008:  Time to get a backbone. Stand up for yourself. If you don't want to be treated like a kid, start acting like an adult, and don't allow this to happen. I am a stay at home mom right now, and I appreciate everything my sweetie does to help support ... (read in full...)

My cyber friend treats me horrible lately. We have been doing sexual stuff over the webcam...

Q.   Let me frist start off by telling the story. I had a friend in school give me a addy to a girl that lives 200 miles away on the other side of the country. I got talking to the girl over msn and over time the friendship went to like teenagers s...

A.   9 July 2008: Hm, yeah, I don't ever recommend cyber relationships. It just isnt reality, andthere is nothing personal about it. She could be wayyy younger than you, and you don't really know it because you don't see her in person, you don't know her roots, her ... (read in full...)

She loves me...but, I just don't think I love her...

Q.   Hi, I'm 22 and this is my first relationshipand it has gone for about 1.3 years. The first 6months were great, she was nice to me, a lot of love, lots of sex just perfect but from that on we have sex 1time a month and it seems that is just doing ...

A.   9 July 2008: We call the 1st year of a relationship the "honeymoon period". This is when everythingis exciting, your heart flutters everytime you hear your partners name and you can't imagine being without this person for even a second. You have sex everyday, ... (read in full...)

Can love overcome our money problems?

Q.   Hi everyone! I hope you can help..or at least share your input. My name is Susan. I have been with my soul mate since I was 16. He is my heart and soul and is the most tenderhearted gentleman I know. I'm now 23 years old. He is 25. We are both ...

A.   9 July 2008: We have so much in common! I have 2 kids, and am with the man of my dreams (of course with just a couple of very minor flaws). We make just enough money to survive, but the thing is, we are a really happy couple. At first, it was hard, we both spent ... (read in full...)

How can I get the guy I cheated with and his boyfriend to break up?

Q.   Well how should i start...im gay, there's this guy I really really really like. Im 14, he 16. He has a boyfriend but 1 day he had sex with me and cheated on him with me in the mall bathroom. Ok his boyfriend walked in on us while we were doing it. ...

A.   9 July 2008: The aunts and uncles here dont usually give advice on how to hurt people (break up a relationship), as we all pretty much agree that it is just wrong. We try to heal people and help others in need. I understand that you have strong feelings for this ... (read in full...)

Do I tell my family about a sexual assualt?

Q.   Should I tell my family about sexual assault? I have been sexually assaulted several times but sometimes by family members- recently by a bro that is not dna related. I don't want to get the family angry at me. Should I tell?...

A.   8 July 2008: I always wonder what kind of family would get upset at family member that has been victimized by another family member. Messed up! I don't know what kind of family you have, so my advice is to tackle this problem by the root of it. If your step ... (read in full...)

She says I have to get myself together before we can get back together, I don't understand...

Q.   My name is Sandy..i am a bisexual..i just got out of a 2 year relationship with my girlfriend..it was mostly because of me and my attitude..we see each other once in a while..i want to make it work,..i love her and i know she loves me but she wants ...

A.   7 July 2008: Hey Sandy! You know, one of the great things about being in a same sex relationship is that you can understand the female mind because you have one too! We are complex, and usually, there is always some hidden meaning in everyting we say and do. ... (read in full...)

She says I have to get myself together before we can get back together, I don't understand...

Q.   My name is Sandy..i am a bisexual..i just got out of a 2 year relationship with my girlfriend..it was mostly because of me and my attitude..we see each other once in a while..i want to make it work,..i love her and i know she loves me but she wants ...

A.   6 July 2008: Hey Sandy! You know, one of the great things about being in a same sex relationship is that you can understand the female mind because you have one too! We are complex, and usually, there is always some hidden meaning in everyting we say and do. ... (read in full...)

Can watching pornography, while masturbating, affect your sex life in a negative way?

Q.   Ok so Im 15, and ive been watching porn and masturbating since the 5th grade, and was a virgin until this day. I finally found a girl who really likes me, so we go to an area and fool around. I was hard while during the foreplay, but when she began ...

A.   6 July 2008: Nothing. Nothing is wrong with you. A huge percentage of the worlds population masterbate to porn, welcome to the club. You were not able to perform because you were nervous. You are a virgin, and the nervousness will effect the sex, not the porn. ... (read in full...)

He thinks a woman's only goal is to steal a man's money...how do I break up with him?

Q.   he lives at home and ive suggested we buy a house but he says he wont because women are only after money and he would prefer to get his own, he doesn't ever want kids and i do, he never wants to get married because women steal the mans money. im not ...

A.   4 July 2008: I'm baffled that you want to spare this jack-ass's feelings. Good grief, get a backbone, kick him to the curb! Why are you tollerating this? Great guys exist, and you are wasting your life on him? He is rediculously obvious about not being serious ... (read in full...)

I'm 7 months pregnant and he's not serious about me, how do I cope?

Q.   hi i really need some advice,im 7months preg for a man that i have been on and off with the last 4years..we were never serious with each other,u might aswel say it was just for fun!!he will be around for his baby thank god..but i just feel lost at ...

A.   4 July 2008: A father won't actually become a father untill after the baby has arrived. But a mother becomes a mother as soon as the baby is concieved. It is normal to worry about the future, in fact, it's a good thing! If he isnt serious about you and the baby, ... (read in full...)

Where drugs are concerned, does a leopard change it's spots?

Q.   My question mainly revolves around the question, does a leopard change it's spots? I was dating a guy for 5 months. I'm 25, and can honestly say I truly felt I was in love with him. We were from totally different backgrounds and he is totally th...

A.   4 July 2008: The thing with marijuana is, it isnt addictive....it just isnt. The side effects are: procrastination, hunger, tierdness, laziness and for those who don't use it habitually, the "giggles". My mother has a terrible nervous system disease called ... (read in full...)

Pregnant and seeing somebody new - but my parents think he only wants sex. I'm saddened by this comment.

Q.   Hey guys..this problem is kinda conplex...but i really could do with some help... Basicly i'm 5 months pregnant with a perfect little boy who i already love to bits. The babys dad doesnt wanna know basicly...i've seen him twice since we found ou...

A.   3 July 2008:  I don't believe, personally, in what your parents think about your situation. This "new guy" knows darn well what he's getting himself into. The first sign that he may actually have strong feelings for you is his intrest in your pregnancy. Has he ... (read in full...)

Pregnant and seeing somebody new - but my parents think he only wants sex. I'm saddened by this comment.

Q.   Hey guys..this problem is kinda conplex...but i really could do with some help... Basicly i'm 5 months pregnant with a perfect little boy who i already love to bits. The babys dad doesnt wanna know basicly...i've seen him twice since we found ou...

A.   3 July 2008:  I don't believe, personally, in what your parents think about your situation. This "new guy" knows darn well what he's getting himself into. The first sign that he may actually have strong feelings for you is his intrest in your pregnancy. Has he ... (read in full...)

I am feeling overwhelmed, trying to be a good mom, but I really need help, how do I get it?

Q.   ok so im a mum of three 6,5,2 and married i feel like i cant cope my husband works long hours so i have to get up early and get the kids dressed then do all the housework dinner is always ready then he will go out to football training or casino and ...

A.   3 July 2008: *sigh* Isnt parenting the hardest job we love? The thing is, you ARE overwhelmed, and it isn't abnormal. This is a symptom of you needing your husbands time more often. Can you look at your daily life and say "yes, this is balanced"? I don't ... (read in full...)

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