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writes:I keep hearing rumors at work that my fiance is cheating. i confronted him about it he said it didn't happen. but i found a letter from her. and one he had given her. she even sent me pics that he had even taken of his dick. i need help. we have kids
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (4 April 2009):
 Tell him what you know show him the picture see what he says? He needs to come clean about this as your not married it is easy to walk away, but because of the kids it is harder especially if your not working.
That does not mean to say you have to stay just cause of the kids but i think it makes it harder when children are involved.
Him sending pictures of his genitals to another women makes me think he is very immature, and going by your age i am assuming he is the same which makes it even worse he should know better.
To save this relationship he has to cut ties with her completely and vow to make this up to you if he can, if you feel you cant accept what he has done then you need to make decisions for you and the kids, either choice it wont be easy because the trust has gone now and that is hard to regain when gone, it can be regained but takes a lot of hard work especially on his part.
Whatever choice you decide i wish you well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): First let him know that you know he IS cheating and if he wants to save your relationship he'd better come clean and see what the two of you can do to make your relationship right.If however either you or he want your relationship to end then you need to sit down and work this out so that your children are affected in as small a way as possible.Just because you have kids does not mean you have to put up with being treated badly. You'll survive this whatever route you decide to follow. I hope you get what you want xx
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reader, eddie  + ♥, writes (4 April 2009):
 Based on what you've heard and what you've found, they don't sound like rumours. You found a picture of his penis that he gave to another woman? If that is not innapropriate, what is?
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (4 April 2009):
 Just because you have kids dosnt mean you have to tolerate heartache. It would probably benefit your kids if they didnt have to see their mom out of sorts because of this. Have you told him that is no longer a question in your mind wether or not he did it, at this point you just want to discuss it on a mature level? Hon, no mattwer what advice you get here, it's ultimately your decision on how to handle this and what your plans are with or without him. I'm just saying that the kids will be fine wether you two are together or not. Don't worry about them. They are only effected when you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): I've heard that it's actually worse for children to watch their parents in an unhappy relationship. They could get the wrong impression if they learn of this later...a boy may think it's okay to treat women badly, and a girl may think that all men are not to be trusted. It would be better for both you and your children if the relationship ended and a better relationship is formed.
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reader, satindesire +, writes (4 April 2009):
 You don't really want to be with him if he's cheating do you?
Kids or no kids, you cannot let yourself be in this situation. It wasn't as if him sleeping or being inappropriate with her was an accident, people who cheat know exactly what they're doing and what they're putting at risk.
Do the right thing and rid yourself of him. Infidelity is often one of the hardest things to TRULY get over and forgive/forget in a relationship...if you do stay with him, you'll never trust him again and you have to have trust in a healthy relationship.
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