He has a big problem! Is my husband cheating on me?
Q. I have been married for just over a year but in the same relationship for 16 years. This sounds crazy but my husband and I have just stopped having sex - initially I just put it down to stressful jobs (investment banking)and the associated fatigue ...
A. 7 October 2008: I caught my hubby masterbating a numerous of times to girls on line, and he aditted to doing so very frequently. We wernt having a "dry" spell, but I know he isnt cheating (otherwise he wouldnt be masterbating, lol). However, getting text from other ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to keep our unborn child?
Q. Hello cupid readers.... I once came upon this site about 3 months ago, when I had just found out that I got a 15 year old pregnant. I decided to delete my old account becuse of the rude things I was told. Now I have come back for advice, but not for ...
A. 6 October 2008: You have rights as a father too. The decision is in fact hers, right now, but you have the right to say, "no, I want custody of this baby." Are the pair of you a couple now? Look on line about a fathers rights to yur unborn child. Of course, making ... (read in full...)
If a guy's fiancee makes out topless with another guy, is she cheater? Is she immoral?
Q. If a guy's fiance makes out topless with another guy in his bed when her fiance lives in another part of the state, is she a cheater? A s__t??...
A. 6 October 2008: To be honest, I've never heard the same definition of "slut" from anyone. It's always different. I believe it's a combination of characteristics exsisting in a person (male or female). A person that dresses to get the attention of sex on a regular ... (read in full...)
If a guy's fiancee makes out topless with another guy, is she cheater? Is she immoral?
Q. If a guy's fiance makes out topless with another guy in his bed when her fiance lives in another part of the state, is she a cheater? A s__t??...
A. 5 October 2008: When you decide to get married, dating and making out with anyone other than the person you are to be marrying is cheating. Yes, it is cheating. ... (read in full...)
I want to 'come out' but how do I tell my best friend without losing him?
Q. Im 18 years old, and i have known i was gay for a while now. I have yet to tell anyone about my sexuality and im worried that alot of my friends and family may not be ok with it. Particulary, the person i consider my best friend, i already think he ...
A. 4 October 2008: What I have learned from my brother coming out when he was your age is that anyone wo can't accept you because of your sexual prefrence is not worth your energy. Anyone that judgemental is not worth having as a friend, and if a family member cant ... (read in full...)
Why am I losing my sex drive at this age?
Q. Hi everyone! ok i have a problem its not serious to me but to my husband it is. ok we've been together since about a month b4 my 17th birthday im now 21{almost 22}we've been married 2 years and for some reason i just really dont have alot of ...
A. 2 October 2008: Hey, you never know, maybe the tools will bring out your freaky side, and not only will you get your drive back, but you will have a whole lot of fun doing it!... (read in full...)
Our marriage is devoid of physical intimacy. Any suggestions?
Q. My wife and I are having problems in our marriage; I have been great difficulty living in a marital relationship that is almost entirely devoid of physical intimacy. This is with the kiss, touch, embrace and sex. For the past ten years we have had ...
A. 2 October 2008: I'm sorry it has come down to that in your marriage. I personally find it odd that one would get married to establish a pemanent friendship.....and it has always been my understanding that love and attraction were big aspects of a healthy marriage. ... (read in full...)
Why am I losing my sex drive at this age?
Q. Hi everyone! ok i have a problem its not serious to me but to my husband it is. ok we've been together since about a month b4 my 17th birthday im now 21{almost 22}we've been married 2 years and for some reason i just really dont have alot of ...
A. 2 October 2008: Most all sex therpist will tell you to communicate the issue of not orgasming and feeling unsatisfied. This could very well be the reason of why you arnt feeling up to sex anymore. One other reason (it was for me) is that when the work day is done ... (read in full...)
What are the early signs of an abusive man?
Q. i'm in this new relationship and i was wondering if you could tell me the warning signs of an abusive or controlling man. ...
A. 29 September 2008: How much do you know about his past? Does he have kids, and if so, is he allowed to see them? How much do you know about his ex's? I ask because the best way to pin point a man (or lady) with big issues like that is by observing their past. In my ... (read in full...)
Do you think he will want contact with his child in the future?
Q. i dont want anyone telling me how evil i am for having an affair as the other woman i am quite aware that the other woman always gets the blame. i had an affair with a married man ,we fell in love with each other, i also went out with him when i was ...
A. 19 September 2008: If he doesnt want contact, eventually, the child would. When your son gets old enough to understand that his daddy is not there, he will begin to wonder where he is. Basiclly, your son and his father have every right to see eachother, and I don't ... (read in full...)
Dealing with the end of a destructive relationship: why do we keep coming back to each other, even though things are so messed up?
Q. Dear Cupid. I'm looking for some unbias advice. My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost five years now. Our relationship was going good, aside from the insane fights we would have, or so I thought. This past January she broke it off with...
A. 19 September 2008: I've been there! Distraction, distraction, distraction. It may seem too soon, but go on a date! Pick up a time consuming hobbie. I went back to an abusive boyfriend time and time again, and we have a child together. I was finally able to ditch him, ... (read in full...)
How can I make her understand that I need her to stop calling all the time and need space...???
Q. Hi, I have this girlfriend, we were going on pretty fine for quiet sometime ever since she started being a bitch. She believe's that being in a relationship is calling each other 10 times a day.. , She doesnt give me my space.. I now feel like ...
A. 19 September 2008: Hi there. You share the same issues as many men out there, the overly clingy girlfriend.....1st, I must say, it takes 2 people to fight. One might strike an argument, but to carry it on, it takes 2. Ask her what she wants from you? It seems she is ... (read in full...)
He will not be with me if I keep this child!
Q. We broke up with my bf about a month ago after a year and a half. It was a great relationship, but he saiz, that he wasn't all that happy and so he needed time to be alone and focuse on himself. I gave him that time, even tho it was very hard. We ...
A. 17 September 2008: I see why you'd be concerned about adoption. It was just an option I wanted to run by you. You do know that you could have an open adoption, where you can see the child whenever you'd like. Anyway, I understand your point there, not trying to talk ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 17 September 2008: Hey girl. Just wanted to check in and see how you were doing. Any news?... (read in full...)
I want to return the favor of having oral sex, with my boyfriend, what tips can you give me, and does pubic hair turn guys off?
Q. Alright. So I've been with my first boyfriend for more than a year and I truely believe we are in love. For remarkable respect for my personal values and both of our readiness, we didn't get physical until the past few months. Lately, I've been ...
A. 17 September 2008: So, I respect you for waiting for a more appropriate age to begin thinking about sex. You are an excellent example to young ladies! The only advice I have as far as the oral thing is: don't use your teeth. OUCH! The rest, honestly, should come ... (read in full...)
He will not be with me if I keep this child!
Q. We broke up with my bf about a month ago after a year and a half. It was a great relationship, but he saiz, that he wasn't all that happy and so he needed time to be alone and focuse on himself. I gave him that time, even tho it was very hard. We ...
A. 17 September 2008: Well, you seem to know exactly what you need to do, but if I can point out the obvious, as other aunts and uncles have here, he is bad news, and should be avoided. I am sorry to hear that your support system is limited, but please, don't let that ... (read in full...)
He will not be with me if I keep this child!
Q. We broke up with my bf about a month ago after a year and a half. It was a great relationship, but he saiz, that he wasn't all that happy and so he needed time to be alone and focuse on himself. I gave him that time, even tho it was very hard. We ...
A. 16 September 2008: It is different because it is his child. If he didnt want to have kids before marriage, he should not have laid down with you. Any dummy knows that. I think there is something else going on that he isnt telling you about. Maybe a different ... (read in full...)
7 months pregnant and have to deal with the fact that he wants to keep nude pics of him and his ex! Advice?
Q. Hi there I am 7 months pregnant, it has been a hard pregnancy as my partner and I were not together when I got pregnant but when all was decided we decided to give it a go... again. Our relationship of 2.5 years has a tough one as he was still ...
A. 16 September 2008: Yeeeeah, uh, not okay. It is absolutely NOT okay for him to hang on to those pics. How would he like to find a file of you and some other man in bed together? It isn't an issue of trust, it's an issue of respect. And I know what it's like to be ... (read in full...)
Why can't I manage life with my stepmother after 7 years?
Q. My Dad has been married to my step-mom (kristy) for 7yrs....im 13 now...and still cant get over the fact that he had remarried. I cant stan Kristy...Sometimes i feel like i dont matter. I cant stand living with her. I've begged 2 friends of mine to ...
A. 15 September 2008: You never mentioned why you hate her. Other than feeling like you just don't matter. Have you tried to get involved in a good way? Maybe seek out what the two of you have in common and make an effort to create peace in your home? I felt that way too ... (read in full...)
Is his sex talk normal, or a sign of paedophilia?
Q. im a 21 - if im having sex with my boyfriend and he says that he wants me to call him my daddy and he calls me his little girl or good little girl is that hot or perverted, pedophilia signs, or just getting freaky...
A. 15 September 2008: I see it as a type of role play where he wants to the the one in control, in a freaky way, not "controlling" way. However, if it is a deep concern of yours, or it makes you feel uncomfertable, maybe in a giggle-ish way, tell him you'd rather call ... (read in full...)
Is it true that you can get pregnant if you have sex a couple of days before your period?
Q. I think im pregnant. Im supposed to get my period already, we had sex 3 days ago and people say that if u have sex like a couple days befoore ur period u can get pregnant. is it true? and what should i do?...
A. 15 September 2008: Yes, you can get pregnant. Take a pregnancy test, if it comes out negetive, wait untill your next expected period to take another. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He is threatening to take away my child once it is born!
Q. What do i do my boyfriend physically and mentally abuses me. Im pregnant now with his kid and he is threatening to take my kid and leave me and get me for child support... weve been dating since i turned 16. i got pregnant about 8 weeks ago. i just ...
A. 12 September 2008: I was in your exact shoes! I was 19 when I got pregnant with my son, his father abused me mentally and physically, and he was 12 years older than me. I had nothing, and he was financially well off. I LEFT, before my son was born. I moved in with my ... (read in full...)
Do I have to live with this guy, or should I dump him? There's a baby involved...
Q. My boyfriend,is cheatiing on me with different girls, i tried to accept the fact that he is cheating. but the other time he wrote one of the girls im working with a love message. it real hurt me, i tried so hard to put it behind me and told him that ...
A. 12 September 2008: Your child will be effected by his behavior. When he mistreats you that way, you become depressed which compromises your energy which is necessary when raising a child. It would be best for the baby if you left. Call family, tell them your ... (read in full...)
I am bi-sexual, and my mom has told me, if she finds out that I am bi-sexual, she will disown me, it will kill me if I can't tell her the truth, what do I do?
Q. im bi and i dont know how to tell my parent my mom already told me that if she ever found out that im bi that she wil say im not her daoughter and it kill me that i cant im afriad what do i do...
A. 11 September 2008: I disagree with anon, I was around that age when I discovered my intrest in females. It isnt something I was confused about, it was crystal clear to me. My first female relationship was when I was 16, and lasted untill I was 20. We still love ... (read in full...)
I feel bad because my husband is frustrated as his orgasms are not as long and pleasurable! What's wrong?
Q. my husband and i have had great sex for 3years this past year when we have sex he gets frusterated because his orgasm isn't long and pleasurable and i feel bad and sometimes i don't even get satisfied he says it's not me oh and he used to have ...
A. 11 September 2008: My husband and I had the same issue after having a flawless sex life, it got to the point where we simply stopped doing it as much, so, I bought a couple of good porns, a little costume he would enjoy, and a sex toy for myself in case he finished ... (read in full...)
I am bi-sexual, and my mom has told me, if she finds out that I am bi-sexual, she will disown me, it will kill me if I can't tell her the truth, what do I do?
Q. im bi and i dont know how to tell my parent my mom already told me that if she ever found out that im bi that she wil say im not her daoughter and it kill me that i cant im afriad what do i do...
A. 11 September 2008: It's always been my opinion that every parent should support and love their children no matter what their sexual prefrence is. My brother is gay, and had no issues coming out with it, and my mom is super supportive of him. I am bi sexual, but I ... (read in full...)
I am thirteen, and have had my period for a while now, I want to use tampons, my mother is strongly opposed to my use of them, what is wrong with tampons at my age?
Q. Well I use tampons secretly behind my moms back. I find pads uncomfortable. I asked when I can use tampons and she tod me when you're WWWWWAAAAAAYYY older! She's afraid I'll hurt myself (im 13!) and that I'm too small to use something "big". AND ...
A. 11 September 2008: I am not sure why your mom has issues with tampons, maybe they resemble a penis in her eyes??? But, it is your body, and your comfert, not hers. When I was young, I wasnt allowed to wear thong underwear untill I was 16, and I can understand that, ... (read in full...)
I am eleven years old, and I can't stop thinking about sex, and having sex, how can I stop this?
Q. Hey aunts and uncles im 11 and lately i have been really into sex and i want to have sex really bad. Any ideas on how to stop this feeling?...
A. 10 September 2008: As Annalisa has said, it is a normal reaction to the hormones your body is adjusting to. I have 7 brothers, all of them experiencing the same reaction. Most of them kept it under control by learning more about sex, and, well, masterbating. Hate to ... (read in full...)
What does the phrase "I did love you but I am in love with you" mean to a guy?
Q. I have heard men say " i do love you but im not in love with you" but what does it mean opposite of that " I did love you but I am in love with you" What does that phrase mean to a guy? ...
A. 9 September 2008: I am not a guy, but when I translate the phrase in my mind it goes a little like this:" I love my puppy, my parents, my car, my job, and you. I am not IN love with my puppy, my parents, my car, my job and you." He would be bummed if the things he ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 9 September 2008: I totally agree with you, and hope she really isnt pregnant. I dont know whats happened in society where being so young and pregnant is acceptable. However, if she and her partner "love" eachother, and are willing to do whatever it takes to take ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 9 September 2008: I was feeling sick days after conception. Every lady is different. Would it be a terrible thing if you were pregnant? I had those exact same symptoms. Not saying you are or are not pregnant, but those are in fact pregnancy symptoms. Ooooo, now I'm ... (read in full...)
I need his help with out son..how can I convince him to move in?
Q. how can i convince my boyfriend to move in with me so that I have help taking care of our son???...
A. 8 September 2008: How exactly do you need help? Financialy? Physically? Mentally? All of the above? How is he not helping? The reason I ask is because this information will help us to answer your question better. You say he is your current boyfriend, so if the pair ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 7 September 2008: For now, you wait. Take another test when you have skiped or expect your next period. FYI, sperm can live up to 5 days inside of you wether or not some of it came out or not. Another thing you can do is pay attention to your body. Are you having ... (read in full...)
Do these signs mean that I'm pregnant?
Q. I think i mite be pregnant but im not sure. I was due to come on today. I took 2 pregnancy tests yesterday. A cheap brand I took at lunchtime showed a very, very faint positive line, i mean extremely faint. I went straight out and bought a mor...
A. 5 September 2008: You might be. The best thing to do is take another test. For every day that comes and your period doesnt, take a test. It can get costly! A very (even VERY) faint line means pregnant. Is this a good thing for you?... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 5 September 2008: Yes, you could get pregnant. It only takes a drop to do the trick. Fluid always comes out of me after sex, I have 2 kids and am expecting again. USE PROTECTION!!!... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and having a fling! It's hurting me because we can never be 'official'....
Q. im 22 yrs old with child and a partner.for the past couple of months i have been having a fling with someone who i know really well, but he has his own family too and i think im falling in love with him.i cant help it and its hurting me because i ...
A. 4 September 2008: Never say never. Are you pregnant as the title to your question states, or do you already have a child? Anyway, not that it matters a whole lot. If your partner found out, he would probably be crushed, so I believe it's safe to say that if you left ... (read in full...)
Am I bored of my boyfriend because I felt 'sparks' with another guy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, we live together and I love him to bits. However, we recently went to a festival and camped with some friends and their friends. One of these guys was very funny and quite good looking, and I felt ...
A. 4 September 2008: There will always be someone out there that seems a little better for you than the one your with. Temptation. What you need to remember is that you don't know this other guy as well as you do your boyfriend, and he might have flaws that out do the ... (read in full...)
Am I bored of my boyfriend because I felt 'sparks' with another guy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year, we live together and I love him to bits. However, we recently went to a festival and camped with some friends and their friends. One of these guys was very funny and quite good looking, and I felt ...
A. 4 September 2008: There will always be someone out there that seems a little better for you than the one your with. Temptation. What you need to remember is that you don't know this other guy as well as you do your boyfriend, and he might have flaws that out do the ... (read in full...)
How do I let people know I'm straight?
Q. I don't know why but people think think I'm gay, but I'm actually a straight male. Sometimes gay guys hit on me, and I don't mind but how can I let people know I'm straight?...
A. 4 September 2008: If they are judging you because of their assumpton, they are not worth your time anyway. However, if it is bothering you to the point where you feel everyone is spreading rumors and it is effecting your life, maybe consider dating a female you might ... (read in full...)
I failed again in a relaionship and I feel like one because of that...
Q. I hate myself so much most of the time. I am not happy with myself. I feel like a failaure 'cause for the second time that I try a relationship it is not working. I've been crying a lot lately... I don't know what to do... I am depress 'cause my ...
A. 4 September 2008: There is nothing abnormal to the feeling of depression when we experience a failed relationship. It is part of the process of moving on and learning from it. What I'm trying to say is, we all experience the same feelings you do when we break it off ... (read in full...)
What are some ideas regarding exercise if you enjoy being active but the gym bores you to death?
Q. I would like to lose weight because although people don't think of me as fat, I am very self conscious about my appearance. I would like to have a nice figure, but I'm afraid that I'm nearing that age where it's impossible to lose weight. My ...
A. 4 September 2008: Well 1st, you need to change your diet. It's always the 1 thing that people seem to forget when it comes to weight loss. There is a proper diet for everyone, and they differ. See a nutritionist about that. It is never too late to change your figure. ... (read in full...)
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