Dating my bf out of sympathy but like another guy. How do I deal with this?
Q. I met this guy a few months ago and he really likes me I ended dating him out of sympathy and well I met his friend a week ago. My mom doesn't want me with him and she has met his friend she likes his friend and so do I but he is in love with my ...
A. 20 June 2008: First, you need to break it off with currant bf. Never date someone out of sympathy. It may seem like you are a good person at first, but you actually seem like a worse person when you have to break it off. However, your currant bf has a right to ... (read in full...)
Found out my fiancee is still married to another guy! What should I do?
Q. my fiance is married! She gave me some lame story of how she and her ex got married overseas and neither did anything to get a divorce. now we're scheduled to be married soon. do i leave her for lying to me or try and work through this? ...
A. 20 June 2008: Isnt it illegal to be married to more than 1 person at a time in the US? Anyway, if you love her and trust her, time to draw up the divorce papers. Do it with a quickness. It was really lame of her to lie about it, in fact, seems like a very con ... (read in full...)
My wife and I are at odds, over her continued contact with her ex and his family? Any input?
Q. My wife had an abusive alcoholic father, and unsupportive mother in her teens. As a result, she moved out right after high school, and got married to this guy she was dating for only 6 months. Well, they were only married for less than 1 year and ...
A. 20 June 2008: The title "ex" weighs heavy, but he is her friend. The reason you have issues with it is because you dont trust her, deep down. If you arnt comfertable with it, it would be a good idea to tell her, when the mood is calm. What I noticed works is to ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 pregnant, want to keep it but want to go to uni...what should I do??
Q. I am 18 have just done my a-levels and have found out that i am 7weeks pregnant, i really want to go to uni and i dont know if i can or not now?. I am definitley keeping the baby, because i dont believe in abortion and my bf wants me to keep it ...
A. 20 June 2008: I was in you situation, exept I was 19, and I share the same opinions on abortion as you. I had the baby, made it work, and when my son was old enough, I hired my mother to watch him and I went to college. Fortunatly, it is never too late for ... (read in full...)
Is he playing with me or does he really like me??
Q. well thier is this guy name john and he use to always hugg me and grapp me around my waist and cuddle me and my frend always use to get mad but now its been a weeek and he doesnt do it no more wat does tht mean like yeahhh im confuse like he would ...
A. 20 June 2008: Ah, young love.....It isnt uncommon for boys at your age to behave that way. Puberty is screwing with them, and you. Peer pressure makes dating wacky because he might think you are gorgeous, but his buddies might think otherwise, and that will ... (read in full...)
How should I act around him??
Q. i like this guy we been on a few date but yesterday he said he not thinking about a relationship with me until we act more like friends and he told me to take down the pics of us 2 off myspace and he told me to stop calling him my bf to be even ...
A. 20 June 2008: Love is limitless, and there really is no such thing as "too much" time together. However, this is clearly not love, and he has made it very clear that he doesnt want a relationship with you. The whole idea of "waiting 6 months" is him playing with ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be THIS jealous?
Q. I am with the man of my dreams!! He does have a past for watching porn, and we have discussed it and he is trying his best to stop, and i'm so very proud of the efforts he has made to stop. I went though the porn problem with my ex, as he was truly ...
A. 19 June 2008: Anon you are absolutely right! Had this girl expressed that she suspects her man being addicted to porn, tha would be a whole different issue. She didnt. If it were to the point where he was hiding an addiction, then it's a problem. I dont condone ... (read in full...)
Does this make me a bad person?
Q. hey, this is kinda an oqurid topic for me. ok here it goes... i have alot of guy friends and we all hang out alot, well one day we were hangin out and i said "im really bored" and being my guy friends they all said something dirty....but one or t...
A. 19 June 2008: You are not a bad person. You were supposed to learn a lesson from this. Did you learn it? A girl who is going somewhere in life does not start of her teenage years giving oral favors to a plethera of guys. Thats the lesson. You are asking yourself ... (read in full...)
Was I being selfless or stupid??
Q. Back in November, my ex was given an opportunity to get a great job cross-country. He asked me to go with him and I said I could not at the time because of my work commitment. I told him that I needed some time to have my work experience and that I ...
A. 19 June 2008: Sure, you seemed detached from the begining, even though you say you told him you wanted to be with him forever. Your actions proved otherwise. You say he stressed you out because he wanted to hang out too much (detatched). You seemed not bummed at ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be THIS jealous?
Q. I am with the man of my dreams!! He does have a past for watching porn, and we have discussed it and he is trying his best to stop, and i'm so very proud of the efforts he has made to stop. I went though the porn problem with my ex, as he was truly ...
A. 19 June 2008: Wow, a whole lot of people seem to take this situation too seriously. Here's my opinion: You are insecure. I didnt think so untill I saw that you looked through his phone-even if he was there, I know, you were probably hoping to find some dirt so ... (read in full...)
Meeting this guy just reminded me of how good I could feel. I really miss feeling loved.
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together a year and a month. He is depressed a lot and isn't at all affectionate (sp?), but I love being all cuddly and kissy. Sometimes I will ask him to kiss me and he says "no" or he "feels like i'm forcing ...
A. 19 June 2008: Move on. If he is disrespectful now, he will get worse. Negetive energy is contagious. If you dont want to just bail on his kid, ask his dad if it would be ok if you could watch him every once in a while, or hang out with him. It's hard when kids ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and the Pill... am I worrying unnecessarily?
Q. i went on the pill recently, and had unprotected sex just three days after i had started on it, meaning i wouldnt have been protected by the pill. i carryed on taking my pill, and have just come off for my 7 day break. i am experiancing a period, ...
A. 18 June 2008: the pill can really make your periods crazy. I dont think you are miscarrying, however, YOU MUST SEE YOUR OB if you are feeling unsure. When I started the pill, my periods got heavy, painful, and super bothersome.... (read in full...)
I want to go forward, she doesn't - how can I go on without her?
Q. Hey everyone I have a little problem, I have a friend who I have known for 5 years, she's incredible and everything and we're very close but she doesn't want to take our friendship into a relationship...I'm okay with this but I can't get her out of ...
A. 18 June 2008: If she really is that important to you, I'd be her very close, very personal friend. Show her that YOU are the one who will take care of her, YOU are the one that listens to her, YOU are the one that is there for her, nomatter what. She might go ... (read in full...)
Can't decide if this is a bad idea - can you help me?
Q. Alright, when I was 14 years old I dated a guy for 8 months and not too much happened. We were very close, but one day he broke up with me because he said he had feelings for another girl. He still wanted to remain friends with me, or at least "take ...
A. 18 June 2008: Hm, in most cases, young guys pull that kind of crap often, but there is a good chance he learned from it. I cant say wether it is a good idea or not, but I say a few things that mightput your dilema in perspective: If you love him, let him go, if ... (read in full...)
Are there other girls out there like me?
Q. This is going to be a strange one. Im a 19yr old female. Im what my bf calls borderline nympho. I'm able to have multiple orgasms very quickly (within minutes). I've really truly squirted as well, not pee, but a strange fluid. Is this norm...
A. 18 June 2008: Ugh, I'm so sorry, my computer was acting crazy...Didnt mean to duplicate my answer so many times!!! Geez, thats annoying! lol!!!... (read in full...)
Are there other girls out there like me?
Q. This is going to be a strange one. Im a 19yr old female. Im what my bf calls borderline nympho. I'm able to have multiple orgasms very quickly (within minutes). I've really truly squirted as well, not pee, but a strange fluid. Is this norm...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi! I'm lotusmam 808, pleasure to meet you. Seems we have a lot in common! I think I'm pretty normal. In fact, maybe pleasantly unique. You are very sexually healthy, good for you, we have more fun than most, and your bf should be flattered, and ... (read in full...)
Are there other girls out there like me?
Q. This is going to be a strange one. Im a 19yr old female. Im what my bf calls borderline nympho. I'm able to have multiple orgasms very quickly (within minutes). I've really truly squirted as well, not pee, but a strange fluid. Is this norm...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi! I'm lotusmam 808, pleasure to meet you. Seems we have a lot in common! I think I'm pretty normal. In fact, maybe pleasantly unique. You are very sexually healthy, good for you, we have more fun than most, and your bf should be flattered, and ... (read in full...)
Are there other girls out there like me?
Q. This is going to be a strange one. Im a 19yr old female. Im what my bf calls borderline nympho. I'm able to have multiple orgasms very quickly (within minutes). I've really truly squirted as well, not pee, but a strange fluid. Is this norm...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi! I'm lotusmam 808, pleasure to meet you. Seems we have a lot in common! I think I'm pretty normal. In fact, maybe pleasantly unique. You are very sexually healthy, good for you, we have more fun than most, and your bf should be flattered, and ... (read in full...)
Are there other girls out there like me?
Q. This is going to be a strange one. Im a 19yr old female. Im what my bf calls borderline nympho. I'm able to have multiple orgasms very quickly (within minutes). I've really truly squirted as well, not pee, but a strange fluid. Is this norm...
A. 18 June 2008: Hi! I'm lotusmam 808, pleasure to meet you. Seems we have a lot in common! I think I'm pretty normal. In fact, maybe pleasantly unique. You are very sexually healthy, good for you, we have more fun than most, and your bf should be flattered, and ... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: This is such a hard situation for you, I understand. Dont worry so much what they will think of YOU, if they are good family, that love you, I'd hope they would try to work with you. Are you feeling somewhat tramatized by this? Dont blame yourself, ... (read in full...)
Help, I just don't know what to do anymore!
Q. Well, I've been depressed lately about a lot of things. In my home, everyone keeps to themselves. I don't see my friends a lot because they live across town, and my relationship with my girlfriend is definitely weighing on my mind. My girlfriend ...
A. 17 June 2008: Be aware of the power of WORD. When I tell myself "my kids are making me nuts!" They tend to behave even worse. When you tell yourself, " I'm just going to get depressed later", you most likely will. The power of word, very strong, can put those ... (read in full...)
My sisters husband forced me to have sex
Q. i lost my virginity at age 12 with my sisters husband. i dident want to but he forced me. know i dont know if to tell my sister wat happend. wat should i do?...
A. 17 June 2008: Yeah, I believe when someone forces sex on another, it is called rape. Rape should be handled very seriously. However, I completely see your dilema, because you dont want to hurt your sister. Think about this, though. You love your sister, right? ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: Some parents don't like the idea that their little girl is growing up. Do you still love with them? If so, thats the problem. They still feel entitled to lay down the rules, and there isnt much you can do but follow them if you are under their roof. ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: I did. I was younger than that. However, very mature for my age, chose VERY good people to surround myself with, peolple I consider to be family to this very day. In fact, those 19 year old memories are what made me the delightful person I am ... (read in full...)
Help, I just don't know what to do anymore!
Q. Well, I've been depressed lately about a lot of things. In my home, everyone keeps to themselves. I don't see my friends a lot because they live across town, and my relationship with my girlfriend is definitely weighing on my mind. My girlfriend ...
A. 17 June 2008: When I was at that point in my life, I went to the docter, and she diagnosed me with acute anxiety. She prescribed a heavy duty anti depressent. I told my dad what was going on, and he said, "sweetie, you are not sick, you dont need that ... (read in full...)
He has been violent to me will he change?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend over a year now, and we just had a child together a month ago. He the nicest guy I have ever met and treats me better than anyone I know. He is a very easy to get along with, my friends like him, and my family loves ...
A. 16 June 2008: First and far most, you need to get a backbone and stick up for yourself. "He hits you once, HE is the fool, he hits you twice, YOU are the fool". Catch my drift? Ususally, they dont change, but you can. Now you decide for 2 people, yourself, and ... (read in full...)
I think my teacher likes me
Q. ok, i know how it sounds, but im in love with my teacher. it is not a crush, and people piss me off when they think they know better how im feeling then i do, just beacuse im 6 short months away from legaly being an adult. My friends see how he is ...
A. 16 June 2008: Yes, we all see these types of issues around these parts,and yes, it will strike some nerves. I'm not sure what it is you are asking for though. Are you asking for advice on how to handle these feelings for him in a realistic way? First off, is he ... (read in full...)
How do I make it up to may bf after he got mad at me?
Q. How do I make it up to my boyfriend after he got mad at me?...
A. 16 June 2008: depends on what you did. I always found that action speaks louder than words. Show him that you are worthy of him. Dont talk his ear off about how sorry you are. Just BE a good person, show him. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Too many fights broke us up!...
Q. i have a problem k well my girlfreind broke up with me beacuse i have gotten in too many fights but i get in these fights to defend her please help fast thanks...
A. 16 June 2008: Hey there! I think I need alittle more info. Were you in fights with peers, as in fist fights? Because you were defending her against their bullying? If thats the case, your issue is easily solved. Stop fighting. It has never solved anything, never ... (read in full...)
caught my boyfriend of two years cruising for sex at an adult book store. Plese advise!!
Q. Last week I was coming home late from work, when I noticed my boyfriend's car parked outside an Adult Book Store- I knew immediately he was cruising for sex. I waited outside the store, and noticed him circling around the building looking for sex. ...
A. 16 June 2008: Isn't it awful when our minds and our hearts battle eachother? In my opinion, you did the right thing by walking away, for obvious reasons. This is all still so raw, you are probably used to having a life with him. This is what makes it painful, and ... (read in full...)
I'm having twins and my husband cheated on me... now she is calling saying we have to get along for the kids sake!!!!!!!!!!
Q. Hi im 7 months pregnant with identical twins and have a 2 year old boy aswell i have just found out tht my husbund is cheating on me. And as been doing so for around 9 months. Im heart broken and i cant look at him or touch him he makes me feel sick ...
A. 14 June 2008: Wow, what nerve! Like rythymandblues says, you have to focus on you and your health right now. AGH! What a f@*# up distraction though! Going to your docter and explaining the situation would be a good thing to do as well. They actually have plans ... (read in full...)
I just found my ex in MySpace and started talking again. Although I am married I feel there is now future for my marriage and feel lost... please help!
Q. 6/13/08 About a month ago, I found my ex on Myspace. I haven’t seen him in 7 years. We have a 7 year old daughter together, but he has not been in her life. She doesn’t know who he is. When we split up, I left him and asked him not to contact ...
A. 14 June 2008: Hey there. I must say, toward the end of your post, it sounded a little to me, like you were using your daughter as an excuse to connect with your ex. Thats all good and fine, but I'm sure he was your ex for a good valid reason, and you booted him ... (read in full...)
My fiance admitted to cheating when we first started dating but now I found out he also lied about his ex... How do I get over this?
Q. My fiancee admitted to cheating on me once with someone he met over the internet once when we first started dating. I was dealing with this and had almost otten over it but then found out that when we first started dating he said he hadnt had sex ...
A. 13 June 2008: Hm.. How DO you get over this??? They offer counciling for couples, you could drill him every day, and try to squeeze the truth out of him. You could lower your self esteem and just let it be.....in the meantime, try to balance motherhood with this ... (read in full...)
He's scared to explode inside of me! Why?
Q. My sex life is great but only 1 thang thats wrong my sexpartner is scared to explode inside of me. I told him that its hard for me to have kids (don't want none) but its that warm feeling that goes inside of me that i'm misssing. He knows i'm on ...
A. 13 June 2008: Thats odd. Most guys are tickled by the idea of finishing inside! He must be really scared of getting you pregnant. You should talk to him and tell him how you feel about it, because your communication with him will not only effect your ... (read in full...)
Should I call and say sorry? I turned my teacher now and I don't know if I did the right thing!!
Q. Maybe I messed up by turning my teacher down,let me explain.Okay im 16 in high school and have a huge thing for my teacher.I posted a question asking for advice on how to handle it.She says she cares for me and loves me and we talk on the phone ...
A. 13 June 2008: You did do the right thing. She will enjoy NOT being behind bars and be without you, more than she would enjoy being behind bars......and STILL be without you. The ending to a teacher/young student love relationship will almost never end well. You ... (read in full...)
Why does my fiance lie about watching porn?
Q. My fiancee told me that he doesnt masturbate hardly ever. He also said when he looks at porn he looks at the one we made- nothing online. Which is a lie because I can see when it was last watched and he never watches it. We live together and he ...
A. 13 June 2008: He lies because he is accustom to it being a private, personal thing. Does it bother you? It bothered me, but I have learned that it's normal, because most guys do it. I just express to him that I dont like him "losing his seed to other girls, it ... (read in full...)
Is there a solution to my dislike of his dogs?
Q. Dear All: I am having a problem and that's how I got to this site. My new husband of 6 months has two pompekes and his Mom has been taking care of them for a while for us. The dogs came to our new home on Saturday and there is doggy poop all o...
A. 13 June 2008: Well, the fact that you told him specificlly that you didnt want these dogs before you got married should make him less suprised when you tell him that you are going to sell them ( which is what you need to do: talk to him about it) if he dosnt ... (read in full...)
Can any woman out there find the right words to console him?
Q. hey my boyfriends dog passed away and he really loved it a lot..he would do anything..he is in nebraska right now and i am in nevada..i want to send him a nice msg consoling him,but i am not finding the right words..could anyone(females only)please ...
A. 13 June 2008: I found that the best way to consloe is to let HIM do the venting. "Hey sweetie, you feeling okay? You want to talk, or do you just need some space right now?" If you dont plan to talk to him and you just want to msg him, "Hey babe, just wanted to ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about my vagina odour!
Q. am 14 and have a boyfriend and he wants to have sex but i keep saying no because my vagina smells and am embarassed...
A. 13 June 2008: Usually, the odar is caused by what you eat, believe it or not. A lot of sugar, red meat, wheat, peanut butter, and oily foods can cause candida (yeast infection). You might not have all the symptoms of a yeast infection (itch, burn while urinating) ... (read in full...)
People are making fun of me because my dad died
Q. hi my dad has died 5 years ago every one makes fun off me because of this what should i do ????????????????????????????...
A. 13 June 2008: The words "dad died" and "fun" dont belong in the same sentence. I cant believe kids find losing a parent funny!!! What if it were their parent? You arnt explaining this in detail, so it's kind of hard to give help, but just from the question, I am ... (read in full...)
Do guys ever get over "player" stage?
Q. I never thought i'd be one of those girls that are so in love they would put their life on the side for a guy. I cant say no to my best friend.I love him so much,even though he doesnt want to commit.I always end up givng in and messing around with ...
A. 12 June 2008: I have many guy friends in their late twenties and early thirties that I catch saying "I'm over the partying crap, I want to buy a home, settle down, get married." They get to that age where they see everyone around them settling down, and they are ... (read in full...)
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