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writes:I am hoping that my boyfriend and i eventually make-up. At the moment he is really angry with me because of something i should have not said to him in the heat of an argument. I have sent him 3 apologies, via texting. After i asked him if he wanted to end the relationship, he said that he needed time alone to think. It has been over a week, neither of us have been in contact with one another. I miss him a lot and wonder if he feels the same way, or if he is planning on breaking up with me pretty soon. He has some stuff of his at my apartment. There has not been any mention from him about wanting to come over to pick up his stuff. Maybe things will workout with us and all he needs is time to cool off and come back to his senses.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 November 2013):
If you said something truly hurtful I'd say it's over for now as a week is a decent amount of time.
Either way I'd carry on as if you're broken up because it'll help you get over him as well as give him the space he needs.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (1 November 2013):
 If he has asked for space then it's best to give it to him because poking and prodding him for answers will just push him further away.
If he is mad at you then he probably just needs time to calm down and process what was said.
You have apologised. He knows you still care about him and want to be with him, but that alone should not make him feel rushed to get back to you.
You didn't say how long you have been together. If it's been a long time then continue to give space. If you have only been dating a short time and dont feel able to wait for a response then just move on!
You will hear from him again, but he may need another week to get back to you.
Keep busy and try not to fret.
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reader, llifton +, writes (1 November 2013):
 you didn't mention what exactly it was that you said to him to upset him so much. However, unless it was something significantly and majorly horrible, a week is quite some time to stay mad. it sounds to me almost as though he is distancing himself from you. He may really be reevaluating your relationship and potentially deciding if it's ultimately what he wants.
I would stick it out for another few days to a week, and if in that span of time you still have not heard from him, call him and ask him where he stands. Because yes, it is fair to ask for some space and time to think. But it just becomes down right rude and hurtful to leave someone sitting and wondering for that long. You have a right to know if you need to move on or not, rather than sitting in limbo.
Good luck.
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